What does depression feel like?
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Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 5:35pm
Depression makes you think that all is hopeless, and there is nothing left to look forward to in life, and anxiety makes you fear happiness, love, hope, life. Its a scary place to live.
It is miserable. There is no sugar coating that. But that does NOT mean it isn't treatable. I came out a new person. Looking back, getting help was the best thing I've ever done. Help is okay.
It's like nothing in this world makes sense, it's when your chest becomes tight and you feel like you can't breathe, it is when you can't enjoy anymore the small things in life and all you can feel is complete sadness. Feeling fear from no actual reasons. Feeling more dead rather than alive.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 4:08am
Having depression and Anxiety are some of the worst things in the world. It stops you from living your life and it tries to take you down and turn you into something your not. Even though it does these things i believe everybody has there own way of dealing with it and i believe that everyone who has depression and anxiety are just as equal to people who don't. so if you have depression or anxiety or both. I give you props for waking up everyday dealing with it and living your life
Depression is like...being numb. Its not just the feeling of sadness its really the feeling of nothing. It pops up at any time. Depression is having no motivation. At night you just stare at the ceiling because you have no motivation to close your eyes. Anxiety is the complete opposite. Its like someone is yelling "Fire! Fire!" or "This is an emergency!" you are always alert. And having both...its terrible. If your laying in bed anxiety would be saying "Come on! Hurry up! Get up! Danger!" but depression is saying "Whats the point? It doesn't even matter anymore" its a constant struggle...a battle. Its very difficult to go through.
Having depression is like not feeling anything. Having anxiety feels like feeling every emotion possible.
Personally, I suffer with anxiety. I don't label myself as a person who has it because I don't want the attention. It is extremely difficult to do things with so little confidence, but 7 Cups gives me that boost in which I am able to help other people and see past the uncertainty within me. I love it and wouldn't change a thing about myself.
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 6:38pm
Depression is feeling like you are alone even though there are people all around you. Like a feeling of isolation. Anxiety is feeling like the entire world is falling around you and there is nothing you can do but sit there and watch.
Everyone experiences it differently but here are my thoughts:
Anxiety feels like being unsafe, like something is terribly wrong. I also feel there are different types of anxiety:
1. Physical- that you think something is wrong with you and could be something serious (like a funny pain or ache)
2. Anxiety over a specific thing- for example "Did I embarrass myself last night?" "Doe my boyfriend actually love me? Oh no, is he made?" And obsessing over it.
3. Generalised (and my worst)- Everything is FINE , you could be at home watching your favourite show and just have this terrible uneasy feeling in your gut.
It's like constantly having a ball and chain attached to your leg, slowly getting heavier if you try and ignore it
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 7:32am
It's like feeling no one ever cared about you. You're too blind to see ones who love you, and you think no one loves you. If you notice all the good people around, it'll be just like before :)
Like carrying heavy stones for no use at all. Just leave them and walk then run and be happy in life.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 7:35pm
It feels like you're sinking but still breathing and everyone else is just over you. Anxiety is really hard to explain. It is like being anxious about almost everything and not knowing why.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 11:17pm
It can be really hard. It is tough to put exact words to what it feels like. It is constant worrying and sadness.
Depression is like, I don't really know how to explain/ describe it. You are somewhat always tired, you don't enjoy things as much, you aren't as happy as you used to be. You seem to be a bit lazy.
I'm gonna go real simple about these two facts.
When you are stuck,worried and totally in going no where situation about something or few things then you are depressed about the fact. And you are not able to concentrate on any other thing properly. It's better to talk tosomeone about it and know what do exactly or doing what would help you.
& for me when you are not sure about a fact or a thing or a situation but you are worried about it without knowing what to do and what not to do is your anxiety. You keep thinking about it all day long but don't if it's true or actually happening or what actually to be done! ! Many things go within you and you keep asking yourself new possible questions or worries or possibilities. The best is to learn and practice to let go of it slowly. To concentrate on something that's important to do that very moment other than worrying or thinking about or bein anxious.
Chill out!! Relax!!
They're two different mental problems, and they also behave different in every person. Usually, having depression is feeling generally sad and empty. Even if you can't find a reason. You don't really feel alive; not very active, loss of interest...
Anxiety is usually identified with fear, panic, stress... There are a lot of types of anxiety. (Social, phobic...) But normally you sweat a lot, feel paranoid, steadily worried...
The important topic here is that if you feel like this you should visit a doctor. They know a lot more about this than us and can help you. Also, talk about it. There're a lot of people out there who feel the same as you and are really comprehensive. Don't worry!
Its almost like the end of the world and its like someone is eating us from inside and nt leaving us alone
To have both is like constantly worrying about everything while simultaneously caring about nothing.
In a nutshell some of the key things you will experience is daily feeling tired and being afraid of any dangers around every corner.
You never want to fail in what you do and your anxiety makes you worry about this but then depression lacks your motivation to complete any tasks you've set yourself.
It's also like wanting to have a really good group of friends yet you're too scared/do not want to socialise and lack any self confidence to socialise at all.
One moment you care about every little mistake you make, and then the next you couldn't care less about whether or not you wake up in the morning,
It's dark but it's true, they're some things anxiety and depression can do to you.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2016 6:13am
Anxiety is, in one word, insidious. It's something that you don't realize is actually a problem until you've been suffering from it for quite a while. It commonly leads to physical symptoms such as muscle tension, headaches, sleeping problems, and nausea, and many people will first assume that these symptoms have a physical cause rather than a mental one. Anxiety makes it difficult to focus, and it makes you excessively worry about even the stupidest of things, and no matter how much you want to, you can't stop.
I don't have depression myself, but I have a friend who does. She's constantly struggling to complete assignments on time due to a lack of motivation. Her sleeping schedule is horrendous, and she often forgets/doesn't care enough to eat -- she started regularly meeting friends for lunch so that she could ensure that she'd at least eat one meal a day. Other common symptoms of depression are a loss of interest in formerly pleasurable activities (anhedonia) and a general lack of energy.
At one moment, your depression is telling you that you don't care what happens. Then the next moment, your anxiety is screaming and clawing at you to do something. Having depression and anxiety is a constant war inside of yourself. Though, there are no winners.
It is not a nice thing to experience and upsets people and their lives talking to people can help alot
It makes it more difficult to lead a normal life, you feel very conflicted and sometimes you feel tired and just need to sleep and sometimes it just keeps you awake all night!
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 9:14am
It's like... you're in a trapped box that only you can see, no one understands it and you try your best to get over it but you always end up in the box again. It's like you are chained up to this box.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 3:24pm
I saw something online a while ago. "Depression is not caring about everything, anxiety is caring too much about everything".
When you have both, it can be similar to cognitive dissonance, where your mind has conflicting beliefs.
Your behaviour can seem odd, and can sometimes actually frustrate yourself and others. You might say one thing and mean something completely different. And it applies to everything, not just when talking about mental health.
Having depression and anxiety is like feeling like the world has the best things and it wants to keep them away from you, its like you know you deserve the best but you don't have it and like you're never gonna have it. But if you try harder than anyone else, you're already better than everything.
A prison with no where to go which gives constant mental torture to keep you on your toes. Not once can you let your guard down.
Depression feels like there is nothing good in the world. It is a complete empty and hopeless feeling. It is hard to be positive and envision anything good with major depression weighing on you.
Anxiety is the feeling of being very nervous for no apparent reason. You feel very uneasy and uncomfortable. It sometimes makes it hard to sleep or hard to be around other people.
Depression and anxiety make you feel hopeless, not good enough, scared and feeling like it will never go away. It's an awful feeling and that's why I have such compassion towards people who suffer from it because me, myself suffer with it daily.
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