What does depression feel like?
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depression and anxiety can be very hard, but with help and support is it very easy to overcome it is a mental though that you think you aren't good enough but you should think to yourself why do i feel like this? why am i letting this factor affect my life? but there is no possible answer when your going through this.. this is why you should never go through this alone. because being depressed is very hard i have tried to commit suicide 3 times but when it gets to that stage you think.. im not going to let this control me anymore
Anonymous
January 30th, 2016 6:31pm
For me it feels like i'm almost always sad. I feel very tired most of the time. Its hard to hide my feelings from my friends, I constantly have to hide behind a fake smile. My self esteem is very low. I find that having caring friends gives my hope that I can improve.
It's a vicious cycle of caring too much and caring too little, it isn't fun. Anxiety is usually the cause of depression in this case.
I think we've all felt these things once in our lives. If you think back you might be able to reflect on something that has made you feel like this.
Anonymous
February 5th, 2016 11:33pm
Like you have a monster that follows you everyday, everywhere. You try to keep out but you can't
Locked. Lost. Sensitive. And whatever you do you can't feel okay. You can not smile, unless it's a fake smile. Do you feel suffocated, but you don't die. It's terrible. A body who wants to die and a heart that wants to fight.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 8:22pm
It is nerve wrecking and overwhelming for people who have depression and anxiety happening at certain moments.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 10:48pm
Paralyzing. It can completely overwhelm everything. Desires and interests can get so lost that they seem impossible. Learning to Paul through depression and anxiety feels like you are dragging weights along by your ankles and wrists, through deep sludge or high snow. It is dark there. Any light gets squelched the instant it breaks through. No one else understands anything you are thinking or feeling. Until you realize that's false and others can help you tear open the sky and reveal some light...
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 8:16am
Depression feels like you are a lost cause. It feels like you can't be helped. You feel like you've lost all hope and can't regain it and it goes on for more than 2 or 3 weeks.
To be honest depression is different for everyone and there aren't really words that can describe it but this is what it felt like for me. Depression is like a constant shadow that follows you everywhere and traps you in a corner of your mind. The shadow grows and grows even though you try to stop it but it just keeps on growing and consuming you. It feels as if the shadow was feeding on your life force and was sucking out all your energy and motivation to do anything. in the process the shadow has managed to make you feel worthless, cold, sad, alone, and like if you were just not good enough. The shadow pushes away people that love you and makes you feel as if there was no one supporting you. The shadow blinds you.
Most people think of depression as simply "being sad all the time." While this can be a form of depression, it can manifest in all sorts of other ways as well. Depression can feel more like apathy -- losing interest in things you usually enjoy, finding it hard to concentrate on anything, and being tired all the time or sleeping a lot. Or it can cause you to be much more irritable than usual, or to engage in reckless or self-destructive behavior. Any combination of these symptoms can be indications of depression.
Everyone feels depressed sometimes -- we may be down in the dumps for a few hours, a day, or even a week. But if you feel this way all the time, you may have clinical depression and you should seek the help of a mental health professional.
Please remember that if you find yourself with the urge to self harm or with thoughts of suicide, you do not have to deal with it alone. Please call the hotline at 1-800-SUICIDE, or, specifically for young people, 1-800-273-TALK.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 11:27pm
Depression is different for everyone, but in a lot of cases it's the inabilty to motivate yourself to do anything, you feel sad for no reason, and you can't get out of bed without a struggle
Depression isn't just about feeling sad, it's a big mix of emotions to the point where you feel numb inside; you feel like nothing matters and you don't care. No motivation. Nothing.
It's like being sad but extremely and for a long time and often gives people weird thoughts or/and feelings.
Depression affects the mind and body and you get into this slump where it becomes serious enough to affect your daily activities
Anonymous
January 9th, 2018 9:16am
Feels like not having much will to do much and everything appears a chore ...
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2018 9:30pm
It feels like sliding down into a deep well where all your energy is sapped away by the cold and the dark. You know you are in the well, but you can't get out on your own and are losing the energy to keep trying. No one else can see the well, feel your weariness, or feel the numbing cold but you, so they don't understand why you don't just climb out already, into the sun. They lose patience with you and blame you for falling in, when you did nothing on your own to get there, had been fighting to stay out, but now that you are there, you don't have enough strength left to climb out.
It feels like you can’t really do some sort of stuff you used to do and for the normal people they feel happy or sad depending on their situation and if they see a depressed person they think that these people are trying to cause drama or they are negative or trying to fail and not caring if they are in college or in work, so to the normal people you can’t really blame them because they don’t know the pain you’re dealing with and the thoughts that comes to your mind and that you actually cant stop it in any way ,it feels like the happy part of you that used to enjoy life has ended and died and it feels like a castle with a lot of doors that everytime you’re trying to get out through one of these doors you ended up facing a wall these doors lead to nothing but a walls of bad thoughts and negativity ,and once you be able to break on of them you will be you will finally get out of this huge castle of pain and suffering.
People feel depressed for one of the following reasons:
1) They lack vision or they don't have a satisfying goal in their life to head to.
2) They feel that they deserve better life than what they currently have and feel powerless as they cannot change their present.
Lets start with 1, you have to have a goal in life something to achieve something to work towards and look forward to, if you had previously had a goal and worked towards it but didn't work out because you couldn't achieve it you need to understand that it is ok and you need to set new goal that feel satisfying for you.
Then my second point is very straight forward if you feel you are not happy with your current life look at people who are less fortunate than you first then get up and change your life because you can do it and you are not the sum of your circumstances as you might think.
I hope this helped and good luck!
Depression feels like a lack of light, a complete lack of emotions. Except, for emptiness. Just mainly a lack of feeling... and just a black hole. That is all it feels like to me. I have had that feeling, I know it all too well. The thought of never being okay, never being able to smile, or laugh. Just the feeling to constantly wanting to not exist, or breathe, or function... like I said, a complete black hole. It isn't an ideal way to live, but I must say, it is easy, and has no complication. But it truly doesn't have to be that way.
Anonymous
March 22nd, 2020 9:41am
Depression is complicated it’s different for everyone in a way.. for me personally when I’m depressed I feel like there’s a hole in my chest or heart I feel like a piece of me is just missing. I feel hopeless and negative any positive thing said to me I will turn down I feel some sort of constant sadness that I can’t control personally I isolate myself and try not to be around others... depression doesn’t mean your crazy.. it just means your going through something.. and that’s okay.. never be afraid to reach out for help don’t be afraid to ask for help and trust me I know you think no one understands... but so many people understand.
Personally, I feel depression as a type of lens that seems to be glued to your face. In my own experience, I found that there is a kind of adhesive that comes with that feeling, like you are aware that there is something altering the way you see because you can see that not very many other people have the same lens on their face. Things look darker and warped as if it isn't truly what is in reality. You feel dampened and almost claustrophobic in your own sight, but there isn't much that is able to remove the lens from your eyes, so you sit and watch others see things that are pretty and inviting, while you only see the warped and distorted version of that thing.
It feels like nothing matters anymore, and all the good parts of yourself don't exist anymore. Emotions are either numbed out or felt to the extreme. Things that used to be simple soon become impossible. It's like running a marathon with sprained ankles, or treading water with weights attached to your ankles. Eventually, you stop having hope for your future, which is the worst pain of all. However, there is hope. There is a crack of light that you catch glimpses of every so often, and you have to hold on to it. Everyone needs to know that they're loved and worth getting better.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2020 3:49am
Depression feels lonely... It's boring. Sometimes I would find myself crying in bed, thinking why oh why do I not have friends to talk to about my problems? Your heart would hurt so much. You wont feel like eating (at least for me). Some people eat more when depressed, I couldn't. When I'm depressed, I'm just depressed. I was desperate not to feel depressed though, so I tried antidepressants. That didn't help much. I felt fake smiling in front of people, pretending to be happy when the truth was I wasn't. What helped me was talking to someone about my troubles.
It's truly different for each and every one. So I'll answer from personal experience and from what others have shared with me.
There are days where you just want to give up and weeks where you don't understand or see the point of anything. Sometimes you feel excruciating, physical pain and at others you feel nothing and everything seems blank - like you know the world is moving but as if everything just passes you by.
In the rare occasion that you feel this sense of happiness, there will most definitely be something that drags you back to that sense of hopelessness, so it's basically reliving a cycle. Sometimes to others it may seem as though whatever happened isn't that bad, but the thing with depression is that all logic is thrown out the window.
When you feel blank, you think crying will help. But when you go through that uncontrollable crying spurt, you realize that's not much use. Sometimes you just get angry for no reason and just lash out at somebody. Then you start feeling guilty, questioning your self worth and well the cycle all over again.
The worst part is just when you feel you have some clarity and that you have beaten it, that whole depression mood sets. Everything from brushing to walking to talking seems so impossible.
Depression feels different to everyone that it affects. To some, it may feel like overwhelming sadness, to others it may feel like nothing, like a dark hole that is hard to get out of. Often it feels like a lack of motivation to do things, including basic daily things. It may be difficult to get out of bed, remember to shower, eat, etc. Depression to me feels like emptiness, I tend to space out and lose track of time feeling like I cannot do anything. I get really sad some days and others I just skate through life like a zombie without feeling anything throughout the day.
Anonymous
June 1st, 2021 6:17am
Depression is classified as a mood disorder. It may be described as feelings of sadness, loss, or anger that interfere with a person’s everyday activities.It’s important to realize that feeling down at times is a normal part of life. Sad and upsetting events happen to everyone. But, if you’re feeling down or hopeless on a regular basis, you could be dealing with depression.
Depression is considered a serious medical condition that can get worse without proper treatment. Those who seek treatment often see improvements in symptoms.
Its relative. It's different for everyone. For me personally, depression comes in phases, it starts with crippling anxiety and sadness. The sadness where you just feel like you feel as if you have died, you feel like death is better and your will to live is questionable. You feel this overwhelming sense of anger and sadness with no rational reason. You feel pain and hurt, panic and anxiety. Then comes a phase where u just go numb. You feel nothing but tiredness to your soul, it leaves you not even having the energy to breathe. You feel like the world has collapsed but you are under the debris with no feelings of pain or hurt but emptiness and darkness. Something along those lines.
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2021 2:09pm
For me depression is a bottomless pit. You feel such isolation and loneliness. You feel as though if you seek help, you'll be wasting their time, you feel such a burden onto people. I fell out with a friend at university, and I spiralled into depression and an ED. I couldn't face getting out of bed for weeks and I binged-eat and smoked just to feel something. I went to the Drs, but they just put me on medication and I wasn't offered therapy etc. It was a terrible time in my life. I felt rejected. It was not until I contacted the university mental health support, that I started to build blocks out of the pit.
Anonymous
September 27th, 2021 3:20pm
Depression feels like losing control over your emotions. It's like feeling hopeless, sadness just overwhelms you. It's hard to feel happy, even when good things happen to you. It isn't something you get over the next day, all the pain you've been feeling for so long just consumes you. When you're depressed, it's hard to find anything that matters. I question myself, and I wonder if I'll ever feel better. It's like nothing matters anymore. Depression can be such a lonely feeling for me at least since I feel like my friends don't take me seriously. The overwhelming thoughts and emotions can feel excruciating at times, and there are days when I feel like giving up.
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