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Number of ratings28 Number of reviews25 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceMar 16, 2020 Last activein last week GenderFemale PathStep 83 People helped77 Chats153 Forum posts37 Forum upvotes35
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"When I first became a bee I was just so nectar naïve."

- Tom Paine (Kafka's Bee)


  Hello, my name is Bee and I am a 21-year-old Lesbian from Alabama in America. I have several chronic illnesses and have gone through a fair amount of surgeries, hardships, and unfortunate circumstances. My goal is always to provide genuine and sincere support during trying times and offer a listening ear to those who need it. 💛

   Healing is a journey best taken with a journal that expresses understanding. I'm here to be that journal. 
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Showing Empathy and Compassion
IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by BeesOnFlowers
Last post
 October 8th
...See more 🌼 Is Empathy and Compassion learned or innate? Recently, my mother told me about her encounter with my empathy when I was little. I was always a tearful child by her account, too sensitive for my own good.  One day, I came to her in a tizzy, babbling about something as I gestured to the garden. When she came to see, I had found a butterfly with a ripped and broken wing, my trembling baby finger gently petting it's back as I begged her to fix it. I'd found him hurt and wanted to help him, but upon realizing I couldn't, I was completely inconsolable. I think about this story when I feel insecure about my emotions, an overactive empathy engine running on tears.  For some, they lose this painful side of empathy as they grow, their compassion slowly becoming locked behind doors of uncertainty and insecurity. 'Tears are shameful,' 'Why do you care?' 'It's just a bug.' And yet there's an innate deepness to the child's heart, wanting to relate and help. Sometimes it's hard to relearn this trait as an adult. You want to have that bond and connection, but it's just not becoming of an adult who needs to be strong. What is a person to do when they want to share these painful feelings but they don't want to feel them? I think there are things we can learn from childhood. The capacity for Compassion is in everyone, Empathy is an active feeling we can express, and it's not learning how to have it, it's learning how to unlock it again. Now under safer hands where we can cast and reel as needed.  🌼 Is Empathy and Compassion learned or innate?
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Identifying and Remembering Self
IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by BeesOnFlowers
Last post
 Monday
...See more Self acceptance has always been such a difficult subject for me. I tend to get into relationships where I'm the fixer, whether it's romantic, platonic, or just peer. I want to help someone and I often don the white scrubs of a clinical therapist and sit with one knee hooked over the other (even if it hurts after an hour). That's all to say that I often meet problems with being stifled. It's easy to nod and accept others, but recognizing your own boundaries can be difficult. My values and beliefs take such a back seat, I don't even look at them half the time! But it's not healthy to forget yourself so often. To ignore your feelings for the sake of others.  It comes as second nature to so many of us, but sometimes we treat ourselves so dismissively. This is a behavior I had to recognize and actively dwell over. After a long day of listening to my family's struggles and woes, I sit down and journal. I made myself a rule to never journal about any one else's problems- to leave that for their own journals. Mine is for me. How do I feel? What are my goals? Did I have fun today? What did I succeed at? What are my plans tomorrow?     That's a form of mindfulness! It helps strengthen your relationship with yourself. It's not selfish to say 'I'.    That's a hard fact to learn.  When you put your feelings on the back burner, we run the risk of it boiling over out of eyesight.    Don't forget to tend to them too. 🌼 What ways have you found to help you stay mindful and accepting of your own feelings?
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Amazing listener! She listened with no judgment and helped the best she could! She definitely understood me! I feel much better after the chat! Highly recommended!
Very good listener! very smart and a great listener, asks great questions to help you talk things out and think about things. Highly recommend!
A really kind listener :)
Really helpful, patient and intuitive. Understanding and took time to listen to me.
Beesonflowers is a patient and kind listener. So lovely to talk to!!! ❤️
She's been through a lot and speaks from experience. A very good, caring soul.
Very kind listener who read everything and gave great feedback. I really appreciated being able to speak with them!
Helped me cope with the difficult situation I was experiencing and was very nice.
Great listener, seems kind as well
You're a very good and honest listener! Thank you!
very helpful discussing issues with a new job
Bee is AMAZING and concise. gets to the point without offering too much help.
Amazingly kind and compassionate listener. Generous with her time.
A truly amazing listener!! Everyone should be so lucky to have a listener like Bee every time they come to 7 Cups. They are the gold standard!
Amazing. Very helpful, understanding. He/She defined my issue better than I did. Warmly recommend.
They were really helpful and nice
She helped me a lot with a problem I had
Thanks for talking with me about asexuality!
Helpful and a great listener
They were really helpful. They were willing to talk and listen to me.
It was helpful to have someone listen to me
good listener and love talking to
made me feel comfortable, and was helpful
Showed me a new perspective i never considered.
She is a very good person!
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