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What does depression feel like?

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What does depression feel like?
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Profile: Aia
Aia
March 26th, 2016 5:13am
Depression feels like, waking up one day with all of your motivation gone. Feeling like you don't want to live anymore or feeling like you're worthless. It could happen fresh out of a relationship, or alone, or just when you're stressed out to hell.
Anonymous
March 18th, 2016 9:54am
Depression , is a combination of feelings that sometimes is very hard to interpret with words..However , mostly it carries the feelings of sadness-hopelessness-guilt-blue-misery-boredom-tire-irritability-aggravation-some severe cases..disgust as well .
Profile: Lindin
Lindin
March 16th, 2016 6:06am
Depression is really a mix of feelings. It can feel like nothing and everything at the same time. To summarize, depression can feel like sadness, worthlessness, anger, fear, anxiety, exhaustion, or emptiness all at the same time. And all of those emotions is tiring. It drains your energy trying to either suppress those emotions or hide them. It ends up being a cycle as one can eventually come to a point where their energy is just so low that they feel empty and when one feels empty, they can feel sad and the cycle continues.
Profile: CallMeMeow
CallMeMeow
February 7th, 2016 5:22am
To have depression is to not care what people think of you, to have anxiety is caring too much what people think of you. The anxiety half is constantly arguing that no matter what you do, people will never like you, you'll never make any friends, or if you do, you'll scare them away with your actions or your words. It makes you too nervous to talk or move, and when people fuss over you, it makes you feel like your burdening them by being there. Having depression can be the same or the opposite, and it can change hourly. Depression makes you feel like your worthless, that no one cares about you, not even yourself. Sometimes your depression and anxiety mix to create the worst type of sadness you can experience. It makes your innards twist and overwhelms your brain and sometimes you just can't take it anymore, so you take your own life. People with depression and anxiety at the same time have the worst ways if dealing with emotions, and they know that, and deal with them anyway. That is what its like to live with the constant fear that everything will overwhelm you and you'll just break down in front of everybody, which goes into a full circle of your anxiety and burdening people with your problems.
Profile: Natureman
Natureman
January 9th, 2016 4:18pm
Have you ever sat in a bus and people were laughing and you immediately thought it was about you ? something you wore that might have been funny or your looks ? that's a perfect example of low self esteem and anxiety. those people probably never noticed you but your self worth is so low you assume they think bad about you ?. Quick to feel tired, not having interest in previous hobbies, when people ask you how things are you always answer fine ? pretend nothing is wrong but when you are awake in bed you think and you think and it keeps going but your thoughts never have a goal ? for me that's what it was like to have depression. of course people noticed but you tell them you have changed, become more mature but deep down you know you need help. go and get it.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 2:43pm
Depression is like having the life drained out of me, stripping me of myself until I am a hollow shell, not myself but only this thinnest appearance of myself, then filling me with heavy shadows until I feel weighted down, crushed. Everything becomes too much effort - talking, moving, thinking, living, breathing. There is only this feeling of being crushed under an invisible mountain, the pain of the weight, the panicked feeling of not being able to breathe, the inability to move to reach out, one long agonizing moment after another until I am silently begging in my head, "Please, I just want it to stop, I just want to end, I can't live this way." No one seems to notice that I am slowly being crushed, that the simple things they take for granted - working, playing, socializing, laughing, cleaning... living - are beyond my strength to reach let alone do. I worry that because they cannot see the mountain of depression weighing me down, they will think me weak, or broken, or lazy... flawed in some socially unacceptable way. I become too anxious of how they must certainly judge me to ask for help. I become paralyzed, alone, under that mountain, helpless to do anything but let it swallow me up, hoping that it will just make me disappear beneath it, even as I am desperate to escape so I can simply breathe. My anxiety of interacting with others makes me feel I have to tackle it alone. And yet, the enormity of my depression means I cannot tackle it alone. I am trapped between these two pressures - anxiety and depression, alone, sinking, my life, my being, my identity reduced to a hollowness that is crushed as easily as an eggshell. In that think layer, there is no room for joy, no room for pleasure, no room for hope, no room for thought. It feels like existence, but it no longer feels like life.
Profile: comfortableRose28
comfortableRose28
January 3rd, 2016 4:46am
Oh yes, I'd know that ! I have had arguable the severest most potent depression ever. It's like the light inside of you is there no more.. everything seems meaningless. A strange apathy engulfs you and you're too numb to even shed a tear.. you simply visualise the worst in everythung, again & again... and that manifests !! I have spent 5 years... on & off in depression. When you arent alone and you cant give expression to your depression inside, that is when anxiety strikes.. the strange fear like sensation in your heart.. for the littlest of things.. the unending what ifs.. sometimes the feelings happened even when i had no where to go. Nothing to anticipate.. i was scared for nothing. Dont be disheartened though.. if you're anything like me, you'll feel the anger soon.. the burning anger that will in the beginning be "Why me?" And might gradually go to "To hell with this.." then you burn most of the major reasons of your depression with a out and out raging conflit with your culprits.. it subsides. You feel better.. then you slowly realise none of this matters.. you might as well be happy anyway. Nobody cares. You begin to do things for your joy , you're hella rude & snarky for a while.. but that's ok. You thus get out of it and are now in a better place. :)
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 9:13am
It's like being weighed down by an anchor at the bottom of the ocean and watching the last bubbles in your lungs slowly rise to the surface, knowing you're out of air, but yet also not realizing you are the one holding the anchor.
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Xolovegem
November 10th, 2015 12:35pm
For me it's like I can't breathe. I know what I want but I can't do it. I wanna do things but I end up just staring at my phone not doing anything. My mind is my worst enemy because it's telling me about how everything can go wrong and not how it can right. I can't see any positives. Physically I have a constant strain on my stomach, it's all I can focus on and it's like a small pit of worry and sadness all in one and it doesn't go away. There is very little that can make the feeling go away.
Profile: believeYourself
believeYourself
November 8th, 2015 3:02pm
its like you dont want anyone around you but at same time you want someone who loved you most around you because you want to cry at their sholder.
Anonymous
July 29th, 2015 8:12pm
It is like to be under the surface and to fight to get over the surface to get air. It is hard and exhausting.
Profile: JolineKarateGirl
JolineKarateGirl
July 19th, 2015 5:14am
Its completely disabilitating and it really takes over your life..your social life goes down the drain and there can be thoughts of suicide or any other ways to harm yourself
Profile: Malkie
Malkie
July 19th, 2015 5:27pm
Its like you don't care about anything because of the depression but then you get over obsess about everything because of the anxiety. It feels like having two contradictory mental illnesses
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2015 3:51pm
It is hard. You have to think about being happy. But it isn't the end of the world! You are a lot stronger and can help other people a lot. It is also a sign of intelligence!
Profile: neverletlifetakeyourspark
neverletlifetakeyourspark
July 22nd, 2015 8:54pm
Depression is consistently feeling sad and losing interest in once enjoyable activities-- making a person not care about anything anymore. Anxiety is being nervous and worrying about things you don't need to. A person with anxiety generally cares too much. Having both is feeling like you don't care about anything and it doesn't matter, yet your future depends on caring and you feel like you're doing something wrong because you don't care enough. The two fight over each other to see "who's in the lead", which usually makes a person stressed out, too. It's very difficult to deal with.
Profile: ElephantLove
ElephantLove
July 23rd, 2015 3:47am
Having depression and anxiety for me feels like I am drowning. One minute I will be fine, the next it feels like I'm underwater again. I have learned to live for the times where I feel like I can breathe again. I strive to have more days above water than under it.
Profile: Thanks4Calling
Thanks4Calling
July 23rd, 2015 9:36am
Depression and anxiety is an experience that can affect people differently and in various ways. Feeling overwhelmed, unhappy, alone, not understood, empty and a feeling of hopelessness makes it tough to function. You feel like life will never be worthwhile again. This is an abnormal experience that affects everyone at some time in their life.
Profile: Celeste101
Celeste101
July 24th, 2015 1:59am
To have anxiety and depression is like having this little cloud that is constantly floating around your head sometimes the cloud is white and fluffy and happy. But other times the could is dark and thundering. No matter how hard you try to change the dark cloud quickly, it is better to let the dark cloud heal over time. One day that day cloud will be light and fluffy and only bounce back to dark and rainy occasionally. Things always turn out better.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2015 3:10pm
Its different for everybody, and theres no way to describe the general feeling. However, it's like being in a place where you feel alone, and like there's no way out.
Profile: Erynn
Erynn
July 26th, 2015 4:14am
People's experience with depression and/or anxiety can vary widely from person to person. There are different types of anxiety and depression for one thing, and people experience different combination of symptoms, have different triggers, and cope in different ways. These mean two people with depression may hear each others stories and relate very closely to each other, or very little. It may help to read the definitions of each illness, talk to someone if you are concerned you have anxiety and/or depression, or seek out the personal stories of people struggling with these illnesses to understand the illnesses more intimately.
Profile: Cleopatra77
Cleopatra77
July 29th, 2015 1:53am
It is difficult, because you feel you cannot handle what you are experiencing. You feel alone, or scared. Always anticipating something going wrong.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2015 9:23pm
It's very difficult. Depression and anxiety are hard disorders to overcome. Some people treat it with counseling or medications, some overcome it themselves or with a little help from their friends and family.
Profile: NodOfApproval
NodOfApproval
August 12th, 2015 9:23pm
Everyone has an inner voice that only themselves can hear. Like our bodies, sometimes our inner voices can get sick too. Having anxiety is like having the voice within your head be under the weather; it's not quite acting as it should. It's telling you things that you don't want to hear, filling your head with irrational fears and worries. Even making a phone call is daunting thanks to your unhealthy inner voice; it tells you you're going to mess up or that you'll be bothering the other person. Your mind goes into constant over-drive thinking of all the bad things that could go wrong. It's very much a self-defeating type of illness and one of the hardest to cure.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 5:25am
If I can rattle your cage getting you emotional, it means you're still in one and that's the cage I'm trying to help you escape from....takes a ruthless unconditional love position to do that.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2015 7:19pm
Anxiety - Like there's so much going on in one's brain, it's going to explode. Constantly nervous and it drives one nuts. Depression - Feel the same thing with the brain. Feel like crying and crying and crying.
Anonymous
August 9th, 2015 3:58am
I personally have depression and anxiety and both feel troublesome because you may feel anxious about situation and maybe you feel that way sometimes for no reason too
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 9:18am
It feels like a hole in the pit of your chest. Like you know that you could be rid of it, but can't.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2015 7:27am
depression is when you don’t really care about anything, anxiety is when you care too much about everything and having both is just like what
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kindBubbles59
August 2nd, 2015 1:38am
To be anxious or nervous about something Is to anticipate something happening or to worry about the end of a thing with anticipation
Anonymous
July 18th, 2015 11:45pm
You just feel like nothing will work, nothing will help, nothing will succeed, it's all one big pool of negative thoughts. "Life won't get better". "They will never like me the way I am". A bunch of negative thoughts, but stay positive, you'll get there and you'll see that life's going to get better and they will like you and so on.