A family member thinks I am lying about where I am going but I'm not, what should I do?
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Anonymous
August 19th, 2016 3:44pm
It's something that occurs in all families. Whomever is just being protective, trying to shake you to hear if with time your going out story changes. If you're being truthful, then you have no worries
Perhaps take a selfie of where you are as proof. Even on snapchat you have the option of putting on a time filter to show exactly where and when you are some place. If not, you could provide your parents with a friends contact which they can call just to make sure. Or get them to call you and they can speak to a friend who can verify your whereabouts. The best thing to do is not to get angry and just say calmly where you are going.
I guess there is no other way then tell them over and over again that you are not lying. Maybe you can take some photos and send or show them to them so they believe you.
Try to ask them why they feel that way, may be there is a reason and u may be able to clear the misunderstanding
Anonymous
August 28th, 2016 1:12am
You need to show your family member that you are responsible and trustworthy! If they allow you to go they'll see that you aren't betraying their trust or being deceitful.
talk sincerely with that person and show him that can trust you whenever you go, or take a picture and send him
If you haven't done anything to deserve the distrust, ignore. Else, ensure they know (GPS/check in/staying available and informing once you reach)
You could show them, take them with you as proof. Maybe spend time with them too, the problem might not be that they don't believe you but they are jealous and what to spend time with you too.
Maybe the best approach is to start a dialog wit the member what are the reasons for not believing you. After that you will be clear what kind of behavior
Anonymous
September 17th, 2016 9:12am
Once you go out take him or her with you and let him or her trust you
If he or she trusts you it will be solved
Relate him/her with that place you're going. Like I'm going near X, there is a pastry shop near X. Do you want me to bring some for you?
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2016 3:16pm
It sounds like it could be time to sit down and talk with them about why do they think you are lying and why do they not trust you.
Well, you could use an app called Life 360 that connects your family to your location to slow then that you aren't lying, or you could talk to them about how you really aren't lying or try to gauge out why they think you are lying and work on those areas instead :) I hope this helped ^^
Tell them to trust you,that you've grown up and deserve there trust, tell them you have your phone on you and they can check up on you at any point.
Anonymous
September 30th, 2016 3:38am
Talk to them with the truth, ask them why they think you are lying. Keep being truthful and they will understand.
Try and have a conversation with them as to why they don't trust you. Also, you could give them the phone number of where you are going and/agree a to be back and stick to that time.
Anonymous
October 1st, 2016 11:31am
Try to talk to them about why they feel that way. Have you done something unintentionally which in turn made your family think of you that way? Talking about it first always helps. If it doesn't work, take them along with you to prove it.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2016 12:07pm
Parent trust is a big issue one thing you could do is have some one they trust go with you and pick you up. Also some phones have the choice were you can let them see where you are for a limited time. Hope this helps
You should tell politely.answer to every questions what ever he/she wants to know.don't be rude .and if possible show some information that can made him to believe you.
If you can invite them to come with you, do! If it's not cool for your family member to come along try bringing them back something from there or talking to them about it in a friendly way. Be careful not to seem passive aggressive and try to understand they are probably looking out for you.
If your not lying you have nothing to worry about. Just go along with your day. They obviously have trust issues. Is there anything you can do to make them trust you? Have you done someting in the past to make them mistrust you?
Anonymous
October 20th, 2016 2:59am
I'm sorry that you are in this situation. Family members can be tough. I would attempt to talk to the family member again and see what their concerns are and why they are having a tough time believing the truth. I would then address those underlying issues and then maybe they'll come around.
Tell them the exact details and show them proof that you are not lying and you are being honest to them
Anonymous
November 4th, 2016 5:29am
Explain to that person that you're indeed going out and if you're comfortable with it ,try taking that person along with you ,
Anonymous
November 4th, 2016 8:20pm
Try assure them that you are going where you are saying. Get a friend that they know is honest to tell them.
Maybe you could ask them why they distrust you so much, does it stem from something that happened in the past? Try to reassure them that you have no reason to lie about your whereabouts!
Anonymous
November 12th, 2016 10:56pm
Have them drive you there snd pick you up after event. Then talk about trust when you get home so next time perhaps they will listen to you
Just keep letting them know you're not going to do anything bad and to give you trust at least don't question you before they actually know the results at the end of the day because they could be actually good results instead of bad give you some credit
Stay Silent. Let them rant off and take yourself out of the situation. That way they cannot emotionally damage you.
I personally feel that the best thing you can do is sit down with them a ask them calmly what it is that makes them think you are lying. It is important that they feel listened to in their concerns, but you must stand your ground and be very clear about how it makes you feel as well. Communication is key. Good luck!
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