Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav

A family member thinks I am lying about where I am going but I'm not, what should I do?

252 Answers
Last Updated: 05/29/2022 at 6:19pm
Take the first step toward feeling better
Begin your therapy journey today and receive $25 off (use code 25OFF7C)
Moderated by

Sarah Robb, LISW-S (Licensed Independent Social Worker, Supervisor Designation) and LICDC (Licenced Chemical Dependency Counselor)

Clinical Social Work/Therapist

Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations. Life poses many challenges. Learning to face, cope with, and resolve these challenges can increase our resilience.

Top Rated Answers
Profile: magicallyRainfall14
magicallyRainfall14
January 6th, 2017 4:46am
When someone accuses me of lying, and I know I'm telling the truth, I don't get angry. I remain calm, I sit with the person, and I talk it out with them. I ask them why they feel that way, then I calmly explain the situation. Then I tell them how important it is to me that they trust me, and I hope they do because they mean so much to me. Then I leave the conversation so they can process it.
Profile: Nethersong
Nethersong
January 18th, 2017 4:14am
Perhaps the first and most important step is to explain your side. Let them know (in as much detail as possible) about what happened the last time you went, where you went, who you were with, etc . If they persist in believing that you are not telling the truth, provide evidence of where you are and with whom you may be meeting through pictures of the location and other such details. If you seem willing to update your family member about where you are going, it is possible they may realize that you are telling the truth.
Profile: Flawlessinsanity21
Flawlessinsanity21
January 26th, 2017 6:53am
If it really worries you that bad, you can always send them photos of the place you're at when you're there to prove to them you're being honest and they have absolutely nothing to worry about.
Anonymous
February 1st, 2017 12:29am
Take a friend, pictures, a recording device. Maybe even take that family member. Find someone who can vouch for you.
Profile: blitheDreamer35
blitheDreamer35
February 8th, 2017 10:31pm
Confront them and speak to them honestly about it. Ask them why they think you're lying. It might clear up some miscommunication
Profile: originalbraveheart63
originalbraveheart63
February 9th, 2017 2:38pm
Talk with them and tell them the situation and what you think about this and maybe that could help.
Profile: compassionateForest81
compassionateForest81
February 25th, 2017 10:10am
Just share your experience about your outing with the family member who's doubting you! That makes him/her trust you and they'll encourage your trueness to let them know what you are doing
Anonymous
February 26th, 2017 1:38am
A lot of the time my parents were skeptical about where I was going or who I was hanging out with. I let them meet my friends and drop me off at places, that way they knew where I was and who I was with. I would also share my location with them on my phone. Because I have my phone on me all the time, there's no questions about where I'm at because they can track me (I know it sounds creepy but GPS doesn't lie!!).
Profile: rainyAngeldani
rainyAngeldani
March 10th, 2017 2:50pm
You should take them with you sometime and then they should believe you. If not then ask them why they don't believe you and where they think you are going.
Anonymous
March 15th, 2017 9:18pm
Look them in the eyes and tell them the truth. Or ask them to ask one of your friends to confirm that you are going there or doing what you said.
Profile: Mediator
Mediator
April 9th, 2017 10:20pm
Communicating with them is very crucial. It would be helpful to ask their permission when going out. Moreover, updating them about what happened or recounting details to them will help.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2017 1:06pm
Show them the proof of where you are going, only to reassure them, then ask them to please trust them in future, As you are responsible and proving responsibility to your parents and ALWAYS being honest with them. They may sometimes not agree with something but at least they know you are reliable in telling them the truth.
Profile: MarvoliartyListens
MarvoliartyListens
May 4th, 2017 1:32am
Try to talk it out with them calmly. Explain that you really are being honest and that them not believing you is hurtful. However, you can't make them believe you, and so the only thing you can truly do then is live with the fact that you know the truth
Profile: comfortinghours
comfortinghours
May 12th, 2017 4:17pm
I think that sometimes it's normal to feel suspicious, even though it's not an okay thing to do. The smartest thing you can do is to prove to them that you aren't, for example, if you've gone to the mall with friends, you can send them pictures of exactly that with the location attached to it.
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2017 1:18am
While telling you what to do can be harmful and may not always work in this situation, I can suggest putting one of those location trackers on your phone and showing your family member where you're going if you're comfortable (like with iPhones you can send your global position to prove where you are based on your phone's internal GPS).
Profile: gracefulHoney98
gracefulHoney98
June 30th, 2017 8:20pm
If it is someone that does not have influence on your curfews or other things that could negatively afffect you, just ignore them. If it is someone like your parent, maybe send them pictures when you arrive.
Profile: PeacefulFruit
PeacefulFruit
July 5th, 2017 4:48pm
You don't have to prove anything, you are innocent. If they want to think you are lying, leave them at it, its no skin off your back. Be proud of yourself, you are honest and true, the rest of the world can think what they want. This is also the best way to prove yourself too, if you try to argue and convince this person that you are not lying, it will seem like you are hiding something, but if you just carry on as usual not worrying if they think you are lying, you will appear far more truthful and they are more likely to believe you!
Profile: mvpeng
mvpeng
July 18th, 2017 6:32am
It sounds like their behavior is a bit controlling, but if you are okay with it, maybe find a way to verify your location when you go out so they will see you are telling the truth. If they continue to ask you after you do that a few times, then that is their problem completely at that point.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2017 10:06am
Discuss with them why they feel that way towards you and that it makes you feel upset. Try to come up with a solution together to overcome this issue.
Profile: WiseVirgo826
WiseVirgo826
July 28th, 2017 3:53am
The best way to let them know you're telling the truth is to provide proof; take pictures of yourself at this place, or get someone to go along with you so they can vouch for you.
Profile: Ruek
Ruek
August 10th, 2017 9:21am
Talk to them and ask them why do they think you are lying? Can they explain to you more about it? Please try not to let this make you feel bad, the most important thing is that you know you are telling them truth, if they do not believe you, it is on them.
Profile: Roishere
Roishere
August 13th, 2017 10:14pm
We live in a day and age where it's easily accessible for people to know where you are and what you're doing. Simply snap a selfie or do a live video call of you whenever you are at the time. It's that easy.
Profile: GivingstonTreegull
GivingstonTreegull
August 16th, 2017 6:59am
How important is it that they believe you? Will there be consequences if they believe you are lying? If not I wouldn't worry about. If you know you are being honest and they refuse to believe you there is little you can do to change their mind other than physically prove them wrong. Just hold tight and stay honest. Eventually it should sort itself out. Maybe try holding a family meeting and putting the situation out there on table for discussion, in the open air. Either way keep your head up!
Profile: caishrenee
caishrenee
August 20th, 2017 4:42am
You should sit down with whoever thinks you are lying and try to reassure them that you are not lying. If this still doesn't help, then you could both sit down and come up with some ideas with which you will both feel comfortable knowing that you are one hundred percent going where you are going.
Profile: DaveMcGrath
DaveMcGrath
November 8th, 2017 3:37am
Sit down with them and give them facts as plainly and politely you can. Be open to the possibility that they might well be angry with you and be ready to keep your composure if they express themselves angrily. In general, I find with enough time, patience, and consistency that most people can be won over and convinced you are being truthful.
Profile: Alexander121
Alexander121
November 9th, 2017 11:47am
This used to happen to me a lot with my dad, ask them why they think this, and then try to combat that, remember that they are just scared for your safety :)
Profile: SteadfastStatue
SteadfastStatue
November 11th, 2017 2:54am
In the past, I have had this issue. In the end, I question why they don't believe me and try to understand them better to grasp what their foundation for their suspicions of me is. By then, it is easier for me to confront the family member because I don't take it personal as easily. What I mean to say is there is only peace of mind you can obtain from trying to understand these family members that don't have faith in you; there isn't always a clear cut way to reconcile differing perspectives.
Profile: MissNatureNat
MissNatureNat
November 11th, 2017 9:40pm
maybe ask your family member to clarify with your friends where you are going, also maybe they can take you to where you want to go to give that family member reassurance. The reason your family member probably thinks this is because there is a lot of cases in the news where children lie about where they are going and actually get hurt or killed. That family member is just worried about you.
Profile: Calmseas76
Calmseas76
November 11th, 2017 9:59pm
I would talk to them to find out why they did not trust me to try to resolve the issue, and if necessary, offer to let them track me via GPS on my phone or by a GPS tag. With nothing to hide, my openness may convince them, and if not, seeing my GPS data should.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 3:39am
you can convince them by sending your current location or ask someone in your family to get you to the place you want to go