A family member thinks I am lying about where I am going but I'm not, what should I do?
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Maybe you could add a tracking device to your phone and have them know that you are doing to right thing. There are plenty of apps for this!
Anonymous
July 9th, 2016 7:22pm
Talk to them about the situation. If you're meeting someone, they can prove it and show the family member that you're not lying.
I would ask them why they don't trust you, then work on building up the trust between you and the other person.
Just ask him/her why she/he thinks that you're lying and try to figure it out together. Tell him/her that you're not lying and that you have nothing to lie about.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 5:26pm
I should tell them again, patiently and with respect. Let them know afterwards that I was really there by asking my friends to talk about it too.
Try to talk to them why don't they trust you and ask them if you could work on it - keep them updated where you are, call them more, send texts.. Simply try to make them believe you.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2016 6:48am
I recall being in a situation like this before, something stupid like who spilled a slushie, cleaned it up, and hid it. I was the prime suspect because I was the one cooking in the kitchen, but I didn't do it. I looked my mom straight in the eye, fixed my posture, put on my most monotone voice, and said: "Mother, I told you I didn't do that. If you don't mind I'll be leaving now."
Anonymous
July 20th, 2016 7:08am
Tell them that this bothers you. Don't keep it in because if you do, it'll create resentment. You don't want to resent someone you care about.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2016 10:24am
Simple. Use technology. Send a selfie wherever you go and who you are with. Share location if you must,
Make it very clear and tell them that you really aren't lying about where you're going. Perhaps ask them to come with you to see for themselves. Remember that their suspicion says a lot more about themselves than it does about you. They should really trust you, but then again they may just be looking out for you, even if it doesn't feel like that.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2016 8:34pm
Tell them the truth, ask them to join you so they can see for themselves or take pictures as some sort of 'evidence'.. Most of all, don't care about what they say, let them think what they want.
I think you should reassure your family member about were your going ask them tp perhaps take you to were your going or speak to somebody at the location to verify your location you can also get tracking apps on your phone
It's hard when you feel like a family member doesn't trust your word. And to make it even harder, there's absolutely nothing you can do about it. Not a thing. You know what you're doing. You know where you're going. You know you're telling the truth. And that's really all you can do.
You should give the family member details and facts about the place you are going to. I think talking it out with them would be good.
You can install a tracking GPS on your phone for them to use whenever you're going out somewhere. They can tell where you've been and keep everything going smoothly.
You should try talking to him about it and make him understand that you're stating the truth. Even then too, if he doesn't understand, then its not your liability. You are not responsible for peoples' perceptions if you aren't guilty for the same.
Well show the proof where your going call them every hour or to let them know what your doing.
Have you lied to them in the same question before? Do they know your friends? Do they like your friends? There may be some things that triggered them not to believe in you that fast. You should ask yourself and then ask them why they won't believe you. Communication and proper conversation do the magic sometimes.
If a family member thanks that you're lying about where you are going, but you're in fact telling the truth, maybe ask them to come with you, take a picture of where you are. Give the number of the location that you're going to be at and they can call and ask if you're there or ask them to follow you.
Tell them youre not lying but show them that your not..trust is important..just make sure your back at the time you say your going to be ..and maybe take a cell phone with you
Offer to keep them updated. Send a text, picture or call before and after any plans! If they still have trust issues, offer them to come along! If that isn't an option, consider having a chat and asking what you could do to gain more trust in your relationship.
Just be honest but don't compromise your own integrity - if you know your being good don't let it be your bitch - be honest, transparent and they will eventually see you are honest person and can be trusted.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2016 10:38pm
Ask them why they think that and allow them to go with you one time to see for themselves that you are going where you say.
Ask them to please trust you, and you promise that you aren't lying to them. They should believe you. I have no other advice. If they won't trust you at this point you'll have to show them.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2016 3:46am
Tell them that they are wrong and that you are going a specific place and if they are the boss ask them if they do not want you to go.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2016 8:59am
Have you explained to your family member that you are not lying and is there anyone else with you that can back up what you are saying?
Could I ask why do you feel that they are lying about where you are going ? sometimes we think something is happening but it may not be this way. It may be our own perception.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2016 3:11pm
I would often lie to my mom about things but it was mostly because I was afraid of her reaction. She found out about it several times and it caused her not to trust me, which is understandable. Telling your family member straight up and if they don't believe you, that shouldn't be something you worry yourself with. When they realize you weren't lying, they'll grow to trust you again. These things take time.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2016 8:20pm
I would write a note to the family member or talk to them. And tell them how you feel. And journal about your feelings and what you want to get out of the conversation. I hope that helps.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2016 9:12am
Earn their trust by proving to them that you are telling the truth. Let them talk to others who are at that particular destination, perhaps take them with you, create proof like videos, photos or phone calls and let them know they can trust you.
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