A family member thinks I am lying about where I am going but I'm not, what should I do?
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prove to them that you are not lying about where you are going and show them that you can be trusted
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 8:32am
Be calm and tell them that you're being honest. Give them a reason to trust you. Talk to them calmly.
If a family member thinks you are lying about where you are going that suggests a lack of trust between you and that family member. Trust can often take a long time to be restored, so it's important to keep that in mind. Until that is accomplished, it's crucial for you to always be honest and truthful. That's the best way to reestablish trust.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 2:15pm
Be honest to them and ask them to trust you. Communication is key in any relationship. if they trust you,they'll understand.
There are a number of things you can try: Take someone that your family member trusts to vouch for you on where you are going, take them with you, take photos of where you are, a video and a very detailed description of everything around as well as the time and what is going on, or just simply call them from time-to-time to let them know what you are doing.
Your family member is worried your lying and needs to be reassured, try sitting down with them Eye to eye, face to face and asking then to trust you. Build the trust through communication
Anonymous
November 23rd, 2017 3:01pm
Show them proof about where you are going or rather a witness your family trusts. Don't worry, someone family members are overprotective like this. And once you show them the proof they will realize that they can trust you and hopefully, would no longer think that you are lying about anything.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 10:19pm
Talk to him/her about it. Tell them how you feel. Sit them down and tell them that there wrong!!!!!!
Prove that your telling the truth, take a picture, back back something, earn their trust.
Where do they think you are going? Maybe have a talk with them and if it’s safe tell them how you feel about the whole situation. If they still don’t believe you then theirs not much you can do apart from take pictures of where you are. However I feel like that’s very unhealthy to do
Leave a phone number, call when you get there. Try to establish trust where it was lost mainly by discussing the reasons for the loss of trust.
Sit down with them and take the time to speak with them carefully and personally about it. If you show you're serious and you take the time to explain everything slowly it can help to convince them.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2018 5:42pm
All you can do is be honest, that's their problem if they don't choose to believe you or not realistically..
If it is important to you that they know where you are going then try to give them as many details as possible. Make it clear that you have a precise plan and that should make your previous statement more believable / clear.
If I were you, I would share stories about the place I've been, take a picture or two and conversationally show them. There's no point taking it up with the person because they will think you're being defensive. Casually introduce them to proof a few times and they will automatically start believing you within a short period.
If you believe that they do not trust you, perhaps give them your location via your phone, or take a photo of the place you said you were going to go and prove you are there!:)
Anonymous
January 26th, 2018 7:26am
Stick to the truth. You don't have to explain anything to anyone else. You know the truth and that's all that matters. Personally I've had a few family members thinking that I was lying, I told them upfront where I was going, didn't think nothing of it after I was confronted; and eventually it came upon good terms. The Truth will set you free.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 6:53am
If it is that important, you can both enable a app so that they can constantly track your location. This way, when you go somewhere, they will see it.
I'd just tell the person that all I can do is tell the truth and if they don't, believe me, that's their prerogative. Don't let their opinions of you take control of your mind as you know that you are telling the truth.
Maybe you could find some way you could prove it to them? like maybe send them a picture of yourself in the place you told them you would be.
This shows their lack of trust towards you. The most important thing is regaining their trust. You should make them know you are not lying, maybe not just from telling them but even presenting the facts.
Give them evidence once you get there, like maybe a picture, it depends on where you're going. Update them every once in a while while you are there, make it clear you are where you say you are. They might do this more than one time so make a habit of updating them on where you are, like if you just got there, let them know.
Tell them that you'll send them pictures of that place or they can spy on you with your siblings or something because it would seem weird to your friends if your brother's gonna stick with you the whole time or you can simply tell them to ask to your bestfriend that if she's with you or not.
Have you considered taking this family member with you sometime to show him/her where you are going? Perhaps someone there would speak up and assure your family member that you are speaking truthfully.
Tell them that you're not lying. Ask them why they think that you are lying to them. That may clear up so confusion and you may get them to trust you some more.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2018 4:03am
Show them proof and evidence about the place you're going. Tell them specific facts and details to show them that you know your stuff :)
Be completely honest and just state where you're going confidently. Being strong and confident is the key to success in these things.
Be as transparent as you can and communicate clearly with them. Let them in to your world more, and you'll find they'll be more calm.
Anonymous
March 3rd, 2018 6:32pm
If you have google maps or find friends on your phone then you can share your location with them so that they know where you are and that you aren't lying.
Confirm where you are going by having an adult give feed back to your parents, this and getting dropped of by your parents should get them to believe you.
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