Stating that you have to walk away is good compared to a full blown hissy fight. Do you try to regain your composure and go back and talk? Or do you pretend it never happened?
Honestly, I think as a manager you should be a bit more professional. That DOESN’T mean you can’t be personal, but not shooting the *** with people, etc. I think is important. I’m NOT saying this in a judgmental way, just as advice.
def not feeling judged by you and i appreciate everything you do. that is great advice and i wanna do that
i thought saying i need to walk away was a good mover until i did it. i didn’t get a good response. i do usually always come back and apologize but rarely does that fix the problem. they usually just smile and say yeah we’re all good. but i have my doubts.
I’m certain you’re dumb. Did they train you for the position?
How long have you been in this particular position?
i think i know what you were trying to say there lol but yeah i’m def not that smart. the training was pretty lame but ive had the job for like 3 years. started on overnight then they got rid of that and moved me to mornings. then moved me to closing. i always try to keep a positive attitude, do good work and do as much as i can. but i think i might be difficult to work with.
It’s not dumb guy work; it’s necessary work that people rely on a great deal. Without it, everybody from blue collar workers to white shirt professionals would suffer ☺️.
What current industry do you work in now?
Have you stayed in this current industry for awhile?
i tend to just get jobs close to home. and this place by far offered the most as far as pay and pto and everything. it’s just a grocery store. i enjoy doing it but its for sure a dumb person job.
i feel like i was never a good fit there. this place def tries to be alot more corp then other store jobs i had.
before this place i did overnight grocery store at a shittier place. i was a drunk then. but i cleaned myself up and had to move. i applied to lidl bc it was close. i’ve never heard of it. it’s a german market and they only just came to this area. it was a surprise blessing.
before that other job i was a waiter
before that i did overnight grocery at another *** place
You’re good. I wasn’t doing anything but heading off to bed.
Maybe sleeping on the situation and calming down would help you.
Would you like to talk more in the morning?
i’d like the to keep talking it’s been a huge help but if you are going to bed we can talk in the morning
didn’t you have plans with your sister?? are you ok?? i’m so sorry for being so wrapped up in my own stuff.
I understand how that maybe wasn’t the best response. Admittedly, I do expect my superiors to have the answers and stay level headed.
But I think saying “I’ll check and get back to you” or “Hold on I’ll help you after I’m not busy,” are ways to take a brief moment to collect yourself then help with the problem. It will also appear you’re busy “finishing” up work so it’s not like you’re walking/storming off.
those are great suggestions i’m def trying that. i can’t just run away any more. but i def need an extra moment to grab myself and make the right decision of what to say
i was nvr that type of supervisor until a few months ago. it’s a simple job as long as we all do our stuff we go home. i admit i was deffff tooooo lax. and ive made a lot of improvements but i dont think its been enough.
Maybe you’d just benefit from learning how to interact and react with coworkers. I’m sure there’s a few videos you could watch to learn. Or just google some articles.
I also can come off as rude or stand-off ish. Not going to lie, my last two jobs coworkers were not understanding that I’m quiet and awkward and have anxiety. People also talked (really) bad about me behind my back and were constantly making up lies about me. It was seriously bullying and workplace harassment.
I’ve learned the hard way to just come in, do my work, then leave. The minute you’re open and honest with anybody, they’ll use that against you or turn it around to gossip about you. It can be really lonely at work and make it an unpleasant everyday experience, but I think it’s important advice to always keep in mind.
i’m sorry they were like that to you. that’s super unfair. you’re a total sweetheart and you seem super professional
i’ve def checked out some leadership vids and stuff but i fell off. maybe ill pick it back up
im learning that same lesson. it’s so sad. i tried so extra hard to be more than just a coworker but i think that was a mistake.
i pray there’s something i can do, some change i can make to fix the mistakes ive made and get back onto a good path
Well maybe this is a good time to think about your future.
What do you WANT to do?
What skills do you have that could move you further to your goals?
Would venturing out further from home expand your job pool?
Would getting a certificate improve your chances at jobs? (some jobs really love that *** lol)
i’m not skilled or anything like that. i gotta just take whatever i can get. it’s not a very promising future. lot of struggling.
I think it’s hard when you’re seen as the “fun, friend” boss for people to then acknowledge you as a stricter, professional boss. I’m sure some definitely don’t appreciate your new ways; you were probably really lenient and too personal. But I’m sure some may appreciate it as well. Whatever the case, bringing structure and holding standards for others isn’t a bad thing. As long as you’re being fair across the board, you’re doing nothing wrong ☺️.
yeah i wish i took the job more seriously sooner. i always appreciated the job and the company and i always out performed most coworkers with physical work…im not good at the office end and the numbers kinda stuff
i wish i would of went on medication a long time ago. i need it but i think i don’t.
Just decided to stay home. I baked homemade pizza, made sugar and chocolate chip cookies as well as brownies. Then I made a mimosa and I’ve just been enjoying the day in.
It rain/snowed all day so I definitely didn’t feel like going anywhere.
that sounds like a really nice night. i bet it smells amazing there lol you feeling any better today??!
It’s important to keep up the routine while trying to improve yourself. That way it becomes a habit instead of a chore. I say this because I’m trying to learn it too. But I understand it’s difficult 😞.
Maybe setting reminders, setting aside a specific amount of time, or rewarding yourself for doing the activity you need to would help you keep on track. Keeping yourself accountable is key.
i had serious plans to adjust how i am at work and i felt like i immediately slipped back into the mess i am now. i get so anxious around people idk how to act sometimes.
