Course 3: PL 102 - One Key Metric (Discussion 5)

@GlenM

1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the  3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well. Â

This is what I posted on 3 key things:

-being non judgemental and opened towards the members

-giving honest feedbacks and encouragements towards other listeners

-checking-in with members from times to times and being patience with them

One single metric I'm working on is "being non judgmental and opened towards the members", this can be expanded to not only the members but also towards everyone that I interact with. Having 1 single metric help me to refocus and not be overwhelmed when thing gets busy. It can also be a long term goal that help me develop everyday for a long time. This metric reminds me to treat others with empathy, and therefore help me to see things from other's viewpoint, I will then be better at understanding their underlying motivation and difficulties. Thus, this can help to resolve conflicts and differences.

2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock. Â

At the end of my life, a few people apologized for me for have not appreciated me enough... a few praised me for my creative and unique approach to management and work... most praised that I was kind and caring and help them appreciate life more. This exercise help me to realise that:

1) living true to myself and my vision is very important to me, even if it's against the norm in the present moment. Being creative or do creative work is a part of living true to myself.

2) being kind, caring towards others and help uplift others is also an important part in my life.

I'm doing both the above but sometimes one need is conflicted with the other, for example the need to be myself can look like I don't care about others, while uplifting others is very important to me. I would like to solve this by being able to make creative works (which allow me to be myself) that also help other in someways, or I can look into works like teaching, creative therapy,...

1. Choosing a single metric is important because I can base it on the established metric and track my improved progress. I think this would be important to set for both my professional and personal life.

2. The exercise makes me feel very calm and peaceful, it also forces me to think of something that I've previously been stressed about and tried not to think about too much. But since the past chapters have been guiding me well so I thought it would be a good idea to try out the activity. I feel a little more lighthearted and calm afterward, it also gives me some ideas to reflect back into my current life. I'm still a little undecided on my professional career path so having some time to think about the kind of like the endpoint gives me a clearer vision to solve my current problem.

1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

A: There are many things that I wish that can get help and move on with my life.

I think I can use my Chinese, good table game lecturer, food therapist and my horticulutral to serve the people here. In able to help others by using these methods to help client overcome their problems in life.

2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

A: 1. you have fought a good fight, you have finised your course, yyou have kept the faith. 2. You are a good counselor, a good musician, a good teacher. You are an overcomer. Your life s a miracle. You lead many people to Christ! You are a special person to be around with! You are loving and pure. You help me see the road infront of me. You inspire other people!

@GlenM

A single metric allows us to stay focused on the task at hand and not lose track. Professionally this can help us achieve the most we can, while personally, it helps us stay true to our own visions and dreams.

The exercise impacted me by reminding me of my mortality. It reminded me of the impact I have on the life of others and how I should always do the best I can. It reminded me of how helping others and just being kind is one of the greatest things you can do. It also reminded me of my own importance in this world :)

A key metric I'm hoping to help move is just being kind to people and reaching out and helping as many people I can :)

(I missed this bit in my original answer and hence I'm posting twice)

@GlenM They would just talk about how I'm actually dead and I don't believe people would care a lot about it, I just hope they would know that I lived a happy life and that I'm gonna rest in peace

@GlenM

Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

Choosing a goal metric helps me to focus on the most important immediate goal that is in front of me. This will enable me to learn and grow slowly with abundant knowledge and experience as I progress to the next phase of the goal. Personally it can teach me valuable lessons that will allow me to develop characteristics that will help me deal with my relationships.

Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you.

This exercise is quite intriguing and it made me really think and reflect for quite some time now. I imagine myself at 85, sitting in the front and having people talk about me. The first person or the person giving the eulogy is my husband. This is what he says followed by my sister.

Husband: “I met her when I was at a good place and she helped me grow even further, she showered me with love, respect, loyalty and stood by my side even when the world was against me at times. I really hope that I can reverse time and go back to the day we first met and relive every moment with her. I love you and I miss you, but I will go to you whenever you call for me.”

Sister : “My best friend, soul sister, thanks for every moment that we had together. You're that one person who doesn't judge me and I can be myself with you at all times. You have given me everything and I am so glad to have known you. I love you sister.

I tend to take relationships quite seriously, so I believe that I am going in the right path for now. People are meant to be cared for and loved for and that’s what I have been doing, and volunteering has given me such an opportunity to care for people as much as possible.

@GlenM

1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the  3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well. Â

I am working with another Moderator to make sure we are on a track that we both can work at to make sure our community is going smoothly. We listen to each others concerns and ideas and work at a plan together.

2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock. Â

The exercise explained wonderfully has helped me to keep on Quadarant 2 to make sure my life is going on a path I have made for myself. I try to m ake sure I do not go off those paths I developed for myself and use my guards to stand up for myself

1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.
Though I do not have a team or mentor, I am very lucky to have Listener friends who are kind, encouraging and supportive of me. As such, the one key metric I am hoping to help move is in providing support (active listening) to not only members but listeners as well i.e. peer support/care team.

My 3 key things thread post:
1. Participated in a Listener Learning Room discussion on the Listener's Best Practices Guide
2. Participated in a Listener Sharing Circle
3. Provided support to new listeners with questions/queries in the Listener Support Room

Choosing a single metric is important because it helps with providing a more unifying picture about what I want to do and focus on. In my professional and personal life as well, so long as I remember that single metric that matters, I would be able to better perform and set priorities overall.

2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.
Growing up I had to bottle up a lot of things in order to be always seen as obedient and ‘good’, to always save face for my family and myself. So It was not so long ago that I’ve come to a decision – at the beginning of the year 2020 to be exact – to live my life more honestly and to be open and direct about how I feel and think. As such, during this exercise, when I imagine myself at the end of my life, I imagine people saying that even though I had my faults, I was truthful and sincere, that I had nothing to hide and that I was true to myself and the people I cared about, flaws and all. This is how I would like to live my life and so far, I think I’ve been doing a good job at keeping at it, judging from the responses of new friends that I’ve made over the past year.