Course 3: PL 102 - One Key Metric (Discussion 5)

@GlenM

A single key metric I can have to work on to keep moving is self improvement. It’s important to find this key metric from both professional and personal views because without having something to guide us through the changing weathers and lights and settings we eventually lose ourselves to wherever we currently end up. When we lose our guide we lose the reason and meaning behind why we are and doing what we’re doing at the moment and decide fo stay in that spot, being chained to a endpoint that we may not necessarily want. With the guide we can remind ourselves where we do want to do and either decide to stay and work around us or if we wanted to to eventually set ourselves in another stage that suits us better, however much or little we need fo move ourselves to feel like we’re getting and receiving enough energy.

The following is what I posted in the 3 key things thread-

Key three things I did at 7Cups:

-taking requests to listen and chatting with those who want to talk to me again

-supporting and taking to persons in group chats

-participating in 7cups courses

This exercise impacted me in the sense that I have potential and ability to do things that reach people and their feelings. Where I know for sure that people received the energy I put my mind and heart to giving to others. So it’d feel powerful to know I did that in my own accord and motivate me to do more and further For instance thinking about even what people have told me presently such as in 7cups by the end of the chat or in the reviews where they said I was caring and patient it filled me with joy cause those are the kinds of characteristics I want to keep having.

@GlenM

As mentioned, a single metric, the north star will help us see things more clearly. Just like it says in the book, Stephen Covey, "keep the end in mind." I've practiced it as an author. When we start writing a book, thousands of ideas bombard our minds and we are prompted to open up our doc and start writing. But these things die after only a few weeks. Why? Because whilst we were somehow carrying out our first prompt, we did not have an actual ending in mind, which led us to the derailed mind or writer's block.

Therefore, a single metric, i.e. the end of my book or my life is what will guide my whole journey.

My mother: Mads was a son who stayed with me through everything. He listened to me when no one else did. He took care of me with all his heart.

My sister: Mads was both my brother and my sister. He protected me from all the bad in the world. He was my homemade therapist and went through everything with me just because I wanted it.

My brother: Mads was my guide through life. He was the one person I looked up to at all times. Though not perfect, he was there for me whenever I needed him.

@GlenM 1) I had come up with an idea for participation in group sessions with the person leading the team and we are working towards it. I am happy that we can bring that into action, and it could help the community in a better way

I have been hosting the 7 cups academy falls event to help recruit more trainees in 7 cups academy as it has a lot to offer us.

I had also helped one of my members by telling them about the 7 cups academy and how it could benefit them.

2) The exercise of imagining myself dead had definitely had an impact on me. I had imagined them to say something good about me, but I also feel there are areas I can improve on. I want my parents, my friends to be proud of me when I die. I want them to tell that I was able to give them all that they deserved. There is so much more to achieve in later stages of my life, and I want to work towards it. That exercise has really helped me realize than and work towards it

@GlenM

(TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock. Â

I am comfortable discussing although it isn't positive, I don't have many people around me and the only people around me are very negative, and even occasionally make "jokes" about not caring if I die, so I would have to say that nobody would be by my bed side saying anything.

Honestly, I'd rather have nobody there saying nothing than have people saying negative things.

@GlenM

1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the  3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well. Â

Safety is a very specific key metric in my overall life due to traumas from the past, as well as my passion in work and on 7 cups, and regardless of where I find myself, I would always want to help people feel safe and ensure they are kept as safe as possible.

I relate very much to teens so would love the opportunity to be ATL, whilst also driving my passion to keep them safe whilst in the 7 cups community.

@GlenM

1. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

Improving my skills as a Listener is important so that I can listen to others in a better way, both on 7 Cups and in my life.

2. Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

I imagined others saying positive comments about me and they are sad I'm gone, I will be missed, however, I think there are also things I could've worked on more in my life.

1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

= I'm currently in close contact with my team leads in almost all the roles I have. Different goals for different roles, but it all boils down to these three things:

* Being aware of the goals and what it means to achieve them for all members of the team, and how they move towards those goals on a regular basis whether it's monthly, bi-weekly, or weekly.

* Consciousness that it's not just about the members, the listeners, or the platform; it's about all of these factors and how they work together to make this community one of a kind.

* A single metric is a unifying medium. :)

2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

= Ever since I've read Tuesdays with Morrie, I often imagine this scenario and contemplate it. Several years ago, I was diagnosed with a terminal ailment and have been given a mere 6 months to live so this practice also became a reality (in a way) because I asked people close to me (who were willing) to send me a (letter) eulogy as Morrie did with Mitch Albom and like Augustus Waters did to Hazel Grace Lancaster in The Fault in Our Stars (geek alert! Lol).

Not many people knew of my condition and situation then so I didn't get many words. But upon doing this exercise, I realized that I'm not even sure if people would find out that I've crossed over if it happens. I'm an introvert and would prefer only a handful of people to celebrate my life. I've realized that funerals are for the living, not for the dead, so if ever, I'd do something similar to what Morrie and Augustus did and ask for it while I still have time.

How it impacted me is more on a spiritual level in the sense that, I choose to do good and live a life that is meaningful. I cannot ignore the fact that people are always nice to someone dead.

So, I try to help at least one person, smile to as many as I can and be more patient and compassionate towards people who are difficult daily. I think before talking, I mind my business and collaborate when needed. I guess it's more important for me that I feel good in my own skin rather than validation from other people. I have nothing against it, and I never doubt their sincerity, I just have a different preference :)

And I'm okay now and not terminally ill :)

@GlenM

1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the  3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.
3 key things to help 7 Cups moving forward is that, patience, growing wisdom and give emotional support. Patience is important in both professional and personal life because is a vital it reduces stress and conflict which leads to better working relationships, and help me to achieve your long-term life and career goals. Growing wisdom is important in both professional and personal life because while making wise decisions, we can keep our immediate needs in mind, along with holding long-term perspectives, wisdom allows us to make better contributions to our community by balancing our needs and boundaries with those of others. Giving emotional support is important in both professional and personal life because emotional support helps us reduce psychological distress with low levels of anxiety and depression and also helps to cope up with daily and chronic stress, which can negatively impact your physical and mental health.

2. Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.
Exercise did helped me to identify what I think is most important in life, where true values are present, living a life in a manner that reflected these values, I did helped me to be a happy person and felt that my life is well lived. Infact, if I lived life in a manner that is inconsistent with these values, I would be an unhappy person and felt like I wouldnt live a meaningful life.

I believe that fear is compass, which guides north, moving closer to us to our truth. My only objective when it comes to handling that fear is to become more intimate with it by holding the ground and dare myself like I dare a friend. Leverage that fear to motivate myself into action, and observe the energy of confidence my life events.

If Im acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that the people would remember me as a unique person, who grew wisdom, have leadership, empathy, patience, challenging, discipline and amazing good hearted person with great personality when I will end up living a meaningful life.

@GlenM

Hello everyone,

#1: I think it is important for both your professional & personal life to have one single metric. A single metric is like a long term goal.

#2: This exercise was a first for me. My main points were I want people to remember me for who I was, with all the parts good or bad. I want people say things along the lines of "One of The Best" & One & Only"