Course 3: PL 102 - One Key Metric (Discussion 5)

@GlenM

The key metric I want to move is: opening myself up to feeling a wider spectrum of emotions during a 1-on-1 conversation. I am not utilizing empathy to the degree I want to. This helps me professionally as I co-own a private therapy practice. It also helps me personally in relationships and friendships when I want to support people special to me.

Choosing a single metric is important because tackling many goals at the same time can leave you feeling burnt out or demotivated (nothing is ever completed), it can get chaotic and overwhelming (losing track of where you are, how you’re progressing, or what task comes next for instance.

My family members get up and tell me I was a strong son, someone who endured in the face of every possible obstacle, and who would have continued to do that.

My partner tells me I was passionate about human beings, I wanted to see the good in people even if I was painfully aware of the bad and had experienced so much of it. My partner would tell me that it was this desire to see good in others that drove me to accomplish what I did, and to be the supportive person I was. The shoulder that she could always lean on.

My long-term friend tells me I was inspiring, a melting-pot of ideas and creativity, sometimes to the point where I saw patterns where they weren’t. Discussion was interesting and fulfilling, and something that allowed both of us to grow.

@GlenM

1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the  3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well. Â

1) the metric I need to work more on is balance. Learning to balance self care and 7 cups and taking care of my kids and doing my professional job, its all got to be balanced to help the others i need to help.

2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock. Â i learned that if its the end of your life and the things they told you were negative.. Chances were you didn't do what you wanted to do to fulfill your life, you didn't have the love or support because you didn't put out the love and support. I want to be able to demonstrate humility when i pass away at that time i am meant too… so people remember me for the courageous loving person i was …

@GlenM

1. Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the  3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

My key metric is quality. I want to help 7 Cups to become a place, where a member can connect with any listener and be sure that this listener is well-trained and safe for them to talk to. I think, choosing one metric is important, to be able to really focus on it and not scatter your energy. This will help me to accomplish more in a certain area.

2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

I won't share the texts here. But I can say that the core values seem to be being supportive, caring, non-judgemental, persistent, honest, and a good role model.

The exercise made me feel sad since I imagined the situation of loosing those people that I love. I also found it interesting that the accomplishments in school/work didn't matter at all. I think being there for other human beings will be more important to me at the end of life than some material accomplishments.

@GlenM

Choosing a goal of a single metric is important so that you have somewhere to focus your attention and a clear aim to work towards. It takes commitment to do this. Will post new content, reply to more posts with no replies, and check in more with members and peers.

Not too comfortable sharing, but hope that those I have been close to or have had impactful interaction with will have positive things to say. I feel they'd notice some times where I have wanted to give up and admire and respect I haven't despite everything.

@GlenM

Gone through the post.

2. (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock. Â

In my life, there are not much people who really affects me at all. Just my parents and that's it. And therefore, I find it difficult to do this part of exercise as seriously I never even waste my time thinking what other think on me as they know NOTHING about me and am sure they are not ready to waste their time either.

@GlenM

Why is this goal of choosing a single metric is important?*

Its always good to go with single metric because its easy to focus and move towards that direction, rather than getting deviated every now and then

@GlenM

Previously I have spoken with my mentor I am aiming towards being an ATL this is my 7 cups metric goal.

Here are the 3 things I am planning to do and keep doing to help move 7 cups forwards:

1) When taking a chat, I will commit and focus on that member and actively listen to them and give them my attention

2) I will be taking regular breaks so that when I am online, I am working to the best of my abilities

3) Make time for my 7 cups roles and responsibilities and be on time for my sessions or 1-1 scheduled chats.

I believe having a single metric to work towards is essential for real life and 7 cups as it can then be easier to plan towards meeting this metric. It also helps you concentrate and get more determined as no other metric is occupying your mind. It can help stop you from feeling overwhelmed by having one main goal to focus on instead of several.

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I do not feel comfortable sharing what I would want them to say.

The exercise affected me negatively and made me feel quite upset. (don’t judge just my thoughts). It impacted me because I could imagine thinking someone would say something nice about me and then them just switching as soon as they started talking and saying horrible things. It made me realise I often think the worst of people and I always expect to feel disappointed so nobody can hurt me.

I dont feel comfortable with commenting about this

1. I think my key metric is empathy over criticism. I really wanna understand the situation instead of criticising things so I can focus on my circle of influence. I used to criticise things so much and that affects me negatively but now I really wanna practice my empathy.

2. If I die and people visit my funeral, I think this is what they will say

Mom: "My daughter was an insightful daughter who made a mess but move on. Aileen, I'm sorry for all the times I hurt you. I hope you rest in peace in heaven"

Dad: "I hope God will take care of you up there! I was really sad after I lost you. I'm sorry for what have happened to you. But you lived a great life and I'm pretty sure you had enough"

School friends: "You were a strong girl. We loved you in school. I hope God take care of you in heaven"

7 cups friends: "Aileeeeen! We're gonna miss you! It was really nice having you around! I hope you like it there in heaven!"

Little sister: "I'm gonna miss you sis! See you when it's my time!"

@GlenM

Identify the key metric you are hoping to help move.

My key metric is time management because for me it's difficult to plan things.

Why is this goal of choosing a single metric is important?

Because then you can focus on that particular goal and not worry about other metrics to improve.

Read chapter 12 and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, share what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If not comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you.

I can't really imagine what they would say. It kinda impacted me, because I didn't expect a kind of question like this.