Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #9) Passive-Aggressive Communication
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Healthy communication is key!
Questions:
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
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@MinisterMichelle
wow, i love this!!!
I have experience the silent treatment sign. Whenever my brother was upset with me, he used to stop talking and ignore me. This made me understand that he is upset with me. And I used to spend weeks wondering about the reason. It is damaging as it is very negative and creates a whole negative atmosphere.
@AliveandAlive passive aggression does cause a very negative atmosphere ! and this atmosphere can also affect other people who are not involved, so it's important that we try to refrain from this :)
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
Silent Treatment, Subtle Insults, Procrastinating on Purpose, Sabotage, Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Silent treatment
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It erodes the trust we have in each other, and creates an environment where people may feel emotionally unsafe. Also, it prolongs conflict.
@Heather225
Hello there!
It is about:
Silent treatment, subtle insults, deliberate procrastination, sabotage, score maintenance
My experience:
Silence as a way to punish someone.
Do not communicate on purpose when it is clear that something important or problematic needs to be discussed.
Ignoring someone when he asks something or asks for an answer to a question.
Indifference and icy calm in order to provoke a second surge of rage. If they succeed, they will label the other person as hypersensitive or hysterical.
They deliberately forget to perform agreed tasks or make excuses for not doing what they had to do.
To evoke feelings of guilt in someone. Take on the role of a victim.
Ironic remarks and sarcasm towards someone. If they are bothered by such behavior, they accuse them of lack of foresight and sense of humor.
Blaming others, instead of taking responsibility for one's own actions.
Asking offensive questions, such as, "Are you normal?" Or "Didn't you skip it?"
Concealing important facts from someone.
Passive aggression is often more devastating to interpersonal relationships than openly expressed anger. All relationships involving a passively aggressive person will become confused and unclear
Sending strenght and energy!
lots of love,
🌸Hana🌸
I like all the different examples that you gave<3 passive aggression does make clear communication impossible
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication? Backhanded compliments, refusal to state feelings, avoiding responsibilities, They say they agree, but your actions say otherwise, Stonewalling or freezing someone out, controlling.
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life? Aggression, denial, distortion, cruelty, and silence.
indirect ways. a series of verbal, non-verbal, and evasive techniques that indicate discontent without ever saying it.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community? “These are people who will often do anything to get what they need, including lie,” They sabotage anything and cause discord among peers.
I like all the different ways you mentions too<3
@00Michelle00
I also agree with your statements here Michelle, well put.
@Heather225
the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication are: the silent treatment, subtle insults, procrastinating on purpose, sabotage, and keeping score <3
i have actually been quite passive-aggressive myself, recently haha. i created a short-term small business to make some money for my animals and charities ! my friend ordered from me and said she would help me in supporting my business. for about a month, i brought her order with me everyday we had class together and she would always skip the class without telling me first so i could never bring it to her :( i did continue to ask if she would be in class next time, and she kept saying yes, but she never was. my orders continued to stress me out because people weren't paying for their products at all for about 2 weeks, unfortunately ! i really needed that money to buy more materials and i felt i was just wasting all the money i had spent :( (i ended up closing the business quite recently because of this) and i gave my friend the silent treatment. i also sent her a text that was subtly insulting and she knew i was upset (she is telling people about how i am mad at her now). i should have been more direct and understanding so we could communicate !
passive aggression is really damaging to our community because it can destroy connections we have to make. we all need to learn to work as a team sometimes, but when we don't communicate properly about conflict, most of us will not be willing to do so or put our best effort into things. communication is extremely important and we need to get along in order to increase performance !
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
Ans.
1. The Silent treatment
2. Subtle insult
3. Procrastinating on-purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Ans. The silent treatment, I stopped talking with few people as they reached me when they need me only.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Ans. It causes lack of understanding.
@rriyad
I'm sorry that you gave some people the silent treatment is it better for you now? Are you still doing this?
@glowingSoul93
I hope your doing well. Sorry my computer messed up.
@glowingSoul93
sorry for my late response. I feel I do when it's all about taking one sided benefits. If they are in danger, as a human being I would be there when needed. But I won't allow anyone to get unfair advantage.
@rriyad it's same with me
I know sometimes people reach out to us only when they need us, but then the next day they 'forget' us. I am sorry that this happened to you.
@rriyad
very nicely put short and to the point
@rriyad
Understood, and agreed.
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
Ans: 1. The Silent Treatment 2. Subtle Insults 3. Procrastination on purpose 4. Sabotage 5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Ans: I have received the silent treatment and it is the worst.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Ans:passive aggressive is damaging our community because it hinders our growth towards open communication it causes self doubts and fosters And Atmosphere for Gossip to grow and it steals freedom of speech and sense of security that has been built over the years and also it disrespects the values that is high expectation and high warmth
I definitely agree passive aggression can have really damaging effects and it affects the goals, values, and missions of cups.
@nessa104
Amazing answer!!!
@nessa104 I can understand the pain of silent treatment. I have received it too.
@nessa104
Agreed Nessa. I like the way you worded this.
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The Silent Treatment 2. Subtle Insults 3. Procrastination on purpose 4. Sabotage 5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I think that I have experienced all five of them but silent treatment when people stop talking to me and subtle insults a lot.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive aggression is damaging to our community as it is done with an intent to put other people down and our community stands for the purpose to support others. It is a dishonest and unhealthy way to communicate. Holding onto resentment is no good and other people's feelings get hurt. Nobody ever feels good after someone is passive-aggressive to them.
@Estrellitaa
I'm so very sorry you have dealt with all 5 forms. I hope you're doing ok and aren't still being hurt by this.
@Estrellitaa I can relate to that
What are the 5 signs if passive- aggressive Communications?
1-The silent Treatment.
2-Procrastinating on purpose.
3-Subtle Insults.
4- subotage
5-Keeping score
What is one example of passive- aggressive behaviour you have experience in your life?
Insult is one example of aggressive behavior I have experienced in my life!
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive aggression is considered harmful in our society because it leads to a lack of self-confidence of individuals and also exposes them to the risk of disrespect and underestimating their importance.
@Zahraa000
I'm so sorry that you were insulted I really hope that you are still not affected by this today.
I agree with you that passive aggression leads to a lack of self-confidence and underestimate peoples' importance. We all deserve kindness and respect!