Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #9) Passive-Aggressive Communication
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What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
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@Heather225
Questions:What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
The silent treatment,subtle insult,procrastination on purpose,sabotage, keeping score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
The silent treatment for sure!
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It destroys the communication bond/boundary within our community, leading everyone to feel that if their is no communication, or if someone acts like that then what are we all really doing this for? Its also so unkind. I understand some people don't realize they are doing it, thats why we have to be more aware of what we are putting out on 7 cups as it will and can damage that love connection we so thrive for in this community we built.
@magicalOcean594
I am really sorry you had to go through the silent treatment <3 I imagine it was horrific as I have also been through it. It is a horrible experience :(
I love your answer to the way passive-aggressive communication damages communication and I totally agree :) It was a great answer thank you
Waves
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
What is one example of passive-aggressive behaviour you have experienced in your life?
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
1) The 5 signs of Passive-aggressive communication include: The silent treatment, subtle insults, procrastinating on purpose, Sabotage and keeping score.
2)I have seen a lot of passive-aggressive behaviour around keeping score. A lot of people especially in high school used to do it. For example, it's all about keeping even and 'getting someone back' if they do something to you. In high school a lot of this was shown as childish behaviour such as you say something mean about me I will do the same to you. Or you cancelled on me so I will do the same to you next time. However even as I have gotten older as obviously, I am no longer in high school it has still been the same way. It can be seen a lot in workplaces. If for some reason someone asks you to cover their shift and you have already got plans and say no then this person may think 'oh well I will say the same to you if you need me to cover next time even if I am not busy'. It can be a vicious cycle.
3)Passive-aggressive behaviour is negative in all communities as it limits communication. It stops people from having an open conversation and sharing their true feelings. Being passive-aggressive blocks conflict resolution and doesn't allow any room to improve and work forwards and move on from a situation. It is so damaging as it can make people feel uncomfortable and targeted which can lead to no communication
It looks like you really understand what passive aggressiveness is!
I'm sorry to hear that there are a lot of keeping score behaviour in your environment. Good deeds are supposed to be altruistic and not expecting something back. I understand it's so childish.
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
silent treatment, subtle insults, procrastinating on purpose, sabotage, keeping score.
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I don't remember, I don't experience much passive aggressiveness.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Because it prevents people in the community from knowing what you want.
I'm glad to hear you haven't experienced too much of this <3
And fantastic point, it hides true intentions, wants and needs
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The Silent Treatment 2. Subtle Insults 3. Procrastinating on Purpose 4. Sabotage 5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I haven't experienced much of these things, or have done these to anyone as I recall. However, may be I feel at times my boss come up with Subtle Insults- anyways as I always take it positively, I take it as in real meaning when he congratulates me. When I see him surprised with my reports. I feel that, ok! so he is really happy and I am happy as I could surprise him (optimism).
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It's mainly because, it project negativity all over the atmosphere. May be intentions may be nice, however, it is not a healthy treatment.
"projects negativity" I like that phrase, very true
@Heather225
Five signs of passive aggressive treatment?
Silent treatment, subtle insults, procrastinating on purpose, sabotage, and keeping
score.
One example of passive aggressive treatment you have experienced? Unfortunately
I’ve experienced a lot, and this discussion has been a bit triggering for me. I
would say the subtle insults are hard, you doubt whether it is your fault,
whether you are over reacting, weak. No one else really sees what you are going
through and how much it hurts. Keeping score makes you feel so inhuman.
Why is it so damaging to our community? It is damaging as it breaks down trust... or more like plays with trust. Builds it up, breaks it down. Even more damaging. It can make the community not feel safe, make people want to hide away.
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication? the Silent Treatment– When someone uses silence to let you know there is a problem instead of directly telling you. Subtle Insults– A comment that leaves you wondering if whether or not you were just insulted, used to undermine your confidence. Procrastinating on Purpose– Procrastination when it is used as a power tool of someone demonstrating they have control over your time. Sabotage– When a person deliberately messes something up for someone else, often under the guise of an accident. Keeping Score– When someone keeps track of all the favors they’ve done for you and retaliates when you do not pay them back.
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life? I don't feel comfortable sharing it.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community? it is damaging because it can change who you are and hurt the other person.
It's absolutely harmful to others, for suuure
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
The silent treatment, Subtle insults, Procrastinating on purpose, Sabotage, Keeping score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Subtle insults has been a big one in my family :/
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It's poor communication that's neither highly warm or fulfills high expectations
@WarmLightXO
I like your answer. Poor communication and passive aggression are neither High Warmth and High Expectations.
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
The silent treatment
Subtle insults
Procrastinating on purpose
Sabotage
Keeping score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I got the silent treatment a couple of times and subtle insults.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It is really not nice to experience. And this is a place where people should be safe and helpful towards each other. It can really create a feeling of distrust
@Ninziesss
I agree with what you have said. Our community is safe space and that gives all the more reason to not engage in passive aggressive communication.
@Ninziesss
great understanding!
@Ninziesss
I would have to say the same thing!
@Heather225
Q: What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication? A: The 5 signs of passive-aggressive communications are: 1: The silent treatment 2: Subtle insults 3: Procrastinating on purpose 4: Sabotage 5: Keeping score.
Q: What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life? A: One of my examples that I am naming out of experience is: The silent treatment, it actually happened by who I thought was a friend of mine but I kept getting the silent treatment over and over again.
Q: Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community? A: passive aggression is damaging to our community because it can lead to more conflict but also to intimacy issues. Many people in our society struggle with having a direct but also an honest conversation about a problem.
- Lena
@kenzolena
You're right. Many people in our world find it hard to communicate honestly and openly
@kenzolena
So accurate. Thanks for sharing.
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
Silent Treatment
Sabotage
One who counts the favors and requests
Procrastinates on purpose
Subtle Insults
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I've experienced silent Treatment and subtle insults from many people in my life, when we could've communicated openly.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive Aggression is damaging to our community as it makes the person misunderstand and get mentally and emotionally drained, damaging relationships.
@blissfulForest7074 i am so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you get the best of everything
@blissfulForest7074 I agree with you, it makes one feel very drained and damages the relationship
