Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want
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Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would thank the person for taking the time to consider me for the role. I might also ask for advice on what I can do to better myself and maybe get the role in the future.
Activity: Please reply to 3 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!
Okay!
@JaimieF
Great response!
I agree!
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
I would be upset but i always think its for the greater good. Like i remember i wanted to be a peer support while doing my internship but somehow i never heard back after applying and I was sad when i saw other peers in the room.
But then I went to find other roles and those were as good as being a peer support. My aim is to help others so what title holds zero power over helping others. Roles or titles are just means to an end. Its the purpose that matters.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I am not sure, but i would definetly say that I applied and waited so very eagerly. Its unfortunate that i did not get it. Try and ask them what went wrong and whats the way forward.
@Magicallykermit58 Focusing on the greater good is amazing. What a healthy way to find the best role for you! Kudos!
@Heather225
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would approach it from a question standpoint, as in, where could I fit in better, or what can I improve on to do better in the future (if I want to reapply for the role)
@CompassionateDreamer8522 Very true, good job
@CompassionateDreamer8522
That's an intelligent way to do so, and I think you would receive the most beneficial result!
Exactly! I agree
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
If I find out, I will definitely feel pity, but not sad. Because that means someone else better than me will take over my desire role and that also means more experiences. However, let yourself stay in the failure will be so wrong, you gotta move on and you have to work hard for your desire role. We encounter failure every time and the one who stands up and tries again can achieve success.
I would respond politely to the leader who has informed me. And I would like to ask the leader where can I start to work in order to get the role later on.
@Irena0225
Thaat's exactly right! As long as we keep trying we can achieve success!
@Irena0225
Hi Irena! Thank you for sharing :) I really love your approach to the whole situation; the whole idea that we have to stand up aggain and try because there are always times we meet failure, and it is really inevitable. Moving on and keep working :D Asking the leader for feedback is also a supre great idea as well; it also shows our willingness to improve to the leader!
@Irena0225 - Inspiring and Motivating :)
I think that is a great perspective and the perfect way to respond
Great answer, well done🌹
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
I would be disappointed and take some time out for self-care. I would appreciate their time and ask for them for a feedback.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
i would thank them for their time and would ask for a feedback and an update. I would consider this as a chance for me to grow and learn more.
@crystalclearnow
I agree, this is a great chance to grow and learn more. I also like how you might take time for self-care.
@hopedreamlove
Thank you. An opportunity to grow.
@crystalclearnow
Self-care is definitely important when dealing with rejection. Good job!
@crystalclearnow
Great answer! Asking for feedback is brave :)
@crystalclearnow
Good to recognize the disappointment, and take care of yourself !
@crystalclearnow
I like the part of "thanking them for their time", because we still need to see that they put a lot of work in it too by reviewing the applications.
@crystalclearnow
I think it's really important and well considered that you included the importance of taking time for self care.
@crystalclearnow I love how you mentioned about self care. It's very important. Loved your positivity!
@crystalclearnow
This is a really good way to react when receiving feedback. I hope that eventually you do get the role you want. :)
@Heather225 If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you? If I was not given a role that I applied for, I would ask the leader who informed me on where I went wrong and what I can improve on. I would thank them for helping me and I would ask them when I can apply again because I can always try again and I might get it next time!
@LittleBirdie30
I love your optimism towards the future and how you can always try again. Awesome response!
@LittleBirdie30
Great work! :)
@LittleBirdie30
👏👏👏
@LittleBirdie30
Very positive attitude!
@LittleBirdie30 - great that you take it as a way to focus and improve!
@LittleBirdie30 Yay, that's a great approach! Thanks for sharing ~
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
I would be disappointed and take some time out for self-care. I would appreciate their time and ask for them for a feedback.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would thank them for their time and would ask for a feedback and an update on the next possible opportunity. And I would consider this as a chance for me to grow and learn more.
@Beaconx
Great response! It is great to look at this as a chance to grow and learn more!
@Beaconx
I really like your response! Asking for feedback is very important.
@Beaconx
I agree that disappointment is a really common emotion to feel after not being able to get a role, and I love that you would take some time for self-care! Feedback and an update is also a super great idea for us to learn more and grow :)
@Beaconx Self-care is really important and we shouldn't hesitate to take a break if needed! Keep your hopes up though, I'm sure you will do great!
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would feel a little sad and disappointed, and probably take some time to think about it, and to practice self-care. I would thank the leader for letting me know, and I would ask them what I could do to grow and ask for any other feedback they might have for me, and ask any questions I have. I might also follow up with them in the future to see if there is anything else I can work on.
@hopedreamlove
Asking question is always helpful!
@hopedreamlove
Getting feedback and taking a break to understand the rejection is very important! Good response :)
@hopedreamlove - self care is so important!
@hopedreamlove
that's great! hope!
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
I would respond with grace and understanding. Not every role will be right for me, and that's okay.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would thank them for their time and ask for feedback on my performance.
@freshMint9376
i love how you think about the situation, looking for the right role for yourself!
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
You should respond positively and with understanding, not everyone gets the role they want when they want it. I would ask the leader who informed me what I can do to increase my chances of getting the role the next time it is offered.
@CognitiveACE
Very positive outlook, ACE 
@CognitiveACE
Aww, I love that optimism! Thinking about the situation positively and understanding, and I agree 100% that not everyone gets the role they want when they want it :) Asking for feedback is also a great way to understand the situation more and improve our chances next time around!