Course 2, Discussion 4: The problem is the path
Hello LDP Team!
The problem is the path is the core insight that helps us evolve as individuals and as a community here on 7 Cups.
Here is an overview of this course:
Course Description: It is natural for us to want to avoid problems. Problems can cause worry, anxiety, and frustration. These are feelings that we often want to avoid. Problems, however, are the key to growth. When we face our problems directly we get smarter and grow stronger. A saying that captures this is: Progress = Pain + Reflection. This course helps you learn the value of problems by highlighting the difference between problems you might be concerned about and problems you can directly solve. Next, it walks you through the ancient practice of steering into problems directly in order to unlock their value and gifts. Finally, it helps you identify and measure progress so you can make continued gains in your personal and professional life.
✒️ Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
✒️ Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
Further Reading (Optional but recommended):
This idea of problem is the path is a reoccurring theme in self help books and especially stoicism. If you are interested in learning more about this thought process, we recommend the following books:
The obstacle is the way by Ryan Holiday
A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy, by William Braxton Irvine
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@FrenchToastClub
✒️ Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
3 things in my circle of concern: What they tell other people about me. How they speak to me. Mood of the team environment
3 things in my circle of influence: How much effort I put into my team. Whether I forgive others or not. My tone and words I use to others.
1 thing I can do to remind myself to focus on the circle of influence is remembering that the circle of influence will always get larger, thus the circle of concern will decrease. Remembering to ensure the team is valued, respected and you always listen will ensure things are more positive for everyone.
✒️ Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
From this video, I learnt that I need to be proactive and focus on the circle of influence. Working on things I can change to create positivie relationships. Proactive is working in your strengths, complementing each others strengths to build a stronger team!
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@LlamaLizz
hello!
@LlamaLizz
Very well thought out :)
awesome!!
@FrenchToastClub✒️ Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
Circle of Concern:
- Wars
- Weather
- What people say
Circle of Influence:
- How I treat others
- Boundaries
- Time management
When I feel stressed, I can try to figure out if what's stressing me is in the circle of concern or circle of influence and go from there.
✒️ Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive. What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
Reactive: Spending time and money on things that they can't do anything about.
Proactive: Focused on the inner circle of influence where their efforts can make a change.
@TheFantasticPengua
I like your ideas!
Circle of Concern:
- Global warming
- State of the economy
- Government promises, that they do not keep
Circle of Influence:
- The way in which, I treat my fellow man
- Teaching our members, what you believe to be personal
- Working on a timed schedule, to cover everything
I get stressed when, people ask me the same thing, over and over
@TheFantasticPengua
Boundaries are essential. I feel they are important to have control over to a modicum of control over the very few things in life we can influence than not.
@TheFantasticPengua
Encouraging and helpful... Thank you
@TheFantasticPenguaThree Circles of Concern
@Countrygirl095
As a disabled person as well I definitely appreciate how detailed and specific this post was. And how you discussed very serious and specific things.
@Ivy229 you’re welcome
@Ivy229
i completely agree with you. it can be difficult to talk about personal things sometimes. well done @countrygirl095 !
@TheFantasticPengua
you had some really good responses for the circle on influence!!
These are good ideas and thought provoking..well done
@FrenchToastClub
Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
Circle of Concern
Goverment
the way others react
other feelings
Circle of Influence
my health
my outlook
my time
I can rememberer to only focus on thing I can control
watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
did not judge
not talking about someone behind there back
@sunnySea4551 Nice answers
Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
What others think of me, How others will react to what I say, and how an outcome will turn out
How I react to a situation, how I treat others, and if I overreact
Taking a moment to stop everything usually helps.
✒️ Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
It shocked me the way he was able to compensate his bosses' weaknesses instead of criticising them. This is being proactive.
@CallumCares421 Nice way of thinking :)
@CallumCares421 yes! Great answers and insights. Thank you for sharing.
@FrenchToastClub
✒️ Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
circle of concern: Global factors like inflation and war, country's economy, and number of working population who are fit for my job
circle of influence: Time management, relationship with team members and money management
focus on your circle of influence: relationship with team members
✒️ Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
Reactive: Taking a decision without deeply thinking about it.
Proactive: Making a plan before action or taking preventive measures.
@NanditaB
All great and wonderful points ❤️
@NanditaB You are so bright! Great answers!
@NanditaB great
@FrenchToastClub
3 things in my circle of influence: spouse, children, friends.
3 things in my circle of concern: work, volunteer commitments, guilt and shame/misplaced feelings that I have.
1 thing that I can do to focus on circle of influence: Have integrity and model it for others. Be loyal and be yourself, no matter where you are or what's going on around you.
One way the executive did well was to be pro-active. Planning ahead is important.
Also, I liked how the executive played off his boss strengths, rather than weaknesses. That is a wonderful skill!
@FrenchToastClub
Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
Focus on being positive and being consistent with the things in my circle of influence can help me to stay within it
Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
Focusing on my circle of influence will get me farther in my leadership goals
3 things in my circle of concern
What folks say about me, how other folks talk to me, the atmosphere of the team environment
3 things in my circle of influence
My investment in the team, my ability to respond to people, how I interact with people
1 thing I can do to remind myself to focus on the circle of influence:
Remind myself that that's what I can control and has the greatest bang for my energy/ effort buck.
@kindJewel5362
Thats great : ) , i hope you can put them into practice
Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
The executive was nothing short of amazing! In stead of gossiping and talking behind the president's back, he took initiative and was proactive and productive. He started to shine ans he was a valuable asset. Even the president appreciated him as they complimented each other.
@YourCaringConfidant
Natural disaster.. i hope your staying safe
@YourCaringConfidant
You are so creative in the way you display your information, it made it very clear to see the 3 things needed in the first two components and the one thing you'd like to change more of. I loved your answer and how you presented it.
@YourCaringConfidant
You have so wonderfully shown the first answer using these circles. Also, the second question is so wonderfully put together. The executive did take that nice initiative and brought solutions for the overall development of the team. I agree with you. 💚
@sky2Ocean20 Awwww, I did this over a year ago, but feel honored you chose to respond to mine. I am wishing you all the success in the program! :)
@YourCaringConfidant
@FrenchToastClub
Watch the following video and identify 3 things in your circle of concern, 3 things in your circle of influence, and 1 thing you can do to remind yourself to focus on your circle of influence.
Ans:
My circle of concern-
financial status.
my physic
the way my mother speaks about me.
my circle of influence -
my diet
hardwork
my limits/ boundaries
my reminder-
Picturing in increasing my green circle's size
Next, watch the following video and highlight what stands out to you about this executive? What did they do that would be considered proactive as opposed to reactive?
focusing on inner circle will definitely show results. [Be loyal to the absent]
@BenittaJ Nice one 😊❤️
@ BenittaJ
Awesome answers really liked. How do you use personal examples to connect to it a little bit better.