Milestones or Steps Completed! Share and Celebrate Here :)
Congratulations! You made it to the next level on your growth path. Share with us the #1 thing you learned on this leg of your journey!
FH:4
@GlenM
At step 70 now.
What have I learned? More acceptance and gentleness with myself. Still have a ways to go before I feel like I've really accomplished a lot where my anxiety is concerned.
To utilize RAIN for ptsd.
recognize emotions and situation...
allow everyone to have their emotions...
investigate the best course of action
(what do i need? What do i want? What is my priority? Will thinking these thoughts or assumptions help me? What will happen if i just let go?)
non-identifying, non judgement. When i point one fonger four point in. I try not to go black and white, dualitic warring thoughts because sooner or later i will become mentally the black one. Instead i focus on grey. I focus on taking care of me. Meaning they dont need to be bad person for me to say no, or to not want to, and im not a bad person or friend of i say no.... non dualism means dissolution of the warring self. When i make people bad in my mind to justify my behavior and boundaries, inevitable the judgement will turn to me to be perfect as well. I am not perfect so then my mind will judge me. I can say this person, situation, experience is not for me and honor my boundaries, my space, my mind and i can walk away, make space, say firmly no.
I let go of the stories I tell myself about my life that no longer serve me. I choose to see possibilities in every moment. Amazing things are happening as we speak. The Universe conspires to support me.
I'm happy to be here. I managed to stay strong and keep going when everything seemed to be hopeless
Ditto. I'm happy to be here, I'm actually happy to be here.
Step 100 :)
Step 90!
Ive learned to pay attention to the little things, like the sound of the rain or how good a cup of tea tastes or a cut little flower blooming on the side of the road. Also, sweaters. Just pay attention to what makes you happy
180:
I've heard many things that I'm trying to internalize, like trying to forgive myself more for mistakes, viewing stress more positively, viewing emotions and thoughts as seperate things from myself, doing what I think is best for me, to try hard as much as possible because no effort is ever wasted, to be friendly because no kindness is ever wasted. So many things. I don't really know what to make of all thirst things. I mean I've kind of been doing well, I forgive myself, like when I don't do something right or I do poorly ona test or something, I do feel bad but I like...don't beat myself up about it. So that's been good. And for the other things it's a bit harder, because I'll think to myself "ok, stress is energy, stress is useful, stress is not bad and I shouldn't feel bad and be demotivated because of it." But I won't really believe it and I'll still feel stressed out and upset.
I don't know. One thing at a time. But I suppose I need to get the most important one down first, because I heard that the people most likely to achieve their long-term goals are the ones that have self compassion and forgive themselves. And I know I'm going "I heard I heard I heard" but I have to, I mean I think it's better to rely on words and advice from other people, because when I follow my instincts it's negative I end up in a negative place.
Yeah, I think ... I wouldn't say things are going well but their going better. Umm...yeah. Okay. It kind of sucks, negative
@powerfulPine1547 emotions but it's not bad. It's just upsetting.
It seems kind of weird now to be trying to change my beliefs and thought patterns, but I've started to correct myself so naturally that it's not really difficult. Then again maybe this could be me acting on my instinct and believing it's right just because it's more convenient. But I think I want to keep doing this because it's helping me
I'm still between Milestones (which probably means I need to break down my projects still further so I have something to report on !) ... Just wanted to check-in anyway and say that I'm still WORKING on reaching the next milestone algo es algo!
I've learned that very few people actually care about my feelings.
that's sad :-( @Madaraismyspiritanimal