Loneliness on 7Cups
Hello guys 
I have been on 7Cups for a little while and I have to say that, in some occasions, it has been helpful...in some others, it has been actually very frustrating.
I got here, as I believe many of you, searching for support, friendship, or, most likely, just someone to talk to. I live a very lonely life, in a desperately isolated place (an island with few hundreds inhabitants), and, unfortunately, I have several psychologic problems (or psychiatric?...who knows...) that developed after a not easy life. The last 3 years, especially, have just been a daily torture, a sequence of bad events that corroded me little by little. As I just wrote, I live on a little island, here we only have 2 little food stores, nothing else. Until few months ago, we didn't even have a general doctor, so, no chance to find any kind of help from professionals in the psychiatric/psychologic field. Once reached the bottom of my sorrow and despair, and having nobody that could help me, I found 7Cups.
I talked to some listeners, wrote here and there...and figured out so many times it feels like talking to myself...I wasn't able to build any stable "talking friendship", which is what I actually need. I feel like a throw stones to the void...just write sentences that maybe noone will ever read, and for sure, that noone will answer to.
I am pretty sure I am not the only one feeling like this here... I don't want this to sound like a complaint, 7Cups is anyway good, but I wish I could find someone who wants to just keep talking to me, and that wants to be listened.
Is my hope in vain? 
It's really difficult for me to open up to people. I found a great listener and we talked for a year, becoming very close friends. We helped each other a lot and talked about all kinds of different things. Now her account is gone and I've been having a meltdown ever since because I have nobody else to go to. I needed her. I feel lonely, abandened, hopeless and worried about her. She was a once in a lifetime friend and now without her I have nobody I can open up to and know there's no point in trying to find new listeners because they won't understand or accept me the same way. I miss her so much.
@tluper6491 I go through the same thing. I have a hard time opening up to anyone. Talking to new people causes me to have panic attacks. This being said maybe we can help each other. I'm here if you would like to talk sometime. I'm sorry that your friend is gone.
@tluper6491 I feel the same way...that nobody understands or accepts me. I have pushed away people who have mistreated me or that I believe have mistreated me...some of them have retailated, others have just become silent. I feel like I am a good person that is often misunderstood because I do not speak out against mistreatment until late, and then they are surprised when I confront them about it.
I am lonely since I don't have any friends because I cannot have people in my life who mistreat me.
I would probably accept you without needing to understand you. What people don't understand is that they don't always need to understand someone to show sympathy because you should accept your friends for who they are.
@tluper6491
I've been really struggling with this too. I keep trying to engage with new listeners, but it's so hard for me, and I'm scared I'll become too dependant on another person only to have them disappear.
I have felt lonely almost everyday since I moved to Utah. I came here to be closer to my last living parent and to try and start over in a new place. I lived in Southern California from 1973 until 2015 and had financial crisis and it was too expensive to live there. I lost my father who was my last living parent March 11th. My life here in Utah in many ways is hell. I struggle with depression and and seeing a therapist to try and get my emotional health under control since his death. It is hard to know when I will get triggered and become tearful and loose my composure so I have had to take a short leave to work through my emotional roller coaster I am on. I am 56 and I hate how cold Utah gets and how cold my company I work for is when it comes to physical and emotional pain. I need to get out of Utah I cant go through another winter here. I wish that I had some real friends that I could spend time with and have a real friendship.I have never been so lonely and alone in my life. I try to keep some type of gratitude knowing things could be worse as I have hit rock bottom before and right now feels really close to it again. I hate my life right now....
I am in Montana half the year and grew up in the cold. It can be isolated in these winter climates. The best is to get outside and acclimate. I like my walks in the cold more so than in the heat. I also love California in the winter ... so I must admit my thoughts are a bit wishy-washy. @bgdave
Your story is close to mine in a lot of ways. I lived in so cal and ran out of $ and had to move to be closer to my aging mother. Im in a state that I hate (feel bad putting it down, But its a fly-over state for a reason. just driving around depresses me. I have no way to move (I started a new career AT THE BOTTOM) and cant afford to live in a better place AND I need to stay because my mother might need me. Of course, I didnt know anybody when I moved here (except my mother), am Ive made some aquantences, they are not friends at all. I dont really love the time I spend with them but it at least gets me out of the house once every other week or so. I am so lonely too! My new work is no joy at all either.... not sure how to deal, I also feel very sad and stressed at work. I cant take time off. Im glad youre able to take some time away from work to feel better. @bgdave
Loneliness is difficult as we are social creatures by nature and do not function properly with too little contact. Friends are hard to find but not impossible to find.
To begin your search, start with similar interests. Hang out in your favorite places and find online forums and sites that match your interests. Next, engage. Get involved in some way. Start talking and let nature take over.
The greatest bonding occurs over challenge. Friends that endure together, stay together. The longest lasting couples and friends are those that suffer through trials together. You're on an app for mental health, so we are all on board.
Ultimately, just talk. Talk to people everywhere. Companionship is right here waiting for you friend.
@CosmicMike I thank you for your post.
I have never felt so alone... My husband of almost 9 years filed for a divorce 6 weeks ago. We're in court 1 day after our 9 year anniversary. I had no clue that he was going to file for a divorce. I have spent these last 6 weeks depressed, unable to eat, unable to focus on my work, and crying all the time. I have no family for support. My mother stopped talking to me. She said I have ruined my kids lives. I'm fighting with trying to figure out how I ruined my kids lives.
@khan0531 I am so sorry. That
What sucks that I feel lonely with half of my family. I just found out that half of my family have stopped telling me anything. I am started to learn that Family is not blood and DNA
I just joined this site so I don
Another lonely day off. 😩
Hi, 3 years ago & moved from Colorado because of job loss. I'm in a new job, and bought a Park model home. I've made 2 close friends here, but they're both the opposite gender and I want some friends of my gender, who I have things in common with. It seems like it's taking longer than usual to make new friends. I work long hours and am usually beat by the time I get home. I need to hook up with activity groups, hiking groups, maybe a gaming group. I'm still in a lot of grieving Rev job/career loss, but just starting to see light at the end of the tunnel.
i think no one actually cares. as soon as i get a friend something happens and my anxiety and insecurity work together to make me either ruin it or believe that i dont deserve friendships. its getting real tiring dealing with myself all the time i just want a break from myself sometimes. guess u rlly cant escape urself after all lol how ironically irritating
@b1ue
Hi,
I dont really feel that comfortable doing these kinds of things, but I'm gonna try it for once.
So the past few years have been really difficult for me. I have been having trouble with school, I find it hard to find concentration and motivation to study. But that's not the thing I've been having most trouble with.
I've been feeling really alone and depressed for the past few years and it has only gotten worse. I just don't feel like anyone would care about me. And generally I have trouble making friends and communicating in general. And Everytime I try to start a conversation with anyone they either just ignore me or try to end it as quickly as possible. I have a few friends, but they also do the same thing. And its actually really hurting me. And I just can't find anyone to talk to and open up. I'm just really insecure with relationships now, because Everytime I get into one the person just breaks it off. I just want someone I can open up to so yeah :)
Anyway, thanks for reading
@Hyperspin
@Hyperspin I've been there with depression on and off for decades. I hope that you are getting the care and treatment you need. For me treatment helps so much. It's so much easier to talk to people and not worry about their reaction when I'm feeling better. I want the same for you. Hang in there. Start with some good self care.