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2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support

SoulfullyAButterfly January 24th, 2021

As previously introduced, the Questions and Answers Pages at 7 Cups offer a wide range of quality based answers to common mental health questions

Questions and Answers are available for 38 main categories, ranging from General Mental Health, Disabilities, Managing Emotions, Loneliness, Grief, Recovery, Student Life, Work Stress, and many more!

Through this directory of available knowledge, awareness, and support, 7 Cups is equipped with answers to the common questions and concerns people have. Most of these Questions and Answers are featured in search engine results due to the value of the content they contain.

The main community Questions and Answers Page offers a recent questions section as well as a section containing the most answered questions.

All 7 Cups users are invited to search for or ask new questions through the main page. Community users can also participate in this area by submitting their answers, which are reviewed by a team for quality and other important requirements.

Through this discussion, we will discuss the basic requirements needed to research as well as write quality answers for the Question and Answer Pages. Additionally, we will optimize the drafted answers in light of certain guidelines.

(i) Basic Research and Writing Requirements: When writing answers to community questions, keep in mind these tips:

  • You need to write a minimum of 150 characters and 100 words.

  • If research is needed to guide your answer, consider only learning about the topic and avoid direct copy/pasting researched tips, advice, or information.

  • Consider verifying the information or facts through at least 2 reliable sources.

  • When researching possible answers or things the person can benefit from, consider their circumstances and if the tip is do-able and generally applicable.

  • Avoid plagiarism.

  • Use professional and appropriate language.

  • If comfortable, you can add a personal anecdote to help add meaning to your answer. However, avoid turning the answer to just your account or an entire focus on your experience.

  • Be empathetic, and consider using active listening skills to help not only answer their question but their feelings - this adds connection and meaning to your answer, as well as identifies understanding, which can lead to trust.

  • Answers should be related to the question and must contain tips or approaches to help deal with the question/situation instead of vague responses, even if positive.

  • 7 Cups is based on avoiding direct advice, this is because we do not know the complete scenario or situation a person may be facing. Keeping that in mind, avoid giving answers that provide one possible “solution” - a good tip is to consider encompassing all possible outcomes or more than one thing the person can try.

(ii) Ensuring Optimized Answers: Although the above requirements and tips help deliver a great answer, further optimization of drafted answers can help ensure their quality.

At 7 Cups, the Content Team uses researched and identified important keywords to guide their research and the writing process to result in optimized content as answers to community questions. In this regard, the basic tips/requirements involved are:

  • Ensure answers have at least 8 to 10 sentences.

  • Ensure the usage/incorporation of the maximum number or all of the provided keywords that can relate to the topic.

What are Keywords?

Generally, keywords can be thought of as terms or phrases that describe a piece of content. Related keywords are supporting keywords that can help further describe or expand on that initial content. For example, for the keyword “anxiety”, related keywords can be “anxiety symptoms” or “anxiety treatments”.

Keywords help with search engine marketing and hence are an important part of SEO strategies. A simple strategy to find keywords is to look for Google Related Searches. These related searches are searches that relate to your term. For instance, a Google Related Search for “anxiety symptoms” is “what is anxiety” - using this insight, you can consider including this phrase alongside a brief category of your content outline to help strengthen the optimization of your content.

For other free tools to help with keyword research, you can visit this external link.

Activity

Review this Sample Optimized Answer:

Question: How do paper bags help with panic attacks?

Provided Keywords: asthma attack, heart attacks, asthma, problems, brown paper bag, medical conditions, hyperventilation syndrome, mouth, respiratory alkalosis, common causes, chest pain, benefit, stress, medications

Approved, Optimized Answer:

While panic attacks might mimic the symptoms of heart attacks, they can be caused by several other problems and medical conditions. These include feeling stressed or facing medical conditions such as asthma attacks, hyperventilation syndrome, or even respiratory alkalosis. Although the common causes may differ, common symptoms include chest pain. Deep breathing through the mouth or by using a brown paper bag has its benefits, as it aids in the restoration of the loss of carbon dioxide in the blood during the panic attack.

Notes: The question was general, requiring general research-based knowledge on the process of using paper bags for panic attacks. As the keywords were essentially covered, note that this answer does not have 8-10 sentences, but further supporting information or even a personal anecdote can be added.

The following activity will help you put your attained knowledge to practice. Please write an optimized answer to the following community question, in light of the provided keywords. In addition, you are required to reply to at least one other student’s answer by identifying at least 3 strengths (things done correctly as per discussed guidelines) as well as at least 1 tip for improving the answer.

Note: You are welcome to click the question link and submit your written answer for community publication once done as this is an existing question!

Please do not forget to personally save your activity answers as well as your reply to another user’s answer (recommended on Google Doc or other means) as you will be asked to share this for your Weekly Progress Report.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Bonus: Want to put your knowledge to test? Consider joining the Question and Answer (Q&A) Approval Team here and earn cheers for helping approve community answer submissions. You will be using the above knowledge as well as reminders on what makes a good answer. For more information, click here

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KristenHR July 28th, 2023

@SoulfullyAButterfly


Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Feelings of inadequacy can be difficult to deal with, especially when there are concerns that someone else is better than you and you aren’t good enough for them. This could be the expectations of your parents, your partner, or other family members. In fact, not feeling good enough can be related to how our self-esteem is or how much we love ourselves. If it seems like the struggle is self-esteem, self-love or even issues related to telling yourself negative things, it could be beneficial to find a mental health professional to speak to.

Social media can make comparisons to others easy, and yet only shows us what the other person wants us to see about them, not the real them. It can be discouraging when social media shows perfection, and we see our lives as we are – with flaws and challenges. What we miss with this comparison, is what an amazing person that we are, what great things we have to offer others, and the truth is, if someone else thinks we aren’t good enough for them, then they’ve missed an opportunity to meet someone who is unique and special with many talents, strengths and things to offer.

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SnowTabby July 29th, 2023

@KristenHR
I noticed you managed to incorporated many of the keywords into your response without making it sound like a choppy response. The way you approach social media shows an attempt to connect and understand what people are currently going through. It's a great approach with how you use your last sentence to compliment the reader and their worth. That alone seems like a positive step forward with how the read reacts to social media.
Your response is extremely concise about how environments can affect us but only briefly touches on the question, suggesting mental health professionals.

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KristenHR July 29th, 2023

@SnowTabby

Thank you for the feedback. I appreciate the constructive feedback as I didn't even catch that!

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walkalot July 31st, 2023

@KristenHR

Great job, kristen. I think this is great.

Walkalot, CDM mentor

Feel free to reach out if you have questions about this program.

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SnowTabby July 29th, 2023

@SoulfullyAButterfly
What to do when you feel you are not enough for someone?
Who we are is built from the ground up our whole life. There are extremes within society that can affect how our inner critic expresses itself. The voices closest to us - family members, parents, partners, our children - have the biggest impact on our self-confidence. Our levels of self esteem, self worth, and self doubt can all be effected by the weight we give to those voices. It doesn't help that anytime we open social media, those voices can creep in from the outside word, too.
The first step is always recognizing the real reason this person does not make you feel like you are enough. Discovering that information can often need therapy to guide it to the surface. It is always okay to ask for help.
After you know what is causing your negative self-talk, the best way to approach change is through communicating that information. There will never be a "good time" to bring something up when you are not sure of the reaction. Just be open and accepting of however the conversation goes. Priority is you.
While you might feel like the right thing is to give them every chance available, at the end of the day you are both human beings who deserve self-love.
You are currently enough for the world, capable of so much progress and personal development that even attempting to communicate can push you towards being that better person.
Who knows, maybe even being able to come forward and ask for what you need can boost your confidence to feel like enough for someone.

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walkalot July 31st, 2023

@SnowTabby

Great job, Tabby. I really like this one

Walkalot, CDM mentor

SilverSeastar August 3rd, 2023

@SnowTabby
Hello, Snow! Thank you for such a well-thought-out answer!

🔹 Three strengths:

  1. concise and effective
  2. insightful tips
  3. good use of the keywords while maintaining a natural flow

🔹 One tip: utilising a spell-checker to minimise typos

enigmaticpanda4152 December 28th, 2023

@SnowTabby

Three things I liked:

1. Utilization of keywords.

2. Concise post.

3. Message is clear. 

Improvise:

Could use more paragraphs to define this good content.

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sellistens August 2nd, 2023

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?


Whether it’s parents, a partner, family members, or friends, it is hard when anyone feels like they aren’t good enough for someone. I empathize with you on this. I like to do research on something called “Shadow Work” because it has helped me explain a lot about my behavior along with other people’s. One thing I learned from this is that when people react negatively towards someone else, it is usually a projection of themselves. A lot of times, people project their insecurities onto others and some people don’t realize that they are doing it.


You might be wondering what the possibilities are. I believe that something called radical acceptance is a good way to start. Radical acceptance is when something happened that was not in your control and you accept it anyway. There is not much you can change about their projection, it’s more of something they have to work on within themselves. It is also important to still be kind to that person if you would like a healthy relationship with them. I think that practicing self care and self love would also be beneficial since it is difficult to cope with not feeling good enough sometimes. I believe that this can potentially help with your self confidence and feelings of self worth as well.


At the end of the day, nobody’s opinion of you matters but your own, so just unapologetically be you and accept the situation as it is. I’m sure you're an amazing person the way you are now.


Good luck with everything,

Sel


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kindheartedLily August 14th, 2023

@sellistens

I love how you mentioned radical acceptance and further explained the concept. Well done!

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walkalot August 24th, 2023

@kindheartedLily

Hi Lily, Really nice answer, and unique as well. I think you have some great insights to share. Keep it up

Walkalot, CDM mentor

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SilverSeastar August 3rd, 2023

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Whether it is to our friends, partner, parents, children, or other family members, we sometimes may feel like we are not good enough. Many people can relate to this. The curated content in social media may also affect our self-esteem negatively. We are all human beings. Even the most amazing person can struggle with self-confidence and feeling inadequate if their inner voice says so.

The good news is our negative feelings do not always reflect reality. We may feel inadequate, but perhaps the real reason is the loud inner critic inside us, not because we are inadequate.

We do not have to feel this way our whole life. We can certainly work towards building a healthy relationship with ourselves so that we feel enough. The best way to do this is through cultivating self-love. Great things can happen when we love who we are. What matters the most is you love yourself and enjoy being who you are. Others' perceptions of us should not come before our love for ourselves.

The first step is to recognise that our self-worth is not tied to anything. We are enough just as we are. We are much more than our thoughts and feelings. We are much better than what our self-doubt and negative self-talk say, so we should be confident in our own skin. Self-confidence means "knowing who I am, liking who I am, and wanting to lift others with me."

It is helpful to remember there is no upper limit to being a good person; what matters is we keep striving to grow. Reflection is a tool to become a better and better version of ourselves. It is also important to remember that we want to be a better person for ourselves, first and foremost. We want to feel enough for ourselves, not to fulfil someone else’s expectations. If we want to be good enough for person A while person B wants something different, this can cause an identity crisis. If we have no stable sense of identity, will we be happy?

Moreover, maintaining healthy communication with ourselves is essential. We should be careful with how we talk to ourselves; we do not want to give more power to the cognitive distortions that say we are not good enough. This is why positive self-affirmations can be a powerful tool for healthy self-esteem.

Therapy is another option if we need professional help. Therapists can give us more useful information according to our specific situations. At the end of the day, though, therapy is not always available or accessible for everyone.

I hope this helps you figure out the next right thing to do to feel good enough. Good luck, and I hope you have a good time through the process of accepting and loving yourself, whoever you are.

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walkalot August 24th, 2023

@SilverSeastar

Hi Seastar. Nice answer. I think it's a bit long, but I think it will be perfect for someone who really wants to go deep. Keep it up. Some people are looking for your detailed answers.

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quietlistener2023 August 4th, 2023

@SoulfullyAButterflyQuestion: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?


Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day
When you feel that you are not good enough for someone, such as a partner, it may be a sign that your self esteem needs a boost. Negative relationships with parents when we were younger and false images put if social media of how people should be may lead us to negative self talk and make us worry if we are not good enough. The good news is that we can take a first step to change our whole life and become a better person and even an amazing person through our self love and developing our self confidence. Sometimes therapy is needed to deal with self doubts and answer our inner critic. However, once we have better information through reading and therapy we can gain a more positive voice and learn how best to do the right thing. Therapy can help us attain healthy relationships through better communication and is the best way to understand oneself. Human beings suffer setbacks and problems that can often go all the way back to childhood. Success and good relationship are not just good luck but the real reason some people achieve great things at the end of the day is more related to our self perception and how we can understand how to achieve things in life. If we find we are not having a good time in life in generally it might be an idea to reflect on ourselves and find out why that may be.

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NaturalEmpath August 14th, 2023

@quietlistener2023

Your response is well thought out and carefully worded. The only thing I noticed was a couple of small typos which I have highlighted in red. Keep up the great work!


Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

When you feel that you are not good enough for someone, such as a partner, it may be a sign that your self esteem needs a boost. Negative relationships with parents when we were younger and false images put if social media of how people should be may lead us to negative self talk and make us worry if we are not good enough. The good news is that we can take a first step to change our whole life and become a better person and even an amazing person through our self love and developing our self confidence. Sometimes therapy is needed to deal with self doubts and answer our inner critic. However, once we have better information through reading and therapy we can gain a more positive voice and learn how best to do the right thing. Therapy can help us attain healthy relationships through better communication and is the best way to understand oneself. Human beings suffer setbacks and problems that can often go all the way back to childhood. Success and good relationship are not just good luck but the real reason some people achieve great things at the end of the day is more related to our self perception and how we can understand how to achieve things in life. If we find we are not having a good time in life in generally it might be an idea to reflect on ourselves and find out why that may be.

walkalot August 24th, 2023

@quietlistener2023

Well done, Listener. Keep up the good work

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NaturalEmpath August 14th, 2023

@SoulfullyAButterfly

If you notice yourself feeling like you are not good enough for someone it could be due to many factors such as low self-esteem, being treated poorly in an abusive relationship, past trauma, anxiety or depression.

Children can be especially affected by childhood traumas and in some cases therapy may be helpful.

The good news is that human beings have the power to utilize information and communication to restructure these emotions weather it is done alone or with therapy.

The first step to improving self-confidence is to examine your inner critic (also known as the inner-voice) and identify any negative self-talk or self-doubt so that you can begin to replace negative thoughts with positive words by practicing self-love.

It is important not to compare ourselves to others since this can lead to feelings of low self-worth and insecurities.

Social media can intensify these feelings if we are not mindful with how and when we use it.

Examine relationships with parents, partner, and family members to ensure your boundaries are both clear and being met.

A healthy relationship will respect boundaries and empower you to be a better person.

At the end of the day, you are an amazing person capable of accomplishing great things with a whole life ahead, good luck.

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walkalot August 24th, 2023

@NaturalEmpath

Hi Empath, I like this answer. Personally I would consolidate some of the paragraphs as it seems choppy now

Walkalot, CDM mentor

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NaturalEmpath August 24th, 2023

I can see how it could be interpreted as choppy. I could have touched it up a bit more after getting all of the key words input.

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kindheartedLily August 14th, 2023

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Many people experience negative self-talk and that inner critic voice can have a significant impact on one's self-esteem. Though a common aspect of human experience, the good news is that you don’t have to feel this way your whole life.


There are several strategies you can use to reduce negative self-talk and self-doubt, with the first step being to notice these thoughts and reframe them with positive affirmations. Communicating with ourselves by counteracting these negative thoughts with positive affirmations can be a great way to boost your self-worth and self-confidence. If these thoughts persist, seeking the guidance of a therapist can be another great way to work on your inner dialogue and increase your self-love.


Moreover, when we work on ourselves and our self-talk, we can improve our relationships with the people who are important to us. For instance, your relationship with your partner, your children, and other family members will improve because when you foster healthy communication with yourself, your self-esteem will improve, you will respect yourself more, and are more likely to seek out healthy relationships with others. Remember, you are an amazing person, and at the end of the day, the best way to overcome the feeling of not being good enough for someone is to engage in self-reflection and treat yourself with compassion and kindness. Remember, you are an amazing person, and you have your whole life ahead of you.

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Clarezg August 22nd, 2023

@kindheartedLily I loved your answer I think you showed really nice empathy in the first paragraph. I loved the encouragement you gave at the end and you put in a lot of good keywords! I really liked the encouragement you added so my suggestion would be to add more of it in your answers I feel like that's a really nice touch!


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kindheartedLily August 22nd, 2023

@Clarezg

Thank you so much!

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heathermarie95 August 15th, 2023

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

That is a good question and I feel like I ask myself this almost every day. When we grow up, sometimes our parents treat us like we are not good enough for them or like we are failing at what they want us to be. Another situation could be that you may have been in an unhealthy relationship that lowered your self-esteem and question our self-worth. This said partner may have left you questioning why you are not enough. I believe the first step is by starting off by saying that everything happens for a reason because, whether it's good or bad, there's a reason behind it. Reminding ourselves that just because these people treated us harshly doesn't mean we are not good enough. I personally believe they don't see your worth. A healthy relationship or friends will never make you feel like you are not good enough. You are good enough for the people who are meant to be in your life. Stay strong, you will get through this.
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MaggieListens00 August 21st, 2023
@heathermarie95 Great paragraph! I think you were really empathetic from the start and showed great validation too. Also good job on getting loads of those keywords in there. If I had one tip it would be to be careful of tenses in your writing, as sometimes these changed mid-sentence <3 Great job wishing you well
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heathermarie95 August 21st, 2023

thank you 😊

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MaggieListens00 August 21st, 2023

I think the feeling of not being good enough is something many people deal with, I know I have. Human beings are social creatures and strive towards intimate connections with those we care about. This can lead to us holding their opinions of us in high regard, meaning that they can change our perceptions of ourselves and stop us believing we are the amazing people we know we are. Ideally, we would separate ourselves from individuals that cause self-doubt and foster healthy relationships where communication is used to uplift each other however this isn’t possible in all cases. In these instances, we must look inwards to our own views of ourselves.

The formation of our self-esteem is a continuous and dynamic process, a life-long commitment with the end goal being self-love. From the time we are children, this perception of ourselves forms from the words of others around us be it our family members, friends, or even social media. Sometimes these words can make us feel inadequate and we carry these words with us as we age, oftentimes these will form the structure of our own negative self-talk. We mimic the same critiques that we have heard from those around us, and this paves the way for our inner critic.

Though we may not be able to control the words of others, it is within our power to mediate the amount of weight we give them. The voice within our own head is exceptionally powerful and is a fundamental building block in self-confidence. Even something as simple as a positive affirmation has been shown to positively alter individuals’ thoughts on themselves. Though this may not work for everyone, other techniques such as mindfulness, gratitude practices, meditation and therapy have also shown effectiveness – at the end of the day, it is about finding something that works for you.

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walkalot August 24th, 2023

@charmingEagle47

Hi Charming Eagle, very detailed and thoughtful answer. I like how you get to the heart of the matter. Keep up the good work.

Walkalot, CDM mentor

brightDayFairy February 19th

@MaggieListens00


Strengths:
- Your text is written in an empathetic and relatable manner.
- Love the explanation of why we often care so much about what others think of us.
- And the advice to focus on improving how we talk to ourselves is really beneficial.
Tip for Improvement:
- The message could be easier to follow if it was a bit shorter.
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Clarezg August 22nd, 2023

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: what to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone

Struggling with self-doubt, self esteem, and self confidence happens to many of us. I understand that it can feel terrible, I struggle with self-doubt sometimes too. I also understand that it can also be really hard to bring yourself of this negative spiral sometimes. Some things that you could possibly try are communicating with people that support and have your back. This could be family, friends, or your partner. Having their encouragement could help boost your self confidence and self esteem.

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Clarezg August 22nd, 2023

@Clarezg out of this*


walkalot August 24th, 2023

@Clarezg

Hi Clare. I like this but I think it's a bit short. Try to add a bit of detail to your answer. If you can add a link and a citation even better.

Walkalot

BenittaJ October 2nd, 2023

@Clarezg

The three strengths i found in your answer:

1. Short- a quick read.

2. Discussing the issue with frnds / family is common but u included partner too. I like it.

3. Made the reader comfortable by specifying "i understand".


Improvement tip:

Alittle about how u dealt it (if) can help.

babyangel November 16th, 2023

@Clarezg

3 positives:

1) The length is great, perfect middle between short and long.

2) I love how you relate on a personal level. It surely helps the person to feel more at ease!

3) I love how you gently suggest things instead of pressuring the person to act – ex, ‘some things that you could possibly try’ is a better way of saying ‘you should’.

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1 thing to improve:

I feel like the text would be more accessible if it had a few paragraphs instead of a big block. Personally, I don’t like reading big ‘chunks’ of text.

creativeTime4251 January 10th

@Clarezg Hi Clare! Your reply carries a lot of empathy, it is easy to comprehend and you include suggestions instead of telling the reader what should be done. However, I think you could have added how you personally dealt with this issue :) Great answer overall, wishing you the best!


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