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I wake up thinking about my ex because every waking morning reminds me that one day we would see each other and hoping that our lives would collide even just for a brief moment. I just want to see that he's now okay and he lives his life now to the fullest.
Anonymous
May 21st, 2017 12:49pm
Your ex was a part of your life for some time and you can't change that. You are probably used to talking and hearing from he/she often and now you cut off you comunication with him/her so it is hard for you. You will probably get used to it. Try thinking abput positive things that used to make you happy even before you were in relationship.
Anonymous
May 28th, 2017 10:10am
It is completely natural to think about your ex from time to time. We all have our own processes on how to deal with relationships and it might take you longer to completely release the person from your mind and life. Especially if they were a big part of your life either in a positive or a negative way.
This happens because our brains are wired to continue habits. When you were together, you likely woke up wanting to think about them and your brain got used to doing that. Your neurons don't know that you've broken up, so they keep on firing the "think about your ex" processes. This will fade as your brain realizes that you don't want to do this anymore, but it can take some time, just like breaking any other kind of habit. Helpful tip: Set a reminder along with your alarm so that your phone will tell you something else to think about that you can get caught up in.
We often think if life could have been better with our ex or whether we have made a mistake. What we must realise is that they are an ex for a reason.
You must be not fully recovered from the breakup just yet. Perhaps you never got closure from the situation?
Because your ex was a big part of your life. I'm sure you spent so much time with him/her. Let yourself heal.
Your mind and heart is still not at peace with your past and present relationship. Be gentle with yourself, and give yourself the time you need to internally resolve the issue.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2017 1:55pm
It could be something left over from the relationship. If you shared a bed with them, they were most likely the first thing you thought about, the first person you had to deal with, etc. Or you could have been having a dream that they were in.
Because regardless of how it ended good or bad at one point in your life they played a significant role in it. It might be your subconscious seeking out what you desire at the moment which is closeness to another individual and because your ex was the most prominent figure, your mind automatically associates it to him or her. But it's perfectly normal.
If you love(d) somebody, it's totally normal for them to hang around in your head and heart for a while, even after you stop being in a relationship. It's okay and perfectly normal to keep thinking about somebody after your relationship with them ends, but it's not okay if it starts taking over your life.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 12:37am
perhaps because you are not over him, if its either you or him cheated, you may thing what you could have done to make things different.
Depending on how long ago you broke up, you may be thinking about them because you still have feelings for them, or a situation that involved both of you is stuck in your head
It is normal and not shameful at all. There is nothing bad, thinking about someone you shared good, intimate moments with. Even though you are now over it, it still remains a strong memory.
Because maybe you are still not over her/him and she's/he's the first thing that pops into your head in the morning when you wake up.
It's sometimes said that the thing that you wake up thinking about, and falling asleep thinking about, are either the things that cause you the most happiness, or the most pain.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2018 5:10pm
perhaps because you haven’t allowed yourself ample time to heal. you really should give time to think about yourself.
the reason could be because you miss that person or the experience that you had together. or maybe you are worried about them?
Break up is a huge loss. And there is grief associated. Allowing yourself to grieve is important and waking up thinking about the ex is a part of the grieving process.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 12:29pm
You miss your ex, you have spent so much time with him that he is on your brain.Soon, this will slowly decrease as you get over your ex.As they say, time heals all wounds.
Anonymous
February 18th, 2018 10:48pm
If it is a recent breakup, you will remember him or her very often. It is normal. Small things will remind you of your ex.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2018 1:55pm
Maybe it's because you're not complete over your ex. Give yourself time to heal and move on, don't set a time limit on yourself. Or perhaps, you hold a grudge against your ex for what he/she did. If that's the case. Forgive them.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2018 11:06pm
A strong bond has been created and it's not easy to remove so a part of you is tied to the memories of what you shared together.
Anonymous
March 1st, 2018 11:40pm
You still have feelings for her and deep inside you want her back. You maybe put a lot of effort into her
Sometimes it is hard for us humans to let go.Actually,letting go is something we learn through years.
There are many reasons why it could be possible, maybe you have some unfinished business together or you miss them! Maybe you are still healing!
Anonymous
March 9th, 2018 11:01am
because the relationship with her stick to your head strings. you and her have had a lot of memoriese together. she helped you, heard your confession, share laughs, sympathized and empathized with you, she used to accept who you are. and you two may had sexual behaviors towards others, and this left you with a lot of emotions and beautiful memories. and you remember her because you still want her, more specifically, you want the feeling she gave you. it's hard to just try to forget. find some hobbies and focus on it, give all your thought for one subject. you'll slowly forget her and feel better.
Anonymous
March 25th, 2018 7:35am
Its common to still have feelings for your ex. Maybe you think about them because you still care about them
I think you give more in this relationship and get nothing so i think it is better to think about how will your live going instead
Perhaps you're not fully over him or her. Maybe you're feeling guilt or something similar that makes you want them back. But it is important that you move on. So try to find ways of coming to terms with the break up.
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