Why do I wake up thinking about my ex?

We often think about the people that we miss. It is difficult going from seeing someone you love every day to them suddenly disappearing from your life. It's something that is hard to deal with and takes time to adapt to. There could also be events that occurred in the relationship that would trigger someone to think about their ex. If there was abuse or trauma in the relationship, it would impact the way someone would feel after they depart from the relationship. Breaking up with significant other's is very hard and takes a long time of healing to recover from. Even if it's years ago, it is something that will go away through time.

You were in a relationship with this person who you may have spent a lot of time talking to. It's completely normal and valid to still be in that mindset. Some things to keep in mind are how long ago the breakup happened, how you've been coping since the breakup happened, who your support team is, and what negative thought patterns you may have gotten stuck in mentally after the breakup. Coping with breakups is so difficult and different people have different ways of dealing with them. Take your time working through it. 7cups has a great breakup self-help guide if you'd like to view that as well!

Because you have subconscious pain and sleeping unlocks the subconscious. When we experience intense emotions some of that emotion gets trapped in the subconscious, the part of the mind that aren't aware of at the moment. Our minds can only handle so much suffering until we decide that we are willing to do pretty much anything to make it stop. To lessen the suffering, perhaps so we can continue functioning, our mind is able to delay experiencing some of the pain (suppression and repression are the psychological terms). But eventually we have to pay up. Our mind's can't get rid of the pain until we experience the pain consciously. This often happens through dreams but can happen any time as thoughts and emotions that seem to arise out of nowhere or are triggered by something that reminds us of the pain. I'm guessing that the breakup was extremely painful for you. Perhaps you felt betrayed or abandoned. And its possible that the breakup triggered subconscious pain from other painful experiences. There are a few things that you can do to help expedite the process of releasing the pain, but over time your mind will do this automatically. 1. Talk to people about the relationship with your ex and your feelings about it. Subconscious pain has a way of hiding unless you deliberately seek it out, which is perhaps the main objective of therapy. If a therapist is too expensive then you could chat with someone here on 7cups or someone you know. 2. When the painful emotions arise, try to "surrender" your attention to them. Pay attention to them. You don't need to figure anything out, just experience the painful thoughts and emotions as they are - just watch. The mind's normal habit is to avoid pain through distraction or avoidance, but emotions cant be avoided forever, only delayed. So paying attention to them as they arise can expedite the releasing of the pain. It speeds up the process that emotions must go through to be released from the subconscious. These two things can expedite the process, but either way it WILL get better over time! Every time you experience those painful emotions you will release a little more from the unconscious. Hang in there!

From personal experience I know that I wake up thinking about my ex a lot and I just remind myself everyday that its okay to have thoughts about a person that I once or still do deeply care about and had a connection with at one point. Most of the time those emotions don't go away right away and I just remind myself to give myself grace and time when coping with thoughts of an ex. I think all we can do is give ourselves grace and time to heal even if it takes a few months to do so.

having a partner in life involves strong connections that don't fade easily. Even though they are your ex you may still have slight feelings for them and they wont go away instantly. Try socialising with others and doing things you love to take your mind off of them. My best advice is to try your best to move on. I know it may be hard, especially if you were involved in a physical relationship, but they are your ex for a reason. Try to remember why things didn't work out to remind yourself of why this is the right path to go down. If you start to regret events in the past they tend to stay with you for a long time, which may be the reason why you think about them as your wake up.

It is because you haven't completely let go of them. But, don't get me wrong, it is a completely normal process in any breakups, no matter how long it has been. Give yourself time, but also remind yourself that you made the best choice. Breakups are difficult. I'm still struggling as well. But I know that I have to come to the term that everything is over. That I made the best choice. That I know it would be better this way. Letting go at first might seem like an impossible job to do, but believe me you'll get there.

The things I think about when you first wake up are often a reflection of some of your deeper feelings- like I'll sometimes wake up thinking about something that's stressing me out. Maybe you don't have the closure you need with them? So you're still trying to work through how you feel about them and what your relationship is now. Maybe try thinking of ways you could get closure? Sometimes that just comes from time spent thinking and talking it through. You might need to have a conversation with them about why things ended or how you were hurt by their actions (this doesn't mean you should get back together!!) if it's something that's really bothering and affecting you I would think about seeing a trained professional.

It sounds like there is some unfinished business there. We need to process information before moving on. Just reading the question online, it’s hard to say, but there are some possibilities: Did you trust this person too much, and they deceived you? If so, your brain is trying to figure out a way to protect you from being hurt again. You might be asking, “Why me?” Since relationships are built on trust, it’s incredibly confusing how so many people will lie to get into a relationship. It’s also possible that you did something you’re not proud of in the relationship. Your brain is trying to figure out if you’ll make the same mistake again. You don’t need to tell a group of strangers on the internet. Think about it on your own. You know if this is the one because it keeps coming back over and over again. It’s possible you still love your ex. Only you can answer that.

It takes time to get over people that hurt you while you cared deeply about them. It is natural to think about them for a while after they are gone from your life. What I find helpful is writing out what made me feel the need to break up with them. If they broke up with me, it hurts but I realize that if they are not able to see the good in me there is no point in putting myself through that just to say I'm in a realtionship. It will happen, and that's okay, you've just got to start taking control of your life and not letting things get to you and control you. Hope this helps!

You might wake up thinking about your ex because you still can like him. One other reason you might still think about him is that he might have done something bad to you while you were together. The break up might have been hard for you also that might be a reason. Another reason is that you might worry still about him and care about how he is doing. Waking up thinking about him might be also because you might hate him on the other hand. Then there might be also problems that you might have had in the relationship. Or you feel like you did something wrong and you still want to be with him.

It can be hard to get through a breakup with someone you once had such a strong connection with. You may not have fully gotten over them, and are still attached to them in some way. Id suggest trying to get rid of things that may remind you of your ex if there’s any pictures of items, or at least keep them away so they’re out of mind. Try your best to focus on your friendships and growing new relationships which can help you become focused on new relationships instead of past ones:) it might take some time to truly forget about your ex but it will eventually become easier and easier

Waking up and thinking of your ex could be that you triggered a memory in your sleep, however long you were with your ex-you still spent some of your life with him/her.. maybe you still hold a torch/grudge or raw feelings? it’s healthy and a curse at the same time.. but your only human and it’s only natural to think of your past and future, whether it happens from sleep or even daydreaming can trigger this.. how are you feeling toward your ex? Is it something you can find to let go of.. possibly seeking professional aid will help if needed

When we go into relationships and have a special connection with a person it is normal to think about them constantly from the time we wake up until we lay our heads down. In the case of an ex partner, there was a connection there and whether you would like to or not you will think about that person for a time. As time carries on and less connection is made, the less you will be cognitive of that person’s presence. However it all depends on your desire to keep the connection. In time and with other connections, waking up and thinking about this person (if this is what you desire) will become less.

A lot of times, after me and my ex broke up, I would have dreams about him and what we had. It's perfectly normal, your mind is just subconsciously thinking of them. Another thing could be that you're unhappy or not contempt with the way things ended, in which that case, maybe you could try talking to them to see if you can be friends. But as long as you just try to distract yourself and let go of them, everything will be okay. The worst thing for me was that I was in a perfectly happy relationship and somehow I would always end up think of my ex at the worst moments. History with someone is hard to let go.

In my experience it happens when you're still in the process of getting over your ex. Remember school time? The first thing that crosses your mind after waking up used to be some assignment, some test or some curricular activity that you were nervous about. Similarly, when you wake up after a break up the thing that has been occupying the most part of your brain are the thoughts about how to deal with the breakup, the memories of your past relationship which are still haunting you. Don't worry! As soon as you get yourself busy; be it with your work or studies or some other passion or task that you feel passionate about, the thoights of the ex will get replaced by those productive thoughts. Just find your passion and throw yourself into it. You can also try distracting yourself by adding activities like exercises, morning walks, or some early morning beauty routine right after you wake up. If the break up is still fresh take your time to grieve but in case it's been an appropriate amount of time and you're worried about yourself refer to the above said tips and start taking things in your own hands. Remember, every new morning is a fresh new opportunity to start over and build yourself up :)

Breakups are upsetting and disturbing. they leave many memories behind. You shared a part of your life with your ex. its probably hard to just snap out of your past. Breakups are not easy and it might take some time until you get used your exés absence. Time heals everything. you will get used to not thinking about him/her gradually. and things will be just fine then. we all experience it at a point in life and learn to get over it. you will too. you are gonna be alright, i wish you get through this soon and move on. :)

Waking up thinking of your ex is completely normal. Breakups have lots of negative impacts on a person. You will grieve and hurt. Thinking of a person means you love and care for them, you may still be in love with that person. It is completely normal to still love your ex no matter why you have broken up. That person may have had a huge impact on your life good or bad, people who have had an impact on our lives tend to stay in our lives or on our minds disregarding the situation. We think of the ones we love and or miss, it is okay to miss and or still love that person. You will at some point forget that you woke up and thought of that person for the better.

I think it is because they have been an important or regular part of our lives so when we wake up we shortly think that they will play a role in our lives that day. This does not mean they still SHOULD be in your life, it is just that your brain hasn't gotten used to the fact that they are not.

It could be because you think about your ex in the evening before you go to sleep. Do you maybe long for having nice time in the bed with your ex? In my experience, triggering stuff about which i was thinking in the evening, just before i went to the bed, returned back as soon as i woke up in the morning. If it is also your case, can you maybe consider doing some relaxation exercises in the evening and trying to distract yourself from thinking about your ex just before you go to bed and in the bed before you fall asleep? Yes, i understand that it can be difficult as bed can remind you about nice time together in the past but it is worth trying.

First off, know that this is totally normal! I'm not sure if you've recently gone through a break-up, but either way, it's totally normal and expected! Every relationship we put ourselves in gets a little puzzle piece of ourselves and when that puzzle piece gets lost or taken away, it can feel like we are no longer complete. Your ex may have had a big impact on your life, and your body and brain is most likely not ready to fully move forward and face this new normal. My favorite way to approach whenever I think of someone from my past is goal-setting. Why? It helps me prepare for the future, get excited about my plans, and helps me reset my mind into knowing that more bigger and better things are to come and this person will not define me.

Getting over relationships in the past can be very difficult. Thinking of them is very common. If anyone's had good times with their ex-partner, those are good memories. Our brain keeps the stuff that we use. Like if you think about your ex-partner, the brain thinks it is important and doesn't remove remove it. Your brain thinks that it is important stuff and hence it is reflected back to you when you wake up. The brain keeps the memories which are frequently used. Another reason could be that you still care for them. Though they are your ex-partner now, you still have a feeling of affection or care for them.

In our life we meet many people then fall in love with some seems to be special but he or she turns out to be your biggest mistake. You sometimes never end up thinking about them beacuse they were not really bad its just by the time situation and expectation changes. Some times we set a version of people on first interaction and fall in love but when we get to know about there worst part that we ignored before we just lost our interest and give up. Giving up or ending up Relationship by words never ends it. You still sometime wake up and start to think about your ex. The only thing that can help u with this , you just have to take that person out not only from life but also from heart and mind.

Because it’s hard to reprogram your thinking! Healing isn’t linear, don’t beat yourself up or you have a bad day. Being mindful of our conscious thoughts and how they affect our behavior is super important. It takes some discipline and implementing it can take time but it’s absolutely possible! Is there something about that relationship you still feel effected by or attached to? Maybe you could share a little about that so we can get to the bottom of the real underlying issues that are keeping you in this negative space or in the past. What is something else you enjoy doing or anything would like to pursue that would help divert your attention onto something more productive and fulfilling?

Because you still have emotion to process about your relationship. Feel it, write about it, process it. It is on your mind unconsciously so your mind is giving you a reminder to process this emotion. Going through a breakup, often it is easy to find that you are distracting yourself and preventing you from experiencing the negative emotions. You may be numbing which is quite common. I know personally I have done this after a relationship of 13 years break down. You just have to allow yourself to heal, cry your tears out, get angry, feel the emotion. Then you will find once you do, you will think less and less about your ex. It is just part of normal healing.

When you truly love someone it is hard to let them go. Especially if they took up a big space in your life, you have to find a way/other things to fill that space which will take time. It is important to grieve. In the morning/right after you wake up, you are in a vulnerable place. You have a clean slate. It makes sense to be hit with your reality as you reflect on your day. If you slept in the same bed as your ex often, it makes sense to feel that absence in the morning - even weeks/a few months after the break up. If the break up was a surprise/you were dumped it can add to the difficulty of moving on.

When the person was not yet your ex, you still woke up thinking about them..even though your concious mind let go of them or trying to do so, it may not be the case with your subconscious..I went through a breakup, a hard one..after 5 months I still has dreams in the nighttime..and I just can't push back all the feelings I have for him even though I'm sure that he doesn't deserve any of it..but to all the people who has this problem, believe it that one day everything's going to be fine..you will get back those tiny parts of the real you..it just takes time which varies for every person out there..but it will be okay

May be its because you still want him/her back in your life and you are not get over them. Whenever you want them back just remember that disrespect, or how toxic your relationship was. Its normal to want them when they have done something wrong with you. But do not disturb your peace or your life because of them. It will take time but don't worry things will get better with time. And always remember self love comes first. So love yourself and try to wake up with your dreams and the people who really cares about you. Love

Maybe you miss the way it felt when you were with them or the way it feels to have someone to rely on. You might want to feel that way again or maybe you just simply miss them or the person you were with them. Despite the fact that the relationship itself didn’t work out, you still invested time, energy and your emotions into the relationship. That can’t be easy to get over or forget. Hopefully in time you’ll get over them and you wouldn’t wake up thinking about them. In the meantime I think it’s important to go easy on yourself and recognize that your recovering from something painful.

I wish I could say I only think about her when I'm waking up... How about I was with her for 5 years. I woke up next to her for 5 years. She was my first thought everyday then and she continues to be to this day. We have been broken up for almost a year and a half and I have seen other women since, and nothing. I think it rests in the wake (pun intended) of my changing and she was the catalyst for those changes and now I have changed and I burned all my bridges before I had the chance to be this Mike. It sucks. It really sucks. I constantly think that I would do anything to be this Mike and go back in time and be with her, but unfortunately for that relationship and me that is not a reality. In my experience, this question is laced with negative connotation, instead accept and embrace and upon doing that I have found that I have a chance to live a life about me v. obsess about we.

I used to wake up thinking of my ex because I blamed myself for a long time for the relationship not working. I would wake up thinking of them longer than I would have wanted, especially when I had to acknowledge that their rejection affected me so much. It took even longer for me to recognize that my own issues to with low self-esteem made it feel more painful than previous situations. Now when it does happen, I try to reflect on what it is that I'm actually missing, even if it's just for all the things I was hopeful to have. And I remind myself I can still have those things. Now when I wake up thinking of my ex, I recognize that I don't feel triggered by it like before, and that all the work I've been doing on self-care was worth it. Even if for others a year seems like a long time to get over someone - it's a year worth of work that I committed to do for myself.