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Why do I wake up thinking about my ex?

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Last Updated: 04/15/2022 at 5:11pm
Why do I wake up thinking about my ex?
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GoLobster
June 2nd, 2016 11:02am
In many situations you had feelings for your ex, and for whatever the reason is you guys broke up. It caused mental flash backs relating to the past relationship... Try looking for other people or friends to fill the hole he/she created.
caterina9999
June 2nd, 2016 6:24pm
Because your ex was an important part of your life and sometimes it takes some time to get over him/her. I'm sure you will in time.
Anghele
June 2nd, 2016 7:16pm
Break ups are always tough. You have shared a lot with that person, your lives were entwined, the fact that the relationship has ended doesn't mean that you will suddenly forget how beautiful it was to be together in some moments. It's normal to keep thinking about the people that we once loved, there's nothing to be ashamed or worried about. It may not be pleasant, but only time can solve this matter.
DeapOcean30
June 3rd, 2016 6:20am
When that happened to me, I realized I was unconsciously looking foward to go back in time,, maybe because I felt happier, or more safe. The thing is that I realize I was pining for the past. So I got up and decided to make my present so much more enojoyable than my past. You can always make yourself better, and your present its up to you how you live it.
crispHeart62
June 3rd, 2016 6:52pm
Because you still love your ex. You are over from him/her yet. Its time to move on. Life is much more beautiful.
ohdarlinggg
June 4th, 2016 2:35am
I think old habits die hard. It will take time, and eventually new thoughts will blossom in you. But love never dies, and until a new love for someone or something else fills your mind, you will be reminded of the old memories. Just try to breathe and remember the good ones, but don't let the harsh words and bad times consume you
helpfulocean33
June 5th, 2016 4:04am
You probably miss them. Usually the first person we think about when we wake up is someone important to us.
enigmaticWillow68
June 10th, 2016 5:31pm
Well you have probably just broken up with him and your relationship is on your mind fresh but soon you will be able to over come those thoughts don't worry
txalant
June 13th, 2016 6:25pm
This is completely normal to think about. Your ex used to be a major part of your life and it is difficult to adjust to a new situation.
Anonymous
June 15th, 2016 9:15am
Did you dream about him ? Maybe you are still in love with him? I think you are the only one who can answer..
NorthernLights30
June 17th, 2016 5:29pm
You do so because they were once a very important part of your life and now all of a sudden they are gone. It is normal to think about them, just do not dwell on it.
SiriuslyAsh
June 19th, 2016 1:23am
It's totally normal to miss your ex. Whether the break up happened recently, or a long time ago - a relationship ending isn't ever fun. Sometimes it could mean you miss them, sometimes it can mean you miss their company. There's definitely a difference in these two things and only you will know which you're feeling. Were they good to you and is the relationship reconcilable? Save it! Do you just miss having someone around? Maybe try a new hobby to keep your mind occupied!
PurpleLimeTea
June 22nd, 2016 4:42pm
Chances are that you thought about your ex first thing in the morning before he was your ex. It may almost seem as if your brain is firing on autopilot now that he/she is out of the picture. Anytime we feel any sort of strong emotion for someone or something, be it positive or negative, that leaves a huge imprint on our psyche. So when we wake up in the morning, the first thing on our mind is almost always something we feel strongly about, in this case, your ex. The moment we wake up, our brain dishes us thoughts about things that are most important. Being that feelings and thoughts feed off of eachother, something that we’re indifferent to isn’t going to be the very first thing on our mind in the morning. It’s first for a reason; because it’s the most urgent. When you stop feeling about our ex with such intensity, the early morning thoughts will stop and be replaced with something of more importance. Whether you miss your ex or you're still feeling angry with him/her or any emotion in between, your conscious mind is telling you that it still has some unfinished business with this person that it needs to sort through or process. While it can be distressing to think about an ex first thing in the AM, it’s not for naught. Notice the types of thoughts you're having about your ex and that will be a good indicator of what type of work you need to do in order to move forward.
Anonymous
June 22nd, 2016 5:49pm
You are still emotionally attached to him/her, therefore they keep popping up in your mind. You have to keep yourself busy and revise why you left him/her. Make yourself a priority and love yourself to make moving on easier. Give your hobbies more time and respect your decisions, because your conscience knows that what happened was for the best and something better will surely happen!
gingerfluff
June 26th, 2016 2:04pm
Depending on how long you were in the relationship, it is only natural that you would wake up thinking about something you used to look forward to everyday. Take a look at the self-help guide about breakups from 7cups if you need help getting over them: https://www.7cups.com/breakup-advice/
boundlessdepth
June 29th, 2016 6:43pm
You are probably still missing him. Thinking about what you guys had an reminiscing in the times you spent together. This is perfectly normal and no reason to feel bad. Just make sure thoughts about him don't take over your life. Remember that better things are to come and live always works out in the end. Don't fret, you'll find someone who makes you feel even better than your ex. Live in the present and remember that! :)
Elliott13
June 30th, 2016 8:40am
After a breakup, it can be really difficult to break the thought patterns we've created during a relationship, and create new, healthy thought patterns instead. It's normal for people to dwell on exes, and waking up thinking about and ex is a way that a lot of people do that. It's impossible for anyone else to say why you might be experiencing that, but it could be important for you to look within yourself for the answers. Do you spend a lot of time thinking about them? Do you have regrets in the relationship, or maybe things you never got to say? Writing a letter to your ex and never sending it can be a good way to tie up loose ends. It's impossible not to think about something. If you tell yourself not to think about a pink polar bear, you are going to think about it. Rather than trying to force yourself into a lack of thought about your ex, in might be more beneficial to recognize that those thoughts are going to happen, mentally acknowledged them, and let them drift away. Treat yourself with compassion when this happens.
charmingOrange11
June 30th, 2016 3:28pm
You probably aren't used to the Change of them going from being your good morning thought to someone you don't want to think about anymore. It's depressing and could really slow you down in the morning but eventually the urge to think about them should fade with time. If not then you should talk about it more with someone.
CheerGirl23
July 1st, 2016 8:46am
Your ex was once and still may be an important person in your life. This sort of intrusive thought could mean that you are still processing your relationship and breakup, which is totally valid.
Danielle806
July 3rd, 2016 10:32am
Well if you still have feelings for them it's natural when you wake up you think about the person you love
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2016 4:18pm
Your ex has probably been a part of your life for a long time. When this suddenly change, it is not unusual still thinking and/or missing this person. It takes time before you're used to the change. Please, do not rush this and let your heart heal with time.
emitlove
July 6th, 2016 3:24am
Honestly, it's so difficult not waking up and thinking of your ex when you're freshly out of a relationship. Even if it's been months, sometimes even years, you'll still wake up and wonder how they're doing, or even what (or who) they're doing. Don't be hard on yourself for still caring. You shared an intimate bond with that person for an extended amount of time, that part of them still lingers with you; and that's okay. You're grieving over your relationship ending with said person, and it just takes time to move on. So allow yourself to wake up and think about them occasionally, but don't dwell on them. Dwell on more important events going on in your life or people that will help you move forward in a healthy manner.
PilordeParadox
July 9th, 2016 5:09pm
A break up takes a long time to heal. For some people it only takes weeks, but for others... it can even takes years.
LondynRose
July 10th, 2016 3:08pm
When you invest a lot of emotional time with someone it is natural to think of them. You will always miss the good times.
lonestar87
July 11th, 2016 4:48pm
You obviously will still think about someone who was a big part of your life and it takes time to adapt to them not being in your life anymore but you will think about them less in time and one day will wake up not thinking of them at ll
Faithlife
July 15th, 2016 1:07pm
Your ex was a part of your life. Thoughts and memories of any once significant person will always be apart of your subconscious memories and will sometimes surface to your mind.
NumberEleven
July 15th, 2016 7:13pm
Maybe you still miss them, or maybe you miss the memories that you two used to have. It's really normal, talking or writing down your feelings can help you process how you feel.
Owen27
July 15th, 2016 10:17pm
Was there anything left unsaid which you feel needed to be aloud? You may miss the company of having someone there and the change may just take some getting used to. Ask yourself; are you happy with the parting of you and your ex? Hope this has helped.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 10:36pm
The heart wants what the heart wants. Every person is different when it comes to dealing with breakups. Your ex could have left a serious impact on your life and it makes it difficult to go even a day without thinking of them.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2016 10:59pm
When you become comfortable and accustom to being with someone, letting go leaves this mark in your mind, Things you use to do you don't, feelings you had feel weird and remembering all that were the two of you leaves a scar you wake up with in the morning.