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Anonymous
July 7th, 2018 3:59pm
You may wake up thinking about your ex and wonder what could he/she be doing or asking does my ex still miss me ? You’re just worrying about that person and you could text them and see if they are okay
Anonymous
June 16th, 2018 3:43pm
You are dwelling on the past. You might be remembering the good or the bad memories that are connected to your past lover. You may not be ready to move on.
You may just be used to starting your day waking up next to them or, if you didn't live together, them being the first person you texted in the morning. It can be difficult getting out of that mindsight, especially if you were with your partner for a significant amount of time but its important to make changes that positively impact your life.
Getting over an ex can be like rolling a boulder up a giant mountain. Your heart's muscles scream. Your body literally aches. It's just the worst. But every day that you try to roll that boulder up the mountain, your muscles get a little bit stronger. Just like every day that you wake up thinking about your ex, life has given you a few more things to think about. Maybe it's a new friend, maybe it's something you learned at school or work, maybe it's just a really funny story someone told you. But your life will fill with new facts and truths and light, and before you know it, your ex will become just one of those truths. You will still love them. But the boulder will start to roll up the hill. Your heart's sore muscles will ache a little less. Your load will lighten. Believe it or not, you will move on one day.
Anonymous
April 14th, 2018 1:11am
When someone who was a very central part of our lives leaves, for any reason, our minds tend to fixate on the whys and hows as to try and understand that feeling of loss.
you probably miss him a lot, I mean that is someone you devoted your time and heart to and no their gone if anything you would be a sociopath if you didn't
As humans, we hold onto kinship and the natural tendency of familiarity. You were familiar with him/her/them, but know that you are no doubt familiar with yourself. Even more so, because your identity is every composite of who YOU are. You wake up thinking about your ex because memory doesn't fail us. Know that the devotion to yourself is one much grander, that the past is only a catalyst for greater things. Nothing wrong with clinging onto old memory, but there is so much more beauty in moving on.
Ending a relationship is a big thing, not only is it almost like deleting someone you spent a lot of time with from your life but it is a big step into your future, you will take what you learnt from that relationship with you. It's normal to think about someone, that you spent a lot of time with and thought about a lot when you were together, it's almost out of habit.
Anonymous
January 14th, 2018 6:39am
Often times it is hard to break off our emotional feelings even though the relationship may have ended. It is not wrong to still feel emotional and attached in someway to someone we were once close to. Healing and getting over someone takes time, so you are not alone in this feeling. Perhaps finding spending some time focusing on other interests, maybe activities, friendships, or even other relationships can help your mind to ease into its path of healing. Just know that there is nothing wrong with still thinking about them or having feelings for them, because it simply takes time to overcome. You can do it, one step at a time. :)
Anonymous
January 4th, 2018 10:37pm
There are a lot of reasons this could be, but be careful trying to guess at what unconscious thought means. How do you feel about your ex? Maybe it's time to reconnect with that person, or maybe they're just thoughts.
Anonymous
November 28th, 2017 11:32pm
It is because you loved this person and have memories with this person. It's normal to miss them from time to time. or even long for them. Forgetting is easy when it doesn't matter but forgetting something when it meant the world isn't that easy. You are allowed to miss this person just don't forget that there will always be better things waiting for you in life.
Pretty self explanatory - You miss her. It's okay, we all sometimes think about our exes. It's a part of life.
It sometimes happens that if your relationship was a long-term relationship or pretty intense, you still remember your ex even if it's been a while since you broke up. Maybe you dreamt about him/her. You're probably missing your memories together, but not him/her.
Sometimes you miss someone and that's okay. Part of it might just be because they were a big part of your life and they are no longer there. Whatever the reason, it is obvious that they had a significant impact on you.
You obviously have residual feelings for them. It doesn't have to be love or affection, but you simply miss what you do not have anymore. People aren't used to change, and it's completely normal. Just let yourself slide out of it and you will sooner or later. It's okay to think about them and miss them because you probably had meaningful moments with them.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2017 9:48pm
When someone is important to us and we have spent a lot of time with them it is hard not to think of them. Thoughts of these people could pop up at any time of the day even if we have not seen them in some time. Sometimes there is no real explanation and other times something may have triggered the memory.
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2017 11:12pm
Waking thinking about an ex (whether it be good or bad thoughts) is normal when the break is fresh, and may even come up every so often. It doesn't always have to mean something more than it is: a random thought popped into your head. For times like this, to avoid falling into a tunnel of overthinking, it would be helpful to remind yourself of who you are and that you cannot be with your ex for various reasons.
You wake up thinking about your ex because he was a part of your life. You never forget people like that.
Maybe you still have feelings for them or an unresolved issue. Sometimes we regret our decision and that regret takes over our minds and it's all we can think about. They are an ex for a reason remind yourself of this reason . If you still feel the same maybe reach out to them
I would personally wake up thinking about my ex because I missed all of his good characteristics. I know that an ex is an ex for a reason, but still. I didn't like the fact that someone is going to possibly experience a better side of him. And actually work out. I felt like I lost.
You remember something good you guys did together or you dreams about him /her or maybe that person is thinking of you
You find it really hard to let go the people that you care about. This is normal and shows that you are a passionate and loving person.
Anonymous
October 10th, 2016 1:47pm
You wake up thinking about your ex because that person has played a huge part in your life and has once been someone very important to you and might still be important now, as they have been with you before.
You wake up thinking about your ex because your used to have him or her in bed with you right next to you. Your used to having there arm wrapped around you.
I think about him because I still love him. I'm not happy with the way the relationship ended, nor am I happy about the relationship we have now, but I love him. I'm not in love with him, and i don't feel beholden, but he was a beautiful person I cared about very much and I shared myself with. I think it's natural to wake up with someone who was once so much a part of you on your mind.
because you miss him or her or they pop up on your mind and maybe your wondering how they are in life
This is a normal response to breaking up iwth someone. It isnt your fault. Figure out a way to distract yourself, e.g. drawing
Because you still love them and it's something that you can't easily get over because of the love you two once shared :)
Perhaps you've been thinking about your ex a lot. You're not alone in that you think of that person after you're through. They were apart of your life. Naturally, you'll think of them.
Sometimes, it's hard to let go of someone who played a major part in your life. It is not easy to forget the memories, let alone pretend like they never happpened in the first place. Give yourself some time, and know that this person helped you grow. Be thankful for that, and try to remember them in a good way. Steer clear from any hard feelings/regret, try instead to be thankful for them and the memories you share. Hope this helped :)
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