Why do I wake up thinking about my ex?

I think about him because I still love him. I'm not happy with the way the relationship ended, nor am I happy about the relationship we have now, but I love him. I'm not in love with him, and i don't feel beholden, but he was a beautiful person I cared about very much and I shared myself with. I think it's natural to wake up with someone who was once so much a part of you on your mind.

A lot of times, after me and my ex broke up, I would have dreams about him and what we had. It's perfectly normal, your mind is just subconsciously thinking of them. Another thing could be that you're unhappy or not contempt with the way things ended, in which that case, maybe you could try talking to them to see if you can be friends. But as long as you just try to distract yourself and let go of them, everything will be okay. The worst thing for me was that I was in a perfectly happy relationship and somehow I would always end up think of my ex at the worst moments. History with someone is hard to let go.

It takes time to get over breakups! Especially if you were together for a long time, try going out and meeting new people!

When we go into relationships and have a special connection with a person it is normal to think about them constantly from the time we wake up until we lay our heads down. In the case of an ex partner, there was a connection there and whether you would like to or not you will think about that person for a time. As time carries on and less connection is made, the less you will be cognitive of that person’s presence. However it all depends on your desire to keep the connection. In time and with other connections, waking up and thinking about this person (if this is what you desire) will become less.

Waking up and thinking of your ex could be that you triggered a memory in your sleep, however long you were with your ex-you still spent some of your life with him/her.. maybe you still hold a torch/grudge or raw feelings? it’s healthy and a curse at the same time.. but your only human and it’s only natural to think of your past and future, whether it happens from sleep or even daydreaming can trigger this.. how are you feeling toward your ex? Is it something you can find to let go of.. possibly seeking professional aid will help if needed

It can be hard to get through a breakup with someone you once had such a strong connection with. You may not have fully gotten over them, and are still attached to them in some way. Id suggest trying to get rid of things that may remind you of your ex if there’s any pictures of items, or at least keep them away so they’re out of mind. Try your best to focus on your friendships and growing new relationships which can help you become focused on new relationships instead of past ones:) it might take some time to truly forget about your ex but it will eventually become easier and easier

You might wake up thinking about your ex because you still can like him. One other reason you might still think about him is that he might have done something bad to you while you were together. The break up might have been hard for you also that might be a reason. Another reason is that you might worry still about him and care about how he is doing. Waking up thinking about him might be also because you might hate him on the other hand. Then there might be also problems that you might have had in the relationship. Or you feel like you did something wrong and you still want to be with him.

It takes time to get over people that hurt you while you cared deeply about them. It is natural to think about them for a while after they are gone from your life. What I find helpful is writing out what made me feel the need to break up with them. If they broke up with me, it hurts but I realize that if they are not able to see the good in me there is no point in putting myself through that just to say I'm in a realtionship. It will happen, and that's okay, you've just got to start taking control of your life and not letting things get to you and control you. Hope this helps!

It sounds like there is some unfinished business there. We need to process information before moving on. Just reading the question online, it’s hard to say, but there are some possibilities: Did you trust this person too much, and they deceived you? If so, your brain is trying to figure out a way to protect you from being hurt again. You might be asking, “Why me?” Since relationships are built on trust, it’s incredibly confusing how so many people will lie to get into a relationship. It’s also possible that you did something you’re not proud of in the relationship. Your brain is trying to figure out if you’ll make the same mistake again. You don’t need to tell a group of strangers on the internet. Think about it on your own. You know if this is the one because it keeps coming back over and over again. It’s possible you still love your ex. Only you can answer that.

The things I think about when you first wake up are often a reflection of some of your deeper feelings- like I'll sometimes wake up thinking about something that's stressing me out. Maybe you don't have the closure you need with them? So you're still trying to work through how you feel about them and what your relationship is now. Maybe try thinking of ways you could get closure? Sometimes that just comes from time spent thinking and talking it through. You might need to have a conversation with them about why things ended or how you were hurt by their actions (this doesn't mean you should get back together!!) if it's something that's really bothering and affecting you I would think about seeing a trained professional.

It is because you haven't completely let go of them. But, don't get me wrong, it is a completely normal process in any breakups, no matter how long it has been. Give yourself time, but also remind yourself that you made the best choice. Breakups are difficult. I'm still struggling as well. But I know that I have to come to the term that everything is over. That I made the best choice. That I know it would be better this way. Letting go at first might seem like an impossible job to do, but believe me you'll get there.

having a partner in life involves strong connections that don't fade easily. Even though they are your ex you may still have slight feelings for them and they wont go away instantly. Try socialising with others and doing things you love to take your mind off of them. My best advice is to try your best to move on. I know it may be hard, especially if you were involved in a physical relationship, but they are your ex for a reason. Try to remember why things didn't work out to remind yourself of why this is the right path to go down. If you start to regret events in the past they tend to stay with you for a long time, which may be the reason why you think about them as your wake up.

From personal experience I know that I wake up thinking about my ex a lot and I just remind myself everyday that its okay to have thoughts about a person that I once or still do deeply care about and had a connection with at one point. Most of the time those emotions don't go away right away and I just remind myself to give myself grace and time when coping with thoughts of an ex. I think all we can do is give ourselves grace and time to heal even if it takes a few months to do so.

You wake up thinking about your ex because he has been on your mind lately. Perhaps he did something or you had contact with him, or you just have recurring memories-- either good or bad.

Because you have subconscious pain and sleeping unlocks the subconscious. When we experience intense emotions some of that emotion gets trapped in the subconscious, the part of the mind that aren't aware of at the moment. Our minds can only handle so much suffering until we decide that we are willing to do pretty much anything to make it stop. To lessen the suffering, perhaps so we can continue functioning, our mind is able to delay experiencing some of the pain (suppression and repression are the psychological terms). But eventually we have to pay up. Our mind's can't get rid of the pain until we experience the pain consciously. This often happens through dreams but can happen any time as thoughts and emotions that seem to arise out of nowhere or are triggered by something that reminds us of the pain. I'm guessing that the breakup was extremely painful for you. Perhaps you felt betrayed or abandoned. And its possible that the breakup triggered subconscious pain from other painful experiences. There are a few things that you can do to help expedite the process of releasing the pain, but over time your mind will do this automatically. 1. Talk to people about the relationship with your ex and your feelings about it. Subconscious pain has a way of hiding unless you deliberately seek it out, which is perhaps the main objective of therapy. If a therapist is too expensive then you could chat with someone here on 7cups or someone you know. 2. When the painful emotions arise, try to "surrender" your attention to them. Pay attention to them. You don't need to figure anything out, just experience the painful thoughts and emotions as they are - just watch. The mind's normal habit is to avoid pain through distraction or avoidance, but emotions cant be avoided forever, only delayed. So paying attention to them as they arise can expedite the releasing of the pain. It speeds up the process that emotions must go through to be released from the subconscious. These two things can expedite the process, but either way it WILL get better over time! Every time you experience those painful emotions you will release a little more from the unconscious. Hang in there!

You were in a relationship with this person who you may have spent a lot of time talking to. It's completely normal and valid to still be in that mindset. Some things to keep in mind are how long ago the breakup happened, how you've been coping since the breakup happened, who your support team is, and what negative thought patterns you may have gotten stuck in mentally after the breakup. Coping with breakups is so difficult and different people have different ways of dealing with them. Take your time working through it. 7cups has a great breakup self-help guide if you'd like to view that as well!

We often think about the people that we miss. It is difficult going from seeing someone you love every day to them suddenly disappearing from your life. It's something that is hard to deal with and takes time to adapt to. There could also be events that occurred in the relationship that would trigger someone to think about their ex. If there was abuse or trauma in the relationship, it would impact the way someone would feel after they depart from the relationship. Breaking up with significant other's is very hard and takes a long time of healing to recover from. Even if it's years ago, it is something that will go away through time.

Waking up and thinking about your ex could be because of any happy memories you had together. They were a part of your life at some point and will have provided you with some of the best memories. It could also be due to trauma of something that happened in the relationship and you may be thinking about your ex hoping they are well and ok. It’s ok to think about your ex partner. It isn’t wrong in any way shape or form. It may be because you still love him/her. You may not be IN love with them however you did once share love and happiness. Those feeling won’t just disappear overnight.

You probably still care for them deeply and try talking to them, cause if it didn't work out and wasn't to bad you could become friends

You still care and that may be a good thing. I do that sometimes and it helps me understand what I had and how I've grown from that relationship. Thinking about them may not be a bad thing.

From past experiences i needed closure in order to move on and focus on myself. You miss him and not complete over him as yet and that is perfectly normal us women go through it everyday of our lives but you are strongly and possibly in denial, correct me if i'm wrong . It's okay to express your emotions if i we're in your shoes i'd step out of my comfort zone and explore new things to get my mind focused on something or someone else

We pour so much of ourselves into others, especially those we care deeply for. And when relationships end we end up closing the door to not only the person we were with, but all the memories, milestones, and experiences that were within that timeframe. We stop frequenting places we liked in an attempt to avoid the person. So maybe you just miss them, or maybe you miss the experiences, and the life you yourself lived during that timeframe. We should be introspective when we look at/think about things. There were good things about your ex that may truly have been good and life enriching and worth reflecting on. That doesn’t mean you should go back. Just enjoy the revelries.

He/she is a part of your past and your life. It is totally normal to keep thinking about them when they are already gone. Especially if the break up just recently happened! Now I don’t know if it was recent or not, but you can not forget someone in the blink of an eye. Nor can you stop thinking about them that easily. But why do you wake up thinking about them instead of thinking about your mom for example? That’s because there’s activity around your ex. You guys broke up, something happened and now you don’t even see or speak to each other again. That is not something that happens on a daily basis and with every person in your life, because of this fact your ex will be triggered into your thoughts, faster than the other people in your life. In conclusion: Thinking about your when you wake up and in general doesn’t have to mean anything!!

Because he or she was a huge part of your life and when you break up with some there side of the memories leaves with them. They say it takes half the time of the relationship to get over the person. Not sure how true that it but without a doubt it takes time to let go of something that was once familiar. Stay stong the feeling will change with time. Time really is the only way to move on and free your mind of the memories of your past. It is normal to think of someone you loved after you are done loving them.

I think it is because, even though the two of you have ended things, he still played a significant part in your life. You may have lingering feelings, which is one hundred percent normal and should go away in time. Even if you don't have feelings, the fact that at one point they were a very important part of your life could be why they are still on your mind. You will end up thinking of them. You cannot get rid of it completely. However, there are ways you can reduce how often you think of them. Try engaging in hobbies, going out with friends (making sure your ex isn't there- also be sure to tell your friends not to bring up your ex when you're around). Read a book or listen to some relaxing music before you go to bed. Get rid of anything in your room that reminds you of your ex. Delete any texts, emails, etc from them. This should help reduce how often you think of them (possibly including when you first wake up in the morning).

It's because you probably love him/her. You should go talk to that person and it will feel better for you. I feel you I have been there where you are now. When me and my gf broke up.

Because you still love him and that’s not wrong, you just have to get over him and then you’ll not think about him anymore

Probably because you were used to them by your side, and now that they’re no longer there its going to take a while to move on.

That's common in most relationships were you may miss that person and didn't want to break up.

Because there could be something missing something you miss that they did it doesn’t have to be something big that they’d do even just small things they’d do is enough to make you think about them