Why do I keep going back to my toxic relationship?

Maybe because there is a gain in going back. Sometimes that gain works as the drug in an addiction, when you realize the gain is smaller than the damage thats when you can start making a real change, you get to see it coming, the temptation, and you get to see the exit door to it. Somewhere in the path of learning you'll get to learn when to take the exit door.

More often than not, a "relationship" gives us a feeling of satisfaction and belongingness. Depending on our appetite for these feelings, we choose to stay in a relationship even when we know that it's toxic and unhealthy. This is especially common if one doesn't have many satisfactory connections; so it becomes really tempting to hold on to a relationship even if it does more harm than good.

It’s comfortable and familiar. One thing to remember is that there is no growth in comfort . Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice yourself to be with that person !! We have different levels of loves in our lives . Set yourself free so you can grow💫

Hi there friend! I can actually speak personally on this. We go back to toxic relationships for a number of reasons. A big one is because it is familiar. We as humans want to feel comfortable. And so we go back to things that we know and are used to even if they are bad for us. Another big reason is love. Often we love the person even though they are toxic and we so desperately want to fixed it and be loved back the way we love them. Especially if they were way different in the beginning. It's confusing when they go from treating you from good to bad. A term often referred to as "love bombing". But its important to know that you should never stay in toxic relationships no matter what reasons you have. Better things will come. Me personally I went from a horrible toxic relationship that was painfully one sided to a man who finally treats me with all of the love and respect that I deserve and more. Don't ever settle for less. And remember it's better to single and happy then in a relationship and miserable. It took me my whole life to learn that very hard lesson. There's so much joy in life, don't let anyone take it away from you. I'm here if anyone wants to talk! Much love! :)

Sometimes, you keep going back to a toxic relationship because you don't know what it's like for a relationship to not be toxic. You also convince yourself that maybe you deserve whatever is happening to you in the relationship. Or maybe it's the only way you can feel something and you end up mistaking the toxicity for love. It's completely valid. But please put yourself and your mental health first. You're not weak for going back to a toxic relationship. In fact, it shows your strength in being able to endure it over and over again. However, everyone has a breaking point. You need to critically analyse your relationships and attempt to make them healthier so no one gets hurt. And remember, even when you love each other, it's okay to let go if it becomes toxic, you won't be a bad person for doing so.

Believe me I did this to. It’s mood because you’re a kind person and you want to be with the other. If you’re really in love with this person but it’s toxic maybe it’s time for you to leave or talking over with the other. How much trouble will go through and you will thank me later when you get out of that relationship don’t keep going back if it’s it’s toxic no matter what go back you need to stop immediately and go get real help or just follow my advice and leave the other

After a few months, I realised that losing you wasn’t really a loss. Losing you made sense. Losing you was inevitable. I lost you because I never really had you. You were never really mine, you were always searching for something away from me you were always thinking of someone else when you were with me. I lost you because I would’ve lost who I was if I held onto you. I lost you to find myself. See, I learned that it’s better to lose some people than to hold on to the hope of them coming back, because a person who doesn’t want to lose you, will never let you slip away. But you didn’t fight. You didn’t try. And in turn, you made my decision for me. You made it easier for me to think of losing you as another way to find myself another way to save myself. And for the first time, you made me realise that not every person you lose is a loss and that losing can sometimes be winning. For the first time, you made me realise that losing someone is sometimes the only way to love yourself. For the first time, you made me realise there is so much more to be found in losing someone who was never meant to stay. Losing you was hard, but keeping you was harder. Losing you was a lesson but not a loss. Losing you was my favourite win.

I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years but kept constantly going back because I felt as though he was all I deserved and that maybe things could change and so on even if they never would. It is not uncommon but with time, realizations will eventually arise and you will learn to be without this person and see that there is better for you.

I think you might feel terrible about going back to your toxic relationship, I did the same few years ago. I guess it is just our love for the other person that even if we cannot totally forgive them we find reasons and excuses to justify their actions, that what bad they did to us is not more than the love we share. I realized it after a long time I shouldn't be justifying something toxic and deep beneath I knew, my instincts told me that I was doing wrong but we still do it regardless of thinking about ourselves. I think one more reason that we go back to our toxic relationship is we never loved ourselves enough or we were never loved the right way so we accept whatever comes to us named as love, we are supposed to be loved the right way everyone deserves that. We just need to realize our worth to take up the courage and walk away from what is not good for us.

Maybe you miss the physical affection...but dont worry! That's okay, everyone's experienced that at least once. Try to forget them, burn pictures and delete chats and work on realizing how bad they really are... this will help you realize and keep yourself from getting hurt over and over... trust me I've been the same situation, I know how hard it must be... but dont worry you'll get trough this.. we can set up daily meetings and I can help you get through this step by step and day by day...if that's what you'd want of cours. :) How are you feeling ?

It’s probably because you are scared of change and want to live with something you are used to. Leaving a person would mean making a major change and your entire outlook on life could be affected, but normally change is a good and healthy thing. If you push yourself to explore your options then there would be so many benefits.

I guess because is toxic and creates you a dependence. The best is trying to work on making your personality stronger and try to live a happy life on your own before being attached to a relationship.

I find that when I love someone I give chances time and time again because we fall in love with the idea of what could be and not what is. That’s a hard thing to accept for anyone. We all want this ideal image that we create for what could be that we accept the things we know we don’t deserve in front of us to try and get to that place without realizing that might never happen. Sometimes we accept what we think we deserve and put up with it instead of continuing to search for more, really .

Because it's hard to move on from one person whom you've loved with all your heart as you werent aware of how the relationship would turn out to be but since you love them, you keep focusing on the good side of the relationship which makes you always go back even if it hurts you. Just like a moth and fire.

Because you are a caring, considerate person, who likes to see the best in everything. You don't like to give up, especially on something you love so dearly. That's okay, because that shows resilience and loyalty, You don't run away when times get tough. The problem is that you're not showing this care and consideration to yourself, and if it's toxic, the other person isn't showing it to you, and possibly towards themselves too. They take your good nature for granted. They feel that you will always be there for them no matter what...until one day, you aren't. It isn't because you don't want to be, because once you love someone, that's it, you can't undo it. Its because you've reached your limit, you've given all that you could and now you're empty, and have little to give. Your tolerance levels waver, and soon it all becomes your fault because you allowed it before, and now you're not allowing it.

The reason that you keep going back to this troubled relationship is because it feels comfortable and familiar. It becomes a habit and habits are hard to break. The mind and body love to operate in its comfort zone. It feels safe and it feels. We tend to not like change nor do we like to feel pain. Most of us quickly find something to relieve us of the pain. Our minds are the same way What is the root of such. a thought process is that it is faulty thinking, and unhealthy relationships. Lack of self-esteem, not feeling worthy of anything better. We may not even be aware that we are harboring these faulty programs

Scared of being alone– Another reason that keeps you going back to a toxic relationship is the fear of being alone. The fear of loneliness overpowers everything else. For a lot of people there is a very deep core belief that they will always be alone and no one will like them or accept them. They put in your mind you are no good without them and that you cant live without them. I know for a fact because i was in this situation it gets better i promise Just block them and move on. My life was hard for weeks after but it got better

I use to go back to my toxic relationship because I thought that I could fix things. It took me 2 years to learn that you can't change people. The only thing you can do is communicate your feelings and hope they can understand. In my case, the person never understood what I was trying to say. They also wanted something different for their life than I did. So our goals never matched and caused more friction in the relationship. I personally found it helpful to look back to when I was not with that person and see that I can do things on my own.

Toxic relationships, as harmful as they are, are familiar. It's what you know and grew comfortable around. It makes sense you wouldn't want to break out of that comfort zone, even if you know it's bad for you. And sometimes the consequences of leaving the toxic relationship forever would be even worse, and lead to things like blackmail. It's really easy to fall into old habits and go back to what's familiar to us, even if it's not healthy for us. It takes a lot of inner strength and self discipline to leave your comfort zone and discover new things

You're keep going back to that toxic relationship it is because you really love the person and/or you want of feeling being inlove. Another possible reason why you're going back its because you are still hoping that one day, that relationship will become okay. Another possible reason, you keep going back its because you love them more than yourself. If you really know what you deserve, if you really love yourself, you will choose to cut him off in your life even though you love the person because you know your worth and you love yourself. If you really love yourself, you will not let yourself to settle for less.

Returning to our exes is a pattern, and it’s a toxic one that can be broken with some understanding. From comfort to raging insecurities — these are the most common reasons you keep going back to your no-good ex. It’s comfortable The world is crazy right now, and it doesn’t seem to show any signs of slowing down. In environments filled with protest, conflict, anger and heartache — our relationships can become a comfort-point, which provides us with safety, stability and reassurance. Even if those aren’t the things our relationship truly provides, it can still feel comfortable enough to slide back into, even though we know it’s full of holes…just like that old sweater you had to throw away 10 years too late. Obsessed with validation Relationships can get competitive, and we can even come to see the life we’re building with a toxic partner as a bit of a “challenge” to overcome. When that relationship breaks down, we might still feel as though we have something to prove (either to the other person or ourselves). In that state of mind, we become tempted by the idea of picking up where we left off. As though that somehow validates all the obvious mis-match going on. Easier than starting over Believe it or not, sheer laziness is another common reason that people go running back to partners and spouses they know aren’t a good fit. Even when things are toxic and scary, going back to something you already know how to deal with seems like an easier deal than starting over with someone new. The problem there, though, is that it’s not easier; because you’re putting in even more emotional labor, being unhappy and existing in a state of conflict and pain. Failed visions of love Ask three separate people what “true love” means to them and you’ll probably get 3 separate answers. We all see love in different ways, and we all want different things from our partners and from our relationships. When these ideas of love are bent, broken or skewed, however, it can seriously impact our partnerships. It can also force us back into relationships that are filled with misery or are otherwise an unhappy fit. Unresolved trauma Trauma has a funny way of coming up time and time again until we find the courage to face it. The same is true for relationship trauma, and the thousands of constant battles we always seem to be waging against the past. There are those who go back to toxic partners, because they are attempting to validate themselves against the injuries of their previous experiences. There is no moving backward, however, only forward toward healthier partners. Raging insecurities When you’re dealing with low self-esteem and self-worth, it leads you to form a low personal opinion of yourself. These raging fears and insecurities eat away at your strength and make it easier for abusers and toxic people to get inside and take advantage of you. Running back to the same toxic partners? Your self-esteem is probably playing a part.

I keep going back to my toxic relationship because its comfortable. I know him, I understand him, and he understands me. He tells me its different this time. That he's changed and he'll try harder and it'll be so much better this time around, and because I trust him, I come back, expecting a change. The change never happens though, as the old routine comes back slowly but surely, and soon you're back where you started. So you end it again but he comes right back with the words you hear every time but also believe every time, and you take him back, knowing deep down that it'll come back to you being hurt, but not caring because in those moments he gives you the attention and love you deserve. And thats enough for the time being. Thats not right, we should all stop

There will be two possible reasons why you kept going back despite knowing the fact that is a toxic relationship. First is, you were afraid that after you left. You will never met someone who will love and accept you. We are afraid that staying in the toxic relationship will somehow give us the feeling of security and love but no. The right person eill come at the right time and the right place. We should never be in a relationship wherein you never grow as a person and you never grow as a couple. Couples who seems to have longer relationships has the most challenging situations. You should know when is the time to give up and help find yourseld again that you once lose because of loving that person. Second is, you think he is the only person that could ever give you love. Some people stay because they are longing for someone to love them. They are looking for that love that thry cannot get from their family and friends. More of acceptance. But remember, never lose yourself in completing your partner. Both of you should complete each other, help, grow, and develop together. Relationship works because two people decided to give their best and efforts. It will never work on one sided.

Sometimes we go back to our toxic relationships hoping that the person has changed and will treat or love you better so you are drawn back to them for clear validation hoping they did love you.For others, they go back because they know the pattern their partner plays, they understand there toxic game so they are at ease with this rather than finding someone else who is quite unpredictable which admittedly is quite frightening. It's hard to just stop loving someone no matter how toxic so the care you hold for them takes you back to them.All in all there is always hope for those in this situation all the while remember to put yourself first.

You might be in a low place, maybe thinking that you aren't good enough for anyone else. If you know that this person is toxic and not really good for you, you might be lonely and not feeling yourself. Ask yourself if you blame you for not realizing what you were getting yourself into. Do you think that it's you who's the problem? Asking yourself these questions might help you find the answer. Maybe you're looking for affirmation. Do you want to know if you're still enough for this person? Do you feel alone and want anyone, even if it means settling for less?

I’ve had several toxic relationships that I continued to go back to. I think that they made me feel like they were the only people who would ever be there for me or “care” about me so that’s why I stayed. This might not be true for you, but I think realizing the relationship is toxic is a great first step. You have to decide what you want for you, and what is the best decision for you. Then, focus on the steps it will take to get you to that point. It might be a hard journey, but it will be better in the end.

Beacuse you have created a toxic bound, a vicious cycle this is not healthy and you must stop. Just put your foot down and let the other person know that enough is enough. The toxicity must have arrisen because of a mismatch in between you, or one person is asking something which the other cannot deliver. This gives rise to toxic chase, I think you should give each other space gradually, by stoping to talk to each other and see the benefits, and your sure to get out of it. Best of luck to you ☺️. May you find the strength.

Why do people keep going back to a toxic relationship. Is it because it’s comforting. Is it because you spent so much time and effort in that relationship that the fear of starting over is more scary than actually leaving. We will never know someone’s background as to why they don’t need it we’re just here to support them. Be there for them listen to them help them get through it. Not everyone has the strength to leave right away. Show them the positive show him what a relationship should be. They’re great guys and girls out there who are willing to date you. You just have to have faith in yourself you are worthy and you are worth knowing

I kept going back as I was made to think I was not good enough for anyone else. I was scared to take the risk to move on. I was told that no one wanted to be with me. I was threatened to stay in the relationship. I started to believe that I was not good enough. I just didn't have enough energy to start all over again. Out of 30 days, I only had 3 or 4 good days. I made myself think that this was ok. I was holding on to those good days to think this was all ok. When I wrote down the pros and cons and wrote down how many good days I had compared to bad, It was very clear I had to get out of my comfort zone. I reached out for support and I made the leap. Some days It wasn't easy for me. I worked hard to take care of myself and love myself first. Some days for sure was hard, other days it was easy. I made small goals and reflected back.

A person may keep going back into a toxic relationship because maybe they don't want to lose the sense of familiarity or because they fear of change. Maybe the other person manipulates you into staying in that relationship even though your common sense is telling you not to. Sometimes, the person who is trying to leave over thinks the situation and gets to the conclusion that the don't deserve better, that they are meant to be hurt (either physically or emotionally). Toxic relationships can quickly transform into abusive relationships, it is crucial to notice the red flags right away and seek help.