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Anonymous
August 9th, 2017 8:07pm
You can just directly stay up and say to him that you are not happy. Hiding it will cause more problems. Truth may be harsh but it's always the right way.
I think in this case you should just be honest. Strong relationships are built on mutual trust and communication. Your boyfriend will appreciate your openness and you can work together to solve the problem.
You do just that, you sit him down and you tell him. I suggest you do it in person because over the phone absolutely sucks. Now, telling your boyfriend you're not happy doesn't mean you need to break up. Tell him exactly what's making you unhappy and see if there's any way you two can overcome the problems and just be open. Too many times have I made the mistake of hiding my feelings and the relationship crashed and burned. Be open and maybe a solution will arise. If you do want to break up, don't sugar coat it, let him know that it's completely over and don't lead him on. Yes, it will hurt him. And yes, you will be so nervous. But you need to put your happiness and your future first, and if he isn't going to be part of it, you need to let him go.
It really depends on what exactly you are unhappy about. Finding out exactly what is causing you to be unhappy is the first step. Once the root cause of the feelings can lead you to the solutions you are looking for. If it's being caused by the relationship then, looking inwards and outwards to help yourself find the words you need to describe to your partner what is going on and whether or not you want to invest in continuing the relationship. Try not to come out with the typical "We need to talk" line, it can cause someone to be anxious and fear the worst. Try a simpler approach of reaching out with "I'm not feeling happy lately..." then continue with what you have to say.
Anonymous
November 9th, 2017 3:01am
Never hold off on the truth, just tell him! Start of by saying that you guys would be better off as friends and see where it goes.
Just be open and honest if he loves you things will get better if your ment to be together. If it just because your feeling down not anything to do with the relationship just tell him it shouls bring you guys together.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2017 8:29am
Talk to him directly.No point in keeping things within you.It will only effect you.I am sure he will understand you.
Communication is the most important thing when you are in a relationship with someone. Tell him you would like to talk about something important, and find a moment where both of you are relaxed (after eating, for instance) and be as honest as you can, putting yourself in his shoes at the same time.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2017 6:13pm
Be straight with him. Tell him face to face, explain why. This is because honesty is the best policy.
Anonymous
November 22nd, 2017 6:57pm
I am not authorized to give advice. However, I would like to know what do you think would be the best way to tell him that you are not happy? Communication is key.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2017 7:46pm
You should say with him and start conversation. Start conversation about how you feel. Tell him about your feelings and tell him that you are not happy and why are you not happy.
Everybody knows honesty is the best policy. You have got to tell him politely and directly how you feel. Look him in the eye and tell him to listen to you. Tell him what you are feeling towards him. However, even if you are not happy, you must stay calm and relaxed. This way, your boyfriend will receive the message that you are trying to tell him.
Honesty is the best policy, if he doesn’t know how you feel he can’t change or help you find a solution. The guilt builds if you don’t get it off your chest.
The backbone of every relationship is communication. Communication is a communion of two people who come together in this relationship of not just expressing, but also listening. You need to tell your boyfriend that you're not happy. If you do, he might take efforts for both of you to be happy :) Otherwise, you'll only suffer in silence. Don't do that. You deserve much better. He also needs to know how you're really feeling. It's important for you both.
caring for our emotions is important so be straightforward and tell your boyfriend that you're not happy
Anonymous
December 17th, 2017 2:39am
Approach your boyfriend in a calm manner and explain to him how you feel. Request him not to get angry and have a calm and composed discussion. I am sure your boyfriend will understand and will try to help you out. Just be honest and open but do not be rude and hurtful, because then it may turn into a fight.
Just tell him. Communication is important in any relationship and you should talk to the people who are close to you. Opening up about how you feel may be really uncomfortable but it's extremely beneficial in the long run. Always be cautious of how people react, although don't let that deter you from speaking about how you feel.
Tell him straight up he needs to know ! If you wait it will be worse when he finally finds out trust me
Anonymous
January 5th, 2018 2:31pm
Talk to him. Explain how you are feeling, if he really cares for you I’m sure he’ll understand. Remember, your happiness comes first
Anonymous
January 10th, 2018 10:46am
Tell your boyfriend exactly how you feel. Explain to your boyfriend what emotions are occurring within you and what you want to do to fix it.
Make him comfortable around you and just discuss some light things about life. Then slowly ask his permission to share more deeper thoughts. Tell him that we can help each other for our better understanding and making this relationship stronger. And then speak with utmost honesty about the fact and never blaming him.
Tell him honestly, but consider his feelings and talk to him. I find that deep conversations like that are done more effectively in private and without distractions
Try a hinting him about the problems you have and by this way he may become more aware of the problem you are facing. If that does not work , try couples therapy at a local counsellor .
Anonymous
January 25th, 2018 11:44pm
Be honest and firm of how you feel , and let them know you have good intentions you just don’t know why you feel this way
First you should tell him that you need to talk to him about something important, then you can start telling him exactly how you feel and give him the reasons why. Let him know if you want to try to save your relationship or if you definitely want to break up. It's best to make your intentions clear.
Just like that. People value honesty in relationships. There's no reason to beat around the bush or sugar coat what you're really feeling. Tell him you're not happy, but also tell him why. If he really wants things to work, he'll do everything he can to fix it and make you happy again.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2018 11:19am
There's no other way than being straight forward about it. Being honest and straight forward is the way to go
Be open and honest and tell him the truth. Tell him what makes you not happy. Lay it all out and don’t hide anything.
I am not happy, will you please talk with me? We need to talk more, I don't feel we communicate enough.
Telling someone you arent happy, weather its because of them, or life in general can be very difficult, however, telling them in a gentle way, sitting them down and really explaining things to them is usually the best way to go.
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