How do I tell my boyfriend I'm not happy?

You walk up to him and say: I'm not happy. Such situations are really simple but feel incredibly complex because of the pain involved. Telling your partner you are dissatisfied is as simple as reading this, but experiencing guilt, uncertainty, anxiety, apprehension isn't that simple. Thing is, Pain is just part of the process. You can't have progress without struggle. The key to go through any conflict isn't the avoidance of the pain or the salvation from it, but rather the acceptance of the pain and active-engagement in it. When you ignore your pain you suffer, but when you engage your pain you grow.

Discussing a lack of happiness in a relationship can be a tough subject to breach for anyone. If you are with this person, it's probable that you don't want to hurt them, so you may feel apprehensive about approaching this topic. That's totally understandable. However, even with apprehension, you should be able to have honest and open discussions with a partner, to disclose your feelings. That is a necessary component of healthy relationships. When approaching such a discussion, it's good to have clarity on what your feelings are exactly, and for that you may need to reflect. While reflecting, it might be helpful to ask yourself questions like "When can I tell I'm not happy?", "What triggers those not-happy feelings?", "Am I generally not happy, or am I not happy with a particular aspect of life (i.e. a job or relationship)?" Once you are able to answer such questions and have a better understanding of your feelings, start to think of ways you can express them. Consider ways you can tell your boyfriend how you feel in a way that he is likely to understand. Consider how to express your feelings in a way that is kind but honest. After, you should have clarity on what you want to say and how you will say it, so you should let your boyfriend know you want to talk about something and perhaps even set aside a particular time to do it. It's important to choose your setting wisely, it should be somewhere that is quiet and in a neutral setting. You should avoid breaching the topic in chaotic or dangerous situations such as a big family event or while driving in a car. Hopefully, with a little preparation and reflection, you will be able to have an honest conversation about your feelings.

I am very straight forward with my answers. My answers come across only when I am sure that I won't be able to continue any longer. If I am not happy then boyfriend will also not be happy in the relationship. So I guess I will say it directly to his face rather than beating around the Bush. That way it will not make one fall prey to pretentiousness. And sooner or later words will define your state of mind. So without further consoling myself, I would opt for a one to one conversation to clear the air of misconception.

Be honest with him. He should be understanding of your feelings. Do not sugar coat how you feel to make him feel better. It is okay to not be happy. That just means you have to voice your opinion and get things off your chest. That may make you guys' bond stronger by being honest. You know him, so figure out a way to be respectful and not angry. You should talk to him when you're in a clear headspace. That way you are not saying things you do not mean out of anger. I wish you nothing but the best!

I will understand my emotions clearly first like whether I am really unhappy or not before deciding to tell him. Then I will meet with him tell him that I am not contented and happy with the relationship and the reason behind it. If he understands, we will talk things out and try to find solutions to the problem. If he tries to deny and argue, I will give him some time to think about it. If i continue feel like I am really happy with what is happening , then I can't help it and talk things out with him again.

its actually great that you show the signs of communicating and not just ending things on bad terms. To achieve your goal , you need to plan the timing, dont delay it too much. plan the time, tell your partner that you have important to discuss, make a comfortable environment for both of you and start telling how have you been feeling lately about the relationship, directing towards you not being happy, indicating the causes of it. explain all the reasons and possible causes of it. if you think you can work on it with the help of your partner then Ask for the help. incase you think you cant help it, make things clear to your partner and ask them to give your time to reevaluate things again?

I would try to write a letter. Often times this can be very effective because you’re getting your words out and can reflect back on it. Re-read it a few times and give it to him when ready. Also, try talking in person. Remember to stay calm and try to be as empathetic as possible. Explain why you are not happy and what could possibly change. Be open about everything and try to listen to what your boyfriend says about the situation. Make a plan together and decide on how you both can “win” in the relationship. Good luck!

Why is it that you feel unhappy? Perhaps you should open up the conversation with the reasons you feel the way you do. Use of "I" statements is also really important in these cases. A good start might be to consider writing it all down for yourself in order to get your thoughts straight and this alone may also be helpful. You may also want to consider beforehand what your goals are in having the conversation. What do you want to get out of it? Opening up/beginning the conversation can be the hardest part, but don't overthink it, simply be direct and honest.

I belive the best way of how to tell your boyfriend that you aren't happy in your relationship is with an open and honest conversation with him! The crucial part of it is that you stay genuine and honest and truly explain to him of how you really feel. I know you might be afraid of perhaps hurting his feelings or something but at the same time you are hurting yourself by not telling him of how you truly feel about this whole relationship. You can tell him the truth yet still be gentle about it but make sure to not let any of the important parts out thats the only way of making peace with your consciousness and your boyfriend at the same time..who knows you might be even able to come to a conclussion where you both can be happy and work things out in the end :)!!!

Try to find a calm moment when you're both together in person. Think about what makes you unhappy and try to tell him what you can in the moment. You dont have to say it all, just one point that you can share with him at the moment. Then you can both think together how to solve the situation you're feeling in general or in the relationship. It can become a moment where you can explain what you're going through and your needs. You can think of what to say before, maybe the most important point, or what is hurting the most.

The best thing to do is to tell them directly. An essential part of a relationship is communication. Make sure to explain your feelings thoroughly to them, what's making you unhappy, why do you feel this way, etc. Making these feelings known to your partner prevents further complications in your relationship. You need to let them know, so that they have a chance to help and understand you. When you choose to bottle up these emotions, suspicions and misunderstandings can arise between the two of you. In my experience, it's always best to tell them directly instead of hinting it to them. There is a chance of disapproval or misunderstanding when telling them, but the most important part is putting it out there.

Communication is critical to any relationship. It is important to trust your significant other with your feelings no matter how difficult it may seem. Choose what you feel is the best time and also the earliest time to tell your partner that you have not been happy and ask if now would be a good time to have a discussion about it. Otherwise, ask your partner when might be a better time for discussion so that you can get the most attentive response. Problems should never wait long to be addressed because they can increase in severity and become much greater problems in the future. All situations are unique and require a different level of attention based on the circumstances and the people involved.

Communication is the key to nurture any sort of relationship in life. If you believe in your relationship and know that you and your partner share an intimate bond, then it's worth expressing your true and authentic feelings and thoughts with your partner. Taking this step can seem a bit scary because there's always a risk that what if our partner doesn't take it in the way we want them to, however trust in your partner, they would understand. If conversation seems hard to initiate, try to engage in activities that you both mutually enjoy doing and which give you shared happiness.

Honestly I was in a similar situation recently and how I choose to approach it to wait for a time when we were alone and it was peaceful and told him I wanted to talk. Even though it took me time to build the courage, he waited for me to be ready and I just said and right now I feel much better about it now and he didn't expect me to explain myself but it can be different for everyone. Overall, I think it's great you want to be honest about your feelings, go on, its gonna be okay

The most important thing in a healthy relationship is having good communication. If you are unhappy, tell them what's making you feel that way and what you want them to do differently. Not expressing your feelings will only worsen the problem! If no changes are made after the conversation or if they dismiss your feelings and concerns, it may indicate a bigger problem in the relationship. It is best if you are able to have this conversation in person so that your emotions and his reactions are clear. You have to love yourself before you can love someone else and if he's not treating you as you should, drop him!

Sitting down with him and having a conversation in person is always the best way - communication within relationships is an incredibly important thing. Put yourself in a situation where you're both comfy and in the right headspace and just let the words come out. If he knows you well enough, he might already know and he might be willing to help you get through things. If you're not happy in your relationship though - you've gotta find a way of talking this through with him, again in a situation where you feel safe and comfortable. He might be upset that you don't feel happy but then this way together you can work through why you're unhappy and potentially fix things. I hope things work out :)

Just doing it straight is almost always the best strategy. Do it in a structured and direct manner. Men and boys tend to understand things liturally, so if you go around the bush or do it in some indirect manner, there is a chance he will misunderstand. That having been said, it is important to not say it in an accusing manner. Say it like you would open up to a good friend, showing your vurnurability. This will, in turn, invite him to do what he can to help out in the situation. When all of this is considered, you should get to the reason why things aren't making you happy, if you are so lucky as to know it. If you dont know, then consider that there could be a load of factors contributing to your unhappiness, all of these factors definently synergize on one another. I wish you all the best and hope for the best! Cheers to you!

There is nothing better than being direct and clear. Do not complicate yourself. Just go to him and tell him how you feel. A boyfriend is like your bestfriend, he is there to listen to you as well as he wants to be heard by you. So just communicate clearly and avoid being indirect as it just makes the situation confusing. You can mention him how you are not feeling as happy or as motivated, maybe talk about the reasons behind it, about what you can do to improve this. And he will be there to listen and support you.

Having a serious conversation with someone that you care about can create anxiety especially if you've experienced a negative response in the past. It's important to identify what's making you unhappy so you can be clear when you speak to your boyfriend. Understanding any fears you have and finding support from a trusted friend or Listener is a good step. It's a good idea to find a time when you both are free of any distractions, and in a calm moment. I may be helpful to write key points down and use "I" statements to avoid him becoming defensive. If you see him becoming defensive, stop and try the statement again letting him know that you've noticed you were starting to blame and that wasn't your intention. You may need to take a break and try again.

Your boyfriend obviously cares about you. That's why the two of you are together, in a relationship. Your boyfriend must respect you as a person as well as your decisions. In terms of what you should do, how you should tell him, it depends on the reason you're not happy. If it has to do with your boyfriend you have no choice but to tell him. Otherwise, the situation will never get better and you'll only feel worse. It's hard, but sometimes there's nothing else but to rip that bandaid off and tell him. Tell him you're not happy and be direct in what you want from him in return. If he's worth having, he'll understand.

Just be honest. He should understand and be willing to listen. Don't be afraid to be open with one another. Relationships are teamwork and compromise. Take some alone time with each other everyday to discuss how each other's day went and how you are feeling. I always feel a lot better after being open and discussing my feelings with my boyfriend. I am always nervous he will not see my point of view. However, we end up talking about how we feel and always end up feeling better. Be open and be yourself.

You just have to not being afraid to communicate. Tell him nicely how you feel and be honest. By seeing your honesty and seriousness, he will immediately know that you are being honest and there you go. If you want, note all the things that are making you unhappy and just read it to him to avoid missing anything. In that way you'll be sure you did not missed any points and you will also feel much better for telling everything you needed to tell. By writing things down, especially when you tend to forget important points when talking face to face with a person, you'll actually make sure you've said whatever needed to be said. Hope that helped.

You could take him somewhere and sit him down, tell him you have something to talk about with him and then tell him that you aren't feeling happy in the relationship anymore. You can then see if there is anything he can fix or if you both agree that a break up works for both you, if he doesn't like the idea of you breaking up and takes it really badly just remember that your happiness is just as important as anyone else's! I would also recommend talking to a friend or family member before you sit down with him to get some advice.

Just be honest with him! Communication is so important. I say this to a lot of my members because it seems to be a very common issue. Our society has forgotten to actually talk about their feelings and make themselves heard. If you are unhappy with something and you need to tell your boyfriend, just do it! If he cares and loves you, then this should not be burden for him and should be more than willing to listen and help you through whatever it is you need to address. At the end of the day if you aren't happy, then how are you going to be happy together? Healthy relationships are never one sided and you should be there for one another.

News, both good and bad, is better delivered when both parties are rested and not distracted. It is important that you both are giving each other your full attention. Telling someone that you care about or cared about that you are unhappy will be alot for your boyfriend to digest. Men are basically egocentric and I do believe that most men want to make their mate happy but maybe they don't know how to do it. If you are unhappy then you need to clearly state why. Don't attack or belittle. If the relationship is worth saving, offer some suggestions on how it might improve and state that you are willing to work towards a relationship that works for both of you.

If you're having issues in your relationship, one of the most important things to do is to be communicative! Expressing your emotions and being open helps to clear up any confusion or issues and being honest and forthcoming makes bonds in relationships SO much stronger! If you're feeling unhappy, you could go directly to your boyfriend and explain to him calmly and kindly why you're feeling that way, and you guys can talk about ways to fix that problem. Going to a close friend, parent, or even school counselor can also be super helpful because having someone to talk to and get your emotions out can sometimes be a great way to help you understand yourself why you're feeling unhappy.

Opening up to our loved ones about struggle should be something intuitive to us when we have acceptance for ourselves, and our relationships are healthy. When we find that this is something difficult to do, this should prompt us to inquire about our hesitation. Are we ashamed or embarrassed? Are we engaging in avoidance behaviour to convince ourselves that all is well? Is there mistrust in the relationship as a result of insecurity? Or has our partner failed to provide emotional support in the past? These are the questions we need to ask in order to find a way forward.

The most important thing is to be honest with him. This does not mean that you have to be harsh or attempt to hurt him, but if you are unhappy with how things are going, you need to be up front and communicate that with him. I can not tell you how exactly to go about that or what to say as I do not know what exactly is making you unhappy with your current situation. However, I can say that if possible, you should have this conversation face to face in a one on one, intentional manner. This will help the communication process as you can gather much more from an in person conversation than one over text on the phone.

First, choose the right time to talk to him aka when he is mentally in a good place to accept what you are saying, then talk to him about your feelings and the reasons that made you unhappy. It can be hard but it's better than keep acting like you're happy. The longer you pretend the more you both will get hurt. If he is a good person he will respect your feelings. Of course, you can discuss if you want to give your relationship another chance or you want to break up. The only important thing is to tell him the truth.

If you aren't happy in a relationship, sometimes it's the best for both people to be honest about it. Being in a one-sided relationship doesn't benefit either partner in the long run and bottling it up and not telling him can slowly fester into resentment because you feel like you're trapped in a relationship you're not happy in. Be honest with him and tell him how you're feeling, because that lets him know right off the bat and makes you feel better for being open about how you're feeling. Especially if you feel like you don't want the relationship to continue long-term, it's best to get it out in the open sooner rather than later