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Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community Announcement Thread
by audienta
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone, In this thread, the discussions of the trauma sub-community will be announced by the hosts 24 hours in advance. After a session has happened, I'll remove the post so that the thread stays nice and clean. If you want to be tagged for future discussions, please comment or pm me and I'll add you to the list. You can find the schedule of the discussions here (clickable) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/DissociationRelatedDisorders_2335/ScheduleDiscussionsaboutDissociativeDisorders_302437/]. If you need to convert the time into your time zone, click here (clickable) [https://rarelycharlie.github.io/7cupstime]. Please let me know if you have any questions! Take care, audienta (lastly updated: 6/13/2023)
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Feedback about Discussions of the Trauma Sub-Community
by WillingToHelpU
Last post
 January 3rd
...See more Hello everyone! I hope everyone is doing well. I'm writing about the discussions of the trauma sub-community; we're looking for input to continue hosting discussions that interest the folks in this community. I've made a form here [https://forms.gle/6ugLF5hmas2vtpj9A] that asks people for their insight into what discussions they'd like to see more of so that we can keep growing the discussions. What are these discussions? These discussions are hosted throughout the week in the Trauma Support Room. For more information about when, please check out this post. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/trauma/General_2433/DiscussionsoftheTraumaSubCommunityAnnouncementThread_303372/] They are designed to have a variety of discussion topics and categories so that people can join any discussion they're interested in. Why are you looking for feedback? Growth and listening to the community are the biggest things we are looking for to make these discussions sustainable. While we offer the ability to have feedback during discussions, I've created this form for specific requests about things that people would like to see. How will this be incorporated? We are looking to expand some of the guides we use to host discussions, so these responses (collected anonymously) will help us create new guides for hosts about a wider variety of topics that people want to see. It may take some time to see a topic you've requested become a topic for discussion, but we want to incorporate as much feedback as quickly as possible, so keep an eye out for possible new discussion topics coming to discussions in 2025. More questions? Feel free to leave them below and I'll do my best to respond to them :) Thanks for any feedback you leave, it is all greatly appreciated!! Links: - to the form: https://forms.gle/6ugLF5hmas2vtpj9A - to the announcement thread: https://www.7cups.com/forum/trauma/General_2433/DiscussionsoftheTraumaSubCommunityAnnouncementThread_303372/
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Trauma Support Community Check-In for December 2024 - Universal Human Rights Month
by audienta
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 December 25th, 2024
...See more Hello everyone, welcome to this month's check-in! This month is Universal Human Rights Month 2024. (Source [https://www.cheservices.com/blog/universal-human-rights-month]) In December 1948 the UN declared the basic rights and universal freedoms, known as the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. Today, we want to celebrate stories of people who fought for their and our rights and be grateful for their wins while not forgetting that the fight for freedom and equality isn't over.  So, if you want to, revisit the Universal Declaration of Human Rights [https://www.un.org/en/about-us/universal-declaration-of-human-rights] and share a story with us in which you've stood up for your own rights. I'm sure that a lot of people in this community have had their own fights for their freedom and equal chances in life so let's celebrate our wins together. ------------------------- Trauma Support Community Check-In for December 2024 1) Which place gives you a feeling of safety and calm? 2) How do you think trauma has influenced the way you are aware of people's rights and freedoms? 3) What do you think helps to make a space safe and welcoming for everyone? ------------------------- If you have a question you'd like me to ask at the next check-in, please let me know! Take care, audienta ------------------------- Source: https://nationaltoday.com/universal-human-rights-month/#:~:text=That's%20why%20the%20world%20is,human%20rights%20of%20every%20person. ------------------------- You can get added to or removed from the trauma support taglist here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaSupport_60/ampResources_2334/TraumaSupportAutomatedTaglist_219256/]. @0Some0where0I0BELONG0 @13irth @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousAcres9344 @adventurousBranch3786 @AffyAvo @AguaNector6700 @allYou @Amelia2324 @amiableBunny4016 @AshFox2007 @AstronomySkies @audienta @Avaray @BeautifulCreation999 @BeenAKiwi @bela12345 @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @bouncyBreeze44 @BraveAdventurer @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @bubblegumPuppy68 @bumblebee2307 @Bunnylovesyou @CalmRosebud @CaptainTrev @carefulKitten1131 @CaringBrit @charmingSky5972 @Chrissy911666 @Claireolomi @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativePond1728 @communicativeYard2325 @conicha @CoolBeans29 @coolvibes @Crakyz @creativeStrings1531 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @cueball @cyanPlatypus6370 @DaniAleah156 @Dannc7c @DarkGalaxy55555 @daydreammemories @Deadtiredperson175 @delicatepunk @depressedsatellite1452 @diligentDime8651 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @Eitas @emotional232023 @emotionalTalker2260 @emylly @FallenAngel0128 @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @fluien @forcefulFriend4768 @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @Greenchoice1 @gregariousBeing5071 @Grits1910 @helpfulLion92 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Iamwhoiamwhoami @IceCream4IceCream @iloveyouxx @IndigoWhisper @InfinityandBeyond23 @inventiveOrange1313 @Itisbailey @jcqlinshots @Journey144 @jovialButterfly6752 @jr50 @Judy7 @jupitermatilde @JustSmilingThruHell @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @kindTurtle3738 @kittydragon771 @Kunoichi91Warrior @LightofWorld @LillithHolly @Lilly28 @lilmissjaded @lionsaether @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @LordFireStorm71 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyForever6990 @LovelyOrangeJuice @LoveMyMoonflowers @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @lyricalAngel70 @Marigold357 @maya6548 @mcooper7583 @Meenagirl @Mellietronx @mish3l @MistyMagic @mkaitx @Mooglethefluffy @MunchieTaters @MVObserver @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @neonOwl3442 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @NoneTheWiser @nonethewiser @notmyselftoday @Novelwriter @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @Oceanwaves16 @OffDutySeraph @OneErased @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @parkey @Parvlakin @PatienceImpatiens @pencilmarks @Petrichor2000 @Philowl @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @practicalIdeal2007 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @RansviewTheWizard @raspberry563 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @Redirecting @redmark @reliablePeach8464 @Rosa9570 @SafeSpace1776 @SapphireSoul @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @selfdisciplinedTiger5523 @sensitiveShade5337 @ShapeshiftSystem @shellofashell @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sincereThinker3571 @sleepingd0gg0 @SmileSravani @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoftForestHSP77 @SoulSupporter102 @StarlightSystemDID @stickercollection @Storyhymns1234 @straightforwardSkies7721 @sugarcookies7 @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @teenytinyturtle @The0Vetoed0System @TheAutumnWitch @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @Tinywhisper11 @TransparentPuzzle @turquoiseHemlock900 @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @underapinetree @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @unique73 @uniqueDaisy @veeceebee @Verysadperson101 @Vivikun9 @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @wontwakewontsleep @WorkingitThrough2 @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld @WriteToHeal42 @xandia @xmoonsie16x0 @SummerOfCA
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TW! CPTSD
by littleDrum1586
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hii I'm 17 and I've been struggling recently I've been anxious and in a depressive rut I'll explain so basically very very very long story as short as possible my mom got with my stepdad 9 years ago they got married and everything was great I was 8 at the time then they split and I found out at 10 that he was on h*e*r*o*I*n and that he was taking p*I*l*l*s from my mom's purse my whole life changed cuz I thought he was this great person but it turns out he wasn't then fast forward I'm 12 it has been about 2/ 1/2 years since I had last seen him and we had to move back in with him cuz we were living in a hotel and we were about to be homeless so he let us live with him and my mom warned me before we got there that he was now on m*e*t*h and I didn't know how and it was I tried to prepare myself but it was worse than I thought his house was sooo dirty and he was different he was sleeping for days at a time then awake for days at a time and he was way more angry now he would break things throw things and call my mom every name in the book he wasn't physically abusive but very mentally abusive and he used to vacuum himself because he thought he had bugs all over him (spoiler he didn't) and he would do this for HOURS vacuuming his scalp, back, face, mouth literally everywhere and he would do this in the kitchen which was right next to where I slept cuz I slept in the living room cuz we didn't have enough bedrooms and sometimes sleep wasn't an option cuz he's been vacuuming and that sounds you could get used to after a while but then he would start cussing and breaking things and you'd jolt awake straight into flight or fight and this would happen often not only that but he would do this in public too so at a gas station and I would be embarrassed and I hated riding in a car alone with him I already have some issues with men because of past trauma that has nothing to do with him so being alone in a car with a 6'4 350 pound man who has shown violent signs isn't exactly comfortable id struggle trying to keep conversation going cuz if I didn't I'd start to spiral my thoughts would go straight to "he's so much stronger than you" "he could easily take advantage of you" "I shouldn't have worn this" things like that I didn't feel safe around him and he'd try to get me to keep secrets from my mom things like "don't tell your mom I have this money" or "your mom said this to me and that was out of line of her but don't tell her I said that" which was awkward for me because now I'm picking who to betray and he was supposed to not involve us kids in the whole him thinking he had bugs on him but every time he and him were alone he would there was one time he had me record his back while he was shirtless cuz he thought there was something on him we were in public sitting in the car and I felt so awkward and trapped but I'm not confrontational and I tend to be a yes man so I didn't say anything to him but fast forward to the present day I'm 17 now and we have moved from living with him to not living with him way more times than I can count but now we finally have a very stable amd happy apartment that we live in and he has just recently came to stay with us and I'm spiraling again I told my mom over and over I didn't wanna live with him but she has made it clear that because he hasn't physically assaulted me in some way that I have no reason to be acting like that I recently got diagnosed with adjustment disorder and every time a major life change happens it causes me to go back into a depressive rut and not being able to take care of myself properly weather if that be by going on incognito websites (iykyk) or by not showering like I should or not working out and intentionally trying not to e*a*t I'm not doing good right now I'm on a therapy waiting list but I'm not doing good any advice?
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Functional neurological disorder
by rowntreejennied94
Last post
 January 21st
...See more I got out of a very physically abusive and controlling relationship at the beginning of 2020 and then in September of that year I started having horrible seizures that turned out to be ptsd and functional neurological disorder. im wondering if anyone else has gotten this diagnosis?
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Emotional Abuse
by nide12
Last post
 January 10th
...See more Domestic abuse as a child can be devastating because it is highly magnified in the mind of the child. I remember as a child, I urinated on myself because I was too scared to ask for permission from a hot-tempered teacher that I needed to use the restroom.
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I am scared.
by username4479
Last post
 January 2nd
...See more I am scared. 
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Are you a Victim or a Survivor of Child Abuse? Share Your Story and Seek Support
by Rebecca
Last post
 November 25th, 2024
...See more Are you a victim or a survivor of child abuse? This is a place where you can introduce yourself, share your story, and seek support.
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Processing trauma
by littleb4t
Last post
 October 24th, 2024
...See more I'm starting to heal. But God is it ***. I have to journal everyday. I mean, it's nice because I can set a timer and then move on to something else when I'm done. I feel a little more "in control". But I'm still having nightmares. I have so much to work through and it just feels so heavy. I deserved better. But I have to come to the realization that I will never obtain that same kind of love or safety. I can try to be that for myself but nothing comes close to having a mom who takes care of you or a dad who protects you. Nothing. 
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Abuse within the family
by username4479
Last post
 October 12th, 2024
...See more This is a thread to share points of view on abuse within the family
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How does child sexual abuse victims later become child sexual abusers themselves?
by toughBlueberry
Last post
 September 18th, 2024
...See more I recently read Perks of being a Wallflower and saw aunt Helen molest Charlie because she was molested as a child. How does her mind work while doing this? Does she do this because she finds children arousing? And how does that links to her being molested as a child? Or is it a power and control situation? How does molesting him makes her feel more powerful? Does she get sexual pleasure from touching him, or does she want to make him feel bad somehow? It would be great help if you can help me understand. Regards.
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Am I dramatic? Or traumatized?
by JustABrush
Last post
 September 6th, 2024
...See more When I was a little kid, like five and below really, I only remember a few things. I also remember that I was in foster care for awhile. Not sure how long, nobody will tell me- but possibly a year. It wasn't with a stranger, but with my mom's great step-aunt instead. Note, the woman, who I'll refer to as 'Lauren'(not her real name), is now deemed at least somewhat insane and unstable at least. I lived with her, all of her other foster kids, and her husband, my actual great uncle. I don't remember him at all, only her really.  In their house, I can only describe it as the worst period of my life honestly. I only remember two other kids there, a boy and a girl. The girl was sweet to me at least, I only ever remember her smiling at me. But the boy can only be described as a hellspawn honestly.  I was held down as he put my toys, little plastic hello kitty toys in the oven, which my mother had given me- and had to watch them melt. I had my hand pressed down on a hot burner to learn 'not to touch it', his way of helping me, apparently.  I don't remember much else from him, other than his constant smile and laugh honestly. Just rubs me the wrong way when I try to think about it.  Not sure how to process all this, considering nobody will talk to me about it, and it's not really the first case of someone in my family lashing out physically. My aunt, while only 14 when I was a kid, had been abusive- to the point of force feeding me a cup of ants, (one of those red party ones), and chasing me in my grandmothers house to hit me. Of course, everybody defends her, since she was 'just a kid', and blamed me for my young mother's spiral into depression and drug use.(My mother had been seventeen when I was born as a reference, my father in his twenties. Apparently they were both drunk, but that's not what this story is about.) I'm just conflicted on how to feel, if it's something I should just drop because I'm being dramatic or what. It was in the past and I live with my dad now, and I just don't know if I should keep shoving all this down or actually discuss it like this.
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Challenging the past
by SlvrDragonQueen
Last post
 July 10th, 2024
...See more I was subjected (along with my mom, sister and brother) to horrible abuse by my step dad. Abuse in every way there is. I've long forgiven him but I have fears that I've had for years and I have no clue why I have them as there is A LOT of my past I simply can not remember and it bugs me. I feel like if I could remember then I could face it and put it away for good. Anyone else ever deal with memory gaps and if so, did you ever figure out how to recover them? Thank you all and stay strong! 💗Queen Simona the Orthodox
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Possible Child Abuse?
by warmheartedbranch9093
Last post
 July 9th, 2024
...See more Hey, it's Rem you might recognize me from my forum post on assault a few days ago? I wanted to make this post because I'm not sure but I think I faced abuse as a child? first off, I know I am far better off than others in this forum. My parents always have me everything I asked for and we rarely ever got hit. But the thing is, my parents also weren't the kindest parents. They thought they caught my older sister using her tablet to play when we were kids and they smashed it to pieces with a hammer. She hadn't even been playing with it. My mother used to drip molten candle wax on our hands whenever we lied until I was 10. Anyone of us caught misbehaving would be locked in the balcony or the living room, depending on how bad we were, for hours at a time in isolation. My father once threatened me with a knife for arguing with him when I was 8. It gives me nightmares 8 years later. At this point my sister and I rely on ourselves and each other to raise each other more than we do our parents. aside from that, emotional manipulation was, is rampant here. Anywhere from "you are a disappointment to me" to "you refuse to get better grades because you've never loved me or cared about my happiness" to "I want you to hit me for ever trusting you to be anything but useless" Am I crazy?? Because I feel like there are a couple red flags here but also, they give me everything I need and want. I just want to know if I'm over reacting or if I have a reason to be upset
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T/w:- Domestic Violence
by FeministDidi2000
Last post
 July 8th, 2024
...See more I m not sure what to do... Everything is about money in this world my ex husband was convicted of domestic violence was sentenced to jail for life but he got released today by giving money to authorities and he's running after me i m so scared I m just trapped in the grip of power and money I m not sure what to do anymore i face only victim blaming even here in 7 cups in rooms none listened to me properly and even listeners I feel so hopeless 

Trauma Support

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Welcome to Trauma Support! We aim to provide a safe, empowering, inclusive, supportive and proactive community for trauma survivors to have the opportunity to begin healing from our experiences, in a non-judgmental environment. We also want to help spread awareness about trauma and its impact on individuals' lives while validating the members of this community, reducing the isolation many people feel. Therefore, trauma survivors as well as loved ones of them or people who want to learn about trauma are welcome here. 

What are the different forum topics for Trauma Support?

Bluelight, Medical & Veterans Trauma Support: Support for those who experience or witness trauma at work

Check-Ins & Prompts:  Regular check-ins and prompts, created by our leadership team

Child & Domestic Abuse: For people who have experienced child abuse, domestic abuse or even both

Coping with Attachment Difficulties: Help and support for people with attachment difficulties

Creativity Corner: A creative space for poetry, art, and healing and recovery quotes

Dissociation & Related Disorders: A place to discuss your struggles with dissociation and how it relates to your trauma

Introductions & Welcomes: Are you new to the Trauma Community? Share a little about yourself!

Journaling Stories: This area is for sharing your story or creating a diary

PTSD & Complex Trauma: Share stories and seek support for PTSD and complex PTSD

Resources: Share and seek resources here

Sexual Assault and Sexual Abuse: A place for those affected by sexual assault and sexual abuse

Trauma through Bullying: A place to seek support around the issue of suffering traumatic experiences as a result of bullying

Trauma through War: This section is there for people who have been impacted by war

Traumatic Loss: For survivors of traumatic loss of any kind

How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). 

Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.

In addition to that, you can take part in discussions or become a host for them.

Finally, you could also have a look at the posts of our trauma support sub-community writing team or even join it. 

Helpful Threads

Taglist: Do you want to stay up to date with our community? Then join our taglist to be notified for important posts.

Discussions: Here you can find out when the next discussion takes place.

Trauma Support Room Access: Find out how you can access the trauma support room here. The room is open during the discussions and on Sundays.

Masterpost: Within this thread, you can find a number of educative and supportive posts that our writing team has written.

Leadership Team: In this thread, you can get to know our leadership team.

Trauma Support FAQ

Are there any sub-community specific guidelines that we need to adhere to? 

- Yes, all sub-community specific guidelines can be found below and should be followed in addition to the general forum guidelines.

How can I give feedback or ideas to the leadership team?

- You can either pm audienta directly, use this form to contact the forum leaders, or this form for general feedback about the trauma support sub-community.

Help... I still have a question! 

You can ask your questions in this thread and someone will respond to you as soon as possible.

Community Guidelines

These are the Trauma Support Sub-Community Guidelines, which have been drawn up in addition to the 7 Cups main guidelines and are specific for the Trauma Support community:

  • Uphold and comply with the 7 Cups main guidelines
  • Respect everyone, members and listeners alike
  • Do not discourage/be unsupportive/blame/judge one another for their past
  • No graphic, in depth descriptions or pictures which could be triggering for others - in forums, chat and support session
  • Please always add a trigger warning if you believe your thread could be potentially triggering/harmful and/or contains one of the topics on this list. Also, please add a short topic description to the trigger warning (e.g. "Trigger Warning: Domestic Abuse) and if you're in a group support chat, wait a moment to see if everyone is comfortable with the topic. If not, agree on a time span during which the person who's not comfortable with the topic leaves the chat. Once they come back after this time span, change the topic.
  • Cursing not permitted and must be asterisked. (It is fine to vent and to express appropriate anger, but as curse words have often been used during abusive and traumatic experiences, we ask members and listeners to asterisk abusive/curse words to avoid triggering and upsetting members where possible and to maintain a respectful environment and to encourage positive and healthy expression of anger.)
  • Forums postings made by listeners and members should be transparent, made in English and should not be blocked out using colouring to disguise content of wording/messages sent between members/listeners, to maintain the safety of all users of the trauma sub community and to ensure all rules are being complied with.
  • Everyone is unique and their experiences are individual to them. Everyone’s experiences and how they think and feel about these are valid. Everyone reacts to traumatic experiences differently. This will be respected and appreciated without judgement.
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