Self-Forgiveness - A Short Video Message & Discussion
Watch this 3 minute video of me!It is a video message for all of youon the topic that has been on my mind this week: of self-forgiveness!
To me self-forgiveness is something we all can practice every day! Please watch the video and share your thoughts on this topic here :)
For those of you who don't know me yet, hello! I look forward to hearing what you have to say!
I chose to forgive myself from lending people money that others work so hard for it. I also forgive the other party that betray me. Because i think if you think in big picture i doing a charity. I have a big heart to doing that. And i believe everyone deserve a second chance. Including myself
Self forgiveness is super imporant and something I have struggled with for as long as I can remember. I've gotten to a point where I am better, but not exactly where I want to be. I am a good person, I have made mistakes in the past and I will make mistakes again. I'm only human. Learning from them and moving foward is the best thing I can do for myself and for the future. I deserve to be forgiven by myself just as I forgive others!
For holding in to things way past due
@Laura sucking at life.
I think forgiveness must be a process, because whenever I think I've done it, stuff comes back up again. It's really hard.
"Whoever you were in that moment, let that be ok." Wow. That's powerful. Whoever I was in that moment -- scared. Hurt.
I think the same can often be said of those who hurt me. Who they were in that moment was scared and hurt.
The issue for me is both patience for me to learn from my mistakes, as well as patience with others who have hurt me, to learn from theirs.
I really needed to watch that video. I've struggled for as long as I can remember with being super hard on myself when I make mistakes big or small. I don't want to struggle anymore
My biggest point of guilt and shame is that I was a very challenging child with ADHD, depression, anxiety, strong will, and eccentric peculiarities. I was raised by my loving, older parents who did their best to raise me well. My mum, in particular, took the brunt of my behavioral and emotional issues and was always there when I woke up with social anxiety nightmares, or while I cried myself to sleep. She also didn't have a lot of patience, though, and had a tendency to be anxious and I think my high needs, even when I was feeling good was to much for her. Particularly when I got older. At the end if middle school, I attempted suicide. When I started going to high school, I lost my virginity and had tried cigarettes, cannabis, alcohol, mushrooms, and LSD all within the first few months. I started hanging out with older kids and hanging out on the streets. Mostly because I felt bored at home and was looking for adventure and acceptance. I wound up going to a therapeutic boarding school, which may not have been the best thing for me, because after that I still struggled and attempted suicide. But around the age of 20, I started going to community college, all while staying at home and being reliant on my folks for everything, even help with my homework. In hindsight, I would say they encouraged this reliance unintentionally. But I had so many mental and emotional struggles, I think they just were doing whatever they could to help me.
Anyway, I eventually got on the right path and I'm doing much better now, although I still struggle. My mum passed away, though, five years ago of brain cancer. Although at various points, I apologized to her for how hard it must have been too raise me, and she said she forgave me and tried to stress that she had unconditional love for me. But I never got to have that final talk with her where I could get some closure on the matter. I just feel like I put my parents through the wringer to the nth degree and their lives would have been so much different and possibly better if it hadn't been for me. I feel trapped in my guilt and shame and I'm working forgiving myself because both of my parents have forgiven me, but I just struggle with it.
I fluctuate to intensely atelophobic at imes so it's definitely true that we can be out harshest critic. Something that is probably obvious but which struck me recently is how different I am around different people, in terms of confidence and positivity though. Whilst I am my harshest critic in some situations, there are people who bring out a better version of me :) I'm sure this is true for others too x
@Littlegreykitten002. Oh, yes. This is true.
I forgive myself for not having the most respect for myself and allowing my temple to be misused
