Self-Forgiveness - A Short Video Message & Discussion

I belong to Celebrate Recovery which focuses on self forgiveness a lot. It's hard when people in your life in the past taught you that self forgiveness is a selfish thing. I've hurt someone I love and though he has forgiven me, it's interesting to see how I am still enslaved by shame and guilt all because I can't forgive myself. I've had to look at my childhood and identify why I think self forgiveness is so bad. Best wishes to you and everyone on this journey!

I forgive myself for not putting myself first and hanging on to guy who treats me horiably because I dont want to be alone.

I forgive myself for not dealing with my issues sooner. I did what I thought was best in the situations I was in, while trying to do as little harm to others as I could, and that is the most important thing.

Today, I forgive myself for making mistakes.. for not living up to his expectations.. for giving him fuel to scold me.. for brushing him off, rolling my eyes, or using the wrong tone of voice.. for not learning to do things right and continuing to make the same mistakes over agin. I forgive myself for feeling guilty and hypocritical, thinking 'how can I say he has a problem, when I must have just as much of a problem.' I forgive myself for not being perfect.. and I forgive myself for feeling like I have to be.

I love this idea and its something I think I need to start practicing because I am very hard on myself and it makes me act like a crazy with others sometimes. I am going to forgive myself. Learning how to is my task. I think for me it will take some work. ♡

That video is really helpful, it made me actually want to believe that I'm capable of self forgiveness, and that I deserve it. It's high time I stopped reliving past mistakes and went on to experience my future.

@Laura Thank you for your contribution to this community, because I dont know what we would do without you!

I forgive myself of anything that I have yet to realize that I need to forgive myself of, that I regret or feel hurt by.

@Laura Thanks for that Laura !! I really needed this.

You should never dwell on your past mistakes, your past is not what defines you. But you should also not use it as a crutch, don't make your past an excuse. Focus on now. If you have one foot in tomorrow, and one foot in yesterday, you are pissing all over today. Focus on now, worry about now. Not about what you have done in the past. Life is a car ride, you can't focus on what you've already driven by.