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Shine Bright: I am SH-free for ____ Days

ASilentObserver March 29th

Well done! 💪✨  (Number) days free from self-harm is a significant accomplishment.  Please take a moment to acknowledge your strength and resilience and celebrate with us.

Here are a few points to reflect on and celebrate: 

  • What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra? Share your tips to inspire others.
  • What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope. Reflect on the progress you've made.
  • What are you looking forward to in the future? Use this milestone as a springboard for setting new goals or focusing on activities you enjoy.
  • Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead?


Start sharing with us. We believe in you. 

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theboymoana March 29th

@ASilentObserver

0 days not even a hour never will stop I hate me and every one hate me and is what deserve 

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ASilentObserver OP March 29th

@theboymoana I am sorry you're feeling really low about yourself right now, moana. Hating yourself can be incredibly difficult to deal with. But please know you have all of us here with you to listen to and support you. How are you coping with these negative feelings?


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theboymoana March 29th

@ASilentObserver

coping bad ways don’t know how handle things try get help all same no one cares don’t know how do anything right

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ASilentObserver OP March 30th

@theboymoana That sound like a lot, moana. I am sorry to hear you are experiencing such difficult feelings. It can be challenging when we struggle with negative emotions and feel like we don't have the skills to cope effectively. 


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@ASilentObserver


What helped you stay strong these past few days? Was it a specific coping mechanism, a supportive person, or a personal mantra?

What helped me stay strong is positive thinking, mantras and relaxing and leaning away from distress when I first start to feel it.



What positive changes have you noticed since being SH-free? Maybe you have more energy, better sleep, or a renewed sense of hope.
Reflect on the progress you've made.

Positive changes I've noticed since being sh-free is more strength, courage and wisdom.

What are you looking forward to in the future?

I'm looking forward to being more in control of my fears and doubts no matter what the situation.


Write a message to your future self: What words of encouragement would you tell yourself for the days ahead?


Dear me,

It seems impossible, but you can do it. You've made it this far and done a lot. It doesn't seem like much but it is. Stay humble, conscious and grateful. You can have your cake and eat it too. You have the boundaries, tools and skills to break old bad habits, patterns and paradigms. You know progress beats perfection any day. Just keep going.

Love and above, me.
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ASilentObserver OP March 30th

@communicativePond1728 That is great, thank you pond. That sounds like you've gained valuable lessons from your journey so far. Please continue to keep up your positive attitude and determination. We all appreciate you and all steps you taking in this healing journey. 

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@ASilentObserver I'm pretty much back to day one but each failure means a comeback.

@ASilentObserver thanks for posting stuff like this and supporting people so much. It's awesome.

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GlisteningEmbers March 29th

@ASilentObserver

I'm self harm for I have no idea how many days. I'm proud to say that the urge hasn't even crossed my mind since November. 

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ASilentObserver OP March 30th

@GlisteningEmbers That is amazing, Embers. Congratulations on about 4 months without the urge to sh. It takes so much strength and resilience to work through these challenging emotions. How do you feel about this milestone?


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Not since February :)

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ASilentObserver OP March 30th

@majesticCreature5447 Thank you for sharing with uss creature. Congratulations on being SH free since February! How do you feel about that milestone?


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LoveMyMoonflowers March 30th

@ASilentObserver

I’ve been sh free for four days, i think. i was close to relapsing last night but didn’t. :') 

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LoveMyMoonflowers March 30th

four or five days 

ASilentObserver OP March 30th

@LoveMyMoonflowers yayyyy that is awesome, moon.Congratulations on four- five days without SH. It definitely takes a lot of determination and strength to stay away from SH, and I am proud of you for all your small steps. How did you feel when you were close to relapsing?


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LoveMyMoonflowers March 30th

@ASilentObserver

idk how i felt 😞 it was all too much. idk idk idk… 

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LoveMyMoonflowers March 30th

i’m sorry 

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Georginahowe March 30th

Im a day clean from self harm I have MMD( major depressive disorder) and BPD .

What helped me stay strong is that knowing that friends here are to support me and they will be sad if relapsed and thinking to myself its not worth it you've been clean for a year before you can do it again a coping mechanism,  I use is removing items from room in would hurt myself with , watching a favourite tv program ,any type of craft . A supportive person friend a turn to is josiah cooper without him would struggle thank you coopie ❤ 

 @mydogliz8

@josiahcooper 

@sunkissedwishes

@ brighteshinningstar 

@tesonL

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Georginahowe March 30th

@compassoniatearrow

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JosiahCooper March 30th
@Georginahowe Aww, you can do it! I know you've done it before :) Thanks so much for being my friend too! *all the hugs* Wouldn't have much to look forward to if didn't have Georgia in my life. You're always cherished, and will try to be here to support ya, when you need it. 
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TesonL March 30th

@Georginahowe I appreciate you mentioning me. I'm glad I can be there for you and I'm glad you are a day clean now. It's the first step to being another year clean. You can do it if you set your mind to it. I'm glad to continue to support you.

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MydogLiz8 April 4th

@Georginahowe <3 

     I way believe in you!!  When the time is right you will be free of Self-Harm, I know this disease is soo hard to overcome, but you got this!! <3 Congrats on all the steps you've taken so far and remember... "Progress Not Perfection".   you-cant-chop-down-a-tree-with-one-swing-gifkaro.gif

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Georginahowe April 4th

@MydogLiz8

Thank you liz im not doing good right now this helped ❤ 🤗 

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Kristynsmama March 31st

@ASilentObserver

i am sharing this to give everyone some hope.  I am self harm free for 5,208 days.  So you don’t have to do the math, that’s a little over 14 years!  I don’t even think about it anymore.  There is hope that you can overcome your self harming behaviors.  I am proof of that!

Kristynsmama

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ASilentObserver OP April 1st

@Kristynsmama That is awesome, Kristy  Congratulations on 5208 days. What has helped you stay on this journey?


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Kristynsmama April 1st

I don’t know what exactly has helped the most. But first of all, I have a good support system that has encouraged me along the way. Secondly, I tried really hard and I wanted to be free of self harm more than anything else. And I was willing to do anything to stop.

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Georginahowe April 1st

@Kristynsmama

Well done congrats

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i’ve been sh free for 2 days now 

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ASilentObserver OP April 3rd

@LoveMyMoonflowers Very cool and congratulations Moon. We are all here thinking and rooting for you. Keep taking your small steps. I believe in you

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@ASilentObserver

thank you obs 💙 

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SoulSun808 April 5th

@ASilentObserver

I'm sh free since january, but in the last few days it's coming back. I honestly don't think I can resist much longer. Things are stressing me out for a while now and I don't really have an other option to releave myself from it and since it's been so long that I didn't do it, the preassure grows every day.

I don't want to do it because of my family and I will dissapoint them again, but there's no other option. I can't scream, I can't justs run outside and go anywhere, because of other reasons but I feel trapped here in this life. Trapped in myself, because I don't do anything against it and I'm not brave enough to do anything. I just don't want to live like this anymore...

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ASilentObserver OP April 8th

@SoulSun808 Thank you for opening up and i am proud of you for being SH free since Jan. But it seems like you are feeling overwhelmed by the pressures in your life right now. Feeling trapped and unable to see a way out can be difficult. Please know you aren't alone in this and we are all here with you to listen to and support you, Soul. Is there anyone you feel you could talk to about how you're feeling? Also, you can share anything and everything with us as well. 


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SoulSun808 April 18th

@ASilentObserver thank you very much for your concern. I can't tell anybody about this because nobody know about the Sh I did. And I don't think they would understand, even after I tried to quit. So yes, you're right there is much pressure on me, mostly of myself and I don't know how much longer this can go on like this. 

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ASilentObserver OP April 22nd

@SoulSun808 you are feeling trapped by this secret and the pressure you've put on yourself. The weight of keeping this hidden is weighing heavily on you. How do you feel about seeking support from someone you trust?


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SoulSun808 April 22nd

@ASilentObserverIm very insecure about telling people that know me in real life and don't knwo what I went trough and if I don't explain myself properly they wont understand me. So I would have to tell them all of it because thats the only way I would feel good about it and I'm not sure if I could do that.

Like go through everything again. It was hard to go through it alone but in the end I did it until this point and idk maybe it could go on like this a little longer, until im more confident about sharing this topic.

But I also know that I have to tell them anywhen, so maybe I should not wait too long, because they could be mad about it...

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ASilentObserver OP April 24th

@SoulSun808 I understand you are hesitant to share your experiences with those close to you because you're worried about how they might react. You hae done so much work to get to where you are today, and it's completely valid to take your time finding the right moment to open up. What thoughts come up when you consider sharing with someone you trust?


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SoulSun808 April 24th

@ASilentObserver First of all, let me say thank you again, for being here. ^^ You are a wonderful person, thank you.

I don't want them to feel sorry for me and see me differently than before. I also don't want them to behave differently around me than they do now or to tell other people they know. So I dont want to tell them because I'm sure thats a heavy topic for them too and it must be hard to be told to keep such a big secret. So I don't want to put that burden on them.

But I'm also just scared of their reaction, maybe thea will ask a lot of questions? Or maybe they just be silent and I don't know at all what they think about it and about me.

I don't know what would be worse.

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ASilentObserver OP April 25th

@SoulSun808 It looks like you care deeply about how others view you and the potential impact telling the truth may have on your relationships. What are some of the reasons you haven't told anyone yet?


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SoulSun808 April 25th

@ASilentObserver I feel like the fear of what others are thinking might be the biggest reason. Im just so a scared person if it comes to social contact. And I keep thinking that I should change that and that it wont be so bad to tell my colse friends but theres just something i cant name, that keeps me from doing it.

I also dont know. What if I can't ever tell them? They wont forgive me if I tell them eventually if it takes a long time. What if they leave me?

SoulSun808 April 30th

@ASilentObserver

Im not ah free anymore. I did it one time and I tell everyone i cut myself during cooking. They seem to believe me. Good. I try to not do it because it's summer and in this time it's most stressful to cover anything up...

And recently someone told me not to open up with friends but I'd like to tell them because rn it feels like a heavy secret and I feel stressed and anxious about it...

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SoulSun808 April 24th

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cierrasoccer196 April 6th

@ASilentObserver

Clean since February 1st, but am currently here distracting myself from my thoughts. Im thinking about doing it now but don't think I actually will. Lately I've been feeling like this a lot but not actually doing it. But yay 9 weeks clean is I think my new record

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ASilentObserver OP April 8th

@cierrasoccer196 That is awesome and a great achievement, Cierra. Congratulations on nine weeks without sh. We are all here for you to support. Keep taking your small steps. 


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cierrasoccer196 April 8th

@ASilentObserver

Thanks, it's just hard to be easy on myself sometimes <3

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ASilentObserver OP April 10th

@cierrasoccer196 I understand that, it is hard but please know you are not alone in this. 

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cierrasoccer196 April 10th

@ASilentObserver

Thanks but I relapsed 2 days ago

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ASilentObserver OP April 11th

@cierrasoccer196 it is okay, it is healing journey, cierra. we will get better. 

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ASilentObserver OP April 22nd

@cierrasoccer196 That is a great achievement, Cierra. Congratulations on nine weeks without sh. What feelings come up for you when you think about this?


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