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Number of ratings564 Number of reviews265 Listens toTeens & Over 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceJul 4, 2017 Last activein last week PathStep 2,450 People helped795 Chats4,487 Group support chats5,090 Listener group chats3,548 Forum posts12,063 Forum upvotes35,514
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"You are always one decision away from a totally different life."

Hello everyone, I'm known as Obs and I'm one of the members of the Community Management Team. 

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Please feel free to PM me with any questions or doubts regarding our community and roles. I am here with you to help with the best of my efforts while we keep building our community better each day with team efforts. 

I am unable to take chat requests right now as I am unable to respond timely. I request you to connect with other available listeners here-  Browse Listeners. We all are here with you to listen to and support you. 

Do not say, "I am having a bad day." Say, "I am having a character-building day." - Les Brown

Have a wonderful day and thanks for stopping by!!


Recent forum posts
Thanksgiving Trivia Challenge! Let us know you made it through the quiz by posting here!
Group Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone,  How well do you know your Thanksgiving trivia? Give it a shot and share your score in the comments.  Tag your 5 listener/ member friends to take this quiz and share their scores. And, they can tag any 5 listeners/ members they know.  Take the quiz here! [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdmop4tTDUdhsT8o45GBTU2NMBINVnT-NrTZ24YT49E9VznoQ/viewform] Come and join us to celebrate this Thanksgiving with us. Thank you!! 
Cupsgiving 2024: Gratitude Train for Group Support
Group Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 11 hours ago
...See more Hello all,  Group Support is a significant part of 7Cups to get support. I have been part of Group Support for 7 years and witnessed how it evolved into a strong, inclusive, and therapeutic place to feel comforted, heard, and empowered.  Here are the 5 key lessons I picked up from my personal experience in group support.  * We are the group support. Group Support is not the responsibility of one person or a handful of users to maintain its therapeutic environment. It is a collective effort and everyone is responsible and accountable for it. * Compassion drives group support. We have different demographics and experience diverse challenges in our daily lives. But it is our thoughtful participation and compassion that help everyone to feel encouraged and empowered. It is our compassion that allows us to listen to someone attentively and make them feel heard. Because we know what it feels like to be unheard.  * The problem is the path. It is the core value of our community and every time there is a challenge in the group support, everyone comes together to figure out a way to tackle the problem and go above and beyond in their efforts to ensure the support.  * Continuous scaling of the support. I know many members of the group support who initially joined to share and receive support and later became part of giving support to others. Many of them became listeners and many continued to support through their member accounts in the group support. Every time someone feels heard and comforted, it means more hands joined to support others. Many inspired by group support experiences, created offline support groups for their neighborhood to bring support to their block, city, or town.  * Group Support builds connections. Many members are regulars of the group support space and they built some healthy and meaningful connections to rely on for support and accountability buddies for each other. I like the way how group support fosters care, support, upliftment, and companionship.  Group support is the outcome of the efforts including members, listeners, and leaders in different group support roles. So as we celebrate Cupsgiving, join us to recognize the efforts of the entire group support with a few special mentions for their above-and-beyond efforts.  Group Support Moderation We would like to share our gratitude for all our group support moderators for their careful and eye-to-detail work in the group chats. Their above-and-beyond efforts in moderation help to foster an inclusive and uplifting environment in the group support for all. Their proactive presence and swift actions help to de-escalate any potential disruptions to the therapeutic environment. Some of the awesome moderators of 2024 are: * @Communitymodanne * @Communitymodwillow * @CommunitymodEver  * @Suryansh, and * @Kaylabella as the top 5 moderators for their contributions in responding to the moderator requests form. 280 out of 385 requests were responded to by them until now this year.  Some of the other names included in the list are CommunitymodEden, CommunitymodIris, Kenzolena, CommunitymodCharlie, Lou73, and so on. The entire community is grateful to you for your help and support and for giving us a safe space to participate and feel empowered and heard.  Also thank you to all users who reported and helped moderators to de-escalate the situations that required immediate attention. Thank you for helping us keeping the group support safe and inclusive for all. Some of the key mentions are  * @Greenimpulse * @Heartsandrosesandpaws * @Mytwistedsoul * @Hotaru419 * @SleepingPersonForever * @Nephiliminblack * @Disneywoman * @Apeatrice Listener Support Requests We are also grateful to all listener group chat leaders for their active presence and guidance in the Listener Group Support chats. Their contributions and help in responding to Listener Support Requests helped many listeners feel heard, supported, and guided on their queries. Some of the proactive leaders of 2024 so far are:  * @Heartsandrosesandpaws * @JustSophia * @Fuechsin * @Jenna * @LittleBirdie30 are the top 5 Listener Group Support Leaders who offered peer support, chat support, and guidance to 89 listeners out of 229 requests submitted through the Listener Support Request form until now in 2024.  Also a big shout out to all listeners who reach out with their questions and seek help and guidance. It is okay to ask questions. Questions help us to explore, learn, and grow, so thank you for taking steps to grow in your listener journey.  We will continue to add more gratitude shares for our group support leaders here in the upcoming days. If you notice anyone doing great work or you are grateful for their efforts, please join us and share your appreciation and gratitude for them.  Thank you for uplifting and empowering group support chats..  @suryansh @emmae @hopedreamlove @Lou73 @Heather225 @Justsophia @Kieran000 @Kenzolena
Join us for the Cupsgiving Celebration in the Group Support Chats
Group Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more Hello everyone,  Here is a discussion schedule post for the Cupsgiving Event in the Group Support Chats: Nov 12, 2024 (Tuesday) - Compliment War in the Special Events Chat * Adult: 12.00 pm Eastern time * Teens: 12.30 pm Eastern time Nov 14, 2024 (Thursday) - What is motivation? discussion in the Positivity Corner Chat  * Adults:  12.00 pm Eastern time * Teens: 11.00 am Eastern time Nov 16, 2024 (Saturday)- Believing in Yourself discussion in the Positivity Corner Chat * Adults- 12.00 pm Eastern Time * Teens - 11.00 am Eastern Time w/ KatePersephone Nov 18, 2024 (Monday), Families and Thanksgiving discussion in the Positivity Corner Chat * Adults - 11.00 am Eastern time * Teens- 12.30 pm Eastern time  Nov 19, 2024 (Tuesday), Believing in Yourself discussion in the Positivity Corner Chat  * Adults - 11.00 am Eastern time * Teens - 12.00 pm Eastern time Nov 20, 2024 (Wednesday), Thanksgiving Trivia in the Special Events Chat  * Adults: 11.00 am Eastern time * Teens: 12.00 pm Eastern time  Nov 21, 2024, (Thursday), Would you rather session in the Special Events Chat  * Adults: 11.00 am Eastern time * Teens: 12.00 pm Eastern time Nov 23, 2024 (Saturday), Gratitude share session in the Positivity Corner Chat * Adults - 11.00 am Eastern time * Teens: 12.00 pm Eastern time  Let's come together to give thanks and connect with our community. We look forward to seeing you there.
Weekly Prompt #41: How do you perceive your own resilience and ability to cope with challenges?
Depression Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hello all, I hope you are all being easy on yourself this week. A few weeks ago we discussed: How does your depression affect your ability to care about and take care of others? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/depression/General_2427/WeeklyPrompt40Howdoesyourdepressionaffectyourabilitytocareaboutandtakecareofothers_336335/] Thank you to all who participated and shared their thoughts and questions for discussion. They were thought-provoking questions and thoughts. I hope you all did too. If you didn't share yours, please share them here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/depression/General_2427/WeeklyPrompt40Howdoesyourdepressionaffectyourabilitytocareaboutandtakecareofothers_336335/] and I look forward to reading and discussing them with you This week's prompt: How do you perceive your resilience and ability to cope with challenges? To perceive your resilience and ability to cope with challenges, you can reflect on your past experiences, identify your strengths, ways to embrace a positive mindset etc. Let's get started and share your thoughts with us. I look forward to hearing all your thoughts and ideas.  Join us in the 24/7 Depression Support Group Chat [https://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php]
Weekly Prompt #41: Are there any underlying beliefs or fears that fuel your anxiety?
Anxiety Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 Monday
...See more Hello all and welcome back to another discussion,  A couple of weeks ago, we discussed what kind of behaviors anxiety has caused you to engage in. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/WeeklyPrompt40Whatkindofbehaviorsdoyouthinkanxietyhascausedyoutoengagein_336332/] Thank you to all who participated and shared your thoughts with us. I appreciate you all. I hope all who may read it find it relatable, too. If anyone hasn't shared them yet, please share them here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/anxiety/General_2428/WeeklyPrompt40Whatkindofbehaviorsdoyouthinkanxietyhascausedyoutoengagein_336332/], and I look forward to reading and discussing them with you.  This week's prompt:  Are there any underlying beliefs or fears that fuel your anxiety? There are often underlying beliefs and fears that fuel anxiety and these can be categorized into a few key areas like core beliefs, fears, negative thinking patterns, etc. Let's start to discuss and share these behaviors and I look forward to hearing your thoughts and experiences. Did you join us in the Anxiety Support Chat? It is available every Wednesday for the entire day. [https://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php]
Relaunch: Project Group Support Buddy- 3.0
Group Support / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 October 27th
...See more Hello all,   I hope everyone is doing well. I am excited to announce the relaunch of the Group Support Buddy program. The buddy program is one of the integral aspects of group support leadership, but it didn’t reach its full potential due to one or more challenges. One of the challenges was syncing the availability of the buddy who offers support and guidance and one who seeks guidance. As we are a global team and due to other variables, it isn't easy to sync the availability.  With this in mind, we made a few changes to restructure the program.  How would the new process work?  It involves a support request form that any group support leader can submit with their concerns or challenges related to the group support. Then, one of the experienced group support leaders can reach out to help and guide them through the issue within 24 hours.  Who is a group support leader?  A group support leader is any room supporter, chatroom moderator, host, or discussion leader.  Here is a brief comparison of what new versions have:  Comparison of Old & New Group Support Buddy Program Comparison Points Old Version New Version How to request support? 1-1 through private message Form-based Response Time 48 hours Within 24 hours Who will offer guidance & support Paired with a dedicated big buddy Anyone in the Group supports leadership to ensure coverage and timely support Who can seek support A new group support leader, ex: new room supporter, moderator Both new and existing group support leaders Who can become a buddy One who completed at least 1-2 weeks in their role. At least a month in their role Buddying timeframe First 2 weeks from starting the new role. Anytime in the given role. Questions can come up at any point of being in the role. Here is the group support buddy request (GSBR) form that you can save and bookmark. (Form link) [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfc9tR-XeP0TpqJ4RsTF1x3WsDEbaseBsu1ZJ3tP5bS6l9bvQ/viewform] For ease and quick access, the form will also be available under the Member Group Support section [https://www.7cups.com/listener/training/leadership/fdc3639b1dcb416bb0dc1033dcb0831b/] of the Become a Leader page and under the Resources section [https://www.7cups.com/forum/groupmod/] of the Group Support Community. Thank you all group support leaders for going above and beyond in their efforts to support the community in the group support chats. Let’s continue to support each other and in our roles to learn and grow together.  If you have any questions, please feel free to message Suryansh [http://7cups.com/@Suryansh]or me aka (ASilentObserver [http://7cups.com/@ASilentobserver])
Grief Support Session Resumes!
Grief & Loss / by ASilentObserver
Last post
 November 5th
...See more Hello all,  I want to inform everyone that we'll have a Grief Support Session starting this Saturday, 19th of October, at 8.00 pm ET time zone in the Support Session group chat. All are invited to join and participate to explore & discuss the experiences and emotions related to grief. @CaringEzra will lead the sessions. Listeners who are experiencing grief are also welcome to join and participate from their member accounts. We look forward to seeing you there! Note: If anyone like to host some support sessions, please do send me a pm at @ASilentObserver Any and all help will be much appreciated. tagging some of the friends: @Jaeteuk, @Happy2Help18, @reallyoverallofit @jonghyunnie, @BlueDarkAurora, @mytwistedsoul 
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Wonderful person and friend. They are down to earth. Very helpful.
They made me feel a bit better and they took the time to explain things, so I could better understand. Thanks for your time.
I texted Obs although it was clearly mentioned on his bio that he wouldn't be able to take new member requests and it's all because I was unable to trust anyone else but him. And he didn't let me down. I never expected such humble and kind responses from anyone. I'm literally crying.... May God bless you and keep you safe and happy all the time.
Very kind and understanding, and fun to talk to
really observant and kind : ) obs is a great listener 100% recommend
this listener was emphatic loved chatting with obs would love to chat again.
Really well done on all accounts!
Obs is great
coolest coolest helpful person who knows how to take feedback and make a real difference on 7 cups
Obs has been tremendous support for me , always. I appreciate his presence in cups for responding promptly and doing what he can to be supportive of both listeners and members in 7 cups. Ive known him since around past 6 years and its always a pressure to see him in the rooms, the way he responds to people and his dicussions. It all shows his care and passion.
Really kind and helpful
really good listener!
Obs is always ready to help with questions and is very knowledgeable. It is a pleasure to have Obs here.
Best listener ever!
Helpful and open to understand
Very kind caring and supportive
incredible, good at time mangement
A very nice person. They try there best as Group Support Manager here at 7cups.
Very supportive. Very caring. Very understanding. Takes the time to listen to feedback from other Community Leaders. Very Professional. A very wise person.
ASlientObserver is a warm, caring person. They love being in group support. They are a good leader. They try there best to set a good example. They are good group support manager.
Always support and positive Sent information that is important to me to assistance me and also enhance my journey and support my chosen path.
amazinggggggggg
Obs is so patient, understanding, kind which makes them an amazing listener.
Obs is So helpful
We patient explaining answers to my questions.
Obs is such an amazing person, and I appreciate all of the contributions they have made to this wonderful community. Keep up the amazing work, and never change! ❤️❤️
An empathetic mind!
This person is very genuine and caring and honest. It was a shear pleasure interacting with them. I highly recommend them as someone to talk too and you should feel much much better afterwards. Definitely a pillar of this 7 cups community indeed. 10/10 service.
Obs is so nice and very patient. He is one of the best listeners there is, and I would give him a million stars if I could.
A wonderful person who goes the extra mile to make this a platform that is user friendly . They were patient responsive and very helpful.
He understands me. He just did thank you a thousand times
He's just the best
Really helpful and motivational
The best hands down so understanding and caring
He is a very nice person, he is willing to go extra mile just to help. He is deserves a million dollars tbh😂
Very good communicator and answers automatically when gets a chance, nice friendly too..
Obs is always pleasant and enjoyable to chat with, even in minor interactions. :)
A great listener who helped sort my emotions and lended a listening ear to my problems when no one was there to listen to them
He was very attentive, loyal, kind, Supportive and Empathetic Listener. Thanks you so much ASilentObserver 🥰♥️
Very attentive and considerate person, thank you for your help
great listener helpful
Very kind and understanding i loved talking to obs I highly recommend talking to obs if you need a helping hand
Very kind person. Encourages me a lot.
ASilentObserver was very kind and open to hearing my concerns. Also, very quick to respond and seemed forthright.
They helped me a lot just by listening, it was great talking to them.
Good he is very helpful
Hard worker. Amazing person.
thank you. You're wonderful
Hard working person for cups. Appreciate all that he does for us
Great person. Very Kind and very helpful.
Responds quickly and gets to the point.
Great Listener.
Super helpful, thanks so much
Always doing a great job. Very observant! ;)
Good hope we can continue
Great chat. I feel valued as a member.
*huggles* thank you soo much
They are very soothing.
Amazing listener! Thank you for taking the time to listen to my concerns and worries, and give real thought out answers which helped me realize things. It made me feel really listened to 💛
very patient listener
I was lucky to talk to him. He is knowledgeable on many topic and he understood me very well in short time. Gave me nice suggestion when asked. It was worth talking to him. Compassionate.. Empathy and have patient and easy to talk. definitely can be recommend to other. God bless you and you be happy always.
Great listener! Provided very helpful thoughts.
Helped me deal with the problem which was bugging me from a long time
I loved the chat.. it was what you might call refreshing... 😄
OBS is so caring
Really great listener
Very thoughtful in responses, really gives you a sense that they care and genuinely want to help
Really helped to talk things through
very helpful, caring and understanding
Such a warm heart!🤗
Amazing Listener as always :) Makes me feel a lot better after our conversation :)
One of the best listeners I have ever met. Responds and is there whenever I needed him. Makes me feel a lot better!:)
He was very nice and understanding to me, and helped me talk through my anxiety. I had a good time talking with him.
very kind and amazing listener
I am so thankful for the help and useful tips that I get,great advice!
I find the support valuable and appreciate the advice
Really useful communucation,friendly,helpful advice
Thank you.
Great Listener:) empathizes with you and understands. Feel a lot better after our conversation :)
Thank you very much. Thanks for helping with Bipolar awareness / relationships -- very important topic.
I found some great support from @ASilentObserver and a genuine,caring attitude.I much appreciate his help!
An amazing and caring person. They helped me through a really rough time.
amazing person genuinely kind and caring always responsive really helped me in my time of need thank you so much
Very caring and helpful
Silent is awesome, as always. Great listener, always there when I need to talk to someone and provides a compassionate ear to my seemingly minuscule problems.
Awesome!!! Love Obs!
Super understanding and sweet, thank you!
Always help and has insightful inputs
Had a fruitful and enlightening session helped me see things clearer and understand better where I was lagging
great
Understanding, smart, attentive, interactive, caring.
Obs is extremely helpful, understanding, and caring. I felt like I wasn't being judged, so thank you so much for your advice and I'll be coming again when I need more help!
Very helpful and understanding. She will lsten to what ever u have to say and try to help u sort out ur thoughts and help u with what's going on I highly recommend her
Thanks for your time
You're Kind. Thanks
amazing
awesome as always and very helpful
Thank you silentObs. You have been really helpful.
Obs is such a lovely heart to chat with. Always having the nicest words to make a day go better. It's a sweet heart and caring person I every way.
Our conversation was awesome! Thank you @ASilentListener
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