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Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #9) Passive-Aggressive Communication

Heather225 August 27th, 2020

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What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?

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mxmes January 16th, 2021

@Heather225

What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?

The silent treatment, subtle insults, procrastinating on purpose, sabotage, and keeping score.


What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?

I have experienced people giving me the silent treatment multiple times. I would ask a question or try to talk to them, but they would continue to ignore me and then at the last minute they would say they didn't want to talk at the moment. I felt that was immature and hurtful because I thought I did something wrong.


Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?

It makes people not want to be on the site anymore, or speak with some people. It might put them in a place where they are scared of a person, or scared to speak. They could develop trust issues with people. It will cause our community to break down, and it will cause a bunch of conflict between one another.

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IceCream4IceCream January 28th, 2021

@mxmes

I've recently been ghosted in a really important relationship of mine...the horrible extreme of silent treatment. We'll get through this stronger though - by being the better person : )

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beautifulSeal9714 January 17th, 2021

@Heather225

What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?

- Silent Treatment, Subtle Insults, Procrastinating on Purpose, Sabotage, Keeping Score

What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?

- Keeping Score

Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?

- Passive aggression is so damaging to our community because it hurts people and also in characteristic it is not something that builds a community on the contrary passive aggression could break a community by causing people to keep score against each other, sabotaging each other's work and not commmunicating well.

January 22nd, 2021

@Heather225

What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?

1. The silent treatment

2. Subtle insults

3. Procrastinating on Purpose

4. Sabotage

5. Keeping Score

What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?

I was a passive-aggressive person. It was sometimes intentional and sometimes not. I used to be passive-aggressive most times when I felt like I was not getting attention. But, I am glad I have grown to be more acceptable, honest, and straight-forward to people and myself too.

Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?

1. It can cause misunderstanding which can lead to conflicts.

2. It can create a toxic and negative environment.

3. It can damage our supportive environment.

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IceCream4IceCream January 28th, 2021

It's a brave thing to be vulnerable and take responsibility for what you've done. You're definitely not the only who does that - we all do in some way. I can see that you're growing from it.

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Eastcoastanxious January 22nd, 2021

I would think by the time you are 30, you have experienced all of these. I've been on the receiving end of all of it

BellatheHappyHelper January 26th, 2021

What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?

1.Silent Treatment

2. Subtle Insult

3. Procrastination (on purpose)

4. Sabotage

5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?

When we were younger my siblings and I will get into an agrument and we will use the silent treatment, sabotage, keeping score, etc. on eachother until an apology or favor was given
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?

Passive-agression is very damagin tou our community because we rely on healthy communication to reach others and passive-agression can lead to negative feelings/emotions and wanting to leave the site.

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IceCream4IceCream January 28th, 2021

@BellatheHappyHelper

I relate so much - I used to do the same with my sibling. We're growing from that now though : )

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BellatheHappyHelper February 22nd, 2021

@jovialButterfly6752

glad to hear you are growing past those actions, as i am doing the same with my siblings :)

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IceCream4IceCream January 28th, 2021

@Heather225

1. What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?

1. The Silent Treatment
2. Subtle Insults
3. Procrastinating on Purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score

2. What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?

The silent treatment

3. Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?

1. It causes division within the community.
2. It makes it difficult to trust one another.
3. It makes the community a toxic environment to be in.
4. It goes against the values and culture of the community, which prevents it from achieving its goals
5. It is hurtful.

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Cristen April 20th, 2021

@jovialButterfly6752
Hey hey Butterfree! Really like the easy to read bullet points! blush Hehe

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Cristen April 20th, 2021

100% agree with them too of course! cheeky

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IceCream4IceCream April 21st, 2021

@Cristen Lots of love <3

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becca2002 February 3rd, 2021

What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The Silent Treatment
2. Subtle Insults
3. Procrastinating on Purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score

What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
The silent treatment. My boyfriends go to trick! Always happens after a big argument or disagreement.

Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It creates an unhealthy atmosphere. one where people dont feel heard or safe.. Its manipulative and would cause issues with trust between leaders and members.

Fergie12299 February 5th, 2021

What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?

The silent treatment

Subtle insults

Procrastinating on Purpose

Sabotage

Keeping Score


What is one example of passive-aggressive behaviour you have experienced in your life?

One example I have experienced of passive aggressive behaviour is getting the silent treatment.


Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?

It is damaging because it does not help anyone, it just prolongs the issue that has caused it which is not helpful. If there is a problem then it should be addressed as soon as possible so that it can be delt with as soon as possible.

sunlightspirit February 6th, 2021

What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?

1. The Silent Treatment

2. Subtle Insults

3. Procrastinating on Purpose

4. Sabotage

5. Keeping Score

What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?

By far the most often one is "the silent treatment".

Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?

Poor communication and bully-like behavior leads to a break down in communities where frustration and resentments take over.

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Cristen April 20th, 2021

@sunlightspirit
That is so true! Passive aggression can be very much like bullying and that is never okay! frown

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warmLove3625 February 11th, 2021

@Heather225

What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
(1) The silent treatment, (2) Subtle insults, (3) Procrastinating on Purpose, (4) Sabotage, and (5) Keeping Score (Tit for Tat).

What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I have both been on the receiving and giving side of passive aggressive behavior. It is difficult when people won't speak directly about the emotions and problems they are experiencing and it is incredibly damaging to the relationship, no matter the style of relationship. It would be going against 7Cups culture and values.

Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive aggression is so damaging for our community because it is a form of dishonesty and unhealthy communication that is so vital to improving others lives and keeping with the 7Cups culture and values that it tries to uphold for the betterment of all people involved.

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generousBreeze169 February 20th, 2021

@warmLove3625

I agree on how you said and included everything in a brief way!

optimisticDay8079 March 21st, 2021

@warmLove3625 i appreciate your answer!

thisisirene April 4th, 2021

@warmLove3625 good answer!

herealways27 April 6th, 2021

@warmLove3625

It's so true that this goes against 7 Cups' culture and values, it also damages relationships unnecessarily.

UnicornsCottonCandy April 7th, 2021

@warmLove3625

I love how you organized your thoughts in such a structed way. Great post!

shiningSky3745 April 12th, 2021

@warmLove3625

Great

MarleyR April 19th, 2021

@warmLove3625 I liked how you discussed how passive aggression is bad for a community such as 7 cups.

cuteeeezombieeee April 20th, 2021

@warmLove3625

Nice response!

July 10th, 2021

@warmLove3625
I totally agree passive agression is indeed unhealthy!

Moonlemon48 October 20th, 2021

@warmLove3625

I agree, amazing answers!

jersey123456 October 22nd, 2021

@warmLove3625

Well said !


DancingHeart4982 December 18th, 2021

@warmLove3625

Great answer!

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