Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #9) Passive-Aggressive Communication
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Questions:
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
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@Heather225
- 1) the silent treatment
2) subtle insults
3) procrastinating on purpose
4) sabotage
5) keeping score
- Once my friend and I had an argument. She applied this kind of behavior. she dismiss me. and didn't talk with me for days.
- This could damage our society and problem will not be solved.
@kdsyahirah
Good job for pointing out how passive aggression does not help the situation at all, and could in fact make things worse for everyone. Thank you for sharing!
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
Silent treatment - Not communicating,
Subtle Insults - Intentional indirect insults
Procrastinating on purpose - Display of power over operations
Sabotage - Causing problems for a person on purpose
Keeping Score of favors - Doing a favor with selfish gains in mind
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I have been at the receiving end of Silent Treatment and I won't lie I was a part of it too. But over time I have come to realize it doesn't really pay off. I have learned the importance of communication for conflict resolution.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It is highly damaging to the 7Cups community because we cannot afford to bring in any gaps in communication among the leaders, listeners, and all.
Insults are bound to degrade the performance. Sabotaging helps in contributing to the formation of members with ill feelings.
@wishfulMoment42
It's awesome to know that you've learned how the silent treatment doesn't help the situation. You're also absolutely right that insults and sabotage really hurt the community as a whole. When members don't get the support they need, or when listeners end up hurting each other due to passive aggression, it brings everyone down. Thank you for sharing!
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. Silent treatment
2. Subtle insult
3. Procrastinating on purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I have had a couple of friends who would randomly stop speaking to me. I didn't understand why they were doing that, and it was really hurtful. The worst part was when our mutual friends would tell me that it was normal and to just let her be, which made me feel like I had somehow been overeracting.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive aggression fosters confusion and hurt, expecially if no reasons are given. I see this happening when members report that listeners have been disappearing during chats, often blocking members so they cannot be contacted. Having just shared some very personal things to seek peer support, members are always distraught and feel cheated, especially if they had just left a good review for the listener. Some of them stop trusting listeners because they feel that listeners are simply taking advantage of them for reviews. This really hurts our community as members don't get the help they're here for, and are discouraged from seeking help in future.
@hopebeyondpain
Passive aggretion could be hurtful at times! Thank you for sharing 
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
•Silent Treatment
•Subtle Insults
•Procrastinating on Purpose
•Sabotage
•Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I've personally used silent treatment when something upsets me, not always found it bad but often the silence gets misinterpreted by others and results in an escalation of the matter
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive aggression could result in lesser understanding as not everyone would pick on it and it could erode trust in the community
@DreamTouch
Great responses. I agree that misperception may escalate things -- not in a good way. Thank you for the insight.
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The Silent Treatment
2. Subtle Insults
3. Procrastinating on Purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
The silent treatment. When one of my family member got upset with me, they gave me silent treatment by minimized talking to me or not talking at all.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Because it's manipulative, not healthy, and may create bigger problems.
@Chevy81
That is one accurate definition of passive-aggressive behaviours!
@Chevy81
thank you for posting. Very informative
@Chevy81 Good insight!
@Chevy81
I agree that it is manipulative and not healthy.
You brought up some. Good points .@Chevy81
@Chevy81
Nice thoughts!
@Chevy81
You're going great, keep up the good work <3
@Chevy81 Ahh...yes, it can be manipulative. you answered very well.
@Chevy81
Thankyou for taking the time to take this information on borad, keep it up
@Chevy81
That silent treatment is very manipulative and painful to deal with.
@Chevy81
I agree, passive aggressive behavior does create bigger problems and is incredibly damaging to all involved. And I appreciate your honest share about the silent treatment you have experienced. I learnt from you in this post.
Best of luck on your LDP Journey!
@Chevy81
Good job, I'm sorry your family does that to you, you are super strong!
@Chevy81
I am sorry to hear you got the silent treatment, I hope you feel okay now
@Chevy81
I think it's a good point that you made that passive-agressive behavior is manipulative that. I'm sure that many people will agree to your words.
@Chevy81
Hi there, I'm sorry to hear that you dealt with the silent treatment from one of your family members, who seemed to be upset with you about something.
I agree with you, passive aggression does indeed cause bigger problems in the long run.
@Chevy81
Great answer!
20. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." --Eleanor Roosevelt
@Heather225
signs of passive aggressive communication
1.silent treatment
2. subtle insults
3.procrastinating on purpose
4.sabotage
5.keeping score
i have experienced the silent treatment and keeping score. a friend asking me to do something because they did something nice for me before.
passive aggressive behavior impacts ones self esteem and self confidence. it is counterproductive.
@wanjiku You are right <3 Amazing!
Well said .@wanjiku
@wanjiku
Awesome answer overall. Good job!
@wanjiku
You're on a roll!
@wanjiku
I think we have all experianced the silent treatment at some stage, and it is not a nice feeling. Thanks for all the good work
@wanjiku
It is difficult when someone keeps score. It feels draining.
@wanjiku
Super good job!
@wanjiku
I am sorry to hear you got both the silent treatment and score keeping, I hope you feel okay now
@wanjiku Thank you for your answer :) The silent treatment can get super frustrating!
@wanjiku
Passive agression is counterproductive! Great answer!
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The silent treatment
2. Subtle insults
3. Procrastinating on purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I have experienced the silent treatment, sadly several times. It is never a good feeling and very hurtful.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive aggression can be damnaging to our community as it can lead to lack of proper communication, trust and can put a great deal of stress on relationships with fellow leaders, listeners and even members.
@blitheEmbrace27
I can relate to the silent treatment. I agree, passive aggressive behavior can cause a lot of negative feelings that creates a negative feeling for those all around <3
@blitheEmbrace27
I understand how it feels to face the silent treatment. It must be hard
Great answer overall
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The silent treatment
2. Subtle insults
3. Procrastinating on Purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
I have experienced the keeping score one; there have been people in my life who have always reminded me of each favours they have done for me, in order to make me feel like I owe them a lot.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
Passive-aggressive treatment is damaging because people can get easily hurt by it, which would lead into a decrease in their self-esteem, which would have a direct impact on their performance and on their personal path to improvement.
@Ines1229
I can relate so much to keeping the score. It is not a great feeling, and the less we are willing to ask them for help knowing they will hold it over our heads. <3
@Ines1229
I agree that it is hurtful. When my bestie chose to treat me silently, I was so hurt & lonely.
I really liked the way you said ir .@Ines1229
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
Silent Treatment
Subtle Insults
Procrastinating on Purpose
Sabotage
Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Personal issues being brought into a workspace & among friends.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It confuses, hurts people & can cause negative effects to the community.
@She13
Yes, I agree passive agressive behavior hurst people and causes negative impacts.
@She13
Great response! I'm sorry that you had to deal with that in your workspace though, that would have been really hurtful. Wishing you the best <3
@Heather225
What are the 5 signs of passive-aggressive communication?
1. The silent treatment
2. Subtle insults
3. Procrastinating on Purpose
4. Sabotage
5. Keeping Score
What is one example of passive-aggressive behavior you have experienced in your life?
Keeping score.
Why is passive aggression so damaging to our community?
It is damaging to our community because it creates an environment that is hostile, and tense. Passive aggressive behavior can cause so much confusion for everyone. If this happens with responses in forums or chat, it creates a negative environment for all those present.
@Containedchaos This is well thought out!
@Containedchaos
Super great response! Love the clarity of it <3
@Containedchaos
Well said! Amazing response!
