Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want

@kieran000

I appreciate your honesty!

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would give a neutral response, and thank the leader for informing me. I would take some time to rationalize the situation in case I feel a bit down and reach out to the leader/my mentor regarding ways to contribute and positions open for application.

@gigantCloud92

Giving yourself time and space to rationalize the situation and then seeking for mentor and leader feedback and support are amazing tools to deal with the rejection .❤

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?

If I find out I've not been given a role I wanted and applied for , I'd feel disappointed and discouraged ofcourse, as it also takes so much thinking to find a role you want and apply for it with the intention of committing to it .

After giving some space to accept the news, I'd use it as a motivation to do better and , probably reach out to a mentor or the leader in charge of the role ,asking for feedback and how can I improve .

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

Being in the place of someone who has to give feedback to others , I can imagine how hard it would be for the feedback giver too, to try and frame the information as polite as possible . So it is definitely important to not express our discouragement to them, as they are only here to bring the news and help us be better , also to keep in mind that there's certainly a second chance and I can apply again And at the end of the day, both of us are wanting to work for the betterment of the community .

I would say something like,

"Thankyou so much for informing me , I do really appreciate your time and efforts for reaching to me . I am glad you've offered me good feedback and tips on how to improve my application for the next time . I will certainly take these into consideration and apply again, when I feel ready ."

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou

I think what you might say to the mentor sounds polite, warm and overall very lovely. I would learn from you! <3

@Bu123

Aw thanks sweet Bu, I am glad you feel my response was overall lovely and polite and that you'd learn something. Best wishes to you ❤

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Hello hello Suniss! I really like how you elaborated on how we need to keep in mind not to express our discouragement to the feedback giver since they're only helping us to improve! We must always remember to try not to take it personally! 100% agree!

@Cristen

Your responses make my day, thanks Crisss . So glad you feel the same ! 🤗❤

@Sunisshiningandsoareyou
Aw thank you! I enjoy reading your answers too hehe
ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっ bear hug for you suniss!!!

@Cristen

Awwieee , that's super cuteee, bear hugs for youu tooo Crissiee🤗❤

@Heather225 If I found out I was not given a role, I should always remain professional, respectful, and understanding. I would thank the leader who informed me and kindly ask for feedback on how I could improve or be a better fit for the role.

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?

I would be sad, however, I would be excited to improve and happy to work on things that need improving to become a better me!

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would say “Thank you for informing me” and probably ask ways that I could improve my skills

@Heather225

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would feel sad and that i can do better. I would say " Thank you for informing me, I was wondering what I could do better next time, Thank you for your time!"

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@AdylynS great answer!

I would be sad but i would quickly try to think about how i can solve it. I would thank the leader for their time

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I should know that roles don't mean anything and that I'm much more than a badge, however, I would be motivated to try again.

I would ask the leader to provide me some feedback for sure!

@Heather225

In case I didn't get a role I wanted, I would be down but at the same time remember that it is an incentive to get better with my listening skills and response and that I should understand the role I am applying for better. I would also see if the role is fit for me, and work on my flaws.

I would thank the leader for informing me about the result and ask them in what other ways I can contribute and also ask them about any confusions I have.

@marvelloustree1111
You're absolutely right! Even if we're not fit for the role, we can always ask about how we can contribute in other ways too!

@Heather225

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would understand that maybe the role I applied for was not at that time meant for me and work on achieving the goals to maybe apply later one once I understood it better

@pamharley003

that sounds like a constructive way to move forward! I do hope you get the role you want though <3

I think I'd definitely felt discouraged at first since it's sad news. But I usually don't dwell on things that I can't change at the moment so I would use this opportunity to ask the leader who messaged me about what part of the application I can improve. I actually was denied roles two or three times before and later nominated into one so I thought that taking the failure and turning it around can really pay off :)

@herealways27

thank you for sharing, I'm so proud of you for keep on trying and cỏngatulation on getting nominated! it's inspiring to hear your story.

@Heather225

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I think I would be dissapointed, but I wil ltalk to my mentor and coach to help me and find an alternative of how I can still be supportive within my interest and capablities.

@Heather225

Although I would be disappointed, I will not take the news personally and let it discourage me to prevent myself from keep making an effort to get a role next time. I will thank the leader for delievering the news and also my mentor who has supported me. As everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times I will reapply for the role and take the feedback that are given to me by heart. I will also take some time for self-care to relieve the negative feelings I might feel after hearing the news to recover myself so I can try again.

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?

I'd obviously feel a lil said but in the end I wasn't given to it as I may not be the best fit and I'll use it as a motivation to help me succeed the next time I feel I am ready for the role

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I'll ask them when can u apply again and if there is a way they can help me grow so that I am able to be a good for for the role by the time I apply again

@shiningSky3745 Growth is super important shining! I loved your answer <3

@shiningSky3745 Asking when to apply again shows your determination in being an active leader.

@shiningSky3745

Awesome response!

@shiningSky3745

Development and Growth is important and thanks for sharing the information

@shiningSky3745 Glad you will look to self-care after the sadness and then will look to learn to be able to apply again.

@shiningSky3745 Yes. Persistence, motivation and optimism are all good virtues to have in order to find future opportunities.

@shiningSky3745 I like the postivity in your attitude.

@shiningSky3745 I love that you'd use it as motivation! Right on :) I am going to remember to frame it this way!

@shiningSky3745

Hello!

I am glad that you would see it as a growing experience more than just failing a test or something like that. I believe that there is always a chance to improve and we can achieve our goals if we are perseverant.

@shiningSky3745

It is important to recognize, very good work :)

@shiningSky3745

Loved your perseverance to the goals you've set. Keep rocking!! ✨

@Heather225 I would be dejected at first, but then I would make sure to not let this experience bring me down. I would keep on trying to improve. I would ask the leader about how I can do better, and thank them for their time.

@Readylistener

It's great that you'd keep on trying!

@Readylistener

I like the fact that you don't let rejection defeat you. Instead you are open to feedback, improvement and growth and working with others.