Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want
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Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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Exactly! @Heather225
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would throw a Hissy fit - No I wouldn't lol I would understand and realize that I would need to step back and think about why I didn't and work on my weaknesses and try again. Ask how I can improve and take the feedback and build from it and decide if maybe the role was not really for me and check out some others and see .. Have a chat with my Mentor . Not all roles are for everyone just like a job out in our real life not all jobs are for everyone.. 
Tye
@IvyL You are so correct and when I first came to the site and realized how things worked here I was all for those badges/roles and I got burnt out and drained and ended up leaving 5 teams and stopped doing 18 sessions a month sometimes more or less but yes that many.. I wanted to be that perfect person doing everything... I realized that ME mattered also and I did not need them all so i dropped some and picked up ones that work for me and my time and when I can be here or not be here..
It is about how well you can do in the roles and how you are doing in your real life and making sure your real life is first .
Badges are cool do not get me wrong or roles people pick .. just make sure you are doing them for the right reasons and that you do not get burnt out and feel mentally and physically shaken..
@IvyL Yes all very true and how I feel .. exactly
@MistyMagic
lol well I had to throw in some flavor right !! I can throw a hissy fit as good as anyone else ask my Hubby lol...
@CompassionateDreamer8522 Thank you !!
@Tyedyedbutterfly65 remarkable words and amazing spirit and attitude.