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Course 3, Discussion 4: One Key Metric

FrenchToast December 5th, 2022

It is pretty easy to get knocked off track in life. One way to stay on track is to have a core metric that guides you. If you have a north star that you are working towards, then you know how well you are doing. It is harder to be in denial or to participate in activities that are less helpful in meeting that goal.

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There are 2 parts to this discussion.

✒️ Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

✒️ (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 of our Searching Soul book and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

✒️ Please reply to at least 1 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!

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jadenrjc7 June 5th, 2023

@FrenchToastClub

✒️ (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 of our Searching Soul book and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.


I imagined people saying that I always tried my best. Whether it was in school, home, personal life, or work, I always gave things 110% of my efforts. This exercise was insightful and impacted how I think about myself.

TabbyCat97 June 7th, 2023

✒️ Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

I'm a Teen Chatroom Star ! :) ♡ Our key metric is to keep the Listener Chatrooms safe, supportive and active :p ♡ I have learnt a lot from having this role, and I think it is really important - making sure a wonderful space is kept safe and welcoming, so that listeners coming in can have their questions answered and receive the support they deserve along their listening journey.

I believe having a single metric is important as it - helps us to focus on one key goal, provides clarity and a clear direction. It also helps us to measure and evaluate performance, helps with accountability and responsibility too :) and more!

✒️ (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 of our Searching Soul book and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

I have completed this, but don't feel comfortable sharing my answer due to personal reasons.

SnowTabby June 9th, 2023

@FrenchToastClub
Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.
Choosing a single metric is important to give you a focal point. To help you measure success in a way that will make you proud of yourself and make you want to get out of bed in the morning to see how much further or how much of a habit you can make steps toward the metric. The north star.
This is extremely important because and remind you not to get caught up in the unnecessary steps. For example... partying may be part of someone steps if their north star is networking to model, being a party or wedding planner, psychologist even (to see how people react in certain circumstances) but if someones north star is to be a CEO of a company, the best thing may not to have stories about how you like to let loose and forget responsibilities. Steps towards CEO may more include small gatherings or, if you love partying, maybe a small gathering for the 4th of July with some alcohol.
What you like doesn't have to be a sacrifice, it just has to be part of the dream. Who you strive to be.
Respecting yourself, knowing who you are and acting as who you want to be.
It is important. Especially if it helps you believe in yourself. As working in LDP helps me believe in myself.


Read chapter 12 of our Searching Soul book and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you.
My compass is difficult. I do not mind sharing the brunt of it because... I want to inspire someone to admit life to themselves.
I had, and am still having, a hugely difficult time imagining my funeral. It didn't hurt to imagine myself gone, I will actually be glad once I have created my own story. It hurt because I do not know or imagine how long I actually have. When I imagined myself in a coffin, I could only see blurriness. I realize right now as I'm typing that it is because that is not where I will be. I want to be reunited with the earth that helped me live.
Apart from that. While I was imagining what would be said, I saw so many sad things... but I did feel what I wanted people to feel about me.
I want my partner to say I was honest, committed, collaborative instead of argumentative and uncompromising, dedicated to those I love and respect, and not afraid to reach for adventures to learn about myself while learning about life.
I want my children to say I was considerate, their best friend, a mother they were proud of, and someone who had a marriage that inspired them to never settle for less.
I messed up a bunch through highschool and college so I lost all my longterm friends but I do want someone I can go to who will prioritize me like I would them. I want to actually want to be around them. I want them to say I was supportive regardless of the circumstances, wise, friendly, didn't take bull**** from anyone, and that I had no filter.
Overall, I just want to be seen as honestly natural to myself as I can be. My values are that I do not want to settle or be a push over or keep my mouth shut or unsupportive/dismissive. I want to be someone anyone can talk to because they know they'll get the truth.

That's a little bit drawn out but yes. It's personal but I believe there is beauty in taking a chance. This helped me see/accept/understand my values. I hope it can inspire someone to share theirs too.

AnnaSilverberg June 13th, 2023
@FrenchToastClub

Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move.
Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the
3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward.
Please post here why this goal of choosing a single
metric is important.
Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

💚 I am a part of couple of wonderful teams here, they are all very important to me. 💚

I am in the Peer Appreciation Team, there I spread appreciation, kindness and joy.
That can have wonderful effects on the days of listeners and members of the community.

I am a Quality Mentor for Adults and Teens, that gives me the joy and gift of sharing my
knowledge of Active Listening with listeners who are on their listener journey,
so they can strengthen their skills or learn new ones, get information or any listener
related support that they might need.

I am also a Chatroom Mentor, that gives me the ability to make the chat rooms safe,
which is absolutely wonderful! I have always made sure that the Listener Support Room
is a welcoming one and I have always welcomed every listener who entered before I
took on this role, but having the ability to provide a safe environment with the abilities
that a Chatroom Mentor has is just a gift that keeps on giving.

(TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 of our Searching Soul book and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life.
If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise.
If comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you.
What you imagine them telling you is your compass.
If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying,
then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life.
Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

I read the book as an elective, but had to skip this chapter.
This is too triggering for me, so I will not take part in this one.

Thank you!
✨💙✨


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Jenna July 11th, 2023

@AnnaSilverberg

It looks like you're aware of the key metric that is needed for all the teams you're a part of!

Mahad2804 July 13th, 2023

That is such an in-depth analysis @AnnaSilverberg

Thanks for putting so much thought into this and thanks for sharing this with us!

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GermanZebraCupcake June 15th, 2023

@FrenchToastClub

Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

I'm both a room supporter and peer supporter. In both roles, it is vital I focus on providing warm and welcoming place to exist in our little digital slice of life. So many people want to be heard fully and feel like somebody is just present with them so I always aim to take that level of presence with me.

(TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 of our Searching Soul book and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

I really loved this exercise, since I honestly think it's a very healthy and positive thing to occasionally reflect on death and our overall impact in life. I think I'd rather keep some of the things I thought of to myself, but I just wanted to generally praise this activity.

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CharlieDont37 July 7th, 2023

@GermanZebraCupcake

I am just a member and a very recent one at that.

I appreciated the fact that you did not post your thoughts on the exercise. Neither did or will I. Feels too profound to post and share.

Thank you for your role in 7 Cups!

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CharlieDont37 July 7th, 2023

@FrenchToastClub

✒️ Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

I am not part of 7 Cup Team. But I think I understand the '3 Key Things' I write them down at the beginning of each work day/session. At the end of the day, anything not done is forwarded to the next work day/session '3 Key Things' list and so on and so on. At the end of the week. I monitor which ones I completed and give myself a % Completion Score. Metrics are Important. Unless I acknowledge my accomplishments, I tend to overrate myself.

✒️ (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 of our Searching Soul book and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

I read this, but do not wish to put my writing in a post that is open to the public. That said. a terrifically insightful exercise. Thank you.

✒️ Please reply to at least 1 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!

Jenna July 11th, 2023

@FrenchToastClub

✒️ Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

I lead the peer support team. Our key metric is focusing on helping listeners feel supported when faced with a challenge on the site whether it be with a chat, forums, group support, or a site change. This goal is important so listeners can feel like the listener community cares about them and helps them feel motivated to not give up and keep trying. Focusing on one goal is important because it will be more manageable than trying to hit other targets and keeping important strategies at hand.

✒️ (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 of our Searching Soul book and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

I read the chapter but the topic of death is triggering and not something I am comfortable being open about in public.

Mahad2804 July 13th, 2023
North Star Metric

I gotta say this one made me think a lot but it was definitely worth it.

I'm a Listener Events Team host and for me, the most important thing is being able to spark joy in people's lives. My goal is to give back to the community and to these amazing people who give so much of their time and energy to supporting others.

I think this goal is what brings me to take time out of my day to host sessions like riddles or game nights.

Sure, there are some more "knowledgable" sessions that could be hosted but while so many people focus on those, I think they forget to have fun.

And I don't mean to undermine the work of those people, they are amazing and vastly more educated than me and their work is so so important for this community.

But in my opinion, having fun is also an important aspect of any kind of teamwork. It's also one of the key values of 7 Cups, "Have Fun and Be Fulfilled". So that is what I focus on, just bringing people together for a fun, enjoyable time.



Exercise

This was unexpectedly tough for me.

We, or at least I, see death so often around me but never really stop to think about my own. It's a humbling thought experiment, this one.

Anyways, here's what I came up with:

* I didn't want to put a timeline on when I die so I'm just gonna imagine it for right now. If I died at this very moment, here's what I think people will have to say about that. *

The first image that comes to mind when I think about this is my mother crying in my father's arms. This is so painful to think but I think it's important to keep going.

My parents wouldn't much have much to say, they'd just want to grieve in peace. I know they won't have much if any, negative sentiment about me because recently they've been telling me more and more that they're proud of me.

I've worked hard this past year, did some real work on myself and my parents have seen it.


I think one of the people that will have a say on this is a cousin of mine. She's about 2 years older than me and lives in a different country. I haven't seen her in 10 years but we talk often and I would say we're pretty close.

I think she would speak to what kind of a friend I was and our relationship. She'd be devastated as well but not nearly as much as my parents and I think she'd still have the composure to talk about me at the funeral.


Lastly, I think my best friend would have some good things to say about me.

He'll probably mention some of the so fun times we had together. Some of the so very crazy things we did together. And just say how much he misses me.

I know he'll be feeling so much more at that moment but he'll keep it all inside. He'll be there for my parents, he'll comfort them even though he's crying on the inside as well.


That's pretty much all the people of significance that I think will have something important to say at my funeral. There will likely be lots of other people as well but I don't think they'll have much to say other than the generic "He was a nice boy" or the condolences.
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MaggieListens00 July 15th, 2023

@Mahad2804

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, very thorough :D

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MaggieListens00 July 15th, 2023

@FrenchToastClub

✒️ Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.

Using a single metric allows us to easily measure the changes we are making by giving us a clear goal. It narrows down the generalised goal into small obtainable steps which may be easier to see, especially in the short-term.

✒️ (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 of our Searching Soul book and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.

Read chapter 12, have journaled my thoughts privately


Rivelino3 July 15th, 2023

✒️ Work with your team or mentor and identify the key metric you are hoping to help move. Post daily (or the cadence that makes sense) in the 3 key things thread to highlight what you are doing to help us move 7 Cups forward. Please post here why this goal of choosing a single metric is important. Think of how this is important in your professional life, but also how this can help you personally as well.


Choosing a goal of single metric may have the benefit of it being easy to fall back on, since it's just one all encompassing thing that helps create simplicity when in a storm. Instead of looking for highly complicated structures, which can be hard to do when you are struggling, the easiest and most efficient way is to fall back on that one thing that is simple yet effective enough to guide you out of that storm, after which you may look into extensive details of how to progress further based on that one simple guiding factor.


I recently joined the quality mentor and chat support team, which is my way of giving back to the community and helping it progress after having gotten lot of good from being on this site.



✒️ (TW: themes that deal with death) Read chapter 12 of our Searching Soul book and do the exercise where you imagine it is the end of your life. If comfortable, post what you imagine people saying to you at the conclusion of the exercise. If comfortable, then please share how the exercise impacted you. What you imagine them telling you is your compass. If you are acting in a way that is consistent with what they are saying, then it is very likely that you will end up living a meaningful life. Remember to listen to and follow this compass so as not to be distracted by the clock.




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Rivelino3 July 15th, 2023

@Rivelino3 I missed the second part of the question.


It is a highly sensitive area, which the question takes me to. I would find it hard to put into words my exact emotions, considering I have been through an experience similar to this scenario not too long ago. I would like to opt to not answer this part of the question 💛

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lovelyApple6441 August 17th, 2023

@Rivelino3 Good on you for opting out of something you wouldn't feel one hundred percent comfortable sharing, people like you show us that enforcing boundaries is a wonderful thing to do :))

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