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Course 2, Discussion 3: High Expectations and High Warmth

FrenchToast December 5th, 2022

Congrats! You made it the second course in the LDP! In this course, we focus on the specific interpersonal skills needed to be a strong leader on 7 Cups, including mastery of communication skills, time management, conflict resolution, stress management and empowering new leaders.

I know if you are here, you have read our values and culture guide. I would like to start off by further emphasizing one value that's required for a leader to be successful here, and that is balancing High Expectations & High Warmth.

Work environments with high expectations and minimal warmth tend to result in companies that are very driven, rule-oriented and risk-averse. The people do not tend to grow as much personally or professionally. On the other hand, workplaces that are high in warmth, but have minimal expectations, tend to struggle. Everyone is happy and feels loved, but not a lot of effective or focused work gets done.

7 Cups is high expectations AND high warmth. We expect a lot from you. You might feel like we think you are more capable than other people have suggested or maybe even more capable than how you see yourself. That is okay. Every person on the team has outperformed and done better than they expected. This is largely because warmth, patience, and trust help people make much more progress than they have in other environments. We have high expectations, but we will provide plenty of encouragement and guidance to help you get there.

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✒️ What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth?

✒️ How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

✒️ Please reply to at least 1 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!

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DisLifeNot August 1st, 2023

@FrenchToastClub Thank you for your post!

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth?

It reflects on the community. It damages productivity and trust

How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

Workplaces with high expectations but little warmth tend to be driven, rule-focused, and risk-averse. However, personal and professional growth is limited for the employees. On the other hand, workplaces with warmth and positivity, but low expectations, struggle to get work done efficiently and stay focused. Employees may feel happy and appreciated, but the effectiveness of their work may suffer.

betty212 August 3rd, 2023

@FrenchToastClub


If I have high expectations & low warmth: The team members feel constricted with tasks and deadlines They feel that their feelings are neglected Burning out, being stressed, overwhelmed, health complications If I have low expectations & high warmth: People will feel welcomed, but they might not focus on their tasks They will become too comfortable

warmheartedCamp3360 August 5th, 2023

@FrenchToastClub

1. Imbalance of expectations and warmth could lead to

  • Less productivity
  • Unfriendly environment
  • Less efficient
  • Stress and burnouts
  • Dissatisfaction

2. It could affect the

  • Community by producing less efficient results and might hamper its growth.
  • Teammates by leading to either stressful or unsatisfactory work environment.


betty212 August 8th, 2023

@FrenchToastClubWhat do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth?

If I have high expectations & low warmth: The team members feel constricted with tasks and deadlines They feel that their feelings are neglected Burning out, being stressed, overwhelmed, health complications If I have low expectations & high warmth: People will feel welcomed, but they might not focus on their tasks They will become too comfortable ✒️ How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders? If I have low warmth, people might not come to me for support, and I will be harder to work with.If have low expectations, it will be harder for me to complete tasks on time, and thus lag behind others in the community


Artalistens August 9th, 2023

@FrenchToastClub

another amazing post to think about!

  1. I think having an imbalance of expectations and warmth can cause a variety of issues we want to make sure that as a leader, we are in providing a warm and welcoming place for people to share what’s on their mind if we don’t, that can lead to trust issues, but it can also lead others to thinking that you’re unprofessional, which makes them think that you’re not going to be a good fit for them or are you makes others be leery of your leader ship skills because if you’re not creating that space in which they feel safe they may question your ability to take charge and be a leader. Having high expectations is also important for both of you as the leader and for members that use the site as well having low expectations for yourself might portray that you’re not going to have the effective leadership skills, it also can portray that you don’t enjoy what you’re doing, you’re making it a chore not something that you’re doing with your heart.
  2. having low warmth, can have an impact on the community. If you come into work, or a volunteer experience, and you look unprofessional, look very bored and miserable, and you do not greet people or have a smile on your face that affects the general public. Good leaders portray smiles, they introduce themselves and be a familiar face having low expectations for yourself can do the same thing, if you go into work and you say that you’re gonna do the bare minimum chances are you’re not going to be in affective leader that day however, if you go into work with the list of task and you complete them that shows that you are resilient and a fantastic leader. If you have low warmth or expectations for yourself, it can also affect your coworkers or fellow leaders. If you go into an opportunity with low energy, you look very miserable and don’t have a smile on your face then your leaders aren’t going to want to ask you for help or want you to contribute your ideas. if you have low expectations for yourself, that can be very upsetting to coworkers or leaders because they trust you and they want your help with things and if you go and only caring about yourself and only expecting to do tasks the way that you want them done they are not going to want to ask for your assistance
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LightsFromDark September 6th, 2023

@Artalistens What a beautiful answer! It's fun to read

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lovelyApple6441 August 17th, 2023

@FrenchToast

✒️ What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth?

An imbalance of expectations and warmth can result in reduced efficiency and productivity due to the lack of emotional support or the lack of professional support.

✒️ How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

Having too low of expectations would result in a community that accepts any behavior and any mindset, regardless of how it impacts others (eg. allowing people to not do their fair share as long as they have an excuse for it). It would also impact how you work with fellow leaders because it would pull away focus from things that need to be accomplished and reduce the productivity. Having too little warmth would result in a community that invalidates others' emotions and struggles, and lacks compassion and understanding. This would impact how you work with fellow leaders because it would result in burnout and an unhealthy work environment.

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pandanfe August 29th, 2023

@lovelyApple6441

In this case, people would be demotivated to join in cups and it would be only left with limited members. Also the remaining member may not fully benefit from the support available.

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pandanfe August 29th, 2023

@FrenchToast

✒️ What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth?
I suppose that having imbalance expectations and warmth here in cups may result in minimal or excessive empathy, compassion and support that one deserves. However, the sessions may lack proper directions.

✒️ How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?
1) Impact on the community
The community having too low expectations, or too little warmth can be demotivating, and environment wouldn't feel welcoming discouraging members to open up.

2) Impact on how you work with your fellow leaders
Leaders won't be able to bring in creativity or be productive while working with others. Uncooperative environments and trust issues would be built among the leaders.

LightsFromDark September 3rd, 2023

In my opinion, if I don't have a balance between high expectations and warmth, what will happen is this: a. If I don't have high views, my team will have nowhere to aspire. B. If I'm not warm, my team will feel unappreciated, unhelpful, etc. Low expectancies will affect the community in that they will have nowhere to aspire and then the level will inevitably drop. This can make people shrink their heads and try to work as little as possible. Too little heat causes burnout. And makes the people I'm with not want to work with me or makes them feel like slaves.

LOOPHOLE September 7th, 2023

@FrenchToast

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth?

A leader is a person with responsibility and someone who people look upto . So if a leader who is unable to create a balance between expectations and warmth will not only a low productivity in the community but weak bonding structure.


✒️ How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

1) Low expectations brings low productivity , complacency, low efforts and little warmth brings less motivation, self development.

2) I think we leaders are like a bouquet of flowers so if one of us fails to create an imbalance in the expectations and warmth might look like a dead flowers and the whole bouquet will lose its beauty and color.

✒️ Please reply to at least 1 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!

@ Frenchtoast

Amazing and informative post.

LoveMyMoonflowers September 20th, 2023
✒️ What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth?

I think if a leader had high expectations but low warmth, they would create an unsupportive environment for everyone else. They would expect much of others, but they wouldn’t try to support them or create a warm environment where they can improve. This would probably create burnout, because everyone’s expected to do very well, but they are not encouraged or supported. A leader lacking in warmth may also appear as rude or too demanding. I think this would cause those around them to resent them as well.

✒️ How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

I believe if we had too low of expectations, leaders here would not be encouraged to improve. People might be inclined to neglect their duties as leaders, and we would not grow as a community. There would be little personal development as well. This would impact how we work with our fellow leaders in that we would not help each other get better, because not much would be expected of us. On the other hand, if our community lacked warmth, members would not feel free to talk about how they feel or what they think. They might fear being judged or misunderstood, since the environment just wouldn’t feel warm or supportive enough. I think if the community lacked warmth, as an emotional support platform, we would not be providing true emotional support.
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bestBraveheart57 October 10th, 2023

@LoveMyMoonflowers

Hi, Moon. I want to quote the last sentence because it is true. We are all here for getting support and offering support for one another.

"I think if the community lacked warmth, as an emotional support platform, we would not be providing true emotional support."

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