2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support

@NaturalEmpath

Hi Empath, I like this answer. Personally I would consolidate some of the paragraphs as it seems choppy now

Walkalot, CDM mentor

I can see how it could be interpreted as choppy. I could have touched it up a bit more after getting all of the key words input.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Many people experience negative self-talk and that inner critic voice can have a significant impact on one's self-esteem. Though a common aspect of human experience, the good news is that you don’t have to feel this way your whole life.

There are several strategies you can use to reduce negative self-talk and self-doubt, with the first step being to notice these thoughts and reframe them with positive affirmations. Communicating with ourselves by counteracting these negative thoughts with positive affirmations can be a great way to boost your self-worth and self-confidence. If these thoughts persist, seeking the guidance of a therapist can be another great way to work on your inner dialogue and increase your self-love.

Moreover, when we work on ourselves and our self-talk, we can improve our relationships with the people who are important to us. For instance, your relationship with your partner, your children, and other family members will improve because when you foster healthy communication with yourself, your self-esteem will improve, you will respect yourself more, and are more likely to seek out healthy relationships with others. Remember, you are an amazing person, and at the end of the day, the best way to overcome the feeling of not being good enough for someone is to engage in self-reflection and treat yourself with compassion and kindness. Remember, you are an amazing person, and you have your whole life ahead of you.

@kindheartedLily I loved your answer I think you showed really nice empathy in the first paragraph. I loved the encouragement you gave at the end and you put in a lot of good keywords! I really liked the encouragement you added so my suggestion would be to add more of it in your answers I feel like that's a really nice touch!

@Clarezg

Thank you so much!

thank you 😊

I think the feeling of not being good enough is something many people deal with, I know I have. Human beings are social creatures and strive towards intimate connections with those we care about. This can lead to us holding their opinions of us in high regard, meaning that they can change our perceptions of ourselves and stop us believing we are the amazing people we know we are. Ideally, we would separate ourselves from individuals that cause self-doubt and foster healthy relationships where communication is used to uplift each other however this isn’t possible in all cases. In these instances, we must look inwards to our own views of ourselves.

The formation of our self-esteem is a continuous and dynamic process, a life-long commitment with the end goal being self-love. From the time we are children, this perception of ourselves forms from the words of others around us be it our family members, friends, or even social media. Sometimes these words can make us feel inadequate and we carry these words with us as we age, oftentimes these will form the structure of our own negative self-talk. We mimic the same critiques that we have heard from those around us, and this paves the way for our inner critic.

Though we may not be able to control the words of others, it is within our power to mediate the amount of weight we give them. The voice within our own head is exceptionally powerful and is a fundamental building block in self-confidence. Even something as simple as a positive affirmation has been shown to positively alter individuals’ thoughts on themselves. Though this may not work for everyone, other techniques such as mindfulness, gratitude practices, meditation and therapy have also shown effectiveness – at the end of the day, it is about finding something that works for you.

@charmingEagle47

Hi Charming Eagle, very detailed and thoughtful answer. I like how you get to the heart of the matter. Keep up the good work.

Walkalot, CDM mentor

@MaggieListens00

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: what to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone

Struggling with self-doubt, self esteem, and self confidence happens to many of us. I understand that it can feel terrible, I struggle with self-doubt sometimes too. I also understand that it can also be really hard to bring yourself of this negative spiral sometimes. Some things that you could possibly try are communicating with people that support and have your back. This could be family, friends, or your partner. Having their encouragement could help boost your self confidence and self esteem.

@Clarezg out of this*

@Clarezg

Hi Clare. I like this but I think it's a bit short. Try to add a bit of detail to your answer. If you can add a link and a citation even better.

Walkalot

@Clarezg

The three strengths i found in your answer:

1. Short- a quick read.

2. Discussing the issue with frnds / family is common but u included partner too. I like it.

3. Made the reader comfortable by specifying "i understand".

Improvement tip:

Alittle about how u dealt it (if) can help.

@Clarezg

3 positives:

1) The length is great, perfect middle between short and long.

2) I love how you relate on a personal level. It surely helps the person to feel more at ease!

3) I love how you gently suggest things instead of pressuring the person to act – ex, ‘some things that you could possibly try’ is a better way of saying ‘you should’.

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1 thing to improve:

I feel like the text would be more accessible if it had a few paragraphs instead of a big block. Personally, I don’t like reading big ‘chunks’ of text.

@Clarezg Hi Clare! Your reply carries a lot of empathy, it is easy to comprehend and you include suggestions instead of telling the reader what should be done. However, I think you could have added how you personally dealt with this issue :) Great answer overall, wishing you the best!

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Ans: Take some time to think about why you feel this way. Are these emotions influenced by any particular events in the past?

Respect yourself by exercising . Keeping this in mind, that everyone has strengths and shortcomings. Every aspect of you is special and valued.

Talk about your feelings with the person in an open manner. They could provide you comfort and offer an alternative viewpoint.

Self-talk use affirmations to counteract negative thinking. Keep your attention on your qualities and successes.

Improve your self-worth and your abilities by working on yourself. You may feel more confident as a result.

Connect with friends and family to get support.

Make a list for yourself, things you love about yourself, things you want to improve and avoid.

@BenittaJ

Hi Benitta, good answer. Keep it up

@walkalot

the strengths I found in your answer are:

1. keeping it clear and understandable

2. contains enough keywords for search engines

3. contains do-able tips

improvement tip:

1. better be written in a single paragraph.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

The feeling of being not good enough could happen to anyone and is intended for relationships such as with parents, or feeling not good enough with a partner. The social media trend of beauty and success also could trigger low self-esteem that sometimes makes us question our self-worth. This situation could be started with an inner critic of "Why am I-". but at the end of the day, we need to learn that we are just human beings. There is no standard of being good enough in a relationship, beauty, or even success. We need to perform Self-love and stop negative self-talk to gain a healthy relationship and achieve our version of great things. You are an amazing person, so love yourself.

@Wildarkberry

Great job. Love it

@Wildarkberry

strengths: lots of identifiable key words, concise and clear, and powerful message

tip: maybe try adding more description

@Wildarkberry

I enjoyed reading your answer, especially this bit " The social media trend of beauty and success also could trigger low self-esteem that sometimes makes us question our self-worth." So many believe what social media says and think that it is true and that starts the downward spiral of triggering low self-esteem.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

When I feel like I'm not good enough for someone, I remind myself that my self-worth doesn't depend on what others think or what I see on social media. The first step I take is to figure out the real reason behind my self-doubt and negative self-talk. Sometimes, I talk to my partner and communicate my concerns because healthy relationships thrive on open communication. I also seek support from therapy or confide in my family members and friends for guidance. I've learned to love and accept myself, understanding that becoming a better person is a personal journey, not a race. By focusing on self-improvement and silencing my inner critic, I build self-confidence, and I've seen that this is the right thing to do. In the end, I believe that I am an amazing person with unique qualities, and this mindset helps me foster healthy relationships and achieve great things in my life.

@anikahelps

Hi Anika, nice answer. Will be encouraging

@anikahelps

In addition, you are required to reply to at least one other student’s answer by identifying at least 3 strengths (things done correctly as per discussed guidelines) as well as at least 1 tip for improving the answer.

Three notable strengths of your response are:

1. Your answer is deeply personal, making it relatable and resonant for the reader. This personal touch is valuable as it reassures the reader that they are not alone in their feelings.
2. By applying your personal journey, you inspire the reader to strive for personal improvement. This motivational aspect encourages readers to adopt the helpful tips you've provided, fostering a sense of empowerment.
3. Adding easy and manageable tips ensures that your advice is practical and not overwhelming for the reader. This approach increases the likelihood that readers will be willing to try and implement your suggestions.

An area for improvement could be:

• The subjective nature of the piece may impact the overall credibility and reliability of the information provided. Consider using less ‘I-statements’ to make it sound more professional. 

@BlueRivercares

Hi BlueRiver, this is a good answer to the question you chose, but you have to answer the question which is listed in the task: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?. also, give feedback to someone else who has answered the question. Thanks.

LMK when you've revised this task.

- Walkalot, CDM Mentor

@walkalot thanks for letting me know..but please keep it so that's easy to differentiate. Not everyone can see colour also

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Unfortunately, this feeling can be familiar to everyone. There are times when some people make us feel that we are not important. However, this says more about them than about ourselves. Sometimes it is hard to cope with this feeling, as if we are our own enemies. Perhaps external pressure makes us think that we are only valuable if we do something for someone, but this is not the case. We are all valuable for who we are. What can help is self-knowledge, surrounding yourself with positive people, and learning to accept who you are. Personality development is one of the biggest helps. Learning to work on our mistakes and noticing our positive qualities is empowering. Proper communication also helps a lot, as does contacting a specialist if we have the opportunity to do so. The most important thing is not to compare yourself to others. Everyone is good at something, and what we see on social media is not always true.

@helpfulmindful88

Hi Helpful Mind, Very nice. Keep it up.

Walkalot, CDM Mentor

@helpfulmindful88
great use of the keywords
explains well how positive relationships can impact us.
Also it sounds professional :)

 Question : What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Answer : When you find yourself feeling like you're not good enough for someone, there can be many factors that can contribute to these emotions, whether it's in the context of parents, a partner, or other relationships. This can lead to issues of self-worth and self-esteem. Some of the steps you can take are that you acknowledge your feelings and try finding the real reason, only then you will know that you need help or need to find a solution. Whenever you get these negative thoughts try to replace them with positive affirmations. Self-love can also help, If you treat yourself as you would treat your close friend you will know how amazing you are. Able to communicate what you feel will with a close person or family member will relieve the doubt you feel and seek therapy if it's needed. Even try to limit yourself from social media, subscribe to something positive so that negative thoughts reduce. At the end of day know that you are unique and nature has created all of us differently. Keep trying and never give up

@BlueRivercares

Hi Blue River, very nice. Keep up the good work.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Hello, thank you for reaching out.

When you find yourself feeling not good enough for someone, it's crucial to engage in self-reflection to understand the real reasons behind these emotions.

Challenge the negative self-talk and address your inner critic, recognizing that everyone, including amazing human beings, has moments of self-doubt.

Building self-confidence and self-worth is the best way to combat these feelings, focusing on your strengths and achievements as well as cultivating self-love.

Remember that personal growth is a lifelong journey, anything that is worth it requires time and effort.

At the end of the day, prioritize your own well-being and strive for continuous self-improvement. Be patient and give yourself time, you got this :)

Good luck friend <3!

@babyangel

Great job, BabyAngel. Keep it up

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day.

When faced with feelings of inadequacy in relationships, whether with kids, parents, or friends, addressing this issue involves confronting our self-doubts and negative self-talk. Navigating through these emotions requires a multifaceted approach to boost both self-esteem and overall well-being. Tackling these emotions is not a one-size-fits-all process; it is different for everyone, and it's okay to take your time to figure out what works best for you.

Perhaps you can challenge the negative self-talk, identify and address your inner critic, and replace self-doubt with affirmations that highlight your strengths and accomplishments. It's also worthwhile to celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Practicing this can reinforce positive self-worth and contribute to a more optimistic self-perception.

Remember that personal growth is an ongoing process. Remind yourself of the positive aspects of your life and the progress you've made. By taking small steps, you can build self-confidence, silence your inner critic, and foster healthier relatioships.

@HachiBee

Good answer. I love the tips

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Used Keywords: partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, self-love, better person, inner critic, self-doubt, negative, whole life, self-confidence, healthy relationship, great things, information, end of the day, self care.

In our whole life, at some point, we partner with someone who lowers our self-esteem, making us feel negative about our self-worth. With less self-confidence, our inner critic takes better control of us.

If not directly, we often indulge in self-doubt by taking information from social media posts and criticize ourselves.

The best way to overcome could be self-love; being kind to ourselves is the first step towards building healthy relationships.

As the famous proverb says:

"You cannot serve from an empty cup."

Self care is important. Remembering that we are mere human beings and we feel emotions could unlock great things within us.

The good news is that we can always work on ourselves to become a better person. Because at the end of the day, it doesn't matter what others think as much as what we think of ourselves.