2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support

@Azalea98

Strengths:
- You express empathy at the beginning
- Great, colourful, positive tone
- I like how you mention that perfection is not obtainable

Tip:
I can't really think of any, you filled all the requirements of a good answer.
If I would be asking this question or any other that I saw at 7 Cups, I wouldn't be satisfied with short answers, but that's just my personal preference - I realize that most people asking these questions want to get a short answer.

"Am I good enough?" Questioning our self-esteem and self-worth is something that we as human beings face our whole life. In the age of social media and hyper-connection, it's easy to compare ourselves without even realizing it.

When you feel the inner critic gnawing your thoughts and feelings, take a deep breath, and try one of these strategies:

1. Identify the cause that is undermining your self-worth. Maybe it's disapproving parents or some passing remark that your partner made. Pinpointing why you are questioning your self-worth can be the first step to addressing self-doubt.
2. Turn off thinking mode. Sometimes, hitting snooze on all your thoughts and feelings helps. It can be hard to enjoy something while having negative self-talk, but distracting yourself from all the voices with some exercise, a movie, or a nice nap can do wonders for someone going through a tough time.
3. Therapy. If this is a recurring issue for you, seeking professional help could be an option. You do not have to deal with everything alone. Being able to ask for help takes a great deal of strength and courage as well, so do not feel like therapy somehow makes you weak and any less worthy of anything.

Other ways might help, such as talking to family members, friends, or mentors, revisiting your favorite memory, or going out for a good time.

If you are struggling with your worth right now -- whether the term be self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, or anything else --, know that you do not have to be like anyone else to become a "better person." You are enough. You are worthy because you are you. You are doing a great job at being yourself, and that is enough. At the end of the day, it is all about self-love.

"Am I good enough?" Questioning our self-esteem and self-worth is something that we as human beings face our whole life. In the age of social media and hyper-connection, it's easy to compare ourselves without even realizing it.

When you feel the inner critic gnawing your thoughts and feelings, take a deep breath, and try one of these strategies:

1. Identify the cause that is undermining your self-worth. Maybe it's disapproving parents or some passing remark that your partner made. Pinpointing why you are questioning your self-worth can be the first step to addressing self-doubt.
2. Turn off thinking mode. Sometimes, hitting snooze on all your thoughts and feelings helps. It can be hard to enjoy something while having negative self-talk, but distracting yourself from all the voices with some exercise, a movie, or a nice nap can do wonders for someone going through a tough time.
3. Therapy. If this is a recurring issue for you, seeking professional help could be an option. You do not have to deal with everything alone. Being able to ask for help takes a great deal of strength and courage as well, so do not feel like therapy somehow makes you weak and any less worthy of anything.
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Other ways might help, such as talking to family members, friends, or mentors, revisiting your favorite memory, or going out for a good time.

If you are struggling with your worth right now -- whether the term be self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, or anything else --, know that you do not have to be like anyone else to become a "better person." You are enough. You are worthy because you are you. You are doing a great job at being yourself, and that is enough. At the end of the day, it is all about self-love.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Good question. I am afraid there is no simple answer to that question. It can be such a personal question.The good news is a personal question can only be answered well by the person who is asking it. For the same reason, allow me to propose a question instead. What is the real reason for you to ask the question? I asked myself the same question years ago. My reason of the time - I was afraid of talking openly with the someone about my insecurity. Consequently a lot of self-doubts popped up in my head. I suspected my inner critic played a key role in it. The sooner I got the why, the quicker I figured out my what-to-do. I stopped toying with my self-doubts. "To Err Is Human" The end of the day I accept, forgive and move on. You may be aware that I am only focusing on the inner work. Make no mistake, good intrapersonal work benefits the interpersonal aspect of one's life.I guess, it does no harm to ask yourself good questions as the first step to help find the right solution.

@WendinCaring Thank you for sharing, I like your take on this - your approach has the strength of you mentioning a unique idea and motivating the person to use their inner reflection strength. One tip would be to rephrase the starting sentence to something like "While your question seems personal, and those don't always have accurate or simple answers, I believe you can reflect and seek the answer from within yourself"

@SoulfullyAButterfly Thank you. Your rephrasing is definitely better. I need to working on the rephrasing.

@WendinCaring

I really liked how empathetic you were, and how you added a little bit about your own story into the message and how your message seems really personal and from the heart. If I were to recommend an improvement It could be to keep the message more simple as some may struggle to understand. Really good work!

Question

What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Key Words

Parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great thing, information, communication, end of the day

Answer:

Parents put to much pressure on teens today.

Social media, while it is a great tool, to use, it can also be a not so great thing.

It can lower someones self-esteem.

What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Here are some tips:

Try to find an amazing person to look up too.

Find a more healthy relationship.

Tell your-self your an amazing person, no matter, what people say on social media, or what your parents say as well.

Avoid as much as you can, negative self-talk.

Keep the lines of communication open between your parents and partner.

Share information on how you feel when someone say to you, you are not good enough for someone.

Remember at the end of the day, you are special, no matter what anyone might say to you.

@Happy900

Hi Happy. As per requested in our assignment I am asked to list 3 positive thing about your content and 1 suggestion for improvement:

I like the list of tips

Good use of the keywords

Easy to read

Tip: might want to start out saying where the voice of "not good enough" is coming from (and that helps to understand your sentence of parents and social media).

Good job!

@Happy900 great work on presenting the answer in a simple, straightforward list with factors and solutions

@SoulfullyAButterfly I am glad you liked it. Thanks for taking the time to read it.

@Happy900

Strengths:
writing the answer in point makes it easier to read

the points are short hence retain attention

good language

Improvement:

the answer could talk about self love which is a good way to overcome this problem

@Anxin

When the voice saying "I am not good enough" appears, the self-doubt sets in and fear takes over. This negative self-talk can begin in childhood and manifest itself in ways that affect self-esteem as well as other family members and partners involved. The good news is there is an underlying assumption about not being good enough. This assumption might seem logical, but the logic fails because the truth, just is not there.

The assumption is: That you can clearly define "enough".

What qualifies as "good enough"? You might answer with, "if I just do the right thing", or "If I were just a better person". However, these markers set up by you are still unclear because what is "right" or "better" and our "enough-ness" continue to be undefinable.

The truth about enough is to question the definitions of "enough" (or "deserving" or "worthy"). As you ponder what the voice is saying to you, think of the wounds it is expressing. By listening to the voices of "not good enough", you can begin to understand what is really being said. It’s through listening without attachment to that voice, that you’ll learn some valuable information. Whether it be a fear of making mistakes or perhaps the fear that needs won't be met or something else, you will have a better understanding of the real reason for thinking of not being good enough.

At the end of the day, ask yourself if you can really define "good enough, or not good enough". Spend less time searching for enough-ness and spend more time noticing what an amazing person you are.

@sunlightspirit

The assumption is: You CAN'T clearly define "enough"

TYPO...and I read this over and over again

@sunlightspirit

Okay, I must be going crazy with fatigue. I had it right...it is the ASSUMPTION. so it is correct the way it is written. I better get some rest...lol

❤️ @sunlightspirit ❤️

❤️ Hi, amazing person! I really appreciate how you used the language to be both professional and warm to the user, sending knowledge and empathy at the same time. You also included the keywords in an intelligent way (specially when you used the "voice" keyword to separate the person from the thought, and the way you utilized other keywords to describe the assumption). For improvement, I'd suggest adding more things the person can try. However, I adored how you presented your tip: the concept of not worrying too much about the definition of "good enough" and instead doing things your way and enjoying your own amazing-ness is really nurturing and supportive. Besides, your approach is really original! Overall, an incredible response. Keep up the awesome work! ❤️

Reposting because of typo:

When the voice saying "I am not good enough" appears, the self-doubt sets in and fear takes over. This negative self-talk can begin in childhood and manifest itself in ways that affect self-esteem as well as other family members and partners involved. The good news is there is an underlying assumption about not being good enough. This assumption might seem logical, but the logic fails because the truth, just is not there.

The assumption is: That you can't clearly define "enough".

What qualifies as "good enough"? You might answer with, "if I just do the right thing", or "If I were just a better person". However, these markers set up by you are still unclear because what is "right" or "better" and our "enough-ness" continue to be undefinable.

The truth about enough is to question the definitions of "enough" (or "deserving" or "worthy"). As you ponder what the voice is saying to you, think of the wounds it is expressing. By listening to the voices of "not good enough", you can begin to understand what is really being said. It’s through listening without attachment to that voice, that you’ll learn some valuable information. Whether it be a fear of making mistakes or perhaps the fear that needs won't be met or something else, you will have a better understanding of the real reason for thinking of not being good enough.

At the end of the day, ask yourself if you can really define "good enough, or not good enough". Spend less time searching for enough-ness and spend more time noticing what an amazing person you are.

My first post is correct. Ignore the second reposting...

Sunlightspirit

We often tend to listen to our inner critic and engage ourselves in negative self-talk. This can lead us to feel a low sense of self -esteem and self- worth and not feeling like we may be good enough for someone. Comparing our lives to other people doing great things ,having a good time and posting it on social media can impact our self - confidence. We want ourselves to be perfect in the eyes of our parents,partner,children, or other family members,and try to become a better person in their eyes.
The first step to dealing with this is to realise that we are all human beings, we aren't perfect. Therapy can be very helpful when trying to deal with self-doubt and analyzing any information our brain feeds us.
Self-love is one of the best way to have healthy relationships with others and inculcate proper communication.
At the end of the day, the good news is that we have a nice voice inside us too,that tells us to do the right thing and reminds us that we are an amazing person! Find that voice. It may be difficult at first, but worth the try!

@azureOwl6812

Correction : We want ourselves to be perfect in the eyes of our parents,partner,children, or other family members,and try to become a better person.

@azureOwl6812 I really like your tone and the way you presented the facts to provide a background followed by your tips which had both something the person could start on right away as well as something for the long-term. Excellent motivational ending as well - one thing you could try doing is to re-check spaces between words through proofing after done writing up your answer

@azureOwl6812 Nice job overall, but I have to agree with @ASoulfullyAButterfly's comment about leaving spaces between words.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

If you are ever feeling doubtful about if you are worth someone's time or emotions one great thing to do is critic the situation. Ask yourself what is the reason for this? What has changed in your relationship? Why have these things changed? Once you have then discovered the real reason for your feelings you can then identify solutions to fixing them! These could be by communication with the other person so that you can both work together to become better people. As well as this If you know you are trying your hardest you need to keep your self-esteem up also! Keep your self-worth up, have self-confidence and things will work out!

@electricWhisper3694 thank you for your thoughtful answer, nice flow and good incorporation of keywords

@SoulfullyAButterfly Thank you for the feedback :)

@electricWhisper3694 I think your use of questions and punctuation makes your answer very accesible, it sounds like an answer a friend would give. Great job including the keywords as well.

My critique would be to offer some ideas of how to increase one's self-esteem rather than telling someone who is most likely struggling with that to just do it.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

First step im sorry to hear you feel like you are not good enough. if this is your partner/children or parents im sure they would all disagree and feel you are an amazing person to be with and around. Sometimes we are our own worst inner critic when we self doubt ourselves and that isnt easy to handle and thats ok to feel the way you do its how you feel end of the day. However good news theirs lots of information out there that can help with boosting self confidence , self love etc. things like our self help guides which can be found here :Self Help Guides | 7 Cups theirs following our progress path too maybe social media scrolling read any positive quotes watch funny videos but what you could do most of all ask family members for your positive traits and you too will see how great you are and that you are good enough.

@CaringBrit

Short, practical, and concise without judging. Nice!

What still can be improved: instead of mentioning "there are lots of information/resources out there ...", I think you can provide these links or book title so that the reader won't have to work twice (by Googling it themselves). Everything can be found in just one post - your reply.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Proposed Answer: Feeling not good enough for people around us reflects our low self esteem, whether it is because we bring home a test score lower than our parents' expectation or we earn less money than our business partners. The good news is, this can be changed; we can learn to build our self confidence.

Here is the key: self-love. Self-love means accepting who you are without many criticism the way you accept a best friend.

So what is the first step for loving ourselves? The answer is: stop comparing oneself with others - whether it is someone we know in real life, someone in social media, or a figure we see on TV/magazine.

Find a voice inside that whispers, "You are an amazing person. You can do great things. I love you the way you are." If you still have troubles finding this voice, try communicating with people you have a healthy relationship with. They may help you by pointing out what they really like about you, and you may be amazed by how a little honest communication can have such a big impact!

Another step I recommend is: focus on what you have rather than what you don't. Maybe you are not the best basketball player, but you are good at swimming. Or maybe there are times you feel that a classmate can paint better than you - but instead of comparing your abilities, why not be grateful that you are a great painter?

After all, at the end of the day, it is you and your mindset that become the foundation of self-confidence and self-love. Good luck!

@11820Read

I loved your answer. 1)Used a lot of keywords. 2)Made good positive statements and 3) even added a few examples.

Suggestion: Some examples were too specific (like basketball), which can be widened and sports can be used instead, so more people find it relatable.

Being said that: You are an amazing person. You can do great things.

@11820Read love your presentation and flow, as well as the opening with examples everyone can relate to followed by hope that would make the reader want to read onwards. Great breakdown of steps too - the writing was very conversational and makes the reader not only feel supported but think about your supportive recommendations.

@11820Read good work i really enjoyed reading your post , keep going !

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

When one wishes to be 'good enough for someone' it generally points to a low self-esteem issue, so it's best to address that first. People with self-confidence issues usually hesitate to reach out. But you did the right thing by asking for help. If one keeps things to themselves, it may lead to self-doubt and negative self-talk. So, you should firstly thank yourself for challenging your inner critic and wanting to be a better person. Someone with more self-love and self-worth

Our self-esteem is a combined effect of various factors such as whole life experiences, interaction with other human beings, social media habits, the influence of parents, healthy relationship with partner & others, or lack thereof. The real reason that makes one's self-esteem high or low cannot always be pinpointed.

The good news is that it still can be improved. The first step is to gather information on general mental health and well-being. Engaging in self-care activities is one of the best ways to garden your self-esteem. Activities such as communication with friends and family members, spending time with children and pets, having a good time with your partner doing something you enjoy are some of them. Also, small things can be great things to bring a smile to your face. Like having a hot tea, shower, taking a nap, reading a book, buying something for yourself, etc. At the end of the day, it's all about shifting our focus from things that make us feel bad to the things that make us feel good.

If you are looking for professional therapy, you can always look for therapists around you or for online, you can consider www.7cups.com. I wish you good luck and hope you combat your self-esteem issues soon and bloom into the amazing person you know that you can be.

@DonaldDraper

Great use of keywords! Did you use all of them? Bravo. And their usage was very natural and flowed well. You gave a variety of things that people could do to resolve the issue. Finally you were lovely and empathic. You showed kindness and non-judgemental-ness towards the reader. I really struggle to find something to flag you on. Perhaps the sentence on the cause of low self-esteem being unable to be pinpointed.

Job well done.

@QuietLotus Thank you so much. You should be a professional critic

When you feel your not good enough for someone you should try and see your good qualities and what good you have done for others. Then you should remember that not everyone will appreciate you all the time. Knowing ourselves and loving ourselves comes first. I learned that self-care makes a huge difference in how we feel about ourselves and then we are able to give love to others in return.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

You should know that, although you have qualities, there is always that someone who will not like you back.

That will lead you towards reevaluating yourself, negative self-talk, self-doubt and inner critic, especially since sometimes, we could be our own worse inner critics of ourselves.

You must remember that at the end of the day, we are all human beings, ask everyone; your parents, family members, partner or even children, we all go through moments like that in our lives. But it is up to you to learn from such a situation.

The first step would be learning to self-love if you ever had doubts with yourself, I believe that communication is key with your loved ones in order to vent about any negative feelings, plus if you have several negative feelings, you might want to consider therapy in order to feel better and regain your self-confidence.

But a better reminder would be that you are an amazing person, and great things will happen to you, whether you stay the same or decide to be a better person.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Feeling you are not good enough for someone is a deeply unpleasant and unhappy position to find yourself in. We spend all that effort, time, and energy finding that amazing person, and then instead of revelling in our good luck, we run the risk of ruining it all by giving into the false belief that we are not good enough. The really good news is that help is at hand for this issue. The essence of it all is to partake in those things that build up your self-esteem and promote self-love. Good self-esteem is a critical ingredient for good relationships. Below are some tips on how this may be achieved.

Take a social media break.

This can be a good first step on the path to increased self-esteem. Nobody is perfect, but social media does a great job at convincing you that everyone around you is. We compare ourselves constantly to those around us, and it eats away at our self-confidence. So, in a word, disconnect!

Change negative self-talk into positive self-talk via affirmations.

A good many of us have an overly robust inner critic, preaching the word that feeds self-doubt and a poor self-image. This voice has probably been with us our whole life. Using positive affirmations such as “I am good enough”, or “I am worthy of love”, can be a powerful way of changing our inner monologue.

Take some “me” time.

Take some time to do what you enjoy. Learn to view this not as a luxury, but a necessity. There is no one ‘right thing’ to do here as we all differ. At the end of the day what is important is that it feels good to do. Some may take early morning walks, meditate, or indulge in a bubble bath.

In what ways have you shown yourself love?

@QuietLotus What a wonderful response to the question. I am going to list my 3 strengths to your post and 1 tip.

1. I love the tone of your post, it is clear and direct.

2. I enjoy that you gave ideas on how to improve.

3. I also love the ending question, "In what ways have you shown yourself love?" This opens up the mind to remember to give yourself love and list them out.

A tip I would provide to help your improve is to use stronger words, otherwise this is great!