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Hey all my names Brit. I’ve been a listener for 4 years almost 5 .I'm a verified ATL too I'll only take chats for one hour slots at a time if you need regular we will set up a time and date after every chat i take Always accepting long term members .

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Check-in, Trauma Support Community, Sunday 2nd May 2021
Trauma Support / by CaringBrit
Last post
 May 3rd, 2021
...See more heyy trauma community , i apologise for more absence and thank those covering my days I've dropped Saturday as that will now be elizebe day to do checkins but will be doing sundays if I don't however post I'm most likely having a good reason happening topic : Egotistical States so above we have the triangle of each state each and everyone of us move between ignore the quotes as I'm going to deep dive into each one a lot better than those quotes show . And that’s why today we’re talking about the drama triangle. there are three sections on the diagram where you’re either playing the victim, the aggressor, or the hero. When you’re in a codependent, dysfunctional relationship, you’re playing one of those roles at all times. Each partner in the relationship is playing one of those roles at all times. Let's start with The Victim The role of Starting Gate Victim is also a shadow aspect. It is the wounded shadow of our inner child; that part of us that is innocent, vulnerable AND needy. This child-self does need support on occasion – that’s natural. It’s only when we become convinced that we can’t take care of ourselves, that we move into Victim. Believing that we are frail, powerless or defective keeps us needing rescue. This relegates us to a lifetime of crippling dependency on our primary relationships. A SGV has accepted a definition of themselves that says they are intrinsically damaged and incapable. SGV’s project an attitude of being weak, fragile or not smart enough; basically, “I can’t do it by myself.” Their greatest fear is that they won’t make it. That anxiety forces them to be always on the lookout for someone stronger or more capable to take care of them. read more of the info above ill link resources at the bottom I used as only pulled some of the info this goes for the other 2 states aswell Rescuer The Rescuer might be described as a shadow aspect of the mother principle. Instead of an appropriate expression of support and nurturing, the Rescuer tends to “smother”, control and manipulate others – “for their own good,” of course. Theirs is a misguided understanding of what it is to encourage, empower and protect. A Starting Gate Rescuer is the classic, co-dependent. The SGR tends be enabling, overly protective – the one who wants to “fix it.” Rescuing is an addiction that comes from an unconscious need to feel valued. There’s no better way to feel important than to be a savior! Taking care of others may be the Rescuers best game plan for getting to feel worthwhile. SGR’s usually grow up in families where their dependency needs are not acknowledged. It’s a psychological fact that we treat ourselves the way we were treated as children. The budding Rescuer grows up in an environment where their needs are negated and so tend to treat themselves with the same degree of negligence that they experienced as children. Without permission to take care of themselves, their needs go underground and they turn instead to taking care of others. Persecutor Like the other roles, the Starting Gate Persecutor is shame based. This role is most often taken on by someone who received overt mental and/or physical abuse during their childhood. As a result they are often secretly seething inside from a shame based wrath that ends up running their lives. SGPs, for survival sake, repress deep-seated feelings of worthlessness; they hide their pain behind a facade of indignant wrath and uncaring detachment. They may choose to emulate their primary childhood abuser(s), preferring to identify with those they see as having power and strength – rather than become the “picked on loser” at the bottom of life’s pile. SGP’s tend to adopt an attitude that says; “The world is hard and mean … only the ruthless survive. I’ll be one of those.” In other words, they become perpetrators. They “protect” themselves using authoritarian, controlling and downright punishing methods. In the same way that the SGR is the shadow mother principle, the SGP is the “shadow father principle.” A healthy father's job is to protect and provide for his family. Rather than providing nurturing direction, the SGP attempts to “reform” and discipline those around him using manipulation and brute force. resource used for explaining each state: The Three Faces of Victim – An Overview of the Victim Triangle (lynneforrest.com) [https://www.lynneforrest.com/articles/2008/06/the-faces-of-victim/] resource for the triangle images: The Codependent Drama or Victim Triangle - Karpman Triangle - The SHAIR Recovery Podcast (theshairpodcast.com) [https://theshairpodcast.com/the-codependent-drama-or-victim-triangle-karpman-triangle/] Questions 1`. how are you feeling today? 2. which state do you tend to be in and why? 3 . anything you're wanting to share good the bad and in between? 4. one thing you can do to help yourself today? of course the topic is optional if you rather not do it that's fine just a regularcheckin is fine if you prefer or a hug etc . 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Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-In: Saturday 3rd and Sunday 4th April
Trauma Support / by CaringBrit
Last post
 April 6th, 2021
...See more Hey Trauma Community :) im back sorry been away a bit a short checkin this time Questions 1. how are you feeling today? 2. anything good/bad you wish to share? 3. what is one thing you can do to help yourself feel better today? @adaptableLake3534 @adequatelyInadequate @adventurousBranch3786 @AstronomySkies @AveryLove @BeenAKiwi @BillyJoeBobb @blueScarf9326 @BrokenDreamsPalace @BrokenMedic @CaptainTrev @CaringBrit @clare7199 @Colorfulcatsofhope @communicativeYard2325 @CoolBeans29 @crimsonLime6525 @crxxtvfl0w @depressedsatellite1452 @DinaElwy @domesticEmerald50s @emylly @Feathersfall @FigureskatingEquestrian @Fireskye13 @Fleggles @Gagaintheroom @gentleLand5245 @Ghxstie @goldenSpruce1512 @Grandmaof10 @gregariousBeing5071 @hillsideblues @honestpanda81 @HonestWarrior6624 @HopeNChayil @HumanPersonThingy @Hydrangea03 @InfinityandBeyond23 @Itisbailey @jr50 @jupitermatilde @Kekesea11 @Kickiree @Kimmkimm @LightofWorld @Lilly28 @littleHuman9247 @littleOtter1342 @lovehummingbirdsCindy @LovelyOrangeJuice @lowkeyem1001 @Lubo123 @Luchelle @maya6548 @Mellietronx @mkaitx @mytwistedsoul @navyMango2804 @neatBlueberry3608 @neonDog3649 @NevaehRose @Nolanhm @nonethewiser @NoneTheWiser @notmyselftoday @npos25 @oceancruiser48 @OffDutySeraph @OneWithSugar @ottersngiggles @Parvlakin @pencilmarks @Pidgeymon @PinkestOctopus @politeBunny7572 @purpleWheel873 @QuietLotus @rainbow3140 @Randomperson453 @ReallyRuth @Rebekahwriter13 @Redhawk6547 @redmark @Rosa9570 @SarahAlaina15 @scarletPear1945 @sensitiveShade5337 @shiningDay80 @Silverviolets @sleepingd0gg0 @SnippyHam @sofiamartino18 @SoulSupporter102 @stickercollection @Summer899 @SynSavory @Taylorz27 @tealOak8933 @The0Vetoed0System @TheFisherKing @ThisIsLogan @ThreadbareThinker @TransparentPuzzle @Turtlegrrrl8 @u1146 @Understandingempath @UndomesticGoddess @uniqueDaisy @WarriorHeartsSystem @weepingwillow5489 @WelcomeToChat @Worrior22Warrior @Writersworld
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You're amazing. Thank you so much
She was great.
She’s an amazing listener! 10/10!
brit is an amazing listener! she really helped me so much, helped talk me through my issue :)
she is a good listener
She was really helpful and definitely helped me out
CaringBrit is very kind and helpful
A very helpful chat!
Very polite and frindly and understanding and warm and well structured in giving information. Thank you🤗
Brit has a good heart and cares
Thank you so much! Makes you feel like you’re not alone :)
Was a great listener and knew exactly what to say!
helpful! does a lot to help really
Wonderful. Just what the doctor ordered.
she is so helpful and she put me in the right direction to find help with what I needed help with. CaringBrit rocks!
Great listener , my first chat went better than expected! Do recommend ❤️
I really had an awesome experience with her, she's been caring, helpful and empathetic the whole time, it really felt like talking to an old friend that is truly concerned and truly wants to make you feel better
She is absolutely the best listener on this website. She is so understanding and considerate. Will definitely come back to her. 💜
She was great
I didn’t even find CaringBrit. She actually reached out to me, which felt so nice. She gave me a warm welcome and was empathetic with my difficult situation. I wasn’t judged at all, and she offered me simple, practical ideas to improve the situation. She is truly a shining star in my world when it felt at its darkest.
Great listener. Caring, kind, compassionate and easy to talk to!
Amazing. Really helpful and calming. Keep the good work up and thank you so much.
It was really nice to talk to you and you're very sweet. Hope to talk to you again❤️
Very sweet and understanding. Wants what is best for you with so much empathy.
Very good, calming person.
I was nervous at first to talk to a stranger but I soon felt comfortable. Great listener!
You are a good person
We lack those in life
Amazing, caring, genuine
Very caring as the name suggest. Very professional.
Thanks for your help Brit. You're caring, patient and understanding.
Professional and helpful. Thanks again :)
She is the BEST
Great listener. Very happy with how the conversations are going so far. Highly recommended :)
very helpful
Great listener
She is most amazing listener here
Its been my first time here and im feeling pretty good about things since talking them out with brit. I got some perspective on my own thoughts and she really helped me justify some things to myself
Didn't get put off by my disability like some "Listeners" on here (!) Spent a lot of time talking to me, related to me and gave me relevant articles to help cope.
Thank you for caring and trying to help me
thank you
Absolutely amazing listener
It was a delightful chat.
She is great. Makes room for you.
Very empathic and extremely helpful and comforting to my current struggles
Brit has been the most caring and considerate listener! She's so non judgemental and offers fabulous sensible and achievable advice! She's helped me set goals and think about how I can help myself which is the most important thing!! I would recommend her 1000 times!
you are a great person
I became relaxed very quickly. I felt like anything i said mattered and that was important to me. I felt they could understand my feelings without judging me. The response time was quick and when they didnt hear from me they checked to make sure i was ok and still there.
Thanks for your help
Brit read message my friend give her to help me and was first person on site to take it seriously and give me love,care I needed :( I'm so scared all the time and I can never show it she give me safe space to build trust and be little happy thank you for today brit :(
She's just awesome totally saved my day when i was having some horrible anxiety, love it absolutely love it best listener ever
Very nice. Hope I can talk with her again
She's lovely xx
Thanxs for listening to me I appreciate it a lot. You helped me out and feeling a little bit more better than I was
Helpful and extremely considerate.
A great listener !
She's such an understanding and nonjudgmental listener I really felt safe talking to her about my issues and I really trust her. - Love, Jill
Wonderful listener!!
Amazing listener - understanding, caring and endlessly devoted to the person she's talking to. Thank you for everything!
really good listener. gave me really great advice. highly recommend
Thank you, you really are a Caring Brit. It's nice to have someone who can relate to my struggles and let me know that I'm heard.
Thank you, really helped me
I hope that I can continue chatting with Brit she is so helpful thank u so mich
Great listener! Offered me some good insights and listened to me
just like her name implies, she's a really good and kind caring brit
She listened to me patiently and I needed that. I was expecting suggestions but maybe that's asking too much. However, I must say she listens and it shows by her chatting that she does care. Thanks Brit!
Amazing, very empathetic and I feel like I can really trust them.
Gave good practical suggestions and was patient
Awesome
Great listener has a different style which seems professional in a counsellor style of way. At times this presents as more detached from the chat
Very helpful to talk it all out.
An easily warming Too Friendly Figure.
She is excellent, she treated my issue like her own, thank you for listening to me. God bless you!
What a delight. Such a helping heart. I am so thankful that we got to speak. I truly was inspired by our conversation. I am so glad that there are Listeners on this site as effective as her. Thank you so much. Much respect to you, my dear.
very helpful! :)
Good listener, thank you for your help.
Thx for help :)
Brit was a great listener and made me feel as if I wasnt alone. I felt like I had a companion, someone to just listen to me. It was very nice.
She's very kind and has been a great support.
Great help, and very caring. Thank you!
CaringBrit was very nice and very helpful. She was positive and had a lot of empathy. She helped me to calm my anxiety and to be able to think clearly again. She helped me to think about things I could do to feel better... She was very supportive.
Very Good and Polite and Nice Listener. Thank You.
Caring, thoughtful, intelligent, an excellent listener.
Very good, quick response, listens well, very helpful!
this user is very patient and helpful. she sent me a lot of helpful links and is very polite. very much recommended
Great Person.
she is very understanding listener. Gave a good advice, and made me feel better in general
She was very kind, gave me great resources and helped me calm down a little. I recommend her. :)
Amazing person. I don't know what to say. You helped me alot. Thanks for listening to me :)
Very helpful and a good listener.
Brit was very helpful and understanding during my moment of need. She provided me with links to help ease my mind and gave me some very helpful tips that I will keep in mind. Thank you Brit :)
She's a great listener who is unbiased on the situation at hand and helps you get a feel of your own power as a person.
Very caring, helped me through my panic attack.
great listener! thank you brit
Absolutely wonder. Brit was wonderful in letting me vent and realize that everything is okay in my life, I'm just overwhelmed and need to have a little me time.So happy I talked to them
Absolutely brilliant. Fully understood where I was coming from, analysed my situation well, got me feeling better and introduced me to new techniques. Amazing.
Was very nice and helpful. Glad i have found a person like that.
This listener tries his/her best to help. And his/her best is pretty good if you ask me. He/she will listen and listen well.
Perfect
I'm thankful that I was at least listened to for a bit. That was nice.
She's a extremely good listener and one of the reasons i'll be joining this site. I'm glad she's the first person I bummed into on here.
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