2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support
As previously introduced, the Questions and Answers Pages at 7 Cups offer a wide range of quality based answers to common mental health questions
Questions and Answers are available for 38 main categories, ranging from General Mental Health, Disabilities, Managing Emotions, Loneliness, Grief, Recovery, Student Life, Work Stress, and many more!
Through this directory of available knowledge, awareness, and support, 7 Cups is equipped with answers to the common questions and concerns people have. Most of these Questions and Answers are featured in search engine results due to the value of the content they contain.
The main community Questions and Answers Page offers a recent questions section as well as a section containing the most answered questions.
All 7 Cups users are invited to search for or ask new questions through the main page. Community users can also participate in this area by submitting their answers, which are reviewed by a team for quality and other important requirements.
Through this discussion, we will discuss the basic requirements needed to research as well as write quality answers for the Question and Answer Pages. Additionally, we will optimize the drafted answers in light of certain guidelines.
(i) Basic Research and Writing Requirements: When writing answers to community questions, keep in mind these tips:
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You need to write a minimum of 150 characters and 100 words.
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If research is needed to guide your answer, consider only learning about the topic and avoid direct copy/pasting researched tips, advice, or information.
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Consider verifying the information or facts through at least 2 reliable sources.
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When researching possible answers or things the person can benefit from, consider their circumstances and if the tip is do-able and generally applicable.
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Avoid plagiarism.
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Use professional and appropriate language.
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If comfortable, you can add a personal anecdote to help add meaning to your answer. However, avoid turning the answer to just your account or an entire focus on your experience.
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Be empathetic, and consider using active listening skills to help not only answer their question but their feelings - this adds connection and meaning to your answer, as well as identifies understanding, which can lead to trust.
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Answers should be related to the question and must contain tips or approaches to help deal with the question/situation instead of vague responses, even if positive.
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7 Cups is based on avoiding direct advice, this is because we do not know the complete scenario or situation a person may be facing. Keeping that in mind, avoid giving answers that provide one possible “solution” - a good tip is to consider encompassing all possible outcomes or more than one thing the person can try.
(ii) Ensuring Optimized Answers: Although the above requirements and tips help deliver a great answer, further optimization of drafted answers can help ensure their quality.
At 7 Cups, the Content Team uses researched and identified important keywords to guide their research and the writing process to result in optimized content as answers to community questions. In this regard, the basic tips/requirements involved are:
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Ensure answers have at least 8 to 10 sentences.
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Ensure the usage/incorporation of the maximum number or all of the provided keywords that can relate to the topic.
What are Keywords?
Generally, keywords can be thought of as terms or phrases that describe a piece of content. Related keywords are supporting keywords that can help further describe or expand on that initial content. For example, for the keyword “anxiety”, related keywords can be “anxiety symptoms” or “anxiety treatments”.
Keywords help with search engine marketing and hence are an important part of SEO strategies. A simple strategy to find keywords is to look for Google Related Searches. These related searches are searches that relate to your term. For instance, a Google Related Search for “anxiety symptoms” is “what is anxiety” - using this insight, you can consider including this phrase alongside a brief category of your content outline to help strengthen the optimization of your content.
For other free tools to help with keyword research, you can visit this external link.
Activity
Review this Sample Optimized Answer:
Question: How do paper bags help with panic attacks?
Provided Keywords: asthma attack, heart attacks, asthma, problems, brown paper bag, medical conditions, hyperventilation syndrome, mouth, respiratory alkalosis, common causes, chest pain, benefit, stress, medications
Approved, Optimized Answer:
While panic attacks might mimic the symptoms of heart attacks, they can be caused by several other problems and medical conditions. These include feeling stressed or facing medical conditions such as asthma attacks, hyperventilation syndrome, or even respiratory alkalosis. Although the common causes may differ, common symptoms include chest pain. Deep breathing through the mouth or by using a brown paper bag has its benefits, as it aids in the restoration of the loss of carbon dioxide in the blood during the panic attack.
Notes: The question was general, requiring general research-based knowledge on the process of using paper bags for panic attacks. As the keywords were essentially covered, note that this answer does not have 8-10 sentences, but further supporting information or even a personal anecdote can be added.
The following activity will help you put your attained knowledge to practice. Please write an optimized answer to the following community question, in light of the provided keywords. In addition, you are required to reply to at least one other student’s answer by identifying at least 3 strengths (things done correctly as per discussed guidelines) as well as at least 1 tip for improving the answer.
Note: You are welcome to click the question link and submit your written answer for community publication once done as this is an existing question!
Please do not forget to personally save your activity answers as well as your reply to another user’s answer (recommended on Google Doc or other means) as you will be asked to share this for your Weekly Progress Report.
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day
Bonus: Want to put your knowledge to test? Consider joining the Question and Answer (Q&A) Approval Team here and earn cheers for helping approve community answer submissions. You will be using the above knowledge as well as reminders on what makes a good answer. For more information, click here
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Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
You could have lot of qualities in you, yet somebody might not like you as much as you might like them. You might want to be with them, but they might not want to as much be with you.
You look to reflect - what is less in me, what do I do to attract the company of the person to my life. Despite trying hard, even hardest, all starts to feel disappointing and invain.
This happens sometimes. Not always does your frequency matches with another person. Acceptance, then, seems to be the only answer.
Strive to be the best version of yourself, but more importantly, let things/persons naturally enter your life; let them naturally leave too.
@Fristo Your response is empathetic, uses professional language and offers an approach without being imposing. Nice job. It would benefit from having more of the provided keywords though, but I understand that they can be hard to incorporate.
@FinleyTews I definitely agre
@Fristo
My three strengths to you: I liked that you kept things simple, brought up reflection as a valuable tool, and naturally reminded the person that things sometimes happen outside of our control. My tip to you - maybe you can add a few more of the recommended keyboards to amplify your already awesome writing. Overall, lovely response! :)
@Fristo Thank you for sharing - your tone has a great motivational feel to it and I like how that adds to the level of support. I hope some practice with incorporating keywords will help strengthen your response.
@Fristo Nice tone. You did a good job answering the question. Very professional.
@Fristo
heyy fristo as you know my task is to name 3 strengths and 1 improve tip
3 strengths: post was well written , clear to understand , loved the tone too however my tip to improve it didn't answer the question at least not to me anyway if I had received that answer id be like that's not the issue the issue is I feel I'm not good enough if it was a question about what to do if someone doesn't like me back then this answer would be perfect overall though good job
@Fristo
3 strengths: Post was well-written, simple and clear, and the tone is perfect. My tip: Improving the content further by adding a few more of the keyboards.
But it was a job well done! :)
@Fristo
Nicely & precisely answered.
I think maybe you could have elaborated those points a bit using a few of those keywords but overall well done.
@Fristo
3 strengths: a really kind response to such a problem.
It felt as though you truly understood where the person is coming from.
Great use of active listening skills.
Weakness: could use more SEO keywords
@Fristo Your answer gives the reader a sense of hope. Well done . Only tip would be to refer more to the key words otherwise nice answer . 👏👏
@Fristo Good answer. I loved reading it.
I felt you answered the question, to the best of your ability.
Well done.
@Fristo
As you know my task is to state 3 of your strengths and highlight 1 tip to improve your skills.
Nice tone, proper use of keywords, clear to understand, however my tip to improve it will be to reduce the repetition eg. you used: "you might like them they might not", "you might want them they might not". This could easily be addressed in a single sentence.
No hard feelings, Best of luck!!
@Fristo I Loved Your Response. it shows empathy and you have written it professionally.
@Fristo
Hello, Fristo! I loved how your post was professional, motivational, using reflection as the main tool. Simple, professional, and inspiring yet it was in no way authoritative or assertive.
A well-written post.
I would have loved to see you using more of the keywords.
Strengths are that you validate who is reading, provide empathy, and tell a story.
The ending is does need a but of elaboration though.
@Fristo
That was great and very heartfelt. It was also very positive and helpful.
You made me feel good and I didn't need it.
@Fristo Very well articulated, nice use of transition words, and optimization of content and information. Well done!
@Fristo An improvement area could be adding more keywords which can help to make content more searchable.
@Fristo
I really like your response. You sounds very empathic and you don't over do it! :)
Strengths:
1. Easy to understand.
2. Nice and caring tone, gave me a sense of hope!
3. Well-written.
Improve: Could maybe use a bit more keywords.
@Fristo
you did a great job thank you for your insights
@Fristo Hi Fristo, I agree with a lot of what you wrote in your response. Three strengths I noticed are the spacing you made between each statement, providing great advice to the situation, and how you encouraged striving to be the best version of yourself. I did not recognize any problems with your response. The only tip I would recommend is maybe providing more recommendations on how to stop feeling the concerns the person is experiencing.
@Fristo
3 Strengths:
-. You express not only empathy at the beginning
but also positively reframe someone who feel is not enough about himself/herself.
- -.You provide a good deep empathy to what is inside and externally someone need .
- You provide a short but a key tip to them.
Tip:
I can't really think of any for your completed
answer, if some one have a connection with
you and mind that still healthy function
, I trust they can benefit from your answer .
@Fristo
This was really well written! I really liked how your answer was straightforward and concise, providing tips and approaches that directly relates to the question above.
I also liked how you wrote this as if you are speaking directly to a particular person. In a way, it seems very personal and therefore very touching.
Furthermore, you seemed very empathetic with your answer, seeing that you are not only answering the question, you're also addressing the reader's feelings, thus strengthening the connection and meaning to your answer, leading to trust.
One thing you can improve on is to include more of the key words listed above. But overall, very well written!!
hi @Fristo! you have explained it really well.
3 strengths: the way you managed to express your view was clear and to point, you pointed out that you can't change how others think about you and lastly you stated that one thing that can be changed is our own view by self-reflection.
1 tip: you could have explained further ways to improve their self-worth and self-esteem.
@Fristo this is incredibly awesome
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day
Answer: It is frustrating when one feel like they aren't enough for someone. However, each person has their own strengths, weaknesses and things that make them special. A healthy relationship should be one where everyone feels like they have space for growth and seen as the amazing person they are. Communication about your insecurities with those who love you may help you have a better look of yourself and your relationship. Developing self-worth is also very important, as it allows us to be patient and not have a negative image of ourselves created by the often harsh inner critic. At the end of the day, the one that will stick by you your whole life is you, so self-confidence will go a long way. Being kind to yourself may be hard at first, but it can lead to great things in your life. Good luck.
@FinleyTews Very nice use of words, and you made good use of the keywords. I especially benefited from reading the line- "A healthy relationship should be one where everyone feels like they have space for growth". Looking forward to read more from you.
@Fristo Thank you for your sweet words, I really appreciate it as writing is kinda hard for me.
@FinleyTews The underlining of the keywords also look pretty.
@FinleyTews The writing labels the emotion (of frustration) in the first sentence itself, which I especially liked. As a suggestion, to further improve the writing, could more work be done to make the work more empathetic? Relating to the pain, feeling a step closer to the reader, and then reflecting back supportive words, is a helpful activity that guides me when I write.
@FinleyTews
Finley you empathized with the person who asked the questtion and that makes it feel connected. You were crisp in your answer and used keywords very well.
for a tip, could have used more keywords
@FinleyTews Excellent structure and flow! Good incorporation of keywords as well. The first sentence should read: feel(s) but that's ok, we all make mistakes - I would recommend using free tools like Grammarly just as a tip!
@FinleyTews
Hi FinleyTews,
I would like to share a few of my insights from your answer :)
Three of the things I liked about it was that you used the keywords at the right places, and the last line was realistic and giving hope at the same time.
I also liked the line where you talked about everyone having their strengths and weaknesses.
One small suggestion I would have is that maybe you can make the writing a little more supportive,as if speaking to the other person with your answer, but otherwise the answer is great!
@FinleyTews
Good use of key words, flowed really well , very inspiring.
@FinleyTews
3 strenghts: very concise, organised answer and great use of keywords
1 tip: none! this was a great answer
@FinleyTews Your answer is eloquent . You use some key words and you make your answer relatable .
@FinleyTews
Really great job on using your active listening skills to demonstrate empathy in your response. I also like how you included actual tips to help the asker. Lastly, it seems like you've incorporated many provided keywords, great job on that!
One thing you can improve on: You can consider providing more tips/approaches to dealing with the situation.
@FinleyTews
Your answer was professional and informational! I loved how you wove together keywords into a meaningful answer to the question. Something I'd suggest to make it even better is to write a little bit more about having insecurities and recognizing one's inner critic.
@FinleyTews
I really like your answer ❤
Strengths-:
1. It's emphatic
2. You have really used easy and appropriate language which is easily understandable
3. And the best thing about your post is that you have underline the key words which are easily recognizable.
Tip -: You have written so beautifully but I guess you can write more 😃
@FinleyTews Nice job.
I loved how you used the key words.
I really enjoyed reading it.
@FinleyTews
This looks really good, nice job :) You got a lot of the key words, and this kind of hit me in a good way, and it helped me personally, haha.
@FinleyTews
Hi! I liked how you used various key words effectively in your response, in a clear and coherent manner. You explained why self-worth is important, which is crucial in figuring out the answer to the question. Lastly, you accurately portrayed healthy relationships being where there is space for growth.
One thing I might add would be that you can be a bit more empathetic, perhaps including some personal anecdotes but overall it's an amazing answer!!
@FinleyTews
Finley that was great, a suggestion I have for you is always use spell and grammar check to catch those errors we would never catch. You were very positive in your writing focusing well on the subject being positive.
How many words were we supposed to use? I think I didn't use enough words either.
@FinleyTews I love the way you incorporated so many key words, and in such a kind and relatable way. Good job! I really don't see much room for improvement, however may I suggest giving some examples of how they could develop self-love. Other than that, I felt your answer was on point, empathetic, and just overall a solid, well thought out answer. Great job!
@FinleyTews
This was a really heartfelt response to a tough question to answer, thank you.
What you mentioned about the importance of communication was articulate and thoughtful.
Looking forward to seeing your other ideas!
@FinleyTews I liked your answer. It's empathetic and powerful for the person.
Strengths-:
1. It's uplifting
2. You have used relatable comments and statements that are empowering
The line that stuck by me the most was "At the end of the day, the one that will stick by you your whole life is you, so self-confidence will go a long way". The way you've expressed yourself through words was impactful. The choice of words and the linguistic techniques used were professional yet as calm as talking to a friend.
@FinleyTews
Well done for a professional reply. Your strengths are you have kept the professionalism throughout the answer, included a lot of the keywords, and have a nice tone to the content. One tip to improve is to focus more on the answer, as what all we can do in such a situation is a bit unclear, at least for me. Thank you for your valuable reply.
@FinleyTews I loved the personable feel in your response. I think you used activity guidelines very well. Perhaps you could have offered a broader range of ways the user could have used to build their self-esteem. I appreciated your example of how relationships are balanced and each person has areas to grow in. thank you for giving me a bright and open perspective to learn from.
@FinleyTews
@FinleyTews that's really good and empathic
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day
It often happens for us to feel deep inside our bones that we are not and we may never be able to be good enough for someone else. Such destructive thought can cripple inside our soul for many reasons, such as criticism from past partners, social media influence etc.
One counter-thought that would be useful to make ourselves aware of is the following: We are unique individuals, perfectly imperfect unique individuals. Knowing that, why not think of our traits instead of letting our inner critic take control over our whole thinking? Especially because there is no way we can know for sure what another human being truly feels or thinks. Maybe what we think it’s not enough, it’s the exact same thing that makes someone else view us as perfect, as their whole.
It all starts with our thinking, how healthy our thinking mechanism is. Thinking healthy may enable us to achieve self-love which would automatically lead to us becoming capable of maintaining healthy relationships, as well as enjoying the whole life more and more.
I believe that, at the end of the day, we all get to the point where we break down and feel all sorts of unpleasant feelings, but it’s crucial for us to try, as much as possible, to treat ourselves with kindness and to give ourselves a well deserved break whenever needed.
@KatherrinneP
Seems well organised. I would like to quote what I benefited from the most-
1. It all starts with our thinking, how healthy our thinking mechanism is. Thinking healthy may ... lead to us becoming capable of maintaining healthy relationships, as well as enjoying the whole life more and more.
2. we all get to the point where we break down and feel all sorts of unpleasant feelings, but it’s crucial for us to try, as much as possible, to treat ourselves with kindness and to give ourselves a well deserved break whenever needed.
Thank you for those wonderful words. If I may suggest, a little work can be done on economy of words, so that each sentence has the weight of a quote. Just what I felt. Regards.
@Fristo
Wow! Even I didn't realize that!
Thank you so much for pointing that out! <3
@KatherrinneP Excellent structuring, flow, and connecting of the required keywords to guide your answer. I like how you elaborated on the possibilities that the person can take to help assure and guide them
@KatherrinneP
I like very much your answer!
It's reality checked , well structured and concise. You touch the emotional side and the rational one as well ! Easy to understand and at point !
@KatherrinneP Good use of the key words and nice organisation . Maybe improvement could be made on how the person can improve their confidence and reference to therpay
@KatherrinneP
I really like how beautifully you used the keyword and write well structured content.
Strength
1. Excellent use of keywords
2. Well structured
3 . To the point with empathy
@KatherrinnePHi KatherrinneP
I have 3 strengths and 1 tip for your excellent community question.
3 strengths
1.You have done well to separate your answers to address the keywords
2.I like how you have used the same phrase twice for emphasis. It really gives the reader something to think about. We are unique individuals, perfectly imperfect unique individuals.
3.You wrapped up your answer with three important keywords that are along the same theme. This serves as a good and strong conclusion to help the listener to reflect on their feelings.
Tip
The tip could be to try to add more words such as grammatical expressions. For example “at the end of the day”.
Overall, it was a good post. Very clear and inspiring.
@SoulfullyAButterfly
Sometimes, we are our own worst critics. You have the same level of worth as anyone else, even when other people tell you otherwise. When others respect us, we can function at our most optimal, consolidating our self-worth. For now, we need to immerse ourselves with other human beings who are supportive and respectful of us, solidifying our chances to grow across the lifespan. These healthy relationships can include our parents, children, friends, and partners. Surrounding yourself around good people will help you gain the self-confidence and self-worth needed to thrive. At the end of the day, a therapist could be a valuable first step towards third-party moral support. For example, a therapist could teach you different communication styles, to help you become more assertive and confident, and help you discover your voice.
@SynSavory Great work! I like how you related every sentence and tried to incorporate the keywords into the flow. We generally try to include almost all the keywords but as this was not a requirement of the current task, this was a great take!
@SoulfullyAButterfly
It was really hard to incorporate the words so thank you!
@SynSavory
I really liked your answer due to good use of keywords and a relevant example is given. It sounds professional and empatheic. However, It could be structured in small different paragrahs with reference to a quote or therapy.
@Excitingeasting
I guess so....
@SoulfullyAButterfly
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day
Reply: Feelings of not being good enough tend to crop up often. These feelings can have a lot of underlying causes, including some influence from social media. We tend to usually judge our self worth by what our parents, partner, or sociey think of us, which sometimes paves the way to self doubt and negative self talk. However, the good news is, it can be worked around. The best way to work around this is to take small baby steps towards self love. As human beings, it is normal to overthink sometimes and think about why you're not a better person. What we forget is that a 'better person' is subjective. If you still feel like you could use some help, you could always try to go for therapy. The key to therapy is communication. Therapy has helped quite a few number of people, by helping them regain their self confidence. It needn't necessarily be the first and only step, but if you think it can help you, go for it! Listen to your inner voice. You're an amazing person, who has their entire life ahead of them. You're destined for a happy life, healthy relationships and so many more great things.
At the end of the day, just remember, somewhere inside you is a little child.. A younger version of you, who was carefree and loved themselves. You'll get there. I can say this, because I've been there myself. Stay strong. This too shall pass.
That's a very insightful response it really makes you stop and think for a minute!
I love the positive spin you are able to put on it ♥️
Also I loved the note at the end just summarising about the fact inside us all there is a little child. That was rather heartwarming
My tip to improve would be possibly consider how you may direct them to using a 7 cups resource maybe that you would think is appropriate, like a mindfulness exerisize of something 🙂
@Psychstudies13 Great use of the key words and it's easy and understanding
@Psychstudies13
3 strengths I found that I impressed in your answers are:
@SoulfullyAButterfly
Human being's social life is all about relationships, be it parents, partners, friends, neighbors, colleagues, children etc and for one thing, all relationships come with certain privileges and certain responsibilities and most of the relations we develop during life time are need based. So it happens that at times we can feel we are not good enough for someone. and this feeling comes out from the reactions of the other person where they can be direct in sharing this or giving hints in some other ways like lack of interest, less respect, cold treatment etc. One more point to check is that sometimes it can be our own creation, when we misunderstand or judge wrongly or simply expect too much from our own selves and it can hurt our self esteem, self worth and instill in us self doubt. Good news is that with conscious awareness along with self love, support of family members, therapy we can help us better. The best way is replacing negative self talk with positive self talk. When we feel not good enough for someone surely we were good enough for them at some time so finding the real reason is the first step. A clear communication is a key to healthy relationships. So finding the rt reason, making sure its not our false notion, talking out to someone close, an open communication with relation in concern, seeking therapy , accessing information can all help finding our self confidence and self worth back and feel more amazing, productive and contented. Maintaining a monthly relationship guide helps ,hearing our inner voice is that good time to reflect on our relations. At the end of the day , It helps to remember that we all are unique, amazing in our own ways and at times "to let go " is important . Good luck !
@blissart great take on the answer! You can always proofread and try to avoid extra spaces when submitting for publishing.
@blissart
letting go is so important, I learned to master that early. You need to move on to the next excitement in your life to fully experience it.
I suggest separating in paragraphs of six lines. I liked your tone it was "cool."
@blissart
Strength 1: I like how you chose a wide range of cases so that it can help people feel included
Strength 2: The tone feels conversational rather than stiff, distant or too informational
Strength 3: Having the solutions listed after the possible causes for questioning self worth
Suggestion for improvement: There were some grammatical/syntax errors that distracted me along the way. However, I think this is an easy, minor thing to fix.
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day
It's a very hard feeling when you dont feel like you are good enough, it can make you feel isolated and afraid of being abandoned and trust me I think every human being has felt that at some point. I believe the first step is working out why you are feeling this way? Maybe social media, something your partner or maybe even family members have said. Working out this may help you figure out why this self doubt is plaguing your thoughts. However, I get that it can be hard sometimes as those thoughts are possibly just coming from your inner critic that is trying to seek perfection. But I must remind you perfection is a concept that varys drastically from person to person some people spend their whole life trying to reach for it when they are already an amazing person this want for perfection just leads to negative self talk. The only way we can truly accept ourselves and when we deem ourselves "good enough" is when we accept that perfection is not obtainable and striving to be a better person and just making sure we do the right thing and surround ourselves with healthy relationships is all we can do at the end of the day.
@Azalea98
I like your answer, because:
1. The color palette - I really adore how you use the background colors to highligh your keywords. The juicy bits really pop out beautifully.
2. Your tone is very empathetic. Reading your piece is like chatting on a Zoom call with a good friend. It is cold outside but there is this cup of hot chocolate in my hands...and this chat makes me feel warmer and safer.
3. There are good and doable steps in your answer.
Just a thought...
Maybe add a famous quote and borrow some words of wisdom from others to make some key ideas pop out.
@Azalea98
Your answer it's very accurate! It's sweet and true at the same time! Well done! :) <3
Also the fact that you used colours to highlight the keywords is very creative.
@Azalea98 I absolutely love the fact that the very first sentence is super empathetic. Your answer has a great connection and supportive tone, like you are guiding the person in a very caring manner - well done!
@Azalea98
Strengths:
- You express empathy at the beginning
- Great, colourful, positive tone
- I like how you mention that perfection is not obtainable
Tip:
I can't really think of any, you filled all the requirements of a good answer.
If I would be asking this question or any other that I saw at 7 Cups, I wouldn't be satisfied with short answers, but that's just my personal preference - I realize that most people asking these questions want to get a short answer.
"Am I good enough?" Questioning our self-esteem and self-worth is something that we as human beings face our whole life. In the age of social media and hyper-connection, it's easy to compare ourselves without even realizing it.
When you feel the inner critic gnawing your thoughts and feelings, take a deep breath, and try one of these strategies:
- Identify the cause that is undermining your self-worth. Maybe it's disapproving parents or some passing remark that your partner made. Pinpointing why you are questioning your self-worth can be the first step to addressing self-doubt.
- Turn off thinking mode. Sometimes, hitting snooze on all your thoughts and feelings helps. It can be hard to enjoy something while having negative self-talk, but distracting yourself from all the voices with some exercise, a movie, or a nice nap can do wonders for someone going through a tough time.
- Therapy. If this is a recurring issue for you, seeking professional help could be an option. You do not have to deal with everything alone. Being able to ask for help takes a great deal of strength and courage as well, so do not feel like therapy somehow makes you weak and any less worthy of anything.
Other ways might help, such as talking to family members, friends, or mentors, revisiting your favorite memory, or going out for a good time.
If you are struggling with your worth right now -- whether the term be self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, or anything else --, know that you do not have to be like anyone else to become a "better person." You are enough. You are worthy because you are you. You are doing a great job at being yourself, and that is enough. At the end of the day, it is all about self-love.
"Am I good enough?" Questioning our self-esteem and self-worth is something that we as human beings face our whole life. In the age of social media and hyper-connection, it's easy to compare ourselves without even realizing it.
When you feel the inner critic gnawing your thoughts and feelings, take a deep breath, and try one of these strategies:
- Identify the cause that is undermining your self-worth. Maybe it's disapproving parents or some passing remark that your partner made. Pinpointing why you are questioning your self-worth can be the first step to addressing self-doubt.
- Turn off thinking mode. Sometimes, hitting snooze on all your thoughts and feelings helps. It can be hard to enjoy something while having negative self-talk, but distracting yourself from all the voices with some exercise, a movie, or a nice nap can do wonders for someone going through a tough time.
- Therapy. If this is a recurring issue for you, seeking professional help could be an option. You do not have to deal with everything alone. Being able to ask for help takes a great deal of strength and courage as well, so do not feel like therapy somehow makes you weak and any less worthy of anything.
Other ways might help, such as talking to family members, friends, or mentors, revisiting your favorite memory, or going out for a good time.
If you are struggling with your worth right now -- whether the term be self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, or anything else --, know that you do not have to be like anyone else to become a "better person." You are enough. You are worthy because you are you. You are doing a great job at being yourself, and that is enough. At the end of the day, it is all about self-love.
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day
Good question. I am afraid there is no simple answer to that question. It can be such a personal question.The good news is a personal question can only be answered well by the person who is asking it. For the same reason, allow me to propose a question instead. What is the real reason for you to ask the question? I asked myself the same question years ago. My reason of the time - I was afraid of talking openly with the someone about my insecurity. Consequently a lot of self-doubts popped up in my head. I suspected my inner critic played a key role in it. The sooner I got the why, the quicker I figured out my what-to-do. I stopped toying with my self-doubts. "To Err Is Human" The end of the day I accept, forgive and move on. You may be aware that I am only focusing on the inner work. Make no mistake, good intrapersonal work benefits the interpersonal aspect of one's life.I guess, it does no harm to ask yourself good questions as the first step to help find the right solution.
@WendinCaring Thank you for sharing, I like your take on this - your approach has the strength of you mentioning a unique idea and motivating the person to use their inner reflection strength. One tip would be to rephrase the starting sentence to something like "While your question seems personal, and those don't always have accurate or simple answers, I believe you can reflect and seek the answer from within yourself"
@SoulfullyAButterfly Thank you. Your rephrasing is definitely better. I need to working on the rephrasing.
@WendinCaring
I really liked how empathetic you were, and how you added a little bit about your own story into the message and how your message seems really personal and from the heart. If I were to recommend an improvement It could be to keep the message more simple as some may struggle to understand. Really good work!
Question
What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Key Words
Parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great thing, information, communication, end of the day
Answer:
Parents put to much pressure on teens today.
Social media, while it is a great tool, to use, it can also be a not so great thing.
It can lower someones self-esteem.
What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Here are some tips:
Try to find an amazing person to look up too.
Find a more healthy relationship.
Tell your-self your an amazing person, no matter, what people say on social media, or what your parents say as well.
Avoid as much as you can, negative self-talk.
Keep the lines of communication open between your parents and partner.
Share information on how you feel when someone say to you, you are not good enough for someone.
Remember at the end of the day, you are special, no matter what anyone might say to you.
@Happy900
Hi Happy. As per requested in our assignment I am asked to list 3 positive thing about your content and 1 suggestion for improvement:
I like the list of tips
Good use of the keywords
Easy to read
Tip: might want to start out saying where the voice of "not good enough" is coming from (and that helps to understand your sentence of parents and social media).
Good job!
@Happy900 great work on presenting the answer in a simple, straightforward list with factors and solutions
@SoulfullyAButterfly I am glad you liked it. Thanks for taking the time to read it.
@Happy900
Strengths:
writing the answer in point makes it easier to read
the points are short hence retain attention
good language
Improvement:
the answer could talk about self love which is a good way to overcome this problem
@Anxin
When the voice saying "I am not good enough" appears, the self-doubt sets in and fear takes over. This negative self-talk can begin in childhood and manifest itself in ways that affect self-esteem as well as other family members and partners involved. The good news is there is an underlying assumption about not being good enough. This assumption might seem logical, but the logic fails because the truth, just is not there.
The assumption is: That you can clearly define "enough".
What qualifies as "good enough"? You might answer with, "if I just do the right thing", or "If I were just a better person". However, these markers set up by you are still unclear because what is "right" or "better" and our "enough-ness" continue to be undefinable.
The truth about enough is to question the definitions of "enough" (or "deserving" or "worthy"). As you ponder what the voice is saying to you, think of the wounds it is expressing. By listening to the voices of "not good enough", you can begin to understand what is really being said. It’s through listening without attachment to that voice, that you’ll learn some valuable information. Whether it be a fear of making mistakes or perhaps the fear that needs won't be met or something else, you will have a better understanding of the real reason for thinking of not being good enough.
At the end of the day, ask yourself if you can really define "good enough, or not good enough". Spend less time searching for enough-ness and spend more time noticing what an amazing person you are.
When the voice saying "I am not good enough" appears, the self-doubt sets in and fear takes over. This negative self-talk can begin in childhood and manifest itself in ways that affect self-esteem as well as other family members and partners involved. The good news is there is an underlying assumption about not being good enough. This assumption might seem logical, but the logic fails because the truth, just is not there.
The assumption is: That you can clearly define "enough".
What qualifies as "good enough"? You might answer with, "if I just do the right thing", or "If I were just a better person". However, these markers set up by you are still unclear because what is "right" or "better" and our "enough-ness" continue to be undefinable.
The truth about enough is to question the definitions of "enough" (or "deserving" or "worthy"). As you ponder what the voice is saying to you, think of the wounds it is expressing. By listening to the voices of "not good enough", you can begin to understand what is really being said. It’s through listening without attachment to that voice, that you’ll learn some valuable information. Whether it be a fear of making mistakes or perhaps the fear that needs won't be met or something else, you will have a better understanding of the real reason for thinking of not being good enough.
At the end of the day, ask yourself if you can really define "good enough, or not good enough". Spend less time searching for enough-ness and spend more time noticing what an amazing person you are.
@sunlightspirit
The assumption is: You CAN'T clearly define "enough"
TYPO...and I read this over and over again
@sunlightspirit
Okay, I must be going crazy with fatigue. I had it right...it is the ASSUMPTION. so it is correct the way it is written. I better get some rest...lol
❤️ @sunlightspirit ❤️
❤️ Hi, amazing person! I really appreciate how you used the language to be both professional and warm to the user, sending knowledge and empathy at the same time. You also included the keywords in an intelligent way (specially when you used the "voice" keyword to separate the person from the thought, and the way you utilized other keywords to describe the assumption). For improvement, I'd suggest adding more things the person can try. However, I adored how you presented your tip: the concept of not worrying too much about the definition of "good enough" and instead doing things your way and enjoying your own amazing-ness is really nurturing and supportive. Besides, your approach is really original! Overall, an incredible response. Keep up the awesome work! ❤️