2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support

Many times, there are a lot of people in your life who you might care a great deal about, including your parents, children, family members, friends, partner, etc. However, sometimes, it can feel like your qualities, abilities, or actions just aren’t good enough for them, whether they say so or not.

In situations like these, beating yourself up is not the correct solution. Negative self-talk and self-doubt comes from your inner critic, and these thoughts are not necessarily always reasonable or even based in truth. As human beings, we often suffer from low self-esteem and self-confidence due to negative influences such as social media.

The best way to approach solving this issue is to use healthy communication with the individual to determine which ways you could possibly improve to meet what they want out of that relationship. Additionally, the first step to developing self-love is to see yourself as the amazing person that you are; at the end of the day, that’s what truly matters.

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Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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Talking from personal experience, when you feel you are not good enough for someone, it can cause a great deal of self esteem. You'll be increasingly critcizing yourself and having self-doubt when someone compliments you. Thus it can be tough, depressing and sad. It can lead to negative self-talk.

However, think about it this way. You are you. So if you focus on yourself, by developing your amazing qualities and rectifying that not so good ones, you will begin to feel better. Therefore if someone, it can be parents, partner, extended family members, say you are not good enough, ignore their words. You know you are amazing person and you are worthy of you alone.

At the end of the day, be yourself, be amazing and be kind to yourself.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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Answer:
When you feel like you are not good enough for someone it can mean many different things and depending on the underlying cause of this issue, you can find out what to do to find relief.
Whether we have a healthy relationship with someone or not, we can develop the feeling that we might not be enough for them. You could feel this towards your partner, your parents, family members or even your own children.
This happens because there’s a little voice in your head that puts these thoughts into your head, that little voice is called your inner critic.
Now, we are all human beings and we all have this internal voice, but when it starts to take over your whole life and causes you to come and ask this question on 7 Cups, it means that it is extremely distressing for you, but asking for help is totally the right thing to do and it is the perfect first step in order to find some peace within yourself.
I can see how it would be really hard to try to have a good time while you have all these thoughts tormenting you and filling up your brain.
The good news is that I’m going to give you some important information that is hopefully going to help.
The most common cause for this is a problem with low self-esteem, self-worth, self-confidence or however you want to call it.
The real reason for this could also be more serious, as intense self-doubt and persistent negative self-talk can be red flags for depression. It is very important to catch these signs as soon as possible to intervene early and get help as fast as possible.
It can be really hard to practice self-love when we’re feeling this way, but it is still important to try. For example, to encourage myself to practice self-care, I usually pretend that I am my own best friend and that switches my perspective completely, because you would never tell your best friend that they’re not enough for you.
The best way to deal with this would be to get therapy from a trained professional, other great things would be improving your communication skills and talking to others about how you feel, but it’s essential for this not to turn into a never ending circle of constant reassurance.
Also, another strategy could be to limit your exposure to social media, as that can be very harmful for your mental health, or if you feel up for it, even taking a total break from it.
At the end of the day everyone who worries so much about not being enough is an incredibly caring and amazing person who will become an even better person and an even happier person by working on themselves.
So good luck with everything, I wish you many, many great things in your future!
Love,
Alice

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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It is common that we might give ourselves a negative self-talk or self-doubt due to having a low self-esteem when we feel that we are not good enough for someone such as parents, partners or even social media. When this happens, the first step is recognizing that we are all human beings and that sometimes, our "inner critic" can be a lot stricter in judging ourselves than the real reason behind what happened. Self-love and knowing your self-worth is really important. Communication with those who you feel that you are not good enough for is as well since it is always helpful for others to be aware of how you are feeling. At the end of the day, don't be wavered by the voice that is discouraging you. Instead, telling yourself that you are an amazing person who will do great things will not only increase your self-confidence, but also improve the healthiness of your relationships and let you have a good time with people around you.

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Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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We often try to not judge people, we make special efforts as to not hurt others by our words or by labelling them as anything in particular but when it comes to ourselves, we more often than not go a little harsh. Our inner critic takes hold of us and at that particular time, we doubt our self-worth, we indulge in negative self-talk which lowers our self-esteem. Many things like comparing ourselves to others, either physically or emotionally, results in a faint voice whispering "You are not good enough". And sadly, we flow with it.

For this particular thing, I would suggest that we treat ourselves like we treat our beloved people when they are in such situations: we communicate with them, make them realise they are loved and that they shouldn't judge themselves, we cherish them. I would suggest that we try it out on ourselves. We treat ourselves exactly how we would treat our beloved if they were the ones in our shoes.

If asked to provide a specific answer or techniques that I use or would suggest you give a try, I have these to counter that:

1. Make a list of all the contributions you have made to that person's life. Add anything and everything that comes to your mind, no matter how small it is. This might help wire our minds to think positively about the scenario or at least feel a bit better.

2. Secondly, I would say the first and the best step would be to communicate with that particular person. Tell them how you feel and why you feel it.

Talking to them would help you realise their perspective as well. More often than not, the other person will take special care to make you feel loved and wanted throughout/after the discussion. You might come to know what they think about you and the thought you felt might also be erased as you will hear your importance in their lives directly from them. Additionally, providing them with a chance to talk about your value in their lives might be the right thing to do.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

It is easy for human beings to fall into untrue thoughts, but the truth being that "you're enough". There can be various factors behind why you are feeling this way, if you feel that you're not good enough for someone, it's important to work through the feelings and move forward. If your feelings of low self-esteem aren't addressed properly, it can hurt you and stop you from enjoying your life. When we experience these issues, it is important to reach out for help as soon as possible. Getting help from a qualified person will be the first step in learning ways on how to increase your self-worth and confidence.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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Response: It’s natural to feel like you’re not good enough for someone, and I’m sure many others can relate or have gone through this at some point in their life. I would suggest first taking a step back to see if you can identify the root problem. In a sense, what’s causing you to feel this way? Did something change recently causing your self-doubt to kick in? Is there some negative self-talk going on that’s unaddressed? Next, reach out. This could mean talking to a trusted friend or a family member or counsellor or even therapist. There’s no shame in seeking reassurance. Self-love is something that’s often easier said than done, but it’s definitely important. As cliché as this may sound, but our inner critic is often our worst critic. Last but certainly not least, challenge yourself to get out of your comfort zone! This would help you build your overall self-confidence and address some of the issues that arise from self-doubt.

Sometimes feeling not good enough can stem from many places such as parents, a partner, and even social media. The good news is, there are ways to improving and your self-worth and self-esteem. The first step is remembering we are human beings. From children to adults.

A good way to get help is through therapy. It will help you with your inner critic and self-doubt for sure! Also will help you have healthy relationships not only with your family members and friends but with yourself.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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Answer: Sometimes, we fall prey to our inner critic. We feel like nothing we do will ever be enough, we feel anxious about the mistakes we might make, and we play down all of our positive traits.

There might be several reasons we feel this way: we're often pressured to meet certain standards by our peers... and social media certainly doesn't help. We're constantly bombarded with unattainable perfection, whether it is attractiveness, smartness, money, popularity, etc.

The good news is that we're the only ones who control how we feel.

That being said, I think the first step is to increase our own self-esteem by surrounding ourselves with positivity: having a good time with family members, doing the activities we love, putting some effort into self-care.

It's also important to keep in mind that our thoughts (especially negative ones) almost never reflect reality. Just because you think you're not good enough, doesn't mean you're not. It can be difficult not to listen to the little voice in our heads - but changing our self-talk is definitely one of the most powerful strategies.

I hope everything goes well for you, and remember: you are an amazing person! Good luck 😊

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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Answer : This is something we all face once or multiples time in our life. It's human nature that we need validation for our emotions and crave for attention and there's nothing wrong about it. We have right to feel loved by ourselves and by others.

We feel bad and frustrated when we didn't get the love and attention from someone. Sometimes we critize ourselves and become so hard on ourselves. We need to remember that each person has their flaws and strengths , that makes each person unique.
Understand that other person behavior especially those that can be hurtful doesn't gonna affect our mental and emotional well-being until we let that happens. We can't control others behavior but we can control ours. Practicing self love and self talk can ease our mind to focus on good and pleasant things. It will help us to differentiate between our and others emotions and understand them in depth.
This is really important to know the self worth and protect ourselves from emotional infections and develop a healthy relationship with ourselves and others and create better life. And for healthy relationship , communication can be first steps, a few minutes in a day with ourselves and accept weaknesses and insecurities. Talking about these with close ones , family , friends or anyone. This is how in end of the days , we gonna know the people who really care about us.
Knowing that you are amazing person, you are beautiful. Whatever the situation is being kind to yourself will change most of the things in life. Accept and love yourself , Create a beautiful life , the life you want !!! ❤💜