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It's very frustrating when you feel like you aren't good enough for someone. I believe every single person has flaws, but a healthy relationship is one where everyone's flaws are embraced. You are never "not good enough" for someone. It doesn't matter who it is; it could be a friend, family member, parent, sibling, or partner. If a person is making you feel like you aren't good enough, it's quite honestly their problem. They should be able to embrace every part of you, your strengths, weaknesses, etc. There are some great things you can do to combat this, however. First of all, you could attempt clear communication with the person that is making you feel that way. Another thing to do is to boost your self esteem, since your self worth is high and you deserve to know what an amazing person you are.

Good luck :)

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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When you don't feel good enough for a friend or a loved one, it might be tied to your low self-esteem and self-worth. As humans, we want to be loved and appreciated, and be enough, but it can be hard to see when you only focus and remember all the negative aspects of the situations. You start to self-doubt yourself and your inner critic starts to go off on every signal telling what is wrong when in reality it might just be your thoughts. Thoughts are not the reality and negative self-talk can twist your perception of reality and how others see you.
When I was in middle school, I would convince myself that my friends hated me and are nice because of the circumstance or they wanted to be seen in teachers' eyes as sympathetic students being with a lonely transferred student. Those thoughts in my head only made me distant from my friends and I never opened up about my worries or other insecurities I had.
In order to break out of the cycle, your first step might be to identify common negative thoughts you might have and analyze them, how do they appear? And are they the reality or your twisted negative inner critic?
The second step would be to start building your confidence and self-love. It's one of the hardest steps, and there are a lot of resources out there to help you start building it up. My tip would be to first turn your negative self-talk into neutral self-talk as the jump to positive self-talk might be too high and ambitious or you might feel fake while doing exercises. Neutral self-talk is telling yourself neutral statements about your body or yourself "I am a friend and I am spending time with my friends", "I have a body and it helps me move from one place to another", "I have a face and I can put makeup on it or put a face mask on it."
The third step is to evaluate if your relationships are healthy. There are people who drain your energy and make you feel bad about yourself. In general, if you leave a conversation drained or exhausted most of the time after talking with someone, they are not good for you and you should try to put boundaries with the person or minimize contact. There are other factors to consider, but you can learn about unhealthy relationships or toxic people to be more aware of them and be prepared from online resources, articles, or books. There are good people who will care for you and you deserve to be appreciated and loved. If someone tells you otherwise, they are bad and want you to be in negative space to do their bidding.
The fourth step is to communicate any issues you have with people you trust. Sometimes your suspicions might be correct or not, and you will never find out until you ask. You might consider planning out your questions to be neutral and open-ended to insure a good answer. Be prepared for any answer they might give you and don't expect anything from another person as you cannot predict the future or read people's minds. Unless you are a psychic.
All of those steps are general, and you don't need to do them in this order, maybe certain situations call for an immediate answer and you don't have time to build self-confidence or re-evaluate all of your negative self-talk unless you get an answer. You can practice all of those steps multiple times until you are comfortable or you found a better way to cope from another source and want to try their way, it doesn't matter as long as you feel better.
I hope any of this helps you, and have a wonderful time whenever you are :)

@SoulfullyAButterfly
I think there's nothing as good enough. As we all know everyone is different and so does makes every individual unique. Sometimes we feel like we are not good enough for someone but that's not true the thing is it's the situation that makes us not good enough and we have to go through this and that's totally okay cuz whatever we face that makes us stronger and always remember that in hard times those who stays with us are our true friends.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Sometimes, we feel as if we aren’t good enough for someone. This can possibly stem from pressure from family members, a partner, social media, etc. This can also stem from yourself since human beings tend to base our self-worth on our accomplishments or the things we do or think. We can really crush our self-esteem and engage in negative self-talk or self-doubt. A good way to combat our inner-critic is to use communication, which is a good first step, to your advantage, whether it’s with loved ones, or yourself. They can list the reasons why you’re a good person and help remind you why you’re amazing. Therapy really helps because the therapist explains to you the real reason you are feeling this way and gives you information and the tools you need to feel good enough about yourself. At the end of the day, you should not live your whole life, living for other people, and instead, live for yourself!

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Feeling like you're not good enough is a painful experience but you'd be surprised to know that most people have felt this way at one point in their life. We feel this way when we base our self-esteem on external approval such as our parents, partners or social media and frequently compare ourselves to other people while exaggerating all of our perceived flaws. The first step is to stop comparing ourselves to other people and start comparing ourselves to who we were yesterday. It's the only feasible comparison because no other human being has gone through the same experiences, lived in the same environment and had the same relationship dynamics as you yourself. This ensures healthy progress. The second step would be to start treating yourself like a person you're responsible for helping, your inner voice should be a supportive and loving cheerleader, not a cynical critic. The third step would be to realize that none of the perceptions of other people about you are accurate, you are the only one who truly knows yourself to the core and it is only you who decides your self-worth.

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There are 7 billion people in this world. You think you might be good for someone but they might not think the same. because we find our reflection in other people. we find love and empathy. we find spark when we are looking for someone. and that feeling has to be mutual in order to build a deeper mental and physical connection. You will be good for someone else. you just have to realize that. one day you will find a perfect person who is capable of loving you. so you just gotta sit tight and wait for the right person

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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My Answer: Almost everyone, at some point, doubts themselves and/or their ablilities. A comon origin of doubt is asking if you're good enough for someone. This often comes across when you feel guilty for the respect that person is giving you. You might feel weird getting attension from someone you look up to, and it's not you're fault! There are plently of remedies that could work for you; i'll list one, out of the plently, below.

Before taking taking any action, try reflecting. Sit down and think about why you feel this way, how your partner feels about you, how mutual the relationship is, and how you impact your partner. Sometimes, it's helpful to write down what you're thinking, making sure you anre not over-annalizing. Then, once all you're thoughts are collected, make a decision: whether you are not good or are good for your partner and talk to them about it. See what they think and get their direct answers.If you're partner supports you in saying you are good, congrats! If not, congrats: now you are one step closer to fining someone who is for you. Not everyone in this world will be suited for you, and that's okay! Either way, you benifit.

@SoulfullyAButterfly
I can completely understand how hard and painful it must be to feel like you are not good enough for someone, be it your parents, partner, etc. With the increasing use of social media, our self-esteem has been dramatically affected and we somehow judge ourselves and question our self-worth. It definitely brings a lot of negative feelings. We all have this inner critic who always creates a sense of self-doubt. As a result of that, we engage in negative self-talk and become harsh on ourselves. This is the real reason for having such a feeling. We all are human beings and we experience such moments in our lives. But there is a good news. All you have to do is take the first step towards the path of self-growth, i.e. to be a better person. That is the right thing and the best way to deal with this unpleasant feeling, If this feeling is hampering your relationships with your family members, children, partner, etc. and you find it difficult to have a good time with them, you can definitely approach a professional and go for therapy. It can provide you with accurate information and can aid you in enhancing some basic skills such as effective communication. Remember one thing. You are an amazing person and you have your whole life waiting for you to create beautiful moments with your loved ones. You just have to find your inner voice which can help you in building your self-confidence. A healthy relationship takes a two-way street. So self-love is necessary to feel confident because at the end of the day, you are with your true self. Good luck to you.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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You know that dreadful feeling you have when you think you aren’t good enough for someone? Every human being has felt this way before. This individual could be your parent, partner, best friend, teacher, child, or even a family member.

The first step to figuring out the real reason why you are not good enough for someone is asking yourself, “Why am I feeling this way?” I definitely had days where my self-esteem took a massive hit and I could hear my inner critic going on about my self-doubt and lack of self-confidence, which then led to negative self-talk. Social media has made it difficult to feel good enough for someone as it offers misconceptions of beauty and reality. Thus, causing us to compare and contrast ourselves to other individuals, some whom we know absolutely nothing about, to become more like them. This makes us lose our originality and the concept of our self-love begins to fade.

We often spend our whole lives trying to reach perfection meanwhile, this is a concept that doesn't exist. Chasing perfection is a never-ending pursuit and we end up missing out on the awesome person we already are.

The good news is that we don't always have to feel sad about our situation. The best ways to improve how we think & feel about ourselves are:

1. Maintain healthy relationships and enjoy the good times with family and friends.
2. Learn to communicate both effectively and actively.
3. Do the right thing and treat yourself positively. Great things come your way when you do.
4. Repeat affirmations daily to boost your self-confidence, self-love, and self-esteem, which will impact the voice in your conscience.

If you do these things and you think you need more help, it is totally okay to see a professional then start therapy. Therapy provides us with an avenue to find out more information about ourselves and grants us a deeper understanding of our circumstances. Additionally, it helps a lot of persons change their perspective of themselves and become better people.
At the end of the day, remember to strive to be the best version of yourself possible and to take life one step at a time. You are strong, you are brave, you are amazing, and you are loved.
Good luck! <3

@SoulfullyAButterfly

My Answer:

It is very common for our inner critic to tell us that we are not good enough for our partner, friends, parents, children, and other family members especially in this era of social media influence and this creates self-doubt where we start thinking and believing that there are flaws inside us and this lowers our self-esteem. However, the good news is that there are solutions for times such as the above. There are two main steps.

The first step is to turn negative self-talk into positive self-talk. Self-talk is the voice you hear when you talk to yourself internally in your mind and it reveals your thoughts, beliefs and ideas. The best way to make yourself feel good about yourself is to firstly listen to what you are saying to yourself and make note of what you are thinking. If you are saying to yourself that you are not good enough, make note of the reasons and challenge your self-talk. Ask yourself if there is actual evidence of what you are thinking and what you can do to change that. What would you say to a friend in a similar situation and then make a list of the positive things about yourself. Instead of saying that you are not good enough for someone, say that you are good enough. Say that you are trying your best and everything will work out. This will make you gain self-confidence and realise your self-worth.

Second step is to understand that we are all human beings and we can all make mistakes. Communication is the key. Talk to the other person and ask them if they think you both have a healthy relationship or not and what you could improve on to become a better person for them. You never know how useful this information could be and could help you figure out the root of the problem and what the real reason is behind all this. It may turn out that what you had been thinking was self-doubt all time along and you had always been an amazing person your whole life in the eyes of others and you never realised it.

At the end of the day, all that matters are the great things you do in life and the good time you have doing them. If you would like to discuss this matter further, the best way to do so is by opting for therapy. I wish you good luck in finding your worth and realising that you are enough, you were enough and you will always be enough and knowing this is the right thing.

Yours sincerely,
@SheAlwaysListens