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I earned my master’s degree in human services recently.I learned that what defines a person is his or her own spirit. Only you can give and find happiness in your world. That’s how I feel about life. Being your own person and trusting yourself is very important and a necessity.



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Thoughtful Thursday: Shame
Personality Disorders Support / by WhiteRoses25
Last post
 May 4th, 2022
...See more Thoughtful Thursday: Shame What is Shame? According to Arlin Cuncic (2021), shame can be defined as “a feeling of embarrassment or humiliation that arises in relation to the perception of having done something dishonorable, immoral, or improper”. Shame may be a negative emotion, but it can help us in everyday life by motivating us to “adhere to cultural norms, follow laws, or behave in a way that allows us to exist as social beings”. Reactions to Shame Here are a few different reactions someone might have if they are feeling shame. * Feeling sensitive * Feeling unappreciated * Uncontrollable blushing * Feeling used * Feeling rejected * Feeling like you have little impact * Being worried what others think * Worrying that you aren’t treated with respect * Feeling like others take advantage of you * Wanting to have the last word Two Steps to Release Shame Step 1: Explore your shame In order to move on from shame, it can be helpful to identify what you are feeling shameful about. Some ways to do this include noticing your emotions in different situations, writing in a journal about how you feel, and thinking about what past situations may have taught you about yourself. Step 2: Embrace your shame Once you have acknowledged what you are feeling ashamed about, try to talk to people who you would feel safe sharing it with. This could be friends, family, a support group, or a therapist. Receiving unconditional love and acceptance from other people can help with feeling like it is okay to love and accept yourself. Questions * What has been a moment of shame that you feel you can share? * Acknowledging this shame, how can you start moving past it? Sources Cuncic, A. (2021). What Is Shame? https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-shame-5115076 @Adeline12345 @ahhhhelpimalive @AlfAndthemachine @alleywood13 @Alwaysinpyjamas @ambitiousVase1322 @amicableDime9946 @AndreaDawn @arbanon @ARC80 @AutumnLauren6 @autumnthemoth @Avocado22 @azuladragon34 @b4Damion @berrymimi @bestcase @caringPerspective41 @CheerySandi @ChristmasGift @crang17 @cyanPlatypus6370 @dagaz13th @DamagedOne13 @dberryy @diamondintheROUGH2022 @DoggoMom @ebonyyyblondie89 @EddaLayla @emerijourney @EmotionalNerd @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @fireyseastar97 @FloweringBunny @forcefulFriend4768 @Goldcherry2113 @GrahZeymahzin @GRAPSPRO2033 @GreenScarab @Hadeel96 @HashiramaNinja @healingHeart1111 @heartycitrus @HopeandFaith @Hyacinth22 @ImaginativePenny152 @imclover @indigoCup1959 @intelligentWheel627 @Irishrose78 @itsmeow @Jasminerice @Jish07541 @JoniGirl @K87 @kindTurtle3738 @LadyNikita @LavenderFlower @Lemino @LightsFromDark @LiliTwolsky @limeRaspberries2286 @lovelyWords13 @LoveTracker @maple23 @MeeshyRB @MelG919 @missg @Mkmultra @munchiegoosie @nervoussmiles @Nubia87 @OneErased @optimisticMagic0014 @OrangePeel24 @Oxymoron6demon @passionateJackfruit5095 @Piggy @placidShade4261 @Pointlesswords @QueenBee03 @QuietMagic @racqueldawn @raininglillies13 @Red789 @RelaxedPanda @RemorseCode2 @Rex0911 @selfdisciplinedBunny232 @ShyCat1678201 @spectacularCandy9984 @Stardew3 @Starilus @StrangeKat @sunflower2480 @Tamy4210 @Tatianaalize @toucans @Triscups @uniqueRose1689 @versatilePomegranate60 @WalkingCrow @Xe @YourCaringConfidant
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Thoughtful Thursday: Anxiety
Personality Disorders Support / by WhiteRoses25
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 February 11th, 2022
...See more What is Anxiety? Anxiety is the sense of uneasiness and distress we feel in response to difficult or unfamiliar situations. According to Scott & Davenport (2016), it comes when we worry, overthink and have a lot of stress in our life. It is normal and healthy to feel anxiety sometimes, but if fear becomes excessive or unwarranted, it can start to affect our quality of life and prevent us from doing what we need or want to do. According to Olson & Kaye (2017), the word resilience comes from a Latin verb resilire, meaning “to leap back.” A resilient person is not someone who never suffers. Instead it is someone who trusts in themselves and can bounce back from hardships. Finding hope in yourself is the best way to live. I was recently told that what matters is what you believe and do in your life. Our lifestyles can say a lot about us, for example who and what we cherish. My hope for all of you is that you are able to find your own place where you feel comfortable. When we find ourselves in a toxic situation it is important to find someone who can help. Sometimes we have to ask ourselves not how to do something, but who can teach us skills that we need to be successful. Anxiety comes and goes. Meditation and Mindfulness One thing that can help with anxiety is meditation. By meditating, you are training your mind and allowing yourself to become comfortable with mental states that will be uncomfortable. Meditation can calm the body, mind and spirit. Using meditation when you’re full of stress can diminish anxiety and help you to cope with whatever problems you may encounter. Mindfulness can also be helpful. When you focus on one thing at a time and learn to focus your mind this is mindfulness. Questions * What do you do when you feel anxious? * Do you believe that a person that suffers from anxiety can learn coping mechanisms and be successful in their daily lives? Sources Colters, F. (2018). Anxiety: What it is, what to do. https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/anxiety-what-it-is-what-to-do-2018060113955. Scott, S. J. & Davenport, B. (2016). Declutter Your Mind: How to Stop Worrying, Relieve Anxiety, and Eliminate Negative Thinking. Chambers, K. (2018). Mental Toughness: A Psychologist’s Guide to Becoming Psychologically Strong - Develop Resilience, Self-Discipline and Willpower on Demand. Olson, D. A. & Kaye, M. (2017). Success The Psychology of Achievement: A Practical Guide to Unlocking Your Potential in Every Area of Life. @Adeline12345 @ahhhhelpimalive @AlfAndthemachine @alleywood13 @Alwaysinpyjamas @ambitiousVase1322 @amicableDime9946 @arbanon @ARC80 @AutumnLauren6 @autumnthemoth @Avocado22 @azuladragon34 @b4Damion @berrymimi @bestcase @caringPerspective41 @CheerySandi @ChristmasGift @crang17 @cyanPlatypus6370 @dagaz13th @DamagedOne13 @dberryy @diamondintheROUGH2022 @DoggoMom @ebonyyyblondie89 @EddaLayla @emerijourney @EmotionalNerd @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @fireyseastar97 @FloweringBunny @forcefulFriend4768 @Goldcherry2113 @GrahZeymahzin @GRAPSPRO2033 @GreenScarab @Hadeel96 @HashiramaNinja @heartycitrus @Hyacinth22 @ImaginativePenny152 @imclover @indigoCup1959 @intelligentWheel627 @Irishrose78 @itsmeow @Jish07541 @JoniGirl @K87 @kindTurtle3738 @LadyNikita @LavenderFlower @Lemino @LightsFromDark @LiliTwolsky @limeRaspberries2286 @lovelyWords13 @LoveTracker @maple23 @MeeshyRB @MelG919 @missg @Mkmultra @munchiegoosie @nervoussmiles @Nubia87 @OneErased @optimisticMagic0014 @OrangePeel24 @Oxymoron6demon @passionateJackfruit5095 @Piggy @placidShade4261 @Pointlesswords @QueenBee03 @QuietMagic @racqueldawn @raininglillies13 @Red789 @RelaxedPanda @RemorseCode2 @Rex0911 @selfdisciplinedBunny232 @ShyCat1678201 @spectacularCandy9984 @Stardew3 @Starilus @StrangeKat @sunflower2480 @Tamy4210 @Tatianaalize @toucans @Triscups @uniqueRose1689 @versatilePomegranate60 @WalkingCrow @Xe @YourCaringConfidant
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Thoughtful Thursday: Perfectionism
Personality Disorders Support / by WhiteRoses25
Last post
 February 28th, 2022
...See more Thoughtful Thursday: Perfectionism What are some signs of Perfectionism? A person who is a perfectionist always strives for perfection. They believe everything has to be done right or it’s not enough. They deal with lots of fear and are constantly on-edge of not wanting to make mistakes. They are high achievers, but they may never reach their unrealistic goals. Michael Phelps is known to have won eight gold medals at the Olympics only to then crash and receive a diagnosis of depression because he was too hard on himself. Making mistakes is a part of learning and growing. There is no such thing as perfect. There is a saying "practice makes perfect" but this isn't true. Practice makes things more routine and permanent, which leads to growing and becoming better at things, but perfection is not possible. It’s not about how tidy, clean or well-arranged something is. What is important is achieving a goal that is realistic. 10 Signs You May Be a Perfectionist * All or Nothing Thinking: Perfectionists make high goals and if perfection is not met it’s not good enough. * Being Highly Critical: Perfectionists are more expectant of themselves and others than high achievers. They pinpoint imperfections and have trouble seeing other valuable issues. * Feeling Pushed by Fear: Perfectionists seem to be pushed toward their goals by fear of not achieving them, whereas high achievers are pulled more by a desire. * Having Unrealistic Standards: Perfectionists set their goals out of reach, while high achievers may set high goals out of fun. * Focusing Only on Results: High achievers enjoy chasing goals, but perfectionists see the goal and nothing else. * Feeling Depressed by Unmet Goals: Perfectionists wallow in negativity when their goals are not met, but high achievers move on quickly. * Fear of Failure: Perfectionists are much more afraid to fail than high achievers. It makes it hard to begin new things when wallowing in failure. * Procrastination: Fear of failure keeps perfectionists immobile to do anything. * Defensive: They can’t take constructive criticism because being anything less than perfect is scary. * Low Self-Esteem: Perfectionists seem to have low self-esteem because they are overly critical of themselves. They may also be overly critical of others which can push others away. Questions * What can be done when perfection escalates? * Do you believe there are ways to accept your natural tendencies as a perfectionist and still achieve your goals? Sources Scott, E. (2022). 10 Signs You May Be a Perfectionist. https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-you-may-be-a-perfectionist-3145233. Smith, A. (2013). Overcoming Perfectionism. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc. McGrath, P. B. (2011). Practice Does Not Make Perfect. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/dont-try-harder-try-different/201104/practice-does-not-make-perfect. @Adeline12345 @ahhhhelpimalive @AlfAndthemachine @alleywood13 @Alwaysinpyjamas @ambitiousVase1322 @amicableDime9946 @arbanon @ARC80 @AutumnLauren6 @autumnthemoth @Avocado22 @azuladragon34 @b4Damion @berrymimi @bestcase @caringPerspective41 @CheerySandi @ChristmasGift @crang17 @cyanPlatypus6370 @dagaz13th @DamagedOne13 @dberryy @DoggoMom @ebonyyyblondie89 @EddaLayla @emerijourney @EmotionalNerd @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @fireyseastar97 @FloweringBunny @Goldcherry2113 @GrahZeymahzin @GRAPSPRO2033 @GreenScarab @Hadeel96 @HashiramaNinja @heartycitrus @Hyacinth22 @ImaginativePenny152 @imclover @indigoCup1959 @intelligentWheel627 @Irishrose78 @itsmeow @Jish07541 @JoniGirl @K87 @kindTurtle3738 @LadyNikita @LavenderFlower @Lemino @LightsFromDark @LiliTwolsky @limeRaspberries2286 @lovelyWords13 @LoveTracker @MeeshyRB @MelG919 @missg @Mkmultra @munchiegoosie @nervoussmiles @Nubia87 @OneErased @optimisticMagic0014 @OrangePeel24 @Oxymoron6demon @passionateJackfruit5095 @Piggy @placidShade4261 @Pointlesswords @QueenBee03 @QuietMagic @racqueldawn @raininglillies13 @Red789 @RelaxedPanda @RemorseCode2 @Rex0911 @selfdisciplinedBunny232 @ShyCat1678201 @spectacularCandy9984 @Stardew3 @Starilus @StrangeKat @sunflower2480 @Tamy4210 @Tatianaalize @toucans @Triscups @uniqueRose1689 @versatilePomegranate60 @WalkingCrow @Xe @YourCaringConfidant
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