Work Prompt #19: What is one question that might be bothering you?
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This week's prompt: What is one question that might be bothering you?
Whether it is related to career, skills, growth, or workplace, we all might have a question that stresses us out and we hope that we might have an answer for that. So, this discussion is an opportunity for us to explore those questions and discuss to figure it out. Let's share to discuss
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@ASilentObserver all questions kind of bother me.
@communicativePond1728 It feels like right now many things are on your mind. Which one is most pressing for you?
@ASilentObserver I don't know
@ASilentObserver Why does God keep me alive when all I feel is pain?
@ASilentObserver
How much more are you going put on my shoulder? Until I break or stop breathing? Curious to find out which one it will be.
@JollyRacher It feels like you are overwhelmed by the amount of responsibility placed on you. It is difficult to have so much weight on your shoulders. How do you think taking some time for yourself could impact the people around you?
@ASilentObserver
The way I see it they are way too dependent on me. They can make all the mistakes, excuses, and poor choices they want because I'm there and can always deal with the consequences of their actions.
@ASilentObserver
The questions that bother me are questions I receive after I speak, and it's not pretty. Every question is a bad question.
Why does it seem like I'm in the minority when it comes to caring about job performance?
@Enthenia I hear yo feeling alone in your workplace has left you wondering if you are the only one who cares about doing well. How does it feel to be in this position?
@ASilentObserver It makes me feel a lot of things. Used for one thing. But I can't change co-workers or management. The only thing I can do is change my job and location. That's not going to happen any time soon. Most likely longer if I keep making errors in my online classes
@Enthenia"
I can completely relate to this....I've been told by my co-workers "why do you care so much when they don't give a **** about you?" While I can see their point, its not in me to half@$$ anything.....
@CyclingThroughLife
There's just so much to keep track of as you've probably seen on other posts and there is inconsistency. I got reminded about attaching the background files to a report but I've seen other reports done by supervisors without them attached. I named something wrong. I looked at the spreadsheet. I thought I did it right. A flow chart might be less confusing than a spreadsheet document but I'm not in charge.
What do you want to be in the future?
Should I stay in my current job and deal with all the complaints about me, despite liking what I do, and the nurses and doctors I get along with?
I started my 2-week work block last Friday, and since yesterday, I'm already feeling depressed because of another complaint about my work..
I get a feeling that colleagues are just bullying me and complaining about unfinished tasks, when they can easily pick up after where I had left off. Why the complaint and ruin the atmosphere between us?
@Jaeteuk I am sorry to hear you are experiencing difficult feelings of depression during your work block, which has started already. Feeling bullied by coworkers can take a toll on well-being, jae. Can you tell me more about these complaints? What kind of things have they said to you? We are all here with you to support.
Hello Obs.
You know how I work, always the above and beyond. Along with my own tasks, I do all the other supposedly shared tasks that no one else seems to help with. So, sometimes when I'm doing all the work, I might leave some things unfinished and left for the morning staff to do.
Those things won't take up much of their time, so why must they always complain to me about it. I'm pretty sure when the other colleague who works my shift will sometimes leaves things unfinished too. But they never complain about her.
I just feel like everyone treats me like a kid, and that I'm always the one who's not doing things the way they like it to be done. Then they will complain about it to me. Sometimes they come tell my directly, other times, it's my Supervisor that comes have a short chat with me. I just feel they like to gang up on me with these complaints, just to get me in trouble. Almost like forcing me to want to quit.
They never appreciate the extra work I do, the work they are suppose to help with but never does. Yet, a small thing is missed, I get the blame for it.
Obs, something happened more recently.
Long story short, after hearing the news of my Grandma having a hear attack on a Friday night after I got home from work, I went to work the following week. In a state of being worried, sleep deprived, and verge of breaking down everyday at work. I did not interact with my team, or at all with other colleagues. Then, the next week after. My colleague comes to me, saying that my work the week before was very unproductive and I lacked communication with the team. When I told her that my mood was very down because someone back home was very ill, she tells me, "Everyone has crap going on at home, but they still come to work and work diligently and communicates with each other". Then, when she got off work, she continued to send me text messages explaining more things. There's one thing she said that really hurt me. Made me angry and it felt she was being disrespectful and discriminating. She said, "I don't expect you to complete all your tasks like the superstar the other colleague is (who normally is the staff working the shift I cover for). You don't work as productive and efficient as her because you're only working as a vacation relief. You're only a Casual and not a regular full-time staff." Basically she's saying, because I'm not a full-time staff working the same shift everyday, my productivity and efficiency is lacking in my work. Who is she to say something about my work ethics? So what I'm just a Casual, at least I've been in this position for the past 4 years while she only started working here this year.
If she brings this up again, comparing my work ethics to a full-time staff a second time, I'm going to report her. It was disrespectful and I feel a little discriminated when she made the comparison. I felt hurt and angry with what she had said.
What are your thoughts, Obs?
@ASilentObserver Not yet said to me, but I fear them asking "Is it true?"
@Whelve1 I've had this said to me many times and yeah it sucks and bothers me a lot.
How can I possibly stay in this job for 10 more years (the soonest I can retire)? I honestly cannot fathom it but also see no other option.
Whenever I meet a new person and everything starts going good, the inner me asks my self one question, "Is it gonna be a repeat of what happened last time, the separation, the pain and the long sleepless nights???" - This question literally keeps haunting me.
@L1gh8s It seems like you have been through some difficult experiences with past relationships that have left you feeling anxious about getting close to others. I think it is natural to have those fears after something as painful as what you went through. What thoughts come up for you when you think about the possibility of things ending again?
