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Conquering Anxiety: The role of Diet and Exercise

Hope May 15th

Hi everyone! I hope you are doing well. This is week 4 of our Conquering Anxiety series. This week we are talking about two underutilized tools when it comes to managing anxiety and these are diet and exercise. 

Let's assume you own a car. You do not put the right fuel in the car, then you go long periods without even starting the car, when you do take the car out, you go out in rough terrains with the wrong fuel and the car that has forgotten how it works. Would you be surprised it's not functioning as intended? I don’t think so. 

Human beings are so much more complex than a car, but logic dictates that us not having the right diet (physical and digital) and not exercising our bodies will make it harder for us to function well. But we often neglect the role these factors play in our struggles with mental health. Make no mistake, you can have a perfect diet, exercise, and live out in the woods and still be anxious or depressed but some people benefit greatly from fixing these foundations so this topic is worth being talked about. 


Diet

The food we consume

When it comes to the topic of diet about food, we will not go into the nitty gritty of which diet is superior and which one should be avoided at all costs. These choices are rarely that simple. However usually when people report that they are feeling better on a certain diet, there is an overlapping factor that most popular healing diets focus on whole foods, eating home-cooked meals, and being more involved in the process of making your food. The quality of the food you consume can impact your mental health just as it impacts your physical health. 

Here is what to keep in mind when it comes to choosing your diet

  • Include foods that your body likes (whatever you can digest with ease, works well for your body)
  • Avoid regular consumption of foods that make you feel lethargic or uneasy (this could be cake for some and broccoli for others)
  • Plan, don’t wait for last-minute meal cooking. Who has the energy? Try meal preps and figure out backup options. Stick to realistic things based on your energy levels. 
  • See this is a lifestyle change, unless medically necessary, you can still enjoy the things that don’t work for you in moderation, as part of a balanced diet.
  • Consider reducing caffeine consumption if you have noticed it to worsen your anxiety. You may consider the same with your sugar and alcohol intake. 



Your digital diet!

Let's not forget how easy it is to overindulge in content that makes us feel terrible. Social media can be quite the mixed bag, you can start your scrolling in a good mood and put down the phone 20 minutes later with a new worry. 

Important points to consider

  1. The content you consume is part of your overall diet. It greatly impacts your mood. 
  2. Most of the content out there is biased and heavily filtered. You are not getting the straight facts

Most of us know we should reduce the time we spent on the web on things that are not directly related to our jobs/educaton or other such needs. But how do we do it?

Actions you can take now to get back in control of your digital diet

  • Do not pick up your phone first thing in the morning. Get an alarm clock if you must. Spend the first 30 minutes of your day doing anything else other than being on a device. Bonus points if you can do something like a short walk, make your breakfast etc. This is setting the mood for the day. 
  • Maintain healthy boundaries with your phone. Reflect on the times when your phone is not a necessity. Examples of such situations:
    • You are going for a walk with someone else who is carrying a phone
    • You will be working on your homework for the next 1 hour that requires no phone use
    • You are eating lunch
  • In such situations, before you start this task/activity, put your phone in a drawer or a cupboard away from the place of activity. Do not take it out until you genuinely need it for something of value. 
  • Consider a nondevice activity 30-60 minutes before bed. You can read a physical book, you can meditate, you can color, you can complain about not having your phone, or whatever helps you get the habit started! 
  • Uninstall apps that do not benefit you at all. Replace the time you spend on them with something else that is beneficial and enjoyable for you. 


Exercise

Exercise helps to regulate your mood, it is a form of distraction, a way to exert your energy into something productive. 

Physical exercise

Here are some factors to consider when using exercise for managing anxiety or general stress levels

  • Consistency is important but little is better than nothing. 
  • Start where you are and with what is doable. For some this means walking for 10 minutes, for others it means taking the stairs
  • Include micro movements/exercise snacks into your routine. Do a 100 steps every 3 hours, or park your car a block away. Create opportunities for movement. 
  • For stress management and anxiety levels, it may not be ideal to do exercises that stress you out. Avoid picking up exercises that you dread. Don’t like going to the gym? Take some short walks instead. 


Mental Exercise

Sounds like a weird concept at first in relation to anxiety management but the reality is, unknowingly we have trained our minds to think the worst, indulge in our worries so it makes sense to give ourselves opportunities to think a bit differently. 

Some mental exercises to consider

  • Gratitude journal (You can start your day by writing down 1-3 things you are grateful for, bonus points if you do it first thing in the morning)
  • Challenging cognitive distortions (At the end of the day, think of any distressing repetitive thought and challenge it, what are the facts supporting it, what are the odds, what evidence is available against it, what is a more balanced way of thinking about the situation)
  • Leaves on the stream meditation or other types of meditations that allows you to detach from your thoughts and view them as neutral
  • At the end of the day, write down one thing you did well today. 


In summary, we want to be mindful or our food and digital diet and we want to add regular physical and mental exercises. Here is an example of how one person can include these 4 things in a day 

  • Start the day by saying out loud what you are grateful for (time taken 30 seconds) - Mental exercise
  • Go for a short walk after your breakfast/lunch/dinner (Time taken 15 minutes) - Physical exercise
  • Get yourself a veggie tray and a rotisserie chicken after your grocery shopping trip instead of a take out lunch (No additional time taken) - Food Diet
  • Ditch your phone 15 minutes before bedtime for starters (Time saved, 15 minutes) - Digital Diet

🔦Your task

Draft a realistic plan that includes at least 1 task/activity you will do that covers all 4 types (Food and Digital Diet, Physical and Mental Exercise). You have been provided with an example above. 

Please follow through with your plan for a minimum of 7 days. You will be asked about your experience with it in the series evaluation form at the end of the series. 

Now remember change can be uncomfortable and frustrating. It sucks to have your phone in a drawer when you would much rather distract yourself with it, maybe you don’t want to uninstall that one app that is reducing your joy but you are capable of doing hard things and the interesting thing about doing so is that it gets so much better, the more you exercise control. 


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So what do you do when the people in your life get upset that you’re taking care of yourself because it’s “extreme” to exercise a few days a week?


I had to choose between managing my anxiety and having the approval of my work circle and partner. I chose the latter bc I needed to survive.


just saying, people don’t want others to succeed or do better or be happy. And that has real impacts on our survival. And I don’t know what to do bc I want to manage my anxiety but I can’t lose my support system or have another jealous b*tch tear down my chances at promotion bc she is jealous I work out and she doesn’t.

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Hope OP May 30th

@sympatheticLion2402

That can be challenging. I think you may benefit from our cognitive distortion series. Then perhaps you can come back to this when you feel ready. You can view that series here. 

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Thanks for the condescension, but I actually wasted 3 years of my life in cognitive behavioral therapy learning about how masking as an ND person is a distortion that makes me a bad person, magical thinking is allowed when it’s about a relationship/is supporting you separating yourself from your support system, and acknowledging that as a person of color I am seen as inherently “worthy” or “not worthy” is black and white thinking and therefore a distortion even though it’s the actual reality I live in.


oh, and my hyperfocus on work as an ND person also was black and white thinking, and I was supposed to fight it bc it was a distortion. Never mind that this is how my brain self-regulates! Nope, the CBT robots made sure I knew masking was required, and also that it made me a manipulative person because it was “people pleasing”.


I’m not surprised. Proponents of CBT include Jonathan Haidt, who unironically wrote “people only live far away from work for bigger houses and should downsize to live near work”, a statement that’s so tone-deaf it calls into question a lot of his other (and frankly good) work. It’s a great tool to maintain a western, white supremacist capitalist system. But I’ll never get back the years I could have spent with my family that I willingly sacrificed at the altar of cognitive behavioral therapy.


once again, I appreciate a recommendation to look at something I studied in depth at the behest of a CBT therapist, and there is valuable stuff there, but the blanket assumption that me asking about my literal survival means I have distortions is extremely condescending.

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Hope OP May 30th

@wearethesamel0ve

I am sorry to hear that CBT therapy has not worked out for you. It can definitely feel frustrating to spend that kind of time and energy into something for it to not work out. It was not my intention to come off as condescending, I wanted to make sure you are aware of the resource. I apologize! 

This series is focused on exposure therapy, you are welcome to take part if you find that suitable. It is perfectly fine if you would rather explore other ways of getting support, we also have other resources on site that may interest you including active listeners, sharing circle,s and forum spaces. You can explore and see what is a good fit. 

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KatePersephone May 31st

@Hope
Draft a realistic plan that includes at least 1 task/activity you will do that covers all 4 types (Food and Digital Diet, Physical and Mental Exercise). You have been provided with an example above. 

I will make myself a meal that is full in protein.

I will limit my device usage to 2 hours a day.

I will workout for 30 minutes a day.

I will meditate for 10 minutes a day.

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Hope OP June 15th

@KateDoskocilova

That sounds like a well rounded plan

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TheGeminiInMe June 13th

@Hope I've been self caring for some time now, so when I say I have the digital wellbeing down packed, I mean it. I left all social apps alone and just isolated to focus on me and life. The one thing though I noticed is my spending has gone up on Amazon. While I do know I need to do better with eating habits, I have implemented eating breakfast more. I usually can just eat several times a day and at least one of those is fast food. But with a small breakfast, it does cut back on me looking for my midnight snack. Now, being honest here-- I said breakfast and it is not always a full balanced breakfast either. I can say though that drinking my water is never a problem.

Food/water- Breakfast and water.

Digital- Just fill my days with other things while I self care to where I am too busy to pick up my phone. 

Physical- getting the sleep my body needs, just being more active by walking or playing with the kids.

Mental- I do already keep a journal and a gratitude one, so I continue writing in them like I have been.

I'm still working on being more consistent as a person, but I can say I have kicked my phone addiction. I just need to work on cutting back my spending. 

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Hope OP June 15th

@TheGeminiInMe

Thank you for the reflection

Kicking your phone addiction is a big win!

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unassumingEyes June 14th

@Hope

Food: Introduce more fruits to my diet

Digital Diet: avoid phone before sleeping

Physical Exercise: do an exercise set (squats etc…) ive been neglecting 😅

Mental Exercise: gratitude journal

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Hope OP June 15th

@unassumingEyes

Sounds like a plan! Let me know how it goes

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@Hope oh, I think I did it wrong...or is this right?..I drafted up one thing to do for each of the four aspects. 🤔

Do people who complete this series or whatever it's called recieve a badge or something? 

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Also I'm not comfortable with posting my plan.

I've written it down in my notebook but don't see how it's anyone business if that makes sense because it's for me and I'll share information on a need to know basis. Which is probably stupid but

Hope OP June 15th

@communicativePond1728

People who complete the series do receive a certificate if they complete it all and submit the form before June 30, 2024

You can share vaguely about your additions, they don't need to be specific. You can look at others responses for inspiration

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xxParkerxx June 15th

Food Diet:

I have completely cut out corn. For the next 7 days I'm going to try cutting out processed sugars.

Physical Exercise:

I'm going to go for a walk every day for the next 7 days.

Mental Diet: 

I'm going to try reading more and being on screens less.

Mental Exercise:

I'm going to rebuild my journaling habit.

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Hope OP June 15th

@NovaIsNB

This sounds like a good plan. I hope it goes well!

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@Hope

Physical Exercise:  Use my workout app and recommit to my step goal

Mental Exercise:  Spend at least 20 minutes reading my book each day 

Digital Diet: I have set limits on social media apps on my phone and will not be notified when I reach the limits I have set for each day. 


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Food diet:  I have done away with the candy and snack bucket that was in my pantry and bought no processed sugar at the grocery this week.

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Hope OP June 28th

@yellowPineapple3652

Steps goals are such a good way of keeping good activity level

How did these goals go for you?

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@Hope   Through the therapy I went through for anxiety THIS was the most helpful for me - and something I use to this day - EVERY day.  The plan gets tweaked here and there but mine looks like this:

1. 10-15 minutes of toga stretching

2. Tea and 20 minutes of meditation

3. Shower dress and breakfast 

4, Journaling - including gratitude journal

5 walk 3500 -5000 steps before lunch

6. Healthy lunch with 20-3 grams of protein, veggies and fruit

7. Read for 1 hour

8. 3500-500 steps in the afternoon

9. Healthy dinner

10. Ice Cream! 

11. In bed by 11

reliablebunny23 June 29th

@Hope

Food diet - drink 2-3 water everyday, eating salad 🥗 (cucumber & tomato) everyday, eating home cooked food 3 times a day & not skipping meals.

Digital diet - not picking up phone for atleast 30 mins after waking up & doing some other activity in that time.

Physical exercise - yoga for 15 mins everyday.

Mental exercise - writing down one thing I did well in a day.

I'm starting with a small but realistic plan., and will try my best to continue it even after 7 days & will make this a habit. 

@Hope

1. Food - Swapping fruit for candy sugary sweets, also drink water for 1 week

2. Digital -Put phone away and practice positive affirmations for 30 minutes each day

3. Physical - Put phone away when walking to and from the bus going to and from home

4. Write in gratitude journal each day