Aging Up Support Thread
Hi everyone! In the past few weeks, the Teen Leadership Team has been brainstorming ways to better support our transitioning teens. In an attempt to provide you with a space where you can get support on transitioning into the adult side we are launching this Teen Transitioning Support Thread. Here is it how it will go:
â This is a safe space for all teens who are soon aging up or have recently aged up to share anything that concerns them about the transitioning process, ask questions and get support.
â The thread will be monitored by our Teen Transitioning Mentors. Most of our Teen Transitioning Mentors have gone through the aging up process themself and are passionate about supporting our transitioning teens. They will respond to the members posting in this thread.
Important!
â This is not a place to get support on matters other than aging up as a teen. This is so we can focus our resources on supporting the teens who are going through the transitioning process. If you are looking for support on a personal matter/in need of a listener, please check our browse listener page.
*Aging Up: A period when a member/listener who joined 7 Cups as a teenager turns 18 and is moved to the adult side. It is also referred to as the transitioning period.
This post is brought to you by the Teen Transitioning Program. Please read about it here.
@Hope I cannot feel anything at all. Things have been harder much before.I would have wished today is probably a day something magical happen.I only know that it's very unlikely to happen.🌻
@pluckyVillage735 Thank you for sharing, Plucky. It sounds like you have been feeling numb and that things have been difficult for a while. You mentioned wishing for something magical today - what would that look like for you?
@Hope
the thing that scares me is that I’m going to have to make friends all over again, I won’t see a lot of my teenie friends for a while except for in forums and I will be surrounded my adults. I’m not ready to be an adult 😭😂
@Swiftygirl13 It is understandable to feel apprehensive about the changes ahead and having to form new relationships. Transitioning to a different stage of life can stir up many emotions. You have gotten this far in life by adapting to challenges along the way. Know that uncertainty is natural, and this feeling will pass in time. For now, be gentle with yourself as you adjust. What worries you most about connecting with adults in your new environment?
@ASilentObserver
i’ve never mentally been up to date. I tested at 4 years younger than my legal age so I’m worried I won’t be able to connect because I’m to immature still
@Swiftygirl13 It sounds like feeling immature is weighing on you. You are understandably concerned, yet remember that true connection comes from within. Each person has their path in life. What worries you most about not being able to connect with others?
Not me being an adult in 55 hours-
@ViaAlarie It sounds like becoming an adult so soon is bringing up mixed feelings. What thoughts or emotions are you experiencing as the change approaches?
@ViaAlarie
welcome to the lair side
Oldie side
@Hope I had a listener who I talked to for about 50 days straight when I was 17, when I moved to the adult side it erased my old chats and when I tried to access them the messenger refused to load. Does anyone know how I can fix the issue. Would I be allowed to put the name of the listener here to see if any knows how reconnect with them?
@Mindplane1479
only way u can talk to them In 1 to 1 chats is when they age up to tho. Until then you will not be able to chat with then though 1 to1 chats
@Mindplane1479 Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It sounds meaningful to have connected with a listener for that time. Losing access to past conversations can feel disappointing. What kinds of feelings arise as you reflect on that past support and your hope to reconnect?
What we can do is, if you have their username, you can tag them here and I can reach out to them 1-1 to inform them about your aging up and this post link, so they can able to connect with you here. We are all here with you Mind.
@ASilentObserver , Thank you, I'd really appreciate it if you could help me reconnect with them. The listener is from the UK and their username is rufuss3
@ASilentObserver In terms of the feelings created. I've had a lot of difficult experiences recently and find them quite difficult to describe or talk about, having a listener who is familiar with the whole context let me vent about something that seemed minor or a sudden feeling without having to relive the pain of the events. I struggle with an undiagnosed condition affecting my emotional regulation and self control and being able to just message my thoughts without having to wait for a listener or always have take all the time needed for a full conversation. The symptoms of the condition almost entirely ceased.
As I recall teen that aged up normally make a forum post and keep in touch there until other one ages up
is adult same as teen just adults?
@aly1313 yes aly. <3 we have adult side where adult members and listener participate to support each other.
@Hope well my birthday is in 2 days...nd i m gonna be an adult !!! any tips for adulting???
@conscientiousScarf7337
here is something that may help you with aging up to oldie side https://www.7cups.com/forum/agingup/General_2532/Whattoexpectwhenyouageup_306402/
@Hope
Thank you for this information
@Hope
Age up in April, feeling nervous,idk why exactly, already missing teen friends. 5 years on teen side,jus idk what to think.
@SystemFireSkye
if you have a listener accout you can become a adult teen listener Here more information https://www.7cups.com/forum/agingup/AdultTeenListenerProgram_2487/BecomeAnAdultTeenListenerATLSupportTheTeenCommunity_292412/ or you can make forum post to keep in in touch.
i have seen people aged up from the teenside in the rooms at times.
@Heartsandrosesandpaws
Thanks for the information, much appreciated 👍
I do want to create a forum,or thread or post lol whatever its called,I jus don't remember how. Can u help?
@SystemFireSkye
i know this is super late but i just rediscovered this thread. do you still need help?
@Heather225
No worries, ima doing better now thanks! Hope this finds you well
I recently turned 18, and honestly, I'm numb. I planned lots of things for that day but none of them occurred. Perhaps it wasn't a bad thing either. It just makes me feel like planning for the future is useless in a chaotic world :\ Current events aren't helping either.
@Yazminnz27 Belated happy birthday, Yazminn, and welcome to adulthood. It seems like you were hoping for a good time on your birthday, but instead, you felt let down by both yourself and others—such disappointment stings. But please know you have all of us here to help and support you while you transition to adulthood. Check out our Transition FAQs here: https://www.7cups.com/forum/agingup/AgingUpSupport_1766/TeenTransitionFAQs_337189/
or request for transition support request here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfed4W09cnD4vPH09z7GRdrs64Jlu_qzavj6DHRF9oWGEFT5Q/viewform