I've tried dealing with people (humans)

@toughHouse8139 

Sorry for what you are going through ♥ 

I also never felt like i belong where i am, but i keep hope that life will get better opportunities 

I know that is not a promising, but hope and no matter what, no giving up 

You been brave to walk through this path longer time, juat keep at least smallest hope ✨

@toughHouse8139

Maybe people belong with you?

Instead of trying to find where you belong, be your own person do your thing with no thought about hoping to "meet people"

You may find people are drawn to you then

Stay strong and find your inherent soul purpose

@toughHouse8139 i can't imagine the loneliness and hopelessness that you must experience at times when facing your inability to find that human connection. feeling like your on the outside of social situations and unable to relate to people can make the need to be numb to loneliness very attractive. you took a risk in posting here on 7 cups hoping to be heard. I hope you can continue to take risk and reach out to connect to someone here, whether that in in private with a listener, or in more sub-communities in the forum, or even the member chat rooms. your not alone in experiencing life looking in from the outside. This is just one chapter in your life and each day is a new opportunity for change. I am wishing you all the best, and you are welcomed to enter my Pms if you feel like that is something you would like to do. see ya around.

@toughHouse8139

Hi, tough House,

People and so-called “community” aren’t all they are cracked up to be. I think you hit on something very essential in your post, an existential truth, that we are all alone. We are born alone, we basically make our way through our world alone, and then we die alone.

Some of us are better than others at pretending to be like others, or laugh with others, or “find” a “community” of sorts, whether it be through our work, or a shared feeling or hobby, or a place of worship, or even through classes or other things we do, but in essence, we are truly alone.

I agree with the person who responded to your post, saying it was incredibly courageous of you to post here and reach out. To me, that a sign of health, that you are growing, that you are at least trying.

Maybe you will find people here who resonate with you in some way, and you choose to talk with them more. I don’t know. I wish you all the best.

Only you know what direction you will take, what you will do.

That, in itself, is a very powerful thing.

I wish you all the best.

Love and Courage,

Patience

@toughHouse8139

@toughHouse8139 "Interaction is almost always a mistake" is the motto I've adopted of late.  Absolutely it took some effort to even bother to post this.  Takes bravery to throw out one more try, knowing what you expect will be the result.  I don't seem to be able to find my people either, and came to the same conclusion.  Maybe I don't have people.  Maybe I do, and they're like me, so are harder to find.  Either way, it may be a wait.  Solitude is a lovely thing.  

The people here seem nice.  At least it's not a place where they're going to hurl insults at you, like on other platforms.  Maybe you'll find a human you like.  Something made you have just a tiny bit of optimism left.  Hang on to that little nugget.  

Hi there house

Thank you for reaching out - I can recommend a room such as Exploration Garden - a chill atmosphere. You’ll find those who whether it be here or face to face that will suit you - I think it comes from people aligning with your own values. Keep going , stay strong 🙏 Work on whatever it is if so that you want to improve about yourself - either you stick with your values - definitely some won’t like you for this or option 2 try to fit in where people will like you but won’t be the real you .

We can think most of the time people are evaluating us constantly - to be fair they are thinking about how they come across to you 90% of the time - I feel this is true 💛

Same feeling here but it seems to go against our nature unfortunately.

@toughHouse8139

When I was younger I thought I just didn’t see enough people yet but it really does seem like there are only a few people that are a match for even a friendship. 

Optimism is good, just don’t let it hurt you with its positive expectations. Maybe what the other person commented is a better recommendation: just say all interactions aren’t worth the time, that way you are positively surprised when they are nice.

At the same time negativity can push people away. So try to be positive. 

If I did want to belong most would choose not. If it's my belief in Satan that's the furthest thing they concern themselves with.

I don't just let all horror and chaos come out at once. I tend to be reserved in sharing my thoughts. I guess that why I'm here today.

Nice to meet you. .