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PatienceImpatiens
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Hi, I’m Pat. Pat the Cat (=^‥^=) Some people call me Patience, but I’m not that patient.


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Our dog died. It’s a very painful loss.
Grief & Loss / by PatienceImpatiens
Last post
 May 27th
...See more Hi, and to whom it may concern. Dogs are faithful creatures. They don’t ask for much. Our dog only asked to be walked several times a day. In return she gave unfailing love, affection and presence.  I have not met humans with these qualities. Our dog was very special. We adopted her from a shelter. She had been given up twice. We still don’t understand why, because she was so gentle and kind with us. She often would sit at my feet while I wrote.  Suddenly, in early March, she couldn’t walk so we took her to the vet, where they recommended intensive care. She got out of intensive care, and a month later, last Friday, April 12, she died in front of us. We couldn’t do a thing. We saw what was happening. All we could do was to help her be comfortable, pet her, talk with her, until her soul flew away. I am still destroyed, devastated. She was such a big part of our lives. I don’t expect anyone to understand. I also expect I will take my own time to process this loss. We dug a grave for her. We planted pretty purple flowers and we added wildflower seeds to make the plot pretty eventually. She is near a mature tree that reminds us of her. I am still, sadly, crying every day. Yesterday, my husband showed me a photo of a puppy. Coincidentally, I had just found a photo of a senior dog that was in need of adoption. That is how I know we will get through this. We will go through our process. We will gradually accept she is no longer here. Gradually, it will be ok. What are your experiences of loss of a pet? I wonder how it is you chose to deal with your loss? Kindly, Patience
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Bullying
Group Support / by PatienceImpatiens
Last post
 March 29th
...See more Why I am not seeking any support in groups anymore. Trigger Warning: mention of suicide (other people, not myself)   Yesterday in the afternoon, I sought support on a group chat, my beloved Sharing Circle. At least, it used to be “beloved.”   I did bring up my issue I was hoping to toss into the group for what is usually intelligent and supportive feedback. Very quickly, the topic of the group conversation became: Bullying.   Which was fine, when it was us exploring our own attitudes towards bullying and what we were doing about them, but less so, when one of the participants in the Sharing Circle started engaging in vicious bullying of their own.   I felt compelled, in my mind, to defend a person I knew well, who was not standing down, and who called out the bully. I am proud of that person. I didn’t, at that moment in time, have the personal resources to do or say anything beyond that. I tried to share a story about a bully who got Karma, but then later, after exiting the Sharing Circle, my mind turned to another case, that had a much less rosy ending, where the boy turned to suicide as his solution for long-lasting bullying he was enduring at his school. My mind also turned to a beloved co-worker, who took her own life after being bullied by, of all people, her own husband.   These thoughts made me feel very sad. And the sadness has persisted to today, when I am still feeling this mourning of the loss of these two souls, along with other souls (would you like me to list them?) who have died at their own hand because of being bullied: by others, by society, by their own families, by their terrible feeling of unworthiness.   Sometimes I am sad anyway about the turn society seems to take, with bullies being rewarded for their bad actions.    Also, I didn’t like it that it took at least fifteen minutes for a Community Mod to show up after they had been called.   I’m tired of reporting this sort of thing.   I’m tired of taking screen shots. I’m tired of trying to keep up with people who have rogue accounts or who create accounts just to pester, bother and torment other people who are coming here for support. Some really mean and manipulative people out there. Who needs that energy?   I’m tired of seeing my friends leave this site because they have been bullied terribly.   All of this is wearing out my soul.   I will take a rest now. Perhaps I will deactivate my account. Perhaps not. I have a choice.   I already know that it will do no good to “report.” This has proven to be like a Timeless and Endless Vortex of Shame and Uselessness when I have done it.   So, I will withdraw from this site until I have found my own Center and Ground again.    Which will surely happen.   In the meantime, to the Bullies, I would like to say this: 1.     Don’t mock people. 2.    Don’t taunt or tease people about the things they are sensitive about. That’s mean. 3.    If you have nothing nice to say here, don’t say anything. 4.    Stop picking fights. 5.    Leave this site for people who are seeking support. 6.    Your actions as a Bully are not welcome here. 7.     I am angry at your actions, and I choose to not engage. 8.    I will not mute you, because you are, sadly, part of society. 9.    I will tolerate you, but in the case of this website, I have a choice, so I will not enter groups for now. 10. I will continue to live, and I will live well in spite of your sad attempts at mocking and meanness. 11.  Go away. 12.   When you figure how to act better, maybe you can come crawling back. 13.  You possibly will find people to help you, or you will find people who Remember and who seek Justice. And Justice will be Served.   Sincerely yours, Patience  
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Birthday Party for Callum King: Friday, October 20, 2 p.m. EST Special Events
Positivity & Gratitude / by PatienceImpatiens
Last post
 September 20th
...See more 8 P.M. England Time. Be there or Be Square! Everyone is Invited! You are Invited! Bring yourself! Bring a Friend! Bring Presents! Bring your Presence! If you can't be at the Birthday Party, then please drop your Birthday Greetings here for our dear Callum King! Let the Games Begin! Here's a link to the image for Callum King's Birthday Party, so if you're in a Room and you want to share the link, here it is: https://imgur.com/QzbdOcI @CallumKing2000 Please tag any friends below. Everyone is Invited!
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Please update the crisis page
Site Updates / by PatienceImpatiens
Last post
 May 27th, 2023
...See more I put this feedback elsewhere but I'm not sure who writes or edits the Crisis Page. It needs to be updated. The suicide line in USA is now 988 and has been since July 2022. Please, someone update this. The original number will go to 988 automatically but one of the purposes of changing it was to make it easier for people in crisis to dial in. I think our crisis information should be up to date. Linking the page referenced. If anyone feels too stressed or too much in crisis to read or understand the guidelines, please go to the crisis page https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/articles/360026242193-Crisis-Resources [https://help.7cups.com/hc/en-us/articles/360026242193-Crisis-Resources]
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💙Happy Birthday, Neon Blueberry (Wednesday, Dec. 7) 💙
Positivity & Gratitude / by PatienceImpatiens
Last post
 January 11th, 2023
...See more Happy Birthday Beautiful Neon Blueberry Here’s a delicious Blueberry Cake for the most wonderful Beautiful Neon Blueberry, who turns 26 today! I am posting this at midnight your time, dear, so you know you’re so appreciated, my young friend who is also so ambitious, smart, supportive, and just plain special!
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Photos of plant life
Hobby Zone / by PatienceImpatiens
Last post
 March 21st
...See more This thread is for photos of plant life, for the plant lovers.
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